<![CDATA[Handling a primary one]]>Hi all,


I am trying to find ways to manage my primary one son as he seems to be rather stress with the school life? any advise on this?

Many thanks :?:

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/topic/11972/handling-a-primary-oneRSS for NodeFri, 24 Apr 2026 08:52:30 GMTSun, 27 Jun 2010 16:30:02 GMT60<![CDATA[Reply to Handling a primary one on Mon, 28 Jun 2010 06:41:06 GMT]]>yes, that's why I believe all parents in this era are trying to help our children as much as we can but we are also afraid to make them lose their independent character..... 😢

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/210422https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/210422Mon, 28 Jun 2010 06:41:06 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Handling a primary one on Mon, 28 Jun 2010 06:36:57 GMT]]>

Snowy15:
thanks, sometimes that is the fear of being a parent, we adults are able to stand up for each other but children may not have the courage as we also teach them to have respect for all especially to their elder...

Yes, that is important! No disrespect allowed.
Snowy15:
in fact, the time when i talked to the teacher, is the time when an important file (filled with exam notes) and exam round the corner and i thought to seek teacher's help and started to thank her first and later on, share her my thoughts thinking to provide some feedback for my child but at the end, got the comments indirectly from my child (not to tell me things cause i will complain to her).... :stupid:
A case of teacher too overloaded?? ...I would also be like you :stupid: :stupid:
Snowy15:
being a parent of the modern era is indeed not easy!!!
I think being a student in this era is even more difficult.. :lol:

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/210420https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/210420Mon, 28 Jun 2010 06:36:57 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Handling a primary one on Mon, 28 Jun 2010 06:14:00 GMT]]>thanks, sometimes that is the fear of being a parent, we adults are able to stand up for each other but children may not have the courage as we also teach them to have respect for all especially to their elder...


teachers have a real great impact on them as they see the teachers handling a whole class of students.

we, parents only handle our children and that is always lesser than a class.

but i suppose we parents are on 24/7 LTC for them always....and we always need to assure them that we are there for them.

in fact, the time when i talked to the teacher, is the time when an important file (filled with exam notes) and exam round the corner and i thought to seek teacher's help and started to thank her first and later on, share her my thoughts thinking to provide some feedback for my child but at the end, got the comments indirectly from my child (not to tell me things cause i will complain to her).... :stupid:

being a parent of the modern era is indeed not easy!!!

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/210409https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/210409Mon, 28 Jun 2010 06:14:00 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Handling a primary one on Mon, 28 Jun 2010 05:59:49 GMT]]>yes, at first, i did worry that losing things with any reasons may be a sign of being bully, but after talking to my child, I reassure that goods friends should be understandable and not to forcing friends to agree with them.


My child got the message and understand that they should try to enlarge their circle of friends and not only following their old K2 friends....

i am happy this turns well later..... 😄

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/210391https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/210391Mon, 28 Jun 2010 05:59:49 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Handling a primary one on Mon, 28 Jun 2010 05:44:57 GMT]]>

Snowy15:
Thanks, this thought did come to my mind at first, but was even of afraid that the teacher will bias against the kid but i am monitoring the situation and if things fall out, i guess i will call the teacher again

I know what you mean. I had the same fear too.

I also monitored the situation. Just that at this age, the teachers are everything to them and any such comments is damaging and not appropriate IMHO. And like Jedamum said, I reasssured my child that she has nothing to be afraid off and tell her I'm happy she shares her experience with me. I also explained to her that by sharing with me, I can help her to analyze the situation as I am also an adult like her teacher. I do tell her that most times teachers may scold/punish becoz she did something wrong but still I would like to know and that I will not punish her again if she tells me.

But on hand, I will tackle the teacher by finding a chance to speak to her personally. I will thank the teacher for their kind attention and help in helping me monitor the situation. I will tell her how grateful I am that she keeps me updated on the situation as we mothers are keen to know how our babies are doing with all the new environment and responsibilities..

I would go along that line of reverse psychology.. if the teacher still the same (either bochap or pass such remarks) then I will go to principle to understand how what I should do to help my kid adjust. 3 chances max! :roll:

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/210373https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/210373Mon, 28 Jun 2010 05:44:57 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Handling a primary one on Mon, 28 Jun 2010 05:30:03 GMT]]>Have you consider the remote possibility of he being "teased" in school since among other things, loosing files & stationaries?

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/210361https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/210361Mon, 28 Jun 2010 05:30:03 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Handling a primary one on Mon, 28 Jun 2010 04:54:22 GMT]]>Thanks for your great advice.


All these post forums are indeed very practical and fruitful and will only to pick up some of those.

Cheers :celebrate:

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/210311https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/210311Mon, 28 Jun 2010 04:54:22 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Handling a primary one on Mon, 28 Jun 2010 04:37:07 GMT]]>

Snowy15:

also, how should i work with teachers on these, had spoken to teacher about losing stationery/file in school and at first afraid it may be some unusual thing as pre-school was alright.

teacher told my child not to tell me much as the teacher commented my feedback call to them is complain but i told teacher that i am trying to express my concern about their transition....?? :stupid: of me

thanks
i guess for lost items, we can only inculcate sense of responsibilities at home - there are some discussion here - http://www.kiasuparents.com/kiasu/forum/viewtopic.php?t=11256&start=

for the few times that ds1 lost his books, i wrote it in the diary and told him to pass to his teacher to read if i need the teacher to help us search if she had left it out in the staffroom. i don't usually call.

teacher told your kid not to tell you much? then tell your kid not to tell the teacher that he told you anything....😉 in times like these, i will reassure my son that he has nothing to fear if he has not done anything wrong.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/210288https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/210288Mon, 28 Jun 2010 04:37:07 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Handling a primary one on Mon, 28 Jun 2010 03:31:57 GMT]]>Thanks, this thought did come to my mind at first, but was even of afraid that the teacher will bias against the kid but i am monitoring the situation and if things fall out, i guess i will call the teacher again


other than that, any other recommendations for me? :idea:

thanks

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/210243https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/210243Mon, 28 Jun 2010 03:31:57 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Handling a primary one on Mon, 28 Jun 2010 03:23:41 GMT]]>

Snowy15:
teacher told my child not to tell me much

:!: :!: :!:

I would call up the teacher again to clarify and if can't work I will talk to principle.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/210233https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/210233Mon, 28 Jun 2010 03:23:41 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Handling a primary one on Mon, 28 Jun 2010 03:08:34 GMT]]>Thanks for the good tips as below.


Guess not all kids are the same character, my older child was a little better to manage and thus this younger child pose a challenge to me..

also, how should i work with teachers on these, had spoken to teacher about losing stationery/file in school and at first afraid it may be some unusual thing as pre-school was alright.

teacher told my child not to tell me much as the teacher commented my feedback call to them is complain but i told teacher that i am trying to express my concern about their transition....?? :stupid: of me

thanks

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/210217https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/210217Mon, 28 Jun 2010 03:08:34 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Handling a primary one on Mon, 28 Jun 2010 02:46:25 GMT]]>some good tips here.

http://www.kiasuparents.com/kiasu/forum/viewtopic.php?t=10932&highlight=encouragement

high expectations of oneself and lack of self confidence may be some issues that you may need to deal with; maybe there is a significant event that trigger his fear of a particular teacher. encourage him to tell you stuff about sch on a daily basis.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/210191https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/210191Mon, 28 Jun 2010 02:46:25 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Handling a primary one on Mon, 28 Jun 2010 02:33:53 GMT]]>Hello,


He was at first stressed with friendship at the start but been able to overcome.

However, the stress in academic or the fear of teachers (especially this) worsen even though after half a year had gone....

:?:

Thanks

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/210183https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/210183Mon, 28 Jun 2010 02:33:53 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Handling a primary one on Mon, 28 Jun 2010 00:30:44 GMT]]>

Snowy15:
Hi all,


I am trying to find ways to manage my primary one son as he seems to be rather stress with the school life? any advise on this?

Many thanks :?:
stress as in academic stress or friendship issues? or scare of teachers?

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/210111https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/210111Mon, 28 Jun 2010 00:30:44 GMT