<![CDATA[What is wrong with my son?!!!]]>I’m so disappointed when I received his SMS on his scores today.


He has not been performing well since P4 and he is definitely not stupid! His exam time table is very well scheduled this year, with enough time for him to revise and prepare well for every subject.

He is P5 this year and we gave our best to provide him with any help he needs to do well for coming PSLE. We gave him group tuition, we gave him 1-1 tuition, my hb sat down to revise with him, we tried to talk sense into him, we tried to motivate him and reward him with expensive toys he desired, I scolded and caned him…but all these don’t seem to work at all!

What is wrong with my son?!!! He is my middle child, but mid child syndrome is not a good excuse for him not to do well academically! We love him as much as the rest, or what is wrong with us as parents?

I’m at a loss now, words cannot expressed my disappointment. Should I cane him tonight?

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/topic/1321/what-is-wrong-with-my-sonRSS for NodeFri, 08 May 2026 12:31:48 GMTMon, 03 Nov 2008 07:30:20 GMT60<![CDATA[Reply to What is wrong with my son?!!! on Tue, 11 Nov 2008 14:43:18 GMT]]>

EN:
Tamarind wrote [quote]For an average student who has been getting C in maths, he may be happy enough to get B. His parents may be expecting an A, but is that fair for the child ?

Pick up my daughter from school in the afternoon. She was running towards the car waving her report book. Reading from her body language, she is happy with her school result. Her expectation is to pass everything. Both her teachers and me personally feel that she has the capability to move her marks from high Band 3 to Band 2.[/quote]EN,
I have given private tuition to many weak students before. I find that once they understand the subject better, and they see that their marks improved, they will set a higher standards for themselves. So the important thing is to find an effective method to teach them so that they can learn better.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/10365https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/10365Tue, 11 Nov 2008 14:43:18 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to What is wrong with my son?!!! on Mon, 10 Nov 2008 09:31:34 GMT]]>Tamarind wrote [quote]For an average student who has been getting C in maths, he may be happy enough to get B. His parents may be expecting an A, but is that fair for the child ?[/quote]
Pick up my daughter from school in the afternoon. She was running towards the car waving her report book. Reading from her body language, she is happy with her school result. Her expectation is to pass everything. Both her teachers and me personally feel that she has the capability to move her marks from high Band 3 to Band 2.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/10250https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/10250Mon, 10 Nov 2008 09:31:34 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to What is wrong with my son?!!! on Mon, 10 Nov 2008 05:28:17 GMT]]>EN,

There is a big difference between reading for enjoyment, and reading to pass the English literature exam :? I did not know how to answer those questions in the literature exam paper.

I believe that children in lower primary can set standards for themselves. When I was in primary 1 (in a no name school), I was first in class (not sure how, it just happened). After that I had to work hard to maintain that standard. My mother never said that I must be number 1 in class.

For an average student who has been getting C in maths, he may be happy enough to get B. His parents may be expecting an A, but is that fair for the child ?

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/10236https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/10236Mon, 10 Nov 2008 05:28:17 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to What is wrong with my son?!!! on Mon, 10 Nov 2008 03:44:31 GMT]]>Tamarind, funny that your daughter starts reading Charlotte Web at a very young age when her mother hates literature. :lol: I fall asleep during physic class & can't catch what the teacher say during chemistry class & there I have a son who loves science. :roll: By the way, I did pass my science subjects. Not brialliant but not borderline cases either.


Tamarind wrote [quote]Why not let the kids set their own standards ?[/quote]Aren't lower primary still too young to set their own stardard?

yat23yat23 wrote [quote]I actually waited to talk to her after that but there were too many parents around her. Still thinking of whether I should call her clinic.[/quote]If there is no similarities in behaviour & performance between your child & yourself/husband during that age, you might want to get in touch with the clinic. It's better to have earlier intervention.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/10229https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/10229Mon, 10 Nov 2008 03:44:31 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to What is wrong with my son?!!! on Mon, 10 Nov 2008 02:09:34 GMT]]>Update on the talk I attended last Friday. Dr Ang focussed more on Irlen Syndrome. Below are the symptoms:


Light Sensitivity, Poor Depth Perception (ie. difficulty judging accurately distances), Eyestrain (can include fatigue, headaches, fidgeting, distractibility, hyperactivity), ADD (problems concentrating during tasks such as reading, computer work, listening and observing, tests and examinations), Contrast and Colour Sensitivity (problems with high contrast, such as black print on white paper, bright colours, busy patterns), Restricted Span (inability to read words in groups or see objects in the environment as a whole), Distortions (include seeing patterns in the background; print moving, fading, disappearing, swirling, blurring, sparkling or shimmering; seeing similar distortions in the environment such as blurriness and movement.)

The talk didn’t address the issues that I had in mind. I actually waited to talk to her after that but there were too many parents around her. Still thinking of whether I should call her clinic.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/10220https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/10220Mon, 10 Nov 2008 02:09:34 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to What is wrong with my son?!!! on Sun, 09 Nov 2008 11:30:44 GMT]]>

csc:
...One of the best ways to show your children how to succeed may just be to teach them how to fail...

Yes... that is so true... however, in my case, I think it is my son who is teaching me how to fail. I was ranting away at how our father and son team keep getting wiped out at one of the xbox shoot-it-up game and was only awaken when my son say out of exasperation: \"Daddy... it's only a game!\" I was totally embarrassed :oops: by that incident, and hope to be a much better example for my son instead.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/10196https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/10196Sun, 09 Nov 2008 11:30:44 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to What is wrong with my son?!!! on Sun, 09 Nov 2008 08:22:11 GMT]]>

EN:
My attention span is extremely short if I'm not interested in a subject, my mind starts to wonder. I fell asleep in class from primary school up to uni for some subjects. I usually think back how I overcome my short fall & I hope the same solution works on my dd.
EN,
We have one more similarity ! I used to fall asleep in class too ! Especially in university during boring lectures. I can sleep through the entire lectures. In the end I barely manage to get my degree. The lesson I learn is that I should have chosen a course which I am really interested in.

In secondary school, I loved maths but really hated English literature. I refused to study literature because I was simply not interested. So I am not going to expect my kids to do well in every subject.

Why should parents set our own standards, and expect our kids to meet those standards ? Why not let the kids set their own standards ?

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/10194https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/10194Sun, 09 Nov 2008 08:22:11 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to What is wrong with my son?!!! on Fri, 07 Nov 2008 09:26:40 GMT]]>Hi all,


Sharing some thoughts from Dr James Dobson about Teaching Failure to Children.

" One of the best ways to show your children how to succeed may just be to teach them how to fail. Our children must see how that Mum and Dad can admit their failure and their shortcomings, and that the world won’t end because they did. Some of the greatest times of growth between parents and children can occur when youngsters see Mum and Dad not get what they’re going after and still feel all right about themselves and each other. It tells them that winning isn’t always normal or possible, and that even when you fail, life goes on. Teaching our kids to win and succeed is a noble thing. But teaching them to handle frustration and failure may be just as important."

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/10140https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/10140Fri, 07 Nov 2008 09:26:40 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to What is wrong with my son?!!! on Fri, 07 Nov 2008 05:36:15 GMT]]>

yat23yat23:
JH,


I will definitely update everyone about the outcome of the talk by Dr Doris Ang (she's got her own clinic). She has dyslexia and had her fair share of problems coping with schoolwork and her family's criticisms. If you type in her name in the internet, there'll be a lot of info about her work and contributions. She also gives talk at KKH (child guidance clinic), SPARKS and many other institutions.
I'm happy to be able to pour out my feelings. Thanks for all the words of encouragement.
Thanks yat23yat23, will look up in the net and wait for your update.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/10111https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/10111Fri, 07 Nov 2008 05:36:15 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to What is wrong with my son?!!! on Fri, 07 Nov 2008 05:34:43 GMT]]>

jedamum:
ChiefKiasu:


We were so much more forgiving then of his failures and falls, but the moment he made it, somehow the magic is broken and we expect more. We forget how we ourselves had difficulty learning to walk in the first place. We no longer applaud his ability to run or talk because we EXPECT him to be able to do so. And now we apply the same expectation on our children to be able to score well on subjects that they only started learning a couple of months ago, just because his teachers expect them to be able to do so, and his classmates seem to have no problems with the subject matter. We need to take a step back and try to see it from his point of view. Perhaps then we will see the mountain that he sees in place of the ant-hill that we assume the problem to be.

ChiefKS,
Thanks for highlighting that. Ya..I do need to keep my expectations in check at times. Whenever I feel like flaring up over the failure to do well, it helps to remember that my boy was there for me when I http://3.bp.blogspot.com/_FucD9Mp8vRI/SL4_v9HP0JI/AAAAAAAABAc/SapCHHJNpIA/s1600-h/scan0002.jpg too.

Hi Jedamum,
Don't worry or feel sad. Your son is caring and kind. He would do better as he grows older. I think the personality is also something you are concern about. It is not easy to change the character but for studies you can always guide him. As he matures, the academic result will be good too. Be happy and relieve that you have a good boy. I'm sure our kids will make it one day.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/10110https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/10110Fri, 07 Nov 2008 05:34:43 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to What is wrong with my son?!!! on Fri, 07 Nov 2008 05:25:51 GMT]]>

mummyoftwo:
JH:

My son is in P1 this year and he is also very careless, cannot focus and don't know how to read the question again and again till he understand. His SA2 was not good too. One of my friend told me that his nephew, P5 this year did quite badly for the past few years. Recommeded by one of the friends, he attended 1 of the enrichment school (quite famous) and for don't know 1 or 2 terms. This year his result although were not very good but he passed the subjects that he used to fail. The school's fee were quite expensive but could pay by instalments. His parent are very happy with what they have spent. Do you think we should try out these centres? They are said to have methods to teach the child how to remember things, motivate them and parents must also attend some kind of talk too. Any parents with kids going to these centres can share?


Is this MindCamp as i heard they are good but for bigger kids, not kindergarten and below - fees are real high.. Not sure if anyone heard of this or there's other centers that does this?

Yes, think so. For younger kids Pre-Primary, Shichida, I-Genius, Ric Cognitive and few others but thier fees are the same, quite high

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/10109https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/10109Fri, 07 Nov 2008 05:25:51 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to What is wrong with my son?!!! on Fri, 07 Nov 2008 05:11:59 GMT]]>CKS wrote [quote]Don't punish him. Instead, bring him out for dinner, saying that you just want to celebrate the completion of yet another year, but not the results. [/quote]
We went celebrating for good food & later I bought a Lego set for my kids to share immediately after exam. I told them thanks for working hard & putting up with the daily revision that we've done since January till date. My kids are pleasantly surprise because the results are not out yet. For me whom has been spending at least an hour daily revising school work with them at night after a hard day at work, I can understand the effort they have put in. It's not easy to discipline oneself when the body & mind is screaming for rest or play.

Tamarind wrote [quote]My hubby sometimes complain to me that my boy is not like my girl. Then I will tell him, that my girl has my genes, but my boy has his genes hahaha So he can only blame himself. [/quote]Life is sometimes unfair. My ds inherit both my husband & my good qualities. My dd inherit a lot of our shortcoming. I know my shortfall. My attention span is extremely short if I'm not interested in a subject, my mind starts to wonder. I fell asleep in class from primary school up to uni for some subjects. I usually think back how I overcome my short fall & I hope the same solution works on my dd.

To all parents whose child is weak in math, the only way is to do a daily revision. Make sure they grasp the basic concept. Even with daily work, the result will not be apparent immediately. It might take more than a year of hard work just to see slight improvement.

For English & mother tongue, the language should be part of our daily life. Why do Singapore government has \"Speak Mandarin\" campaign? It is through daily usage, that we improve our language.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/10104https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/10104Fri, 07 Nov 2008 05:11:59 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to What is wrong with my son?!!! on Fri, 07 Nov 2008 03:41:05 GMT]]>

EN:

If I'm upset with my kids performance, I often reflect back how I am at their age. My kids inherited my genes, my quirks, my abilities & my short falls.
I am happy to find someone else who think the same way as me 😄 I am happy enough when my kids can do as well as me when I was their age.

My hubby sometimes complain to me that my boy is not like my girl. Then I will tell him, that my girl has my genes, but my boy has his genes hahaha So he can only blame himself.


Jedamum,
Thanks for sharing the note your boy wrote to you 😄 He is so sweet 😄

My kids are still very young, so when they make mistakes, I simply correct them, and I don't make any other comments. Even though my boy make the same mistakes more than 10 times, I correct him but I do not say anything else. I want them to know that it is OK to make mistakes, but they must learn from their mistakes and try their best to do the correct things in the future.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/10099https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/10099Fri, 07 Nov 2008 03:41:05 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to What is wrong with my son?!!! on Fri, 07 Nov 2008 03:21:38 GMT]]>Hi Jedamum,


Your son's note made feel ashamed of myself too. Whenever I made mistakes, my kids will tell me \"It's ok, mommy. Just be more careful next time.\" But I can't say I did the same every time when they made mistakes. :oops:

I shall bookmark your son's note to constantly remind myself the forgiving spirit that I should shower on them.

Thanks for sharing :!:

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/10096https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/10096Fri, 07 Nov 2008 03:21:38 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to What is wrong with my son?!!! on Fri, 07 Nov 2008 02:45:00 GMT]]>

JJJmom:
That reminds me as an adult to be more forgiving when our children fell/failed to meet our expectation, to sympathize them and support them when they need us most.

Perhaps you may also like to get or make an 'encouragement' card for your boy to motivate him?
I felt somewhat ashamed of myself when I received that note. While I was rather critical when he failed to meet my expectations, he was consoling when I failed. When I was under tremendous stress driving with my husband seated beside me and lecturing me for the silly mistakes, my boy stood up for me and consoled me that he understood how I felt - then I realised that that was how he felt whenever I raised my voice to lecture him for some silly homework mistakes or demanded that he give me the solution of a particular question on the spot.
:oops:

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/10086https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/10086Fri, 07 Nov 2008 02:45:00 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to What is wrong with my son?!!! on Fri, 07 Nov 2008 02:20:08 GMT]]>

jedamum:
my boy was there for me when I failed too.

Dear Jedamum,
So touched to see the note that your boy wrote. He is so innocent and compassionate. That reminds me as an adult to be more forgiving when our children fell/failed to meet our expectation, to sympathize them and support them when they need us most. Sometimes I'm such a failure too!

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/10083https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/10083Fri, 07 Nov 2008 02:20:08 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to What is wrong with my son?!!! on Fri, 07 Nov 2008 01:30:13 GMT]]>JH,


I will definitely update everyone about the outcome of the talk by Dr Doris Ang (she’s got her own clinic). She has dyslexia and had her fair share of problems coping with schoolwork and her family’s criticisms. If you type in her name in the internet, there’ll be a lot of info about her work and contributions. She also gives talk at KKH (child guidance clinic), SPARKS and many other institutions.
I’m happy to be able to pour out my feelings. Thanks for all the words of encouragement.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/10080https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/10080Fri, 07 Nov 2008 01:30:13 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to What is wrong with my son?!!! on Thu, 06 Nov 2008 15:04:37 GMT]]>Jedamum wrote [quote]Ya..I do need to keep my expectations in check at times.[/quote]
If I'm upset with my kids performance, I often reflect back how I am at their age. My kids inherited my genes, my quirks, my abilities & my short falls. I must also take into consideration what was taught in the past compared to what is being taught now is completely at different level.

Jedamum wrote [quote]my boy was there for me when I failed too[/quote]Your boy is so caring and clever. I can guess what it is that upset you. Persevere! You will succeed eventually. 🙂

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/10069https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/10069Thu, 06 Nov 2008 15:04:37 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to What is wrong with my son?!!! on Thu, 06 Nov 2008 12:48:35 GMT]]>

ChiefKiasu:

We were so much more forgiving then of his failures and falls, but the moment he made it, somehow the magic is broken and we expect more. We forget how we ourselves had difficulty learning to walk in the first place. We no longer applaud his ability to run or talk because we EXPECT him to be able to do so. And now we apply the same expectation on our children to be able to score well on subjects that they only started learning a couple of months ago, just because his teachers expect them to be able to do so, and his classmates seem to have no problems with the subject matter. We need to take a step back and try to see it from his point of view. Perhaps then we will see the mountain that he sees in place of the ant-hill that we assume the problem to be.
ChiefKS,
Thanks for highlighting that. Ya..I do need to keep my expectations in check at times. Whenever I feel like flaring up over the failure to do well, it helps to remember that my boy was there for me when I http://3.bp.blogspot.com/_FucD9Mp8vRI/SL4_v9HP0JI/AAAAAAAABAc/SapCHHJNpIA/s1600-h/scan0002.jpg too.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/10062https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/10062Thu, 06 Nov 2008 12:48:35 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to What is wrong with my son?!!! on Thu, 06 Nov 2008 12:46:45 GMT]]>

JH:
My son is in P1 this year and he is also very careless, cannot focus and don't know how to read the question again and again till he understand. His SA2 was not good too. One of my friend told me that his nephew, P5 this year did quite badly for the past few years. Recommeded by one of the friends, he attended 1 of the enrichment school (quite famous) and for don't know 1 or 2 terms. This year his result although were not very good but he passed the subjects that he used to fail. The school's fee were quite expensive but could pay by instalments. His parent are very happy with what they have spent. Do you think we should try out these centres? They are said to have methods to teach the child how to remember things, motivate them and parents must also attend some kind of talk too. Any parents with kids going to these centres can share?

Is this MindCamp as i heard they are good but for bigger kids, not kindergarten and below - fees are real high.. Not sure if anyone heard of this or there's other centers that does this?

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/10061https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/10061Thu, 06 Nov 2008 12:46:45 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to What is wrong with my son?!!! on Thu, 06 Nov 2008 11:00:43 GMT]]>

yat23yat23:
i thot i was the only one facing this problem. my son is in P2. he failed his maths paper in P1 and he failed again this year. his Eng and MT marks are not that good either. i'm upset because i know he can do better and i had hoped that he would perform better than last year.


all his form teacher can say is he needs to be more focussed. when asked how the school can help, she just gave me tips on how i can \"train\" him to be more focussed.

i've decided to pull my son out from his tuition centre. he was there since P1 and no improvement at all.

my husband doesn't know of the results yet cos the report book hasn't been given out. i'll have to make sure that my husband doesn't over react. we both had put in a lot of effort when it comes to his studies and prayed for him as well.

every night, i ask myself: what i should do to help him; what have i not done correctly; if he can't pull through P1 & P2, how is he going to pull through till P6.

i'm attending a talk tomorrow about the various learning disabilities in children. i hope to learn something from it. i'm quite keen to do an evaluation but i know that it is expensive and not a one-time thing.
i definitely can't afford the cost.
yat23yat23, can share the tips that the the teacher taught on how to be more focus? I heard the evaluation plus report is about $500/-.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/10058https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/10058Thu, 06 Nov 2008 11:00:43 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to What is wrong with my son?!!! on Thu, 06 Nov 2008 10:57:01 GMT]]>My son is in P1 this year and he is also very careless, cannot focus and don’t know how to read the question again and again till he understand. His SA2 was not good too. One of my friend told me that his nephew, P5 this year did quite badly for the past few years. Recommeded by one of the friends, he attended 1 of the enrichment school (quite famous) and for don’t know 1 or 2 terms. This year his result although were not very good but he passed the subjects that he used to fail. The school’s fee were quite expensive but could pay by instalments. His parent are very happy with what they have spent. Do you think we should try out these centres? They are said to have methods to teach the child how to remember things, motivate them and parents must also attend some kind of talk too. Any parents with kids going to these centres can share?

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/10057https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/10057Thu, 06 Nov 2008 10:57:01 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to What is wrong with my son?!!! on Thu, 06 Nov 2008 10:49:33 GMT]]>

yat23yat23:
i thot i was the only one facing this problem. my son is in P2. he failed his maths paper in P1 and he failed again this year. his Eng and MT marks are not that good either. i'm upset because i know he can do better and i had hoped that he would perform better than last year.

Yes, it is painful. This is what parenting is really all about, to be able to accept our children for what they are and to try different ways of helping them improve until we find one that works.
yat23yat23:
all his form teacher can say is he needs to be more focussed. when asked how the school can help, she just gave me tips on how i can \"train\" him to be more focussed.
Sometimes, that might indeed be the solution. For example, a child may not do well in Chinese because he has no motivation to learn Chinese, so sending him to more academic Chinese classes or tuition will only compound the problem instead of helping him. We have to think of ways to open his mind and understand for himself why he should be learning Chinese. It is not to pass or do well in exams. It is so that he can enjoy Chinese movies or cartoons, to be able to interact and play with Chinese friends, or to be able to read Chinese martial arts novels such as Monkey God or the Three Kingdoms. The trick is to find out what he likes, and to design his education around it.
yat23yat23:
i've decided to pull my son out from his tuition centre. he was there since P1 and no improvement at all.
I think that is the right decision. Not all tuition centres are good. But you must have a good alternative plan to monitor his progress at home.
yat23yat23:
my husband doesn't know of the results yet cos the report book hasn't been given out. i'll have to make sure that my husband doesn't over react. we both had put in a lot of effort when it comes to his studies and prayed for him as well.
It is said that a mother's love for her son is unconditional, but a father's love is earned. Rightly or wrongly, we daddies tend to be a lot harder on our boys because of our own experiences.
yat23yat23:
every night, i ask myself: what i should do to help him; what have i not done correctly; if he can't pull through P1 & P2, how is he going to pull through till P6.
5 years is a long time. It is more than half your son's current age. Remember how proud you were when he made his first steps, or when he called your name. We were so much more forgiving then of his failures and falls, but the moment he made it, somehow the magic is broken and we expect more. We forget how we ourselves had difficulty learning to walk in the first place. We no longer applaud his ability to run or talk because we EXPECT him to be able to do so. And now we apply the same expectation on our children to be able to score well on subjects that they only started learning a couple of months ago, just because his teachers expect them to be able to do so, and his classmates seem to have no problems with the subject matter. We need to take a step back and try to see it from his point of view. Perhaps then we will see the mountain that he sees in place of the ant-hill that we assume the problem to be.
yat23yat23:
i'm attending a talk tomorrow about the various learning disabilities in children. i hope to learn something from it. i'm quite keen to do an evaluation but i know that it is expensive and not a one-time thing.
i definitely can't afford the cost.
I think it is an excellent idea for you to attend parenting talks and learn from experts. I myself have benefited much from such talks. As to professional evaluation, why not just let him spend some time with a trusted relative who can open his heart and find out what is troubling him? It might just work and is much cheaper :).

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/10056https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/10056Thu, 06 Nov 2008 10:49:33 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to What is wrong with my son?!!! on Thu, 06 Nov 2008 05:01:51 GMT]]>

hquek:
Hi JJJMom,


It may not be he doesn't understand the subjects - you will know better in his daily work. Could it be due to stress during exam? I blanked out during my o level prelims and forgot everything - it was a really scary experience. Had to compose myself before things came back to me.

If so, caning/reprimanding will only increase the fear of exam in future.

Perhaps you can try to communicate with him more - don't focus on exam, it's past. But try probe if he faces such problems when it's time to put pen on paper.

Probably you may like to focus on exam techniques and how to overcome the fear of such with him first.

Hope things work out!
Dear Hquek,
I should have heard him out when he told me about exam stress then. I was battling to find time for myself and brushed him off then.
Like you said I will try my best to help him overcome exam fears and teach him the exam techniques. Hope he will do better in coming exams.
Not much time left, next year is PSLE ! I am really really very worried for him...... 😞
Sometimes I hope he can be like my elder son, I know every child is unique and I should not compared!

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