How to develop self motivation in children?

[MadScientist]

My 2 cents here are:


First and foremost, motivate your ownself.
Are you motivated or do you drag yourself to work, and through life, etc.?
IF you do that... then your children's hero (ie. you) is showing them \"the way\" to doing things.

IF we want our children to have dreams and be motivated to achieve those dreams... we too must live that same kind of life... we too must have our dreams, be motivated to achieve those dreams, and better yet, live the childhood dreams you have.

My DD1 asked me one day... \"Daddy, when you were a child, what did you want to be when you grew up?\"
My answer to her was: \" I wanted to be a policeman and a scientist. I was a policeman, and I am now a scientist. I have done both.\"

I still do not know the full effects of this conversation, but I hope that it will put a golden standard that an individual can do anything they want, be anyone they want to be... if they have the dream, and work to achieve by living the dream.

Back to self-motivation...
It makes no sense to get your child motivated, when his/her parents aren't motivated. Start with ourselves, as we, parents, are the heros to our little ones.

As the saying goes, in order to love others, we have to love ourselves first. in order to inspire others into motivation, we have to inspire ourselves first.

Cheers! :celebrate:

[phtthp]

curious … why do you call yourself MadScientist ?

what’ve you got yourself mad over ?

[MadScientist]

phtthp:

curious ... why do you call yourself MadScientist ?

what've you got yourself mad over ?

OT a bit... my first forum was a MadFarm... and I didn't like to be an animal, so MadScientist fitted.
As time went by, the moniker stuck as I do do stuff that live up to it.

Cheers!

[smartmummy]

MadScientist:

My 2 cents here are:


First and foremost, motivate your ownself.
Are you motivated or do you drag yourself to work, and through life, etc.?
IF you do that... then your children's hero (ie. you) is showing them \"the way\" to doing things.

IF we want our children to have dreams and be motivated to achieve those dreams... we too must live that same kind of life... we too must have our dreams, be motivated to achieve those dreams, and better yet, live the childhood dreams you have.

My DD1 asked me one day... \"Daddy, when you were a child, what did you want to be when you grew up?\"
My answer to her was: \" I wanted to be a policeman and a scientist. I was a policeman, and I am now a scientist. I have done both.\"

I still do not know the full effects of this conversation, but I hope that it will put a golden standard that an individual can do anything they want, be anyone they want to be... if they have the dream, and work to achieve by living the dream.

Back to self-motivation...
It makes no sense to get your child motivated, when his/her parents aren't motivated. Start with ourselves, as we, parents, are the heros to our little ones.

As the saying goes, in order to love others, we have to love ourselves first. in order to inspire others into motivation, we have to inspire ourselves first.

Cheers! :celebrate:

well said! :salute: :salute:

[phtthp]

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[Fun_mama]

There are a lot of online posts for this. Some people put gummy bears on the children's textbooks to make them read it, and let them eat the gummy bear after they are done. Just saying

[PIS]

Somehow, my son is lacking of motivation in academic learning while my daughter is always keen to learn more. They are totally different while both my wife and myself are all doers and set by examples.


Both of us concluded that girls are probably quicker in learning.

[sharonkhoo]

PIS:

Somehow, my son is lacking of motivation in academic learning while my daughter is always keen to learn more. They are totally different while both my wife and myself are all doers and set by examples.


Both of us concluded that girls are probably quicker in learning.

I have 2 girls but they are very different. So I don't think gender is the cause.

[marmalade]

How to motivate kids who is afraid of making mistakes ?


My DD is now 3 years + turning 4 this year and she is learning how to write numbers and alphabets in school. I bought 1 colourful activity book where one will get a sticker after finishing the activity. However for those activity that requires one to write numbers (for example counting number of girls who is dancing), she refuses to write herself and wants me to hold her hand to write even though she knows the answer.

she is also the same in school as her teachers feedback to me.

I was thinking if she is overly dependent because she wants attention but when her brother is not around she is also the same.

and if she is supposed to write ‘3’, she just purposely write ‘1’ and then either says she don’t know or she wants you to hold her hand. Then she kept asking, " is it ok if i write wrongly?" and then refuse to write.
i concluded that she is afraid of making mistakes and reassured her is ok and even give her a star or sticker thereafter to encourage her. but most of the time she just refuses or just change topic to skip to the next activity.

Any parent with similar situation ? How do you cope with such behaviour?

[sharonkhoo]

If she wants attention, the only way to deal with it is to give her more. Even when her brother is not around, the time is probably too short (just a few hours) to make any difference to her general behaviour. Why not forget about academic work for now since she is so young, and just spend time reading & talking to her and playing with her. That may be the thing that helps.