<![CDATA[When DW asks 'Do I look fat in this dress' ......]]>I've got a question that puzzles me for a long time. When DW asks 'Do I look fat in this dress?'. How does she expect me to reply?


a) Be honest and tell her the truth and be slammed for having low EQ? :x

b) Be clever and lie and be slammed for dishonesty? 😐

c) It's not you dear, it's the dress. πŸ™

d) Huh? What did you say? :? (but how many times can we use this line?)

Can some wise folks enlighten me pls?

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/topic/11184/when-dw-asks-do-i-look-fat-in-this-dressRSS for NodeMon, 11 May 2026 14:45:43 GMTSat, 22 May 2010 10:30:44 GMT60<![CDATA[Reply to When DW asks 'Do I look fat in this dress' ...... on Sat, 29 May 2010 14:22:47 GMT]]>

markfch:
Tell you a secret. I've never heard of the word tween (until you explained) so I thought it's teens mis-spelled. So pai-seh :oops:

tt's ok. i only came across it recently. mebbe got sthg to do with them being in between?

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/197837https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/197837Sat, 29 May 2010 14:22:47 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to When DW asks 'Do I look fat in this dress' ...... on Fri, 28 May 2010 08:53:20 GMT]]>

schellen:

Er, what I meant was that DD1 is 8yo, so she's a tween (not teen) but sometimes, on what I call her \"off\" days, she may wear combinations that remind me of what toddlers insist on wearing.
Tell you a secret. I've never heard of the word tween (until you explained) so I thought it's teens mis-spelled. So pai-seh :oops:

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/197482https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/197482Fri, 28 May 2010 08:53:20 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to When DW asks 'Do I look fat in this dress' ...... on Fri, 28 May 2010 05:35:26 GMT]]>

markfch:
schellen:

Cannot ask DD1 cos she's a tween now and sometimes, her opinion is the same as DH's. :stupid: Sometimes, her opinion reminds me of a toddler's so.... :roll: DD2 only cares if what I wear gives her easy access to her food source. :lol:


Wow, dd1 is teens, dd2 is toddler. Big age gap. Can't blame your dd. People say that dd is always closer to dad mah. Next time she marry also will choose a model like dad.

Luckily for me, my ds is closer to me than dw πŸ˜„

Er, what I meant was that DD1 is 8yo, so she's a tween (not teen) but sometimes, on what I call her \"off\" days, she may wear combinations that remind me of what toddlers insist on wearing. DD2 is still a baby, not even a toddler yet.
Yes, DD1 is close to DH but DD2 prefers me, not just for food. :politebleah: We planned for the big age gap. As long as she chooses someone who's ambitious, determined, smart, puts family first, blah blah blah..., no problem! πŸ™‚

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/197432https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/197432Fri, 28 May 2010 05:35:26 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to When DW asks 'Do I look fat in this dress' ...... on Wed, 26 May 2010 05:31:57 GMT]]>

schellen:
Cannot ask DD1 cos she's a tween now and sometimes, her opinion is the same as DH's. :stupid: Sometimes, her opinion reminds me of a toddler's so.... :roll: DD2 only cares if what I wear gives her easy access to her food source. :lol:

Wow, dd1 is teens, dd2 is toddler. Big age gap. Can't blame your dd. People say that dd is always closer to dad mah. Next time she marry also will choose a model like dad.

Luckily for me, my ds is closer to me than dw πŸ˜„

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/195774https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/195774Wed, 26 May 2010 05:31:57 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to When DW asks 'Do I look fat in this dress' ...... on Wed, 26 May 2010 05:14:31 GMT]]>Cannot ask DD1 cos she's a tween now and sometimes, her opinion is the same as DH's. :stupid: Sometimes, her opinion reminds me of a toddler's so.... :roll: DD2 only cares if what I wear gives her easy access to her food source. :lol:

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/195729https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/195729Wed, 26 May 2010 05:14:31 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to When DW asks 'Do I look fat in this dress' ...... on Mon, 24 May 2010 05:36:56 GMT]]>Actually hor, it's Dh who tends to ask me if what he's wearing is ok. DH is kinda flamboyant. When I first knew him I did wonder about his choice of colour combination. It was only when we started dating each other that I realise that some of his flamboyance was by accident. He has partial colour blindness. So what we see as bright purple or lime green, he sees them as plain old blue or green. Initially, I will politely tell me um.. looks ok but will be better if you tone it down a bit. Then as years go by, I ask him what colour do you actually see. And these days, if he comes out with some weird combi, I will tell him, don't tell people we are a couple hor.


As for my kids, everything I wear is fantastic and mummy is always the prettiest person in the whole world. :love: Nice to hear and a real ego booster. But we also know with kids, their opinion is totally biased.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/193099https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/193099Mon, 24 May 2010 05:36:56 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to When DW asks 'Do I look fat in this dress' ...... on Mon, 24 May 2010 05:35:36 GMT]]>

Busymom:


Takashi? :drool: The mixed Japanese and Taiwanese actor?

If you really so good-looking, then must show us hor. :lol:

But your DS is sweet to think that way. :love:
If I'm really that good looking, I won't be stuck in a 9 to 5 job already lor. You know, it's very cruel to build up an image and then shatter it with reality :boogie:

So I'll leave you with an image of Takashi instead πŸ˜„

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/193096https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/193096Mon, 24 May 2010 05:35:36 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to When DW asks 'Do I look fat in this dress' ...... on Mon, 24 May 2010 05:24:52 GMT]]>

buds:
Yeah Busymom, we all know how good you are at the game of diversion.. :evil:


Still can't get over the barley? :lol: :lol:

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/193087https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/193087Mon, 24 May 2010 05:24:52 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to When DW asks 'Do I look fat in this dress' ...... on Mon, 24 May 2010 05:23:36 GMT]]>

markfch:

Oh please. My ds really has weird taste. He thinks that I'm the most handsome guy in the universe. He thinks that even Takashi also must stand aside when I'm around :siao: despite my plus size and all. I'm quite worried next time he turns out like me, seeing the way he loves carbohydrates.
Weird taste... as long as you educate him on what not to choose for a gf or wife, can oredi lah.

Takashi? :drool: The mixed Japanese and Taiwanese actor?

If you really so good-looking, then must show us hor. :lol:

But your DS is sweet to think that way. :love:

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/193085https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/193085Mon, 24 May 2010 05:23:36 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to When DW asks 'Do I look fat in this dress' ...... on Mon, 24 May 2010 05:22:28 GMT]]>And so, in order not to be rude... ehmm..

he chose to be clever and lie.. πŸ˜‰

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/193082https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/193082Mon, 24 May 2010 05:22:28 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to When DW asks 'Do I look fat in this dress' ...... on Mon, 24 May 2010 05:22:13 GMT]]>

buds:
Woooah! Takashi must stand aside! This must see! :idea:

Yap, hard to imagine. That's why I loved him so much :snuggles: See, even though I know that it's not true, it still makes me happy. So when dw asks me some ridiculous queston, I must also make her happy mah.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/193081https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/193081Mon, 24 May 2010 05:22:13 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to When DW asks 'Do I look fat in this dress' ...... on Mon, 24 May 2010 05:19:23 GMT]]>

ChiefKiasu:
The way I handle the situation is that if I feel the dress is not suitable, I just smile sweetly and not say anything. If I think the dress is nice, I will go overboard in praising it. That way I don't have to lie, nor get myself into an ugly situation of explaining why I don't like it.

But chief, my upbringing taught me that when people ask you a question, you must die die say something. Otherwise it's rude 😎

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/193078https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/193078Mon, 24 May 2010 05:19:23 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to When DW asks 'Do I look fat in this dress' ...... on Mon, 24 May 2010 05:17:48 GMT]]>Woooah! Takashi must stand aside! This must see! :idea:

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/193073https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/193073Mon, 24 May 2010 05:17:48 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to When DW asks 'Do I look fat in this dress' ...... on Mon, 24 May 2010 05:16:09 GMT]]>

Busymom:
How about diverting the question to your children, if they are old enough? πŸ˜‰

Oh please. My ds really has weird taste. He thinks that I'm the most handsome guy in the universe. He thinks that even Takashi also must stand aside when I'm around :siao: despite my plus size and all. I'm quite worried next time he turns out like me, seeing the way he loves carbohydrates.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/193069https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/193069Mon, 24 May 2010 05:16:09 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to When DW asks 'Do I look fat in this dress' ...... on Mon, 24 May 2010 05:11:53 GMT]]>Wei.. you mentioned lift up shirt to show belly mah..

I just offered another alternative suggestion to that nia.. :lol:

Who's Ase Wang? πŸ˜›
Yeah... nice try. :roll:

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/193065https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/193065Mon, 24 May 2010 05:11:53 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to When DW asks 'Do I look fat in this dress' ...... on Mon, 24 May 2010 05:10:03 GMT]]>

buds:

Or.... :idea: ... you can also zip your pants down and say, \"Whuh..? :? Fat?
\"Who? Whur? Where? Lemme show you how delicious you look right now
tryin' on those dresses...\" :evil:
I think buds is in a notti mood today 😐

Btw, who's Ase Wang? Ok wait, let me go grab a copy of FHM today πŸ˜‰

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/193061https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/193061Mon, 24 May 2010 05:10:03 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to When DW asks 'Do I look fat in this dress' ...... on Mon, 24 May 2010 05:05:21 GMT]]>Yeah Busymom, we all know how good you are at the game of diversion.. :evil:

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/193054https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/193054Mon, 24 May 2010 05:05:21 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to When DW asks 'Do I look fat in this dress' ...... on Mon, 24 May 2010 05:01:08 GMT]]>ha ha... I'll never ask that question cos' I trust my own fashion sense more than DH's. I'll prefer an honest answer too, even if the truth hurts.


How about diverting the question to your children, if they are old enough? πŸ˜‰

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/193051https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/193051Mon, 24 May 2010 05:01:08 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to When DW asks 'Do I look fat in this dress' ...... on Mon, 24 May 2010 04:59:30 GMT]]>

markfch:
autumnbronze & buds,


Even though your arguments sound valid & logical, my survival instinct warns me to use the time tested strategy of being clever. The next time it happens, I'll lift up my shirt to expose my bloated belly and shout: 'Fat? Don't talk to me about being fat, woman' and then most probably my dw will roll on the floor laughing at my fat belly. :rotflmao:
Or.... :idea: ... you can also zip your pants down and say, \"Whuh..? :? Fat?
\"Who? Whur? Where? Lemme show you how delicious you look right now
tryin' on those dresses...\" :evil:

Agree with autumnbronze. Honestly is the best policy.
If a woman can't handle the truth then they shouldn't
bother asking! :siam:

And plus, why would anyone want the men to lie how
great we look only to have them lookin' deliriously at
other babes, models, pin-ups, (etc)? 😐

....... whether upfront or on the sly...... :evil:

I mean like \"Yeah hun, you look gorgeous in that, really!\" :roll:
But yet, there the guy goes thinkin' up Ase Wang in that hawt
white bikini in this month's edition of FHM? :siao: :nunchuk:

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/193048https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/193048Mon, 24 May 2010 04:59:30 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to When DW asks 'Do I look fat in this dress' ...... on Mon, 24 May 2010 04:54:28 GMT]]>Wow! Overboard praising huh? :evil: :idea:

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/193043https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/193043Mon, 24 May 2010 04:54:28 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to When DW asks 'Do I look fat in this dress' ...... on Mon, 24 May 2010 04:51:29 GMT]]>The way I handle the situation is that if I feel the dress is not suitable, I just smile sweetly and not say anything. If I think the dress is nice, I will go overboard in praising it. That way I don’t have to lie, nor get myself into an ugly situation of explaining why I don’t like it.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/193040https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/193040Mon, 24 May 2010 04:51:29 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to When DW asks 'Do I look fat in this dress' ...... on Mon, 24 May 2010 04:27:37 GMT]]>So far I have not had the need to really ask DH such a question. Most of the time, I will change my outfits and DH will ask me why change. And I will say not comfy or look fat. And he will proceed to make a big show of feeling me up trying to check which part is fat. Then declare, you women are your own worst critique.


Then again, I know not to ask DH cos he prefers fleshy, plumpish women.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/193025https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/193025Mon, 24 May 2010 04:27:37 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to When DW asks 'Do I look fat in this dress' ...... on Sun, 23 May 2010 15:30:28 GMT]]>

markfch:
autumnbronze & buds,


Even though your arguments sound valid & logical, my survival instinct warns me to use the time tested strategy of being clever. The next time it happens, I'll lift up my shirt to expose my bloated belly and shout: 'Fat? Don't talk to me about being fat, woman' and then most probably my dw will roll on the floor laughing at my fat belly. :rotflmao:
But of course, you know your wife best πŸ˜‰

Btw, you've got a wacky sense of humour. Nice πŸ˜„

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/192595https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/192595Sun, 23 May 2010 15:30:28 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to When DW asks 'Do I look fat in this dress' ...... on Sun, 23 May 2010 15:00:11 GMT]]>

ksi:

This one is easy to answer and will not end up antagonising her.
\"The design just does not look right.\"
\"The style is just not right.\" are some possible answers.
Your advice seems workable. I will keep it in mind. πŸ˜„

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