Club SAHM
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Dear...... hang in there yah? http://www.freesmileys.org/smileys.php
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buds:
Yes ladies, we are no punching bags... can anytime suka suka blast. :snuggles:
We are no longer living in the past...being SAHMs doesn't give the men a chance to take us as punching bags. So need be, must show a little power and black face. -
My DH also has horrible temper. Yesterday I was quite stressed with work, so I complained a little. He just snapped and scolded me just because he felt useless in his job. His boss threw out his proposal and boss did it himself. He felt useless and wanted to quit because of it.
Increasingly, I see no point and also cannot share my stress with DH. Many times I want to share, I step on time bomb. As if my job is not stressful. He just simply cannot talk calmly even if I’m not complaining or I am in a good mood. DH totally can’t handle stress well.
Sorry for the rant. I have already tried to be understanding. I just dunno how long more will he remain like this. -
perhaps u r right.I feel i’ve lost my identity…
I just feel no matter how much i did,he seems to "pick bone fr the egg".
when i serve him more rice,he "kao pei kao bu",says why give so much rice.when i busy,ask him to take his own rice,he asked if i am not happy har. -
This is my 2nd time as a SAHM.
My first time as a SAHM was when DS1 was a baby/ toddler. I was the bao ka liao mum, did all the housework, cooking and even took DS1 on walks to the supermarket / zoo / parks almost everyday. It was satisfying to be present to watch DS1 walk and talk, and even to sit for 1 hour plus to feed him ( though frustrating most of time ). But I was sooo tired and gave up as a SAHM.
Buds, it’s still amazing to me that you can gao tim everything with 4 kids!!!
When DS2 came along, I knew I couldn’t do it all as a SAHM. The maid does the housework and I don’t try to cook every meal. Once every few weeks, I take a break and have lunch / tea with friends. My mum helps babysit or I do it when the kids are in school.
Vinegar, remember to take a break - we all need it. How about getting DH to babysit for a few hours on a Saturday or Sunday? Or just take some ME time, forget about the chores etc, when kids are in school or asleep? Got to take care of yourself in order to take care of others, you know.
We celebrate everyone’s birthday with a cake, sometimes with a dinner. But we don’t celebrate VDay or anniversary. -
friends told me to stop cooking n start tingkat…actually i don’t mind the trouble of cooking,washing…i don’t expect them to show appreciation.Perhaps,not so much of complain…or perhaps i shld turn their complains into deaf ear…
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vinegar:
Vinegar,perhaps u r right.I feel i've lost my identity...
I just feel no matter how much i did,he seems to \"pick bone fr the egg\".
when i serve him more rice,he \"kao pei kao bu\",says why give so much rice.when i busy,ask him to take his own rice,he asked if i am not happy har.
Your DH is similar to mine. But I think mine worse. Lousy temper and every little thing think of changing job. Luckily I do not depend on him, if not I can't imagine. Have to continue working. No choice. I always have to say pleasing things to him. Had a quarrel last night over some stupid complain. Just can't bring myself to talk to him. -
KSmom8:
not possible...he said he nid more \"me\" time than me.This is my 2nd time as a SAHM.
My first time as a SAHM was when DS1 was a baby/ toddler. I was the bao ka liao mum, did all the housework, cooking and even took DS1 on walks to the supermarket / zoo / parks almost everyday. It was satisfying to be present to watch DS1 walk and talk, and even to sit for 1 hour plus to feed him ( though frustrating most of time ). But I was sooo tired and gave up as a SAHM.
Buds, it's still amazing to me that you can gao tim everything with 4 kids!!!
When DS2 came along, I knew I couldn't do it all as a SAHM. The maid does the housework and I don't try to cook every meal. Once every few weeks, I take a break and have lunch / tea with friends. My mum helps babysit or I do it when the kids are in school.
Vinegar, remember to take a break - we all need it. How about getting DH to babysit for a few hours on a Saturday or Sunday? Or just take some ME time, forget about the chores etc, when kids are in school or asleep? Got to take care of yourself in order to take care of others, you know.
We celebrate everyone's birthday with a cake, sometimes with a dinner. But we don't celebrate VDay or anniversary. -
vinegar:
DH totally same pattern.
not possible...he said he nid more \"me\" time than me.KSmom8:
This is my 2nd time as a SAHM.
My first time as a SAHM was when DS1 was a baby/ toddler. I was the bao ka liao mum, did all the housework, cooking and even took DS1 on walks to the supermarket / zoo / parks almost everyday. It was satisfying to be present to watch DS1 walk and talk, and even to sit for 1 hour plus to feed him ( though frustrating most of time ). But I was sooo tired and gave up as a SAHM.
Buds, it's still amazing to me that you can gao tim everything with 4 kids!!!
When DS2 came along, I knew I couldn't do it all as a SAHM. The maid does the housework and I don't try to cook every meal. Once every few weeks, I take a break and have lunch / tea with friends. My mum helps babysit or I do it when the kids are in school.
Vinegar, remember to take a break - we all need it. How about getting DH to babysit for a few hours on a Saturday or Sunday? Or just take some ME time, forget about the chores etc, when kids are in school or asleep? Got to take care of yourself in order to take care of others, you know.
We celebrate everyone's birthday with a cake, sometimes with a dinner. But we don't celebrate VDay or anniversary. -
Vinegar, don’t let him pick anymore until no bones left. Find time these few weeks to ponder over my earlier suggestion. If you don’t mind sharing your daily or weekly routine with me, i don’t mind pitching in to see if there can be a short-cut to ease you of the mundane chores. There are also many of us here who have gone through the initial rough times and more heads are better than one. I’m sure you can find (and apply) some good suggestions from everyone’s sharings. Don’t despair. You are not alone.
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