[Fun Poll 13] How satisfied are u wif ur child(ren) results?

[insider]

Yerdua:

Parents sld attempt to accept the fact,
moderate the academic expectations
for the better of the child and family.

not easy for parents to accept but for the well-being of the child, this is a must.

I have my P1 teacher to thank for really internalising this concept.

Shared before I was mildly dyslexic when young and would always write the number '2' in reverse image.

The teacher asked me to do correction.

Then I returned the 'correction' still filled a full page with reverted image '2'.

She slapped me so hard repeatedly for 'purposely made her angry'.

This incidence imprinted so deeply in me to know 'it is never purposely but just cognitively one is not ready' and my kids all benefitted and have to thank this teacher for teaching mummy a good lesson...

[sleepy]

chloecube:

sometime, i felt like i had failed as a mother

i see so many of my frds and relative are not worried over their children exam, i seem to be the only one sweating over it
2 weeks prior to exam, i sat down with DS to go thru and revise. print out paper and go thru with him again and again. re-do and correct those mistake..but the end reuselt is such..makes me wonder if i shld just leave him to study on his own, maybe he can do better without me

:hugs: Don't lose heart. Cannot never give up on our own kids

I was super upset with dd's results too. In fact, I was the first person to click on the last option. Wonder who are the other 3 :evil:

And no, I'm not blaming myself, not a single bit, even though I never sit with dd to study or actively coach her. I only check her filing once a week.

I expect her to plan her study schedule (I step in here to help her prioritise the subjects) and she did revise for exam (I step in here to make sure her revision checklist is inclusive of everything). So I am not sure what went wrong.

Anyway, I emailed 3 of her teachers to understand why the slip and ask for their advice how she can do better. Only 1 teacher replied so far, pending the other 2 teachers' feedback. Will decide my next step after gathering feeback.

[smartmummy]

sleepy:

chloecube:

sometime, i felt like i had failed as a mother

i see so many of my frds and relative are not worried over their children exam, i seem to be the only one sweating over it
2 weeks prior to exam, i sat down with DS to go thru and revise. print out paper and go thru with him again and again. re-do and correct those mistake..but the end reuselt is such..makes me wonder if i shld just leave him to study on his own, maybe he can do better without me

:hugs: Don't lose heart. Cannot never give up on our own kids

I was super upset with dd's results too. In fact, I was the first person to click on the last option. Wonder who are the other 3 :evil:

And no, I'm not blaming myself, not a single bit, even though I never sit with dd to study or actively coach her. I only check her filing once a week.

I expect her to plan her study schedule (I step in here to help her prioritise the subjects) and she did revise for exam (I step in here to make sure her revision checklist is inclusive of everything). So I am not sure what went wrong.

Anyway, I emailed 3 of her teachers to understand why the slip and ask for their advice how she can do better. Only 1 teacher replied so far, pending the other 2 teachers' feedback. Will decide my next step after gathering feeback.

The third one is me. His MT slipped that I never expected from him.other results also unsatisfied except Eng.I am not satisfied with Eng OE compre that he has tuition.

[smartmummy]

chloecube:

went home ytd and saw his disappointing face, i didnt want to scold him

sat down with him and go thru each and every wrong answers in the paper. mostly are done half-way due to him not understading what the question is asking, some careless mistake here and there..
i hope this is a wake up call for him to pull up his sock
as a mother, i will continue to guide him along, but will also let him learn to be independent instead of relying on me.

When my son said the marks he also felt disappointment.I didn't scold him, but I got panic.After the exams he said easy.I haven't go through every qns,but spotted many careless mistakes in Maths.
You did a good job. I can't imagine If I am a FTWM.Though as a SAHM I can't coach my son with whole heartedly as the level of difficulty rise and my confidence level go down. My son so dependent on me.

[tankee]

time to bump up this thread


time to adjust our votes :evil:

[insider]

insider:

Please don't let results get into your way in terms of your relationship with your child. Really nothing beats having a strong bond with a child coz that bond will do magic one of these days if you manage to maintain it instead of destroying it coz of all these study woes.

wow, tankee reviving old thread.

quoting myself above coz coincidentally I was sharing about a 'reward' I got from my son in the PSLE 2013 thread, that he will hold my hand and take care of me when we go out.

That's one of the 'magic' a parent can get when the child grows up if you can have the strong bond with the child...

加油，parents!

[ilovelaksa]

Thank you for bumping up this thread!

I have a household full of kids with differing interests, capabilities etc so I am very encouraged by what I hv read.

[concern2]

ilovelaksa:

I have a household full of kids with differing interests, capabilities etc so I am very encouraged by what I hv read.

Ya. That's one thing I've noticed about families with kids of diverse interests and capabilities. As most parents learn 'on the job', the sensitive ones eventually learn and accept this. Partly also because we only have 2 hands and a head (4 and 2 if DH help out too :roll: ).

[concern2]

DS had been so 'average' that each level he climbs, he will still hit the average scores, and consistently so :roll:

It is very much his attitude of not wanting to do more. (Are most boys all like this?) We don't go for tuitions, so he is pretty 'organic'. As long as he doesn't make major blunders, he'll get by and look carefree.
Each level gets harder, and so the amount of time he takes in school work and revision also builds up. The pace seems all right (at least for now), but not without me having to nag at him to 'get moving', or the engine will stall at the study table, and detour to the floor of legos and blocks.

[3kiddos]

concern2:

DS had been so 'average' that each level he climbs, he will still hit the average scores, and consistently so :roll:

It is very much his attitude of not wanting to do more. (Are most boys all like this?) We don't go for tuitions, so he is pretty 'organic'. As long as he doesn't make major blunders, he'll get by and look carefree.
Each level gets harder, and so the amount of time he takes in school work and revision also builds up. The pace seems all right (at least for now), but not without me having to nag at him to 'get moving', or the engine will stall at the study table, and detour to the floor of legos and blocks.

This sounds very much like my DS!