Funz\" post_id=\"2046675\" time=\"1637118127\" user_id=\"6230:

newbieks\" post_id=\"2046667\" time=\"1637115993\" user_id=\"178749:

[quote=Funz post_id=2046654 time=1637112784 user_id=6230]Just as we are saying character of the child plays a part in our response to their requests to go out, setting of curfews, etc.

DS told me last evening, rather last minute that his friends were asking to go out for dinner. If it had been DD telling me that at like 6pm when dinner has already been planned/prepared, she would have gotten a earful and likely a 'No' from me.

But with DS, well, my response was, 'Ok, go, go, go meet your friends. You really should get out more and not hibernate in your room so much.'

But wouldnt the other child complain that it's unfair? Of course, we will reason that your sibling has done more/less of something, so he/she deserves time to do more/less of something else...but to a teen, maybe he/she can only see that when the sibling raised a similar request, it gets accepted but when she/he raised the same request, it gets rejected. Many times, such circumstances happen in our family...

Nebbermind\" post_id=\"2046714\" time=\"1637122618\" user_id=\"15571:

MrsKiasu\" post_id=\"2046709\" time=\"1637121983\" user_id=\"43981:

I guess main thing is don't overwhelm the healthcare system..now HRP think quite ok already right..on other covid related difficulties if we can take care of it then can lift restrictions ba?

I think the virus is already a few steps ahead of us, preparing to launch their upgraded versions. Let's not forget they already outplayedd us over the last 2 months

MrsKiasu\" post_id=\"2046709\" time=\"1637121983\" user_id=\"43981:

I guess main thing is don't overwhelm the healthcare system..now HRP think quite ok already right..on other covid related difficulties if we can take care of it then can lift restrictions ba?

Funz\" post_id=\"2046695\" time=\"1637120797\" user_id=\"6230:

I think in many areas it has been a blessing in disguise.

One area where I can think of it being a big positive is it really pushed flexi working and wfh/semi-wfh arrangements to the fore. Hopefully employees and company alike know that it is possible and can be beneficial. One can just hope that companies take this kick start and fine tune it further to make it a norm rather than an exception.

The other thing I personally really like is the increase in options for food and grocery deliveries.

Nebbermind\" post_id=\"2046693\" time=\"1637120644\" user_id=\"15571:

Funz\" post_id=\"2046675\" time=\"1637118127\" user_id=\"6230:

In this instance, DD concurs that DS should get to go. Maybe she too feels that he is leading the life of a recluse or it is to gather ammunition for the next time she does the same thing,

We've had such conversations before about fair and unfair when they were younger, each will feel that we favour the other or are more proud of the other's achievements. We talked to them about it before. Now that they are older, they do not have such feelings. Each know the other's character and to some extent, understand why we allow or disallow certain things for the other person. It helps that DD is one who will speak her mind and is very open about how she feels, that gave us many opportunities to address a lot of her misconceptions or for us to explain to her our decisions.

For the older kids like mine, life is very much 'life of a recluse'...lessons, even tests and exams are mostly online...then there's also WFH internship. :slapshead:

Funz\" post_id=\"2046695\" time=\"1637120797\" user_id=\"6230:

I think in many areas it has been a blessing in disguise.

One area where I can think of it being a big positive is it really pushed flexi working and wfh/semi-wfh arrangements to the fore. Hopefully employees and company alike know that it is possible and can be beneficial. One can just hope that companies take this kick start and fine tune it further to make it a norm rather than an exception.

The other thing I personally really like is the increase in options for food and grocery deliveries.

Funz\" post_id=\"2046675\" time=\"1637118127\" user_id=\"6230:

In this instance, DD concurs that DS should get to go. Maybe she too feels that he is leading the life of a recluse or it is to gather ammunition for the next time she does the same thing,

We've had such conversations before about fair and unfair when they were younger, each will feel that we favour the other or are more proud of the other's achievements. We talked to them about it before. Now that they are older, they do not have such feelings. Each know the other's character and to some extent, understand why we allow or disallow certain things for the other person. It helps that DD is one who will speak her mind and is very open about how she feels, that gave us many opportunities to address a lot of her misconceptions or for us to explain to her our decisions.

Nebbermind\" post_id=\"2046689\" time=\"1637119886\" user_id=\"15571:

ChiefKiasu\" post_id=\"2046555\" time=\"1637034888\" user_id=\"3:

[quote=Nebbermind post_id=2046540 time=1637031106 user_id=15571]well, I guess with covid restrictions still in place, there will be lesser such headaches this holiday since cannot anyhowly have gatherings, whether at home or outside

So covid is a blessing in disguise? :?

ChiefKiasu\" post_id=\"2046555\" time=\"1637034888\" user_id=\"3:

Nebbermind\" post_id=\"2046540\" time=\"1637031106\" user_id=\"15571:

well, I guess with covid restrictions still in place, there will be lesser such headaches this holiday since cannot anyhowly have gatherings, whether at home or outside

So covid is a blessing in disguise? :?

newbieks\" post_id=\"2046667\" time=\"1637115993\" user_id=\"178749:

Funz\" post_id=\"2046654\" time=\"1637112784\" user_id=\"6230:

Just as we are saying character of the child plays a part in our response to their requests to go out, setting of curfews, etc.

DS told me last evening, rather last minute that his friends were asking to go out for dinner. If it had been DD telling me that at like 6pm when dinner has already been planned/prepared, she would have gotten a earful and likely a 'No' from me.

But with DS, well, my response was, 'Ok, go, go, go meet your friends. You really should get out more and not hibernate in your room so much.'

But wouldnt the other child complain that it's unfair? Of course, we will reason that your sibling has done more/less of something, so he/she deserves time to do more/less of something else...but to a teen, maybe he/she can only see that when the sibling raised a similar request, it gets accepted but when she/he raised the same request, it gets rejected. Many times, such circumstances happen in our family...

Funz\" post_id=\"2046654\" time=\"1637112784\" user_id=\"6230:

Just as we are saying character of the child plays a part in our response to their requests to go out, setting of curfews, etc.

DS told me last evening, rather last minute that his friends were asking to go out for dinner. If it had been DD telling me that at like 6pm when dinner has already been planned/prepared, she would have gotten a earful and likely a 'No' from me.

But with DS, well, my response was, 'Ok, go, go, go meet your friends. You really should get out more and not hibernate in your room so much.'

Funz\" post_id=\"2046654\" time=\"1637112784\" user_id=\"6230:

Just as we are saying character of the child plays a part in our response to their requests to go out, setting of curfews, etc.

DS told me last evening, rather last minute that his friends were asking to go out for dinner. If it had been DD telling me that at like 6pm when dinner has already been planned/prepared, she would have gotten a earful and likely a 'No' from me.

But with DS, well, my response was, 'Ok, go, go, go meet your friends. You really should get out more and not hibernate in your room so much.'

Funz\" post_id=\"2046525\" time=\"1637026488\" user_id=\"6230:

Kids have sleepovers at my friends' and vice versa since they were kids. But those are with my close friends and such arrangements give us some respite from our kids and spend time alone as a couple for that 1 or 2 days while kids have fun.

I allowed them some freedom to go out with their friends when they started sec sch. Lower sec, curfew was 10pm, No going out on school nights, no staying over at their friend's place or at chalet etc. However we host their friends at chalets. Ha double standards.

Now DD is already 18yrs old and DS 16yrs old. Curfew is further relaxed to 12am. They are allowed overnighters during holidays.

MrsKiasu\" post_id=\"2046529\" time=\"1637028386\" user_id=\"43981:

1 child is very homebody and another quite an opposite one..this covid period has helped to changed her in a way, which I m glad. When there were very young as in b4 starts ir early Primary sch years, I have started telling them dont try asking me for sleeping over at friend's house etc. But still need keep telling one on and off..

Nebbermind\" post_id=\"2046540\" time=\"1637031106\" user_id=\"15571:

well, I guess with covid restrictions still in place, there will be lesser such headaches this holiday since cannot anyhowly have gatherings, whether at home or outside