<![CDATA[How to help a child who keeps losing things in school?]]>Hi


My son just lost his eraser again! He is in P2 and had been losing things in school…erasers almost every week, pencils too, water bottles every other month, rulers, lunch boxes, his chess set, textbook (so far only once, phew ) etc. I have tried the hard way ie don’t give him the eraser etc, but he will just borrow from friends if he needs it. Deducting from his pocket money does not work as he is not interested in buying things from the canteen. He brings food from home. I also find it hard not to replace the item cos’ I want him to concentrate in class and not having a ruler (for example) when he needs to do his work . The more I replaced the item, the faster its gone…

He is always very upset with me when I scolded him for losing things and keep on saying its not his fault??? What should I do?

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/topic/11256/how-to-help-a-child-who-keeps-losing-things-in-schoolRSS for NodeFri, 15 May 2026 05:44:16 GMTWed, 26 May 2010 06:30:56 GMT60<![CDATA[Reply to How to help a child who keeps losing things in school? on Fri, 04 Jun 2010 04:15:56 GMT]]>So do most of you place labels on your DS or DD names on all the stationery? I've plans to do so when DS goes to P1 next year. I've even bought extra water bottles for stand-by when I saw them on sale!!

Super KS... 😉

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/199848https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/199848Fri, 04 Jun 2010 04:15:56 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to How to help a child who keeps losing things in school? on Fri, 04 Jun 2010 04:10:07 GMT]]>

mocharita:
Maybe your kid has ADD?

What's ADD? Attention deficit..??

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/199843https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/199843Fri, 04 Jun 2010 04:10:07 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to How to help a child who keeps losing things in school? on Thu, 03 Jun 2010 11:22:59 GMT]]>And if you think kids will stop losing things once they're in upp primary, think again!


My ds didn't bring home his sports shoes and socks after practice yesterday. Though I was the one who fetched him home, I didn't realise he wasn't carrying his shoebag; we only knew this morning after the maid told us about his missing shoes. Rushed back to the stadium, but alas, it was nowhere to be found.

Haiz...and he's already in sec1. 😢
This's for you, sonshine.. :spank:

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/199530https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/199530Thu, 03 Jun 2010 11:22:59 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to How to help a child who keeps losing things in school? on Thu, 03 Jun 2010 10:23:14 GMT]]>I do not know abt P1 andP2 but fromP3 andP4 onwards, boys luv to play penfight. Its a game where you flick pens across a table and try to knock of other pens. Maybe that's why boys pens mysteriously diappear 😄

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/199515https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/199515Thu, 03 Jun 2010 10:23:14 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to How to help a child who keeps losing things in school? on Wed, 02 Jun 2010 19:33:28 GMT]]>Maybe your kid has ADD?

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/199281https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/199281Wed, 02 Jun 2010 19:33:28 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to How to help a child who keeps losing things in school? on Wed, 02 Jun 2010 17:24:32 GMT]]>Put a name tag on each item so that it will be easier to distinguish if that item is his. At his age, specially boys, they are often too clumsy or do not think of keeping their stuff properly (playing is mostly in their minds). Why not try to compensate your child if ever he comes home with complete set of things. For example, give him something he likes (not necessarily expensive) if he returns home without any loss. This way, he’ll learn to value his things. I hope that helps.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/199272https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/199272Wed, 02 Jun 2010 17:24:32 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to How to help a child who keeps losing things in school? on Sun, 30 May 2010 10:52:11 GMT]]>My dd2 lost her school uniform and skirt in separate occasions and never find back. She also lost her school books twice (different book) one found the other no. I insisted she had to find it but at the end teacher called me to get one for her. She lost a lot of small items and story books too. All this happened in lower primary. So when she go to upper primary she never lost her book and uniform, but lost her student card a few times. Found it back and lost again so many time until P6 totally lost. I didn’t make new one for her, she had to travel bus using coins in sec 1 till she got her new student card. Now she is more careful never lost her student card at all but still forget where she keep her things now and then. This don’t happen to dd1, she never lost her item. In-fact her is very careful when others took her things. ds in P1 now, so far only lost pencils and color pencils but still find them back. I use label with his name on the pencils so he can find back from his friend.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/198015https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/198015Sun, 30 May 2010 10:52:11 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to How to help a child who keeps losing things in school? on Sun, 30 May 2010 02:51:06 GMT]]>DS in P1 lost a number of things. Now I give him all the plain design of pencil, ruler, easier to shcool.

Somebody even took his coin from his wallet. Money gone but put back the wallet in his school bag.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/197919https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/197919Sun, 30 May 2010 02:51:06 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to How to help a child who keeps losing things in school? on Wed, 26 May 2010 15:19:03 GMT]]>I am wondering if losing things are common for boys???


My P2 :shock: even more horrendous.... Left his workbook, files under his table. They share their classroom with upper primary... Next moment, his form teacher start to sms us to remind him to bring this and that and to my :!: , he misplaced it.

Hubby had to interrogate him, punish him and eventually called his form teacher to see if they can find those stuff. They managed to find some but it's incomplete. I was :x . Never had such problem with my P3 girl.... this chap is really a trouble maker :x :stupid:

I really hope he will learn after this incident. Really frustrated with him. :?:

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/196500https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/196500Wed, 26 May 2010 15:19:03 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to How to help a child who keeps losing things in school? on Wed, 26 May 2010 15:10:04 GMT]]>my p1 son is quite good so far only lost 1 or 2 pencils and colour pencils. I realised sometimes could be friends accidentally packed into their pencilcase, naughty friend purposely took away or stationery drop onto the floor without kids realising, by next day when they return back to cls, cleaners has already swept away.


For bigger things like water bottle, lunchboxes and etc, most schools have lost and found area, can checkout those places.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/196491https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/196491Wed, 26 May 2010 15:10:04 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to How to help a child who keeps losing things in school? on Wed, 26 May 2010 14:35:01 GMT]]>Hi Bread&muffins,


It sounds to me that your P2 is not understanding responsibility yet. Perhaps start simple at home to get him to have some responsibilities and then flow it over to his responsibility for his belongings at school. If he understands the importance of that, all things may just fall into place nicely and you don’t have to ache over every single item? Just my 2 cents worth.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/196439https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/196439Wed, 26 May 2010 14:35:01 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to How to help a child who keeps losing things in school? on Wed, 26 May 2010 14:24:54 GMT]]>Stuff tat my dd has lost in school in jus tis 2 yrs:


4 water bottles
Badminton racket (found)
2 story books
Bag (found)
1 pair of school shoes
countless other small items

:scared:

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/196430https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/196430Wed, 26 May 2010 14:24:54 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to How to help a child who keeps losing things in school? on Wed, 26 May 2010 08:31:17 GMT]]>

Pen88n:
tamarind:

When I was in P1, when I had something that I mother was afraid that I would lose, she used a string to tie the object to my school uniform 😉 It really worked.


One way is to tie the eraser to the pencil case, then tie the pencil case to the school bag 😉

We should give the child more time to learn.

If I see a child with lots of strings tied to his / her schoolbag, I will know that's Tamarind's kid. :lol: What happen if the strings got entangled? :shock: What happen if lost schoolbag? :!:

I do not have to tie things for my girl lah. We should only tie things which are small and can be easily lost, not everything. If the child can even lose the school bag, then the next time parents should tie the school bag to the uniform.

My point is that kids may not learn from constant nagging and reminding, parents can think of more \"solid\" methods to help them 😉 It is up to the parents to decide whether the methods are feasible. Who knows, once the parents start to tie the objects, the child will be so embarassed he will learn to be more careful.

For example, my girl once lost her drawing block. That was because her school bag was too small and she had to carry her drawing block in her hands. I changed to a bigger school bag that can accommodate the drawing block, and she never lose it again.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/196086https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/196086Wed, 26 May 2010 08:31:17 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to How to help a child who keeps losing things in school? on Wed, 26 May 2010 08:25:06 GMT]]>

tamarind:
When I was in P1, when I had something that I mother was afraid that I would lose, she used a string to tie the object to my school uniform 😉 It really worked.


One way is to tie the eraser to the pencil case, then tie the pencil case to the school bag 😉

We should give the child more time to learn.
If I see a child with lots of strings tied to his / her schoolbag, I will know that's Tamarind's kid. :lol: What happen if the strings got entangled? :shock: What happen if lost schoolbag? :!:

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/196073https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/196073Wed, 26 May 2010 08:25:06 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to How to help a child who keeps losing things in school? on Wed, 26 May 2010 08:20:36 GMT]]>When I was in P1, when I had something that I mother was afraid that I would lose, she used a string to tie the object to my school uniform 😉 It really worked.


One way is to tie the eraser to the pencil case, then tie the pencil case to the school bag 😉 The string will help to remind the child to be careful.

We should give the child more time to learn.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/196062https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/196062Wed, 26 May 2010 08:20:36 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to How to help a child who keeps losing things in school? on Wed, 26 May 2010 08:17:19 GMT]]>

Breadandmuffins:

He is always very upset with me when I scolded him for losing things and keep on saying its not his fault???? What should I do?
Is there any reason why he keeps losing it? Is some bully taking it away from him?

For me, when I find that my pens keep disappearing in office, I tag them....somehow the loss mysteriously don't happen anymore. you may want to consider for stuff like rulers, pencils.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/196055https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/196055Wed, 26 May 2010 08:17:19 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to How to help a child who keeps losing things in school? on Wed, 26 May 2010 07:43:43 GMT]]>I personally find that over time the numbers of lost items lessen. Also, for impt things, it is impt you emphasize to them the consequences of losing such things. They will take better care of these things then

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/195988https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/195988Wed, 26 May 2010 07:43:43 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to How to help a child who keeps losing things in school? on Wed, 26 May 2010 07:24:22 GMT]]>Thanks for your advice. Agree that there are many other "issues" we have to deal with as they grow up and the need to maintain mother son relationship. My only worry is that this carelessness starts from "small things" and became a habit when he is older. My husband told him about the serious consequence if he loses his rifle in army and he was kinda taken aback!

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/195957https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/195957Wed, 26 May 2010 07:24:22 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to How to help a child who keeps losing things in school? on Wed, 26 May 2010 06:39:28 GMT]]>Breadandmuffins,


I have gone thru’ the same stage as you, but over time, it gets lesser. I learnt from my frens that for small stationary items, do not take it too hard. Spend $5 (or may be less) a month stocking up stationaries can remove a lot of stress from the mother-son relationship and remove your frustration too. I know some pple will disagree and say that must teach kids to be responsible, etc. etc. However, over time, you will find that there are many disciplining we as parents should look into. If we were to do all "fights", the relationship will be very strained. That’s why I would choose to "pick my fight" and concentrate on big issues.

Big items sometime let the kid feel the pain a little. Eg. if the kid lost his favourite watch, do not get him one for a while, or get him a cheap one if needed. And he will feel the pain when he lost his faourite item.

Hope this helps.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/195885https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/195885Wed, 26 May 2010 06:39:28 GMT