MMM:

Leanne:

3 Knowing their own kids are good, yet will tell u their own is no good, but actually they are working very hard and is beyond good.

Maybe their benchmark is high???? Eg. they know their kids are good but probably they are expecting them to be \"perfect\" so they are still not good enough in their eyes :?

MMM:

Reading all these postings about those pretentious mums made me self-reflect.


I think I've been very kancheong type and always asking friends to plan ahead for P1 registration as well as build their kids' foundation so they have a smooth sailing time in primary school...

When kids do well, I will display I am happy. But I am really happy because our efforts paid off not because of \"show off\" factor. Similarly, when they do badly, I am very disappointed and I let it show. I am also transparent if they don't do well and I don't hide.

Going through these, I hope no one will classify me under those pretentious mums

Leanne:

Not only parents are like that, sometime, the children also behaves like the parents...very sad to see this...

Leanne:

3 Knowing their own kids are good, yet will tell u their own is no good, but actually they are working very hard and is beyond good.

Picolo:

vicki:

[quote=\"Picolo\"]
Haha (bitter laugh), this reminds me of a mummy who told me last year, 'Dun go for GEP test! Not good one...' and of her dd ' one day she will be like me, a SAHM, so why study so hard?' And guess what? Her dd did sign up for the GEP test this year, and till today her dd's classmates still remember her dd sobbed miserably after receiving her SA2 results last year, telling her friends that her mum would definitely cane her for not getting the ideal result. Actually the poor gal was already one of the top gals in the best class, but her results slipped in SA2.

This mum always tries to act 'relaxed', but those who know her well enough can see through those pretentious act... I can only :stupid: last year when I start to see her true colours. Luckily, she is the only hypocrite-mummy I know.

Hope I dun have to cross path with her ever again :siam:

U never \"embarress\" her by asking her \"How come you go and tell everyone dont sign up but you ka-ki sign your dd up for the test - orghhh -- bluff all of us is it??\"

Usually - when you sia suay them abit -- then they will think twice before blatently telling 'lies' again.

vicki:

Picolo:

Haha (bitter laugh), this reminds me of a mummy who told me last year, 'Dun go for GEP test! Not good one...' and of her dd ' one day she will be like me, a SAHM, so why study so hard?' And guess what? Her dd did sign up for the GEP test this year, and till today her dd's classmates still remember her dd sobbed miserably after receiving her SA2 results last year, telling her friends that her mum would definitely cane her for not getting the ideal result. Actually the poor gal was already one of the top gals in the best class, but her results slipped in SA2.

This mum always tries to act 'relaxed', but those who know her well enough can see through those pretentious act... I can only :stupid: last year when I start to see her true colours. Luckily, she is the only hypocrite-mummy I know.

Hope I dun have to cross path with her ever again :siam:

U never \"embarress\" her by asking her \"How come you go and tell everyone dont sign up but you ka-ki sign your dd up for the test - orghhh -- bluff all of us is it??\"

Usually - when you sia suay them abit -- then they will think twice before blatently telling 'lies' again.

Picolo:

Haha (bitter laugh), this reminds me of a mummy who told me last year, 'Dun go for GEP test! Not good one...' and of her dd ' one day she will be like me, a SAHM, so why study so hard?' And guess what? Her dd did sign up for the GEP test this year, and till today her dd's classmates still remember her dd sobbed miserably after receiving her SA2 results last year, telling her friends that her mum would definitely cane her for not getting the ideal result. Actually the poor gal was already one of the top gals in the best class, but her results slipped in SA2.

This mum always tries to act 'relaxed', but those who know her well enough can see through those pretentious act... I can only :stupid: last year when I start to see her true colours. Luckily, she is the only hypocrite-mummy I know.

Hope I dun have to cross path with her ever again :siam:

kiddo:

jtoh:

[quote=\"powerpuffmum\"]I know of people who would even mislead u with information just so that you don't get a headstart..very ugly indeed.

At the end of the day, we do our best to impart the right values that they will carry with them the rest of their lives and support them in whatever they do. To me, it is about giving it their personal best. We are just facilitators to make sure they are on the right track. Now if you've done all that..CHILL! We, parents need a break too every one in a while. :lol:

I agree with you about there being hypocrites among us and people misleading others with misinformation.

This mother I knew went around telling everyone how wonderful a school Nanyang Girls High, that it was so much better than RGS, that her dd was going to apply DSA for Nanyang only... She went around telling everyone that, encouraging everyone to apply for Nanyang over RGS. Turns out her dd didn't apply for Nanyang at all. Her dd applied only for RGS. It was her plan to remove competiton from RGS for her dd. Of course she overestimated her ability to influence the decisions of others.

She tried the same ploy again in selecting a Third Language. She went around telling everyone that it was VERY difficult to get into Japanese and if your child wanted to do a third language, it was better to opt for German. Never mind if the child was interested in German or not. It was just prestigious to do a third language. So she went around telling everyone not to apply for Japanese. Of course her dd, Isabella, applied for Japanese.

Sigh! What's wrong with these people? And do they think that other people can't see what they're doing?

jtoh:

powerpuffmum:

I know of people who would even mislead u with information just so that you don't get a headstart..very ugly indeed.

At the end of the day, we do our best to impart the right values that they will carry with them the rest of their lives and support them in whatever they do. To me, it is about giving it their personal best. We are just facilitators to make sure they are on the right track. Now if you've done all that..CHILL! We, parents need a break too every one in a while. :lol:

I agree with you about there being hypocrites among us and people misleading others with misinformation.

This mother I knew went around telling everyone how wonderful a school Nanyang Girls High, that it was so much better than RGS, that her dd was going to apply DSA for Nanyang only... She went around telling everyone that, encouraging everyone to apply for Nanyang over RGS. Turns out her dd didn't apply for Nanyang at all. Her dd applied only for RGS. It was her plan to remove competiton from RGS for her dd. Of course she overestimated her ability to influence the decisions of others.

She tried the same ploy again in selecting a Third Language. She went around telling everyone that it was VERY difficult to get into Japanese and if your child wanted to do a third language, it was better to opt for German. Never mind if the child was interested in German or not. It was just prestigious to do a third language. So she went around telling everyone not to apply for Japanese. Of course her dd, Isabella, applied for Japanese.

Sigh! What's wrong with these people? And do they think that other people can't see what they're doing?

snowz:

Brenda10:

[quote=\"verykiasu2010\"]well, you have the following types of kiasu parents :


1. bo chap - simply don't care

2. vain pot - appearance is of paramount importance

3. snob / show off - see, i have .....(fill the blanks) and u don't have (unspoken)

4. scheming 阴险 - say one thing and do another thing, entice the tiger to leave the mountain

5. super kaypoh - everything also want to know

6. super b1tchy - express gossipers

7. super worrier - sigh every minute and say 'cham, die liao, how, how, how ....???)

8. super warrior - cheong ah!

9. super advisor : everything must tell you what you must and must not do

any more ?

and you are pressurised by which type ?

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Brenda10:

verykiasu2010:

well, you have the following types of kiasu parents :


1. bo chap - simply don't care

2. vain pot - appearance is of paramount importance

3. snob / show off - see, i have .....(fill the blanks) and u don't have (unspoken)

4. scheming 阴险 - say one thing and do another thing, entice the tiger to leave the mountain

5. super kaypoh - everything also want to know

6. super b1tchy - express gossipers

7. super worrier - sigh every minute and say 'cham, die liao, how, how, how ....???)

8. super warrior - cheong ah!

9. super advisor : everything must tell you what you must and must not do

any more ?

and you are pressurised by which type ?

New 百科全书

cantbearit2:

jtoh:

I agree with you about there being hypocrites among us and people misleading others with misinformation.

This mother I knew went around telling everyone how wonderful a school Nanyang Girls High, that it was so much better than RGS, that her dd was going to apply DSA for Nanyang only... She went around telling everyone that, encouraging everyone to apply for Nanyang over RGS. Turns out her dd didn't apply for Nanyang at all. Her dd applied only for RGS. It was her plan to remove competiton from RGS for her dd. Of course she overestimated her ability to influence the decisions of others.

She tried the same ploy again in selecting a Third Language. She went around telling everyone that it was VERY difficult to get into Japanese and if your child wanted to do a third language, it was better to opt for German. Never mind if the child was interested in German or not. It was just prestigious to do a third language. So she went around telling everyone not to apply for Japanese. Of course her dd, Isabella, applied for Japanese.

Sigh! What's wrong with these people? And do they think that other people can't see what they're doing?

That is really scary!!!! :scared:

Luckily I have not met such parents. So far, all the parents are quite supportive and gave me geniune advice. They are also not shy to admit their reasons for choosing one sch over another. eg. academic results

verykiasu2010:

well, you have the following types of kiasu parents :


1. bo chap - simply don't care

2. vain pot - appearance is of paramount importance

3. snob / show off - see, i have .....(fill the blanks) and u don't have (unspoken)

4. scheming 阴险 - say one thing and do another thing, entice the tiger to leave the mountain

5. super kaypoh - everything also want to know

6. super b1tchy - express gossipers

7. super worrier - sigh every minute and say 'cham, die liao, how, how, how ....???)

8. super warrior - cheong ah!

9. super advisor : everything must tell you what you must and must not do

any more ?

and you are pressurised by which type ?

verykiasu2010:

well, you have the following types of kiasu parents :


1. bo chap - simply don't care

2. vain pot - appearance is of paramount importance

3. snob / show off - see, i have .....(fill the blanks) and u don't have (unspoken)

4. scheming 阴险 - say one thing and do another thing, entice the tiger to leave the mountain

5. super kaypoh - everything also want to know

6. super b1tchy - express gossipers

7. super worrier - sigh every minute and say 'cham, die liao, how, how, how ....???)

8. super warrior - cheong ah!

9. super advisor : everything must tell you what you must and must not do

any more ?

and you are pressurised by which type ?

jtoh:

I agree with you about there being hypocrites among us and people misleading others with misinformation.

This mother I knew went around telling everyone how wonderful a school Nanyang Girls High, that it was so much better than RGS, that her dd was going to apply DSA for Nanyang only... She went around telling everyone that, encouraging everyone to apply for Nanyang over RGS. Turns out her dd didn't apply for Nanyang at all. Her dd applied only for RGS. It was her plan to remove competiton from RGS for her dd. Of course she overestimated her ability to influence the decisions of others.

She tried the same ploy again in selecting a Third Language. She went around telling everyone that it was VERY difficult to get into Japanese and if your child wanted to do a third language, it was better to opt for German. Never mind if the child was interested in German or not. It was just prestigious to do a third language. So she went around telling everyone not to apply for Japanese. Of course her dd, Isabella, applied for Japanese.

Sigh! What's wrong with these people? And do they think that other people can't see what they're doing?

markfch:

ksi:

[quote=\"jtoh\"]
Yes, exactly.

I think it is quite naive of her to think that competition can be removed by her own single efforts alone? unless she has amazingly big network, even then, she will get a bad sorethroat from talking so much.... :rotflmao:

sleepy:

markfch:

yalor yalor. In PSLE, our kids are not competing with our neighbours. Our kids are competing at the national level. Further down the road at 'O'/'A' or Uni, they'll be competing globally (once all the overseas scholars comes in).

If parents can have this mindset, then they won't need to be so kiasu towards personal friends.

Agreed :celebrate:

I told my dd PSLE is the most important exam in primary school and then 多嘴 mentioned that PSLE scholars are usually from which top schools. She promptly asked me what's her school ranking across the nation (er.... ) and why didn't I enrol her in any of those top schools in Singapore :faint:

markfch:

yalor yalor. In PSLE, our kids are not competing with our neighbours. Our kids are competing at the national level. Further down the road at 'O'/'A' or Uni, they'll be competing globally (once all the overseas scholars comes in).

If parents can have this mindset, then they won't need to be so kiasu towards personal friends.

ksi:

jtoh:

[quote=\"sleepy\"]

She's an insecured mum who doesn't believe in her dd having 真材实料

Yes, exactly.