Teach Less, Learn More

[cantbearit2]

rocklee:

This year, son was allocated to a high band class with a lot of high flyers. Form Teacher was very result-oriented. Naturally son suffers a lot under her care as she expects all subjects to be band 1. So when son didn’t do very well (by her standard) during a class test for Maths, he was shamed in front of the whole class. FT will also constantly remind son that his work is getting worse. FT teacher threatened to drop him out of the class if he does not improve or she will inform mummy.

tis FT should b :spank: I dun mind my DD being avg in studies but i wan her to grow up being confident of herself. Wif T like tat, how 2 instill confidence??? :x

[rocklee]

Hi Janet


I can understand how you feel. Sometimes it is just our luck to have this kind of teacher. It is simply impossible to have good teachers throughout the six years. Since we can't change the environment to suit us, then we have to change ourselves to suit the environment lor.

Even though I disapprove of the teacher's approach, I do not paint a negative picture of her in front of son cos he still has to face her for the rest of the year. So I would have to \"speak up\" for her so that son will not feel resentful each day atttending her class. I told son that teacher \"cared\" enough to point out his mistake and her purpose was to let them achieve better results blah blah blah... So my role would have to make him feel more at ease with her so that life will be easier.

In my case, I think pre-teaching has its merits. As the child progresses to upp primary, the level of difficulty increases not gradually but sharply. Hence, considering he is not a fast learner, he would definitely need more time to digest, absorb and practise.

Hope you don't get too upset. If you feel you are too stressed out, it is time to take a break. Have a kit kat! haha

[cantbearit2]

janet_lee88:

rocklee:

Firstly, it is the child’s responsibility to sit up and pay attention in class and ask the teacher if he is unclear. Secondly, I am afraid what I teach may be different from the teacher and thus will confuse the child more. So I only guide my child whenever there is a need. I don’t really check his homework as I am fine with mistakes as long as he learns from them. This method worked fine from P1 to P3. Son did not achieve excellent results as in above 90. But I am satisfied that he stayed in the range of the 80s.

I think the same way...I told hubby we shouldn't teach in advance so that son will listen to the teacher in class and not be over-confident bcos he has been taught at home. I don't correct son's mistakes, let him make mistakes and then do corrections. No point getting everything correct when it's actually the parents' work.


As FT was not approachable, son dared not ask questions for fear he would be embarrassed again.
As a matter of fact, I met the FT during the PTC. She mumbled to herself throughout the meeting and I wondered how son could hear what she taught during class? After discussing with him, we decided that we could no longer rely on the teacher, we just have to “kao zi ji”.
We cannot depend on teachers now, but depend on ourselves to coach. I'm very disappointed with school teachers now. She is not approachable and tells students to 'shut up'.

'shut up'??? e teachers nowadays v stress izzit??? Tis comes as a surprise to me. I thot as educators, ey shld noe better than to mouth words like these. my days, ey juz tell us:\"class pls be quiet\"

[cantbearit2]

Funx3:

Yeah, Think Our Kids R Quite \"Auto\" Already.
My Gal's Maths Drop from 80's to High 60's from P5 SA2 to P6 CA1.
But that's OK, as Long as She put in her Best Effort.

Can See that the Sch is already loading them with many Revision Exercises, Apart from teaching New Topics this Term. Am Sure She can Pull Her Socks up ....

I Only Provide Guidance, upon her Request.
I Don't See Anything Wrong in my Gal Getting A Few Big X on her Practice Papers, or HW.
Afterall, to Me, This is Part and Parcel of Learning in School ....
Make A Few Mistakes Here and There, Learn Why Got it Wrong, Do the Correction ....
That's How We Parents learnt in the PAST, Too, Right?

:goodpost:

[cantbearit2]

Chenonceau:

chamonix:

I'm trying very hard to keep my post counts down so that I won't hit the GM status. Maid or Chief, can transfer my post counts to Chenonceau? Please?

Hah? Why? There is something about GM status that I dunno about? Like maybe... more responsibility? I'm allergic to responsibility.

:rotflmao: :rotflmao: u R so funny!!!

[metz]

cantbearit2:

Chenonceau:

[quote=\"chamonix\"]I'm trying very hard to keep my post counts down so that I won't hit the GM status. Maid or Chief, can transfer my post counts to Chenonceau? Please?

Hah? Why? There is something about GM status that I dunno about? Like maybe... more responsibility? I'm allergic to responsibility.

:rotflmao: :rotflmao: u R so funny!!![/quote]No lah. Just want to keep a low profile.

[Funx3]

rocklee:

This year, son was allocated to a high band class with a lot of high flyers.

I am fine if one day the teacher decided to drop him out of this class.

rocklee,
I Could Not Have Agreed with U More.

Maybe If Your Kid is being Banded in the Next Best Class, is More suited to his Temperament, and his pace of learning more suited to Him than the More Competitive Envt in the High Band Class.

My Gal Often Thank her Lucky stars that she's not in the Highest Band Class,
but in the Next Best Class.

The Learning Process and Pace is Moderated, Expectation is Less Severe and Manageable, ....
And Most Important, The Kids R Really more Jovial, Help-ful to each Other and Almost Not Stressed Most of the Time ....

So It May Not Be Bad if your Kid is Drop out from this Current Class ....

[Funx3]

cantbearit2:

Funx3:

Yeah, Think Our Kids R Quite \"Auto\" Already.
My Gal's Maths Drop from 80's to High 60's from P5 SA2 to P6 CA1.
But that's OK, as Long as She put in her Best Effort.

Can See that the Sch is already loading them with many Revision Exercises, Apart from teaching New Topics this Term. Am Sure She can Pull Her Socks up ....

I Only Provide Guidance, upon her Request.
I Don't See Anything Wrong in my Gal Getting A Few Big X on her Practice Papers, or HW.
Afterall, to Me, This is Part and Parcel of Learning in School ....
Make A Few Mistakes Here and There, Learn Why Got it Wrong, Do the Correction ....
That's How We Parents learnt in the PAST, Too, Right?

:goodpost:

Guess Both OUR GREAT Minds Think ALIKE, Huh?

[janet88]

I just ‘revised’ the SA revision schedule…after printing it out, I almost fainted. Hate to think of the Maths homework from school everyday without fail. Son can take forever to finish those prob sums…ok, I know they are not easy. All I can say is 救命 !!!

[IJJ]

Janet, you are not alone. Mine comes back with Maths homework almost everyday and some days, more than 2 sets of maths worksheets. Plus other subject homeworks...really hard to slot in anything.


When kids are too tired (they start school so early), their productivity and concentration are naturally low. I empathise with these poor kids.. Just weeks ago, one day mine came back to share with me that her recessmates were full of grievances on having tuitions almost daily. She said even w/o any extra classes (she only has her mom constantly on her back), she already find it hard to breathe and enjoy life on weekdays. :roll: