<![CDATA[Super stubborn child]]>DS2 (age 2) is very very stubborn. much more stubborn than I think.


once he kicked DS1 (age 5), I asked him to say sorry to DS1, he refused, and look straight into me,paused for 2 sec and said FLATLY, ''NO''.

I dunno what to say/do to him. I know using beat or scold, no use. told him not to do that again, he ignored me. sometimes, I told him off when he did something wrong, and he although he nodded, I know that he will do it again and will PURPOSELY do the deed again.


if your child is stubborn, what do you do?

😢

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/topic/10207/super-stubborn-childRSS for NodeThu, 23 Apr 2026 17:52:40 GMTFri, 16 Apr 2010 13:44:00 GMT60<![CDATA[Reply to Super stubborn child on Tue, 08 Sep 2020 04:03:14 GMT]]>It is difficult but I am also learning to choose my battles because I don’t have time to keep "fighting"… I am guilty of losing my cool but I realise that it often makes the situation worse. I feel if I lose control, everything becomes worse. So I am now reading a book called Boundaries with Kids after a friend’s recommendation. It is similar to the negotiating that LeilKhor18 mentioned… Anyone have other recommendations? It can be tiring!!!

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1994265https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1994265Tue, 08 Sep 2020 04:03:14 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Super stubborn child on Thu, 03 Sep 2020 08:50:43 GMT]]>Know your child’s triggers. If she always fights you when she has to get in her car seat, for example, you can be prepared with a distraction or a way to make the situation fun. “Explain that once she’s buckled in her seat, she can have her tablet or a book, or you’ll play music she likes,” Dr. Raches suggests. But if your child still resists, don’t keep negotiating (especially in a non-negotiable situation like this one.) “Simply say, ‘We’re not going to do anything until you get in your car seat,’” she says.


https://www.rileychildrens.org/connections/how-to-cope-with-a-stubborn-toddler

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1993660https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1993660Thu, 03 Sep 2020 08:50:43 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Super stubborn child on Thu, 27 Aug 2020 12:14:28 GMT]]>You need to calmly explain to the child how you can and how you can not.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1992798https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1992798Thu, 27 Aug 2020 12:14:28 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Super stubborn child on Wed, 26 Aug 2020 06:38:29 GMT]]>

TimC_28\" post_id=\"1992041\" time=\"1597908191\" user_id=\"182953:

Our youngest is very stubborn we don't know how to deal with her anymore
perhaps gain entry (buy in) via her love language?

i think i have shared this article b4, but maybe just cut and paste again.
for your reference.

https://www.lovetalks.info/connectingwithyourchild

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1992636https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1992636Wed, 26 Aug 2020 06:38:29 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Super stubborn child on Thu, 16 Jul 2020 08:28:48 GMT]]>You need all the patience in the world when dealing with super stubborn child! 😄

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1986113https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1986113Thu, 16 Jul 2020 08:28:48 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Super stubborn child on Sat, 20 Jun 2020 03:24:35 GMT]]>

DianeWong\" post_id=\"1980890\" time=\"1592200389\" user_id=\"182970:




Family support is very important to every child who's going through situations like this. Be it good or bad, you have to be there for them and let them know they are not alone..
totally agree
it is the unconditional love from the family

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1981525https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1981525Sat, 20 Jun 2020 03:24:35 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Super stubborn child on Thu, 04 Jun 2020 03:44:54 GMT]]>

oh Siong\" post_id=\"1979340\" time=\"1591239946\" user_id=\"185560:[quote=\"oh Siong\" post_id=1979340 time=1591239946 user_id=185560]
peasants\" post_id=\"1978769\" time=\"1590913376\" user_id=\"75885:
from what i was told, i think Meet the Ppl Session, (MPS), they no longer help write letters for court related mattters...
somewhere from last year, this rule was mentioned.

anyone can correct me?

anyway, if child continues his sleeplessness, it is good, as it means he really felt the impact
but more concerned about his underlying stress, and whether he needs to seek professional help to overcome any emotional burden or not
Oic. Thanks for highlighting so best bet is still free legal counsel session from CC.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1979345https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1979345Thu, 04 Jun 2020 03:44:54 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Super stubborn child on Thu, 04 Jun 2020 03:05:46 GMT]]>

peasants\" post_id=\"1978769\" time=\"1590913376\" user_id=\"75885:

MP is Members of Parliament for your consituency. If I were you, I would not solely depend on IO recommendation. Minimally a MP letter to AGC.
from what i was told, i think Meet the Ppl Session, (MPS), they no longer help write letters for court related mattters...
somewhere from last year, this rule was mentioned.

anyone can correct me?

anyway, if child continues his sleeplessness, it is good, as it means he really felt the impact
but more concerned about his underlying stress, and whether he needs to seek professional help to overcome any emotional burden or not

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1979340https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1979340Thu, 04 Jun 2020 03:05:46 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Super stubborn child on Sun, 31 May 2020 10:45:35 GMT]]>

liupeijing20\" post_id=\"1978778\" time=\"1590916865\" user_id=\"185853:

peasants\" post_id=\"1978769\" time=\"1590913376\" user_id=\"75885:

MP is Members of Parliament for your consituency. If I were you, I would not solely depend on IO recommendation. Minimally a MP letter to AGC.

Hmmm, i am scared that i might blow up the matter and I do not want to disturb the MP for my son's mistake during these trying times. I shall wait and maybe give the police a call before doing anything. However, i appreciate your advise given! thank you so much 🙂

You're welcome. All the best.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1978804https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1978804Sun, 31 May 2020 10:45:35 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Super stubborn child on Sun, 31 May 2020 09:21:05 GMT]]>

peasants\" post_id=\"1978769\" time=\"1590913376\" user_id=\"75885:

MP is Members of Parliament for your consituency. If I were you, I would not solely depend on IO recommendation. Minimally a MP letter to AGC.
Hmmm, i am scared that i might blow up the matter and I do not want to disturb the MP for my son's mistake during these trying times. I shall wait and maybe give the police a call before doing anything. However, i appreciate your advise given! thank you so much 🙂

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1978778https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1978778Sun, 31 May 2020 09:21:05 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Super stubborn child on Sun, 31 May 2020 08:22:56 GMT]]>MP is Members of Parliament for your consituency. If I were you, I would not solely depend on IO recommendation. Minimally a MP letter to AGC.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1978769https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1978769Sun, 31 May 2020 08:22:56 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Super stubborn child on Sun, 31 May 2020 07:37:52 GMT]]>

peasants\" post_id=\"1978761\" time=\"1590908064\" user_id=\"75885:
So your son completed NS already right? 2 to 4 months were typical, Covid might delay further.
I think it was the act over value of item that took more weight. You could try aim for no further action verdict rather then stern warnings. Reason was the latter might or might not affect your son employment records. You could ask the lawyers on the types of warnings and their implications. Try look for veteran lawyers, they could advise better through their experience (most importantly make sure the consultation is free unless engage their service to represent your son). Did the police statement include the stress that your son was undertaking due to family issues?
It may help in their recommendation to AGC. Lastly, I missed out that you could make a request for your MP to write to AGC, include family issues and stress, especially during Covid period.


yeap, completed NS and with very very good conduct and awards during then. Yes, the police statement include family stress and his own personal problems, and he was remorseful and sorry for all the trouble and that he has learnt his lesson. I am unsure the exact words but this is what he told me as the police did not allow me to enter with my son into the room. Request for my MP? who is MP? My IO (investigating officer) told me he will recommend a warning when submitting to AGC already, hope he really stay true to his word.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1978764https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1978764Sun, 31 May 2020 07:37:52 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Super stubborn child on Sun, 31 May 2020 07:12:16 GMT]]>

liupeijing20\" post_id=\"1978751\" time=\"1590903598\" user_id=\"185853:

peasants\" post_id=\"1978649\" time=\"1590856334\" user_id=\"75885:

[quote=liupeijing20 post_id=1978636 time=1590847186 user_id=185853]Anyone can help me? my child was caught shoplifting about two months back and he is still studying and this is his first offence. He said he have learnt his mistake already and he wont do it again because of all the guilt he has in him. He have not been sleeping well lately because his case became complicated, he dragged his friends into giving police statement even though they were unaware of him shoplifting at that point of time. But now, everything is done and his statement is being sent to AGC. He admitted to shoplifting from the first statement. anyone knows how long it takes for AGC to get back to the police?

If you need to have easier access to community assistance rather than private lawyers, click the link for the list of cc which provide free legal counselling.

https://www.pa.gov.sg/docs/default-source/others-documents/our-network-doc/ccs-that-provide-legal-services-clcs-as-at-1-jun-19a1f428700a1d6b0c895eff0000f6c7a3.pdf

thank you so much!! never knew such free services were available. you're a life savior![/quote]Don't mentioned it. Do bring your son along every single trip related to the case. Let him understand the consequences and feel the family support.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1978763https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1978763Sun, 31 May 2020 07:12:16 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Super stubborn child on Sun, 31 May 2020 06:54:24 GMT]]>

liupeijing20\" post_id=\"1978749\" time=\"1590903536\" user_id=\"185853:

peasants\" post_id=\"1978648\" time=\"1590855475\" user_id=\"75885:

[quote=liupeijing20 post_id=1978636 time=1590847186 user_id=185853]Anyone can help me? my child was caught shoplifting about two months back and he is still studying and this is his first offence. He said he have learnt his mistake already and he wont do it again because of all the guilt he has in him. He have not been sleeping well lately because his case became complicated, he dragged his friends into giving police statement even though they were unaware of him shoplifting at that point of time. But now, everything is done and his statement is being sent to AGC. He admitted to shoplifting from the first statement. anyone knows how long it takes for AGC to get back to the police?

1st offence? Any previous records? Under 18? AGC would take 2 to 4 months thereabout to decide whether any further actions to be taken. Since your child had admitted in the police statement, suggest you talk to a good lawyer. Cos a good lawyer would advise you before you decide whether to engage their help, instead of pestering for engagement fees. Consultation is free. This would help some way in the acceptance of possible outcome.
Make sure the one who advised is the one who would represent. Hope it helps.

yeap first offence, but already turned 21.... cause i keep quarrelling with my hubby and i think my kid under alot of stress i not sure. Are you from a legal background? How you know 2 to 4 months? also, thanks for the advice, I will look for lawyers right now. I read online all say no need lawyer cause case small with low value items, less than $14 total and police tell me they will recommend warning to AGC.[/quote]So your son completed NS already right? 2 to 4 months were typical, Covid might delay further.
I think it was the act over value of item that took more weight. You could try aim for no further action verdict rather then stern warnings. Reason was the latter might or might not affect your son employment records. You could ask the lawyers on the types of warnings and their implications. Try look for veteran lawyers, they could advise better through their experience (most importantly make sure the consultation is free unless engage their service to represent your son). Did the police statement include the stress that your son was undertaking due to family issues?
It may help in their recommendation to AGC. Lastly, I missed out that you could make a request for your MP to write to AGC, include family issues and stress, especially during Covid period.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1978761https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1978761Sun, 31 May 2020 06:54:24 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Super stubborn child on Sun, 31 May 2020 05:39:58 GMT]]>

peasants\" post_id=\"1978649\" time=\"1590856334\" user_id=\"75885:

liupeijing20\" post_id=\"1978636\" time=\"1590847186\" user_id=\"185853:

Anyone can help me? my child was caught shoplifting about two months back and he is still studying and this is his first offence. He said he have learnt his mistake already and he wont do it again because of all the guilt he has in him. He have not been sleeping well lately because his case became complicated, he dragged his friends into giving police statement even though they were unaware of him shoplifting at that point of time. But now, everything is done and his statement is being sent to AGC. He admitted to shoplifting from the first statement. anyone knows how long it takes for AGC to get back to the police?

If you need to have easier access to community assistance rather than private lawyers, click the link for the list of cc which provide free legal counselling.

https://www.pa.gov.sg/docs/default-source/others-documents/our-network-doc/ccs-that-provide-legal-services-clcs-as-at-1-jun-19a1f428700a1d6b0c895eff0000f6c7a3.pdf

thank you so much!! never knew such free services were available. you're a life savior!

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1978751https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1978751Sun, 31 May 2020 05:39:58 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Super stubborn child on Sun, 31 May 2020 05:38:56 GMT]]>

peasants\" post_id=\"1978648\" time=\"1590855475\" user_id=\"75885:

liupeijing20\" post_id=\"1978636\" time=\"1590847186\" user_id=\"185853:

Anyone can help me? my child was caught shoplifting about two months back and he is still studying and this is his first offence. He said he have learnt his mistake already and he wont do it again because of all the guilt he has in him. He have not been sleeping well lately because his case became complicated, he dragged his friends into giving police statement even though they were unaware of him shoplifting at that point of time. But now, everything is done and his statement is being sent to AGC. He admitted to shoplifting from the first statement. anyone knows how long it takes for AGC to get back to the police?

1st offence? Any previous records? Under 18? AGC would take 2 to 4 months thereabout to decide whether any further actions to be taken. Since your child had admitted in the police statement, suggest you talk to a good lawyer. Cos a good lawyer would advise you before you decide whether to engage their help, instead of pestering for engagement fees. Consultation is free. This would help some way in the acceptance of possible outcome.
Make sure the one who advised is the one who would represent. Hope it helps.

yeap first offence, but already turned 21.... cause i keep quarrelling with my hubby and i think my kid under alot of stress i not sure. Are you from a legal background? How you know 2 to 4 months? also, thanks for the advice, I will look for lawyers right now. I read online all say no need lawyer cause case small with low value items, less than $14 total and police tell me they will recommend warning to AGC.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1978749https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1978749Sun, 31 May 2020 05:38:56 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Super stubborn child on Sat, 30 May 2020 16:32:14 GMT]]>

liupeijing20\" post_id=\"1978636\" time=\"1590847186\" user_id=\"185853:

Anyone can help me? my child was caught shoplifting about two months back and he is still studying and this is his first offence. He said he have learnt his mistake already and he wont do it again because of all the guilt he has in him. He have not been sleeping well lately because his case became complicated, he dragged his friends into giving police statement even though they were unaware of him shoplifting at that point of time. But now, everything is done and his statement is being sent to AGC. He admitted to shoplifting from the first statement. anyone knows how long it takes for AGC to get back to the police?
If you need to have easier access to community assistance rather than private lawyers, click the link for the list of cc which provide free legal counselling.

https://www.pa.gov.sg/docs/default-source/others-documents/our-network-doc/ccs-that-provide-legal-services-clcs-as-at-1-jun-19a1f428700a1d6b0c895eff0000f6c7a3.pdf

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1978649https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1978649Sat, 30 May 2020 16:32:14 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Super stubborn child on Sat, 30 May 2020 16:17:55 GMT]]>

liupeijing20\" post_id=\"1978636\" time=\"1590847186\" user_id=\"185853:

Anyone can help me? my child was caught shoplifting about two months back and he is still studying and this is his first offence. He said he have learnt his mistake already and he wont do it again because of all the guilt he has in him. He have not been sleeping well lately because his case became complicated, he dragged his friends into giving police statement even though they were unaware of him shoplifting at that point of time. But now, everything is done and his statement is being sent to AGC. He admitted to shoplifting from the first statement. anyone knows how long it takes for AGC to get back to the police?
1st offence? Any previous records? Under 18? AGC would take 2 to 4 months thereabout to decide whether any further actions to be taken. Since your child had admitted in the police statement, suggest you talk to a good lawyer. Cos a good lawyer would advise you before you decide whether to engage their help, instead of pestering for engagement fees. Consultation is free. This would help some way in the acceptance of possible outcome.
Make sure the one who advised is the one who would represent. Hope it helps.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1978648https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1978648Sat, 30 May 2020 16:17:55 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Super stubborn child on Sat, 30 May 2020 13:59:46 GMT]]>Anyone can help me? my child was caught shoplifting about two months back and he is still studying and this is his first offence. He said he have learnt his mistake already and he wont do it again because of all the guilt he has in him. He have not been sleeping well lately because his case became complicated, he dragged his friends into giving police statement even though they were unaware of him shoplifting at that point of time. But now, everything is done and his statement is being sent to AGC. He admitted to shoplifting from the first statement. anyone knows how long it takes for AGC to get back to the police?

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1978636https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1978636Sat, 30 May 2020 13:59:46 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Super stubborn child on Thu, 30 Apr 2020 04:26:23 GMT]]>Communication is a two-way street. If you want your child to listen to you, you have to be willing to listen to them first. Stubborn children may have strong opinions and tend to argue.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1973375https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1973375Thu, 30 Apr 2020 04:26:23 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Super stubborn child on Wed, 29 Apr 2020 16:55:26 GMT]]>I have such a ram. With me, affectionate as a calf, with the rest the character is disgusting - stubborn, vengeful and very vengeful. The manipulator is the same. True, this does not work with me, but the teachers in the garden, and now the teacher in the school, are looking for a special approach to him. The child is seven years old, but I do not know what to do with him in order to change for the better.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1973316https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1973316Wed, 29 Apr 2020 16:55:26 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Super stubborn child on Mon, 27 Apr 2020 15:10:50 GMT]]>Great suggestion. Thanks!

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1973016https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1973016Mon, 27 Apr 2020 15:10:50 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Super stubborn child on Fri, 24 Apr 2020 03:22:01 GMT]]>

Kjolene\" post_id=\"1972481\" time=\"1587695201\" user_id=\"183918:

My 15 month old boy started throwing tantrums a lot 2 months ago, when we tried to disciplining him or not allowing him to do certain things. How to discipline him effectively at this age?
It is called the Terrible Twos and very normal. All children go through this phase around 2 years old.

They are finding out if they can push the boundaries. List them clearly beforehand. Stay firm to your boundaries, don’t give in ever. Cos if you give in then they will push back even more.

Eg give a gentle warning, screen time ends in 1 minute, then lets keep the screen & we play cards instead (give a suitable replacement activity). Then commit to removing the screen at the fixed time. Ignore the tantrum and don’t give in.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1972506https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1972506Fri, 24 Apr 2020 03:22:01 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Super stubborn child on Fri, 24 Apr 2020 02:26:41 GMT]]>My 15 month old boy started throwing tantrums a lot 2 months ago, when we tried to disciplining him or not allowing him to do certain things. How to discipline him effectively at this age?

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1972481https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1972481Fri, 24 Apr 2020 02:26:41 GMT