<![CDATA[Mummy Windflower - Hello]]>Hi, I have been browsing through this forum for sometime but only decide to register myself here today. I find this forum very informative, especially the topic on "Any Parents of Gifted Children here".


I am a typical kiasu SAHM for almost 10 years with two children, 9 year old boy and 4 year old girl. I hope to improve my role as a mother by learning more from other kiasu parents in this forum.

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jedamum:
sunflower:

Actually wanted to stop at one (was FTWM then) but my elder girl wanted a sibling.


Although i never had the intention to stop at one, my elder boy 'hasten' the process a bit by throwing tantrum and demanding that we give him a sibling. :oops: In a way, that helps as he dotes on his bro a lot...even when his bro hit him or dismantle his toys, he, though upset, is never angry at him (at least for now). He'll get angry at me instead...for failing to prevent the 'disaster'. :roll:

Your elder boy is so cute and loving. 🙂 My boy could still tolerate his sister if she hits him, however, if she snatches or breaks his things, he would be super mad and starts to scream and shout at her. :x

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sunflower:
Actually wanted to stop at one (was FTWM then) but my elder girl wanted a sibling.

Although i never had the intention to stop at one, my elder boy 'hasten' the process a bit by throwing tantrum and demanding that we give him a sibling. :oops: In a way, that helps as he dotes on his bro a lot...even when his bro hit him or dismantle his toys, he, though upset, is never angry at him (at least for now). He'll get angry at me instead...for failing to prevent the 'disaster'. :roll:

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sunflower:
I’ve heard of Chy’i before but am not familiar with her English songs.


Oh yes, wide age gap between my 2 girls. Actually wanted to stop at one (was FTWM then) but my elder girl wanted a sibling. We thought can consider as she would be old enough to take care of herself and could perhaps help out with the 2nd one. :lol: As a result of having no.2, became a SAHM…
I have a few of her English albums, very nice. Even my girl also knows how to appreciate the songs. One night before she slept, she told me, \"Mummy, I want to listen to the songs 'Send In The Clowns' and 'Like A Hero'.\" :shock:

So you also gave up your job due to the 2nd child, just like jedamum. Your elder girl is so lucky to have a little sister to play with, I think she sure loves her very much. 🙂

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/9840https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/9840Mon, 03 Nov 2008 11:24:44 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Mummy Windflower - Hello on Mon, 03 Nov 2008 10:03:07 GMT]]>I’ve heard of Chy’i before but am not familiar with her English songs.


Oh yes, wide age gap between my 2 girls. Actually wanted to stop at one (was FTWM then) but my elder girl wanted a sibling. We thought can consider as she would be old enough to take care of herself and could perhaps help out with the 2nd one. :lol: As a result of having no.2, became a SAHM…

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/9838https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/9838Mon, 03 Nov 2008 10:03:07 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Mummy Windflower - Hello on Mon, 03 Nov 2008 09:41:11 GMT]]>Yes, I quite like the song and I like sunflowers too. 🙂 Anyway it is an English song sang by Chy'i, a Chinese Taiwanese singer. Wow, your two girls' age gap is seven years apart!

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/9836https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/9836Mon, 03 Nov 2008 09:41:11 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Mummy Windflower - Hello on Mon, 03 Nov 2008 09:22:58 GMT]]>

Windflower:
sunflower:

Hi Windflower, your name’s quite close to mine…except I follow the sun but you follow the wind! 😄


Welcome to KSP!

Thanks, sunflower. We're just like sisters :lol:, actually I chose this username based on a song called \"Windflowers\". 🙂

You must have really liked the song “Windflower” to use the name. I must be a real “sua ku” to not have heard of the song before. Is it a Chinese song? If it is, I suppose it’s literally translated as “feng1 zhi1 Hua1” ?

Ha, ha… our children’s ages are quite close too…my elder girl is 1 yr older than your boy, and my younger girl is 1 yr younger than yours. 😄

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/9834https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/9834Mon, 03 Nov 2008 09:22:58 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Mummy Windflower - Hello on Mon, 03 Nov 2008 08:26:56 GMT]]>Windflower,


Yes, it's all very exciting....next week orientation...mad rush to buy books and such...i am looking forward to that. 😄

I don't believe in giving just my one child everything in the world in terms of the best expensive enrichment, best toys, my love and all of my time. I believe that sharing such privileges (though may not be the best) with one more of my child will make the firstborn and me a better person. 🙂 But i'll stop at 2 now. 😄

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/9833https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/9833Mon, 03 Nov 2008 08:26:56 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Mummy Windflower - Hello on Mon, 03 Nov 2008 08:20:17 GMT]]>

sunflower:
Hi Windflower, your name’s quite close to mine…except I follow the sun but you follow the wind! 😄


Welcome to KSP!
Thanks, sunflower. We're just like sisters :lol:, actually I chose this username based on a song called \"Windflowers\". 🙂

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/9832https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/9832Mon, 03 Nov 2008 08:20:17 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Mummy Windflower - Hello on Mon, 03 Nov 2008 05:33:46 GMT]]>Hi Windflower, your name’s quite close to mine…except I follow the sun but you follow the wind! 😄


Welcome to KSP!

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/9808https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/9808Mon, 03 Nov 2008 05:33:46 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Mummy Windflower - Hello on Mon, 03 Nov 2008 00:57:25 GMT]]>Jedamum, so your elder son is going P1 in another few months' time? You must be very excited. 😄


Re: SAHM
Definitely I would choose to have a secondborn, nothing can be compared to cuddling your little one in your arms. Just like you, I am not opened to other alternatives in caring for my children, that explains why I gave up my job ten years ago. I would rather we struggling on a single income than missing out the precious moments with my children. You have indeed made a right choice which you would never ever regret. 🙂

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/9790https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/9790Mon, 03 Nov 2008 00:57:25 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Mummy Windflower - Hello on Sun, 02 Nov 2008 18:51:25 GMT]]>

Windflower:
May I know how old are your two children and what makes you decide to give up your job and be a SAHM?

6 and 2 yr old respectively. 😄
RE: SAHM
if you are to make a choice of keeping your job or having a secondborn, which would you choose?
long story, anyway, it's cos i have no alternative care for my secondborn and childcare/infantcare, nannycare, maidcare are options that i will not consider. then as to if i will go back to work again, i'm not sure cos everyone at home is so used to me being at home (i used to work 7daysweek, 14hrs day during peak period) and the talk of me going back to work is usually met with strong resistance from all directions...husband, kid, ILs.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/9788https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/9788Sun, 02 Nov 2008 18:51:25 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Mummy Windflower - Hello on Sun, 02 Nov 2008 14:21:52 GMT]]>ChiefKiasu, you reminded me that my girl also behaves like that. She would always suggest to her brother to have a race with her, in whatever… drinking water, eating, running to the lift to press button… but then she must be the winner. So your children’s age gap is 6 years apart?


Jedamum, I think your elder one is jealous with his didi as you might have paid more attention to your younger one since he is still quite young. For me, my girl is the one who feels jealous whenever we praise korkor or buy korkor something that he needs. May I know how old are your two children and what makes you decide to give up your job and be a SAHM?

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ChiefKiasu:
Windflower:

However, she also has this bad habit whereby she must have everything that korkor has. :x


She not only wants everything her brother has - she also want to win in everything they do... eating, running, studying... and, of course, fighting.

Perhaps my younger one is still too young. For me, on the contrary, it is the older one that wants everything that his didi has.... from trying to hog practically every piece of new toy that I got for his didi, to acting like a baby and wanting me to cradle him...just like didi. :roll:

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Windflower:
Thanks, jedamum. I agree with your point. Due to the wide age gap between my two children, my girl always looks upon her brother as her idol who can answer all her questions. However, she also has this bad habit whereby she must have everything that korkor has. :x

Ah yes... my 3yo girl parrots every action of her 9yo brother - and yet will refuse to admit he is her idol. She not only wants everything her brother has - she also want to win in everything they do... eating, running, studying... and, of course, fighting.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/9737https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/9737Sat, 01 Nov 2008 16:02:32 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Mummy Windflower - Hello on Sat, 01 Nov 2008 14:46:04 GMT]]>Thanks, jedamum. I agree with your point. Due to the wide age gap between my two children, my girl always looks upon her brother as her idol who can answer all her questions. However, she also has this bad habit whereby she must have everything that korkor has. :x

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/9726https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/9726Sat, 01 Nov 2008 14:46:04 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Mummy Windflower - Hello on Sat, 01 Nov 2008 12:38:49 GMT]]>hi windflower,


i guess it depends on what you are looking for. my boys of 4 yrs age gap although don't do most stuff together, because of the older one being accomodative, they still do get to play together. the wide age gap would also mean that there will not be as much squabbling too. i would reckon that kids with very close age gap may have to fight to be unique and stand out so that their parents can appreciate them differently as they do most stuff together. i would imagine that those with like say 1-2 yrs age gap, the younger one may be overshadowed by the stuff that the older is doing....at least that is how i felt when i was young. 😢
10 yrs as a SAHM? I guess i am walking down your path too. 🙂 I am into my third year now. 🙂

welcome to KSP. 😎

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/9724https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/9724Sat, 01 Nov 2008 12:38:49 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Mummy Windflower - Hello on Sat, 01 Nov 2008 10:26:37 GMT]]>Hi, ChiefKiasu. I actually regret of having my 2nd child so many years later, especially when I see that they can't do a lot of things together. However, my boy is still quite childish compared to his friends of the same age, so he is always very accommodative towards his sister whenever she pesters him to play with her. 😉


In terms of their education, I have more time to coach my boy since my girl is not into primary school yet. As for upbringing, I am equally strict towards both my children but tend to be more kan chiong about my boy's intellectual development than my girl. I guess no more energy left after all these years' exhaustion.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/9723https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/9723Sat, 01 Nov 2008 10:26:37 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Mummy Windflower - Hello on Fri, 31 Oct 2008 14:32:41 GMT]]>

Windflower:
Hi, I have been browsing through this forum for sometime but only decide to register myself here today. I find this forum very informative, especially the topic on \"Any Parents of Gifted Children here\".


I am a typical kiasu SAHM for almost 10 years with two children, 9 year old boy and 4 year old girl. I hope to improve my role as a mother by learning more from other kiasu parents in this forum.
Hi Windflower... welcome to KiasuParents.com! Your children's age gap is almost the same as mine. Same sex some more. Do you find that useful or prohibitive in terms of education or upbringing?

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/9688https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/9688Fri, 31 Oct 2008 14:32:41 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Mummy Windflower - Hello on Fri, 31 Oct 2008 08:30:14 GMT]]>hello Windflower 🙂 Glad you like the info here, its the generous sharing among many of our members here that enable us to learn from one another.

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