Suicide - Do not involve the children

[phankao]

Mychildren:

phankao:

I am afraid the thought of getting rid of the exasperating toddler situation has been so strong for me many many times over the last 18yrs since I've started being a parent with my 1st child that I can totally understand.

As such, I can never say it's \"wrong\", nor it's \"right\".

Most just do not understand.

I hope you're fine with your kid now. Sorry, I don't know how to console you.
But I do feel the pain in your words.

I can't say I am \"fine\" with them, but I can mostly ignore them and ignore my parenting \"duties\" if I want to now even. They are 18, 15, 13. Able to take care of themselves, lah. Except I do have an irritating preschooler as well!!! Yikes!

[corneyAmber]

:salute: Imami.. :hugs: phankao. Glad that both of you survived your experiences. It may be tough but don't let go of yourself...even though sometimes it is something one cannot control due to body controlling... And NOW you have kiasuparents.com if you need to talk.....

[cfan]

phankao:

Mychildren:

[quote=\"phankao\"]

I am afraid the thought of getting rid of the exasperating toddler situation has been so strong for me many many times over the last 18yrs since I've started being a parent with my 1st child that I can totally understand.

As such, I can never say it's \"wrong\", nor it's \"right\".

Most just do not understand.

I hope you're fine with your kid now. Sorry, I don't know how to console you.
But I do feel the pain in your words.

I can't say I am \"fine\" with them, but I can mostly ignore them and ignore my parenting \"duties\" if I want to now even. They are 18, 15, 13. Able to take care of themselves, lah. Except I do have an irritating preschooler as well!!! Yikes![/quote]I do understand, remember years back there was a foreign lady who tied red strings to her two kids and jump off one of the buildings here because she was diagnosed with cancer and her husband had an affair. I totally understand why she did it. If I were in her shoes, I would have done the same.

But the more I think about it, the more I realise I need to give my kids a chance to create the future they might want to have. If for some reason I died early, then so be it. At least I can say I have tried.

I just wanted to remind those with suicidal tendencies to re-think again. Give yourself a chance and give your kids a chance.

Like my doctor told me, once you start planning how you want to die, you are in serious situation already. Get help soonest.

To all who are facing troubles, Time heals all wounds as long as you have the life to live it. Don't ever give up on yourself......

[MR06]

Hope anyone who comes to this topic in a depressed state would watch this and do some deep breathing exercises...

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-j5Z4E2wkh4

Next read this.

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[Sun_2010]

ksi:

:salute: Imami.. :hugs: phankao. Glad that both of you survived your experiences. It may be tough but don't let go of yourself...even though sometimes it is something one cannot control due to body controlling... And NOW you have kiasuparents.com if you need to talk.....

Yeah, Imani, phanko, my eyes blur with tears as I read your experiences. Empathy...

**** please do not quote this post******
I intend to delete this in a days as I wouldn't want my DD who prowls ksp to read this.

I wrote a blog about my experience too after about 4 years after a low point in my life and I thought I had moved on. The response from fellow bloggers was made me realize that I carried some pain with me. Blogging about it truly helped me move on. Once I realized it was not my guilty secret, many walked the path, and most empathized with me. It felt very empowering.

For those who haven't been there, or think how can one , mabe you can get a glimpse of the thoughts that cross us as we contemplate.

And for those who have been there , hope it unburdened .

[bluesclue]

Dearest All,


It's a temptation to burden yourself with the negative thoughts, but pls try to unshackle that for the good of yourself, and the loved ones around you:

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[fightingmom]

Suicidal thoughts can be frightening and confusing. If one can no longer see the reason to go on living, the distress can be unbearable. 


It helps to talk to family and friends cos they may calm you down and as a third party, they may see whatever that you are facing now from a different angle and help you manage your difficulties. 

If there is no one to turn to, I guess joining online discussion group or writing down our thoughts help cos over time, it gives fresh insight and increase our ability to respond to our difficulties differently. 

All of us have difficulties at times but there is no difficulty too great to overcome. 

[Mychildren]

fightingmom:

Suicidal thoughts can be frightening and confusing. If one can no longer see the reason to go on living, the distress can be unbearable. 


It helps to talk to family and friends cos they may calm you down and as a third party, they may see whatever that you are facing now from a different angle and help you manage your difficulties. 

If there is no one to turn to, I guess joining online discussion group or writing down our thoughts help cos over time, it gives fresh insight and increase our ability to respond to our difficulties differently. 

All of us have difficulties at times but there is no difficulty too great to overcome. 

:goodpost: Always wanted to hug u!!! :grphug:

[phankao]

fightingmom:

Suicidal thoughts can be frightening and confusing. If one can no longer see the reason to go on living, the distress can be unbearable. 


It helps to talk to family and friends cos they may calm you down and as a third party, they may see whatever that you are facing now from a different angle and help you manage your difficulties. 

If there is no one to turn to, I guess joining online discussion group or writing down our thoughts help cos over time, it gives fresh insight and increase our ability to respond to our difficulties differently. 

All of us have difficulties at times but there is no difficulty too great to overcome. 

But talking to others doesn't solve the problem of the child at all. The only way we can solve it is to abandon the child leh - some parents can do that. Leave their child most of the time and ignore their problems, but it is still there.

Of course one way is to abort so \"prevent\" the problem. But that brings about another discussion lah.

Another way is NEVER GET MARRIED. Being single is so much better . Again, that brings about another controversial discussion !!! haha!

Have fun agreeing and disagreeing!

I'm going to :siam:

[fightingmom]

phankao:

fightingmom:

Suicidal thoughts can be frightening and confusing. If one can no longer see the reason to go on living, the distress can be unbearable. 


It helps to talk to family and friends cos they may calm you down and as a third party, they may see whatever that you are facing now from a different angle and help you manage your difficulties. 

If there is no one to turn to, I guess joining online discussion group or writing down our thoughts help cos over time, it gives fresh insight and increase our ability to respond to our difficulties differently. 

All of us have difficulties at times but there is no difficulty too great to overcome. 

But talking to others doesn't solve the problem of the child at all. The only way we can solve it is to abandon the child leh - some parents can do that. Leave their child most of the time and ignore their problems, but it is still there.

Of course one way is to abort so \"prevent\" the problem. But that brings about another discussion lah.

Another way is NEVER GET MARRIED. Being single is so much better . Again, that brings about another controversial discussion !!! haha!

Have fun agreeing and disagreeing!

I'm going to :siam:

Wah.. phankao... You have just given our KSP debate team some hot topics to agree and disagree on.