<![CDATA[DS closer to my mum than to dw, how arh?]]>DW went overseas for a holiday with PILs and ds stayed behind with me as we don't want him to miss to much lessons. DS never once talked about dw during this period.


But today when my mum returned home after visiting us, within 5 min he said that he misses her already. DS said granny takes good care of him (as though we don't :roll: ). DS will automatically do a lot of things for my mum such as reminding her to take her medication etc. But my mum doesn't stay with us leh, so I don't know how come ds is so close to her?

Btw, I'm not whining (she's my mum after all), I merely stating facts. DW observed that from my side of the family, we show our love thru actions. DW said we know how to amuse children. From her side of the family, they also love as much but have difficulty expressing it. Does anyone else experience this?

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/topic/13489/ds-closer-to-my-mum-than-to-dw-how-arhRSS for NodeTue, 23 Jun 2026 17:08:43 GMTSun, 29 Aug 2010 15:43:32 GMT60<![CDATA[Reply to DS closer to my mum than to dw, how arh? on Wed, 01 Sep 2010 03:49:11 GMT]]>Thank you janet_lee88 and LKVM :celebrate:


Before I was married, a very forward-thinking father once told me this.
He works from home and spends the bulk of his children's waking hours with them. His DW is a super career woman who works 15-16 hours daily (even during weekends) at her job in a MNC. He said he loves and cares for his children very much and would play with, discipline and do almost anything with them. But when they were sad or angry, they will run to his DW at the first moment to get their feelings sorted out. And when they go to bed at night, their children will fight with each other (and him) regarding whom to sleep next to mommy.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/252921https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/252921Wed, 01 Sep 2010 03:49:11 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to DS closer to my mum than to dw, how arh? on Wed, 01 Sep 2010 03:04:36 GMT]]>Hi Duriz,

I agree with you. The mother and son bond is always there and even though the mother doesn’t express, bond is still there.

My son approaches hubby when he has problems with Math, killing cockroaches, or else needs to get his Art done (yours truly here is hopeless in these areas).

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janet_lee88:
Hey markfch,

I guess you will not be washing your face for the next few days right ? 😉 That kiss must be sweeter than manuka honey.
Don't show disappointment to your son lah, he's only in K2. It's heartbreaking for a little boy.
I know that sometimes I'm guilty of expecting ds to compensate for my own mediocre achievements at sch. Very unfair to him. I'll try to correct myself :oops:

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/252855https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/252855Wed, 01 Sep 2010 02:54:18 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to DS closer to my mum than to dw, how arh? on Tue, 31 Aug 2010 02:17:15 GMT]]>

markfch:
Recently DS didn't do well for one of the quizzes that he attended. Last night, the disappointment showed on my face. DS could sense it, he wrote a note to say 'please be happy my best Daddy' and gave it to me. He wrote another note saying 'If you are not happy, I will be sad' :love:


So sweet hor. And then a few days back, I pretended to be sleeping and he secretly kissed my cheeks before going to bed. DS is so sweet sometimes he attracts ants into the bedroom.
Well now Papa markfch, aren't you the lucky one, that's very sweet of him 😄

And yes, I agree.

This probably means your DS is a boy who likes to show and express affection, and hope for the same in return.

It's wonderful.

And don't worry too much. The mother-child bond is innate and very strong, even if both the mother and child may not show it outwardly. History has shown and proven that bond cannot be broken nor challenge by time, space, war nor any individual.

Before children grow up to be adults, they will go through phases of certain likes and dislikes, this includes people in their lives (food and toys).

He's probably more protective of your Mum (with the reminders of meds). Little boys aspire to be little men. One of my good friend's DS used to enjoy helping her with carrying all her NTUC shopping bags, even though he was just 5 years old and struggling with them on the way home.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/252109https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/252109Tue, 31 Aug 2010 02:17:15 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to DS closer to my mum than to dw, how arh? on Tue, 31 Aug 2010 02:16:02 GMT]]>Hey markfch,

I guess you will not be washing your face for the next few days right ? 😉 That kiss must be sweeter than manuka honey.
Don't show disappointment to your son lah, he's only in K2. It's heartbreaking for a little boy.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/252108https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/252108Tue, 31 Aug 2010 02:16:02 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to DS closer to my mum than to dw, how arh? on Tue, 31 Aug 2010 02:11:54 GMT]]>

markfch:
Recently DS didn't do well for one of the quizzes that he attended. Last night, the disappointment showed on my face. DS could sense it, he wrote a note to say 'please be happy my best Daddy' and gave it to me. He wrote another note saying 'If you are not happy, I will be sad' :love:


So sweet hor. And then a few days back, I pretended to be sleeping and he secretly kissed my cheeks before going to bed. DS is so sweet sometimes he attracts ants into the bedroom.
:faint: :love: :love:

You're a lucky man, Mark! Congratulations on raising such a great kid :).

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/252106https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/252106Tue, 31 Aug 2010 02:11:54 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to DS closer to my mum than to dw, how arh? on Tue, 31 Aug 2010 02:11:28 GMT]]>

markfch:
Recently DS didn't do well for one of the quizzes that he attended. Last night, the disappointment showed on my face. DS could sense it, he wrote a note to say 'please be happy my best Daddy' and gave it to me. He wrote another note saying 'If you are not happy, I will be sad' :love:


So sweet hor. And then a few days back, I pretended to be sleeping and he secretly kissed my cheeks before going to bed. DS is so sweet sometimes he attracts ants into the bedroom.
So sweet. :snuggles:

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/252105https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/252105Tue, 31 Aug 2010 02:11:28 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to DS closer to my mum than to dw, how arh? on Tue, 31 Aug 2010 02:09:40 GMT]]>Kids are naturally attracted to a caregiver who shows visible concern and love to them, so yes, expressing love is very important.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/252104https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/252104Tue, 31 Aug 2010 02:09:40 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to DS closer to my mum than to dw, how arh? on Tue, 31 Aug 2010 02:04:07 GMT]]>

deminc:
If you observe your son to see how HE expresses affection, you will be able to guess what his love language is. Spending a bit of time \"speaking\" his love language everyday and you will have a good bond.

My ds tends to show love thru actions. Though he reminded me not to eat peanuts recently when I had a bad cough. Thanks for the book recommendation.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/252100https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/252100Tue, 31 Aug 2010 02:04:07 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to DS closer to my mum than to dw, how arh? on Tue, 31 Aug 2010 02:00:37 GMT]]>

toddles:

How old is your DS? maybe it's just that age, and he sees granny doing a lot for him, whereas your wife works most of the time?
DS is 5+. Yes you maybe rite. DW is a workaholic and ds is closer to my mum & I cos we tend to do more visible things together with him.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/252094https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/252094Tue, 31 Aug 2010 02:00:37 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to DS closer to my mum than to dw, how arh? on Tue, 31 Aug 2010 01:58:09 GMT]]>Recently DS didn't do well for one of the quizzes that he attended. Last night, the disappointment showed on my face. DS could sense it, he wrote a note to say 'please be happy my best Daddy' and gave it to me. He wrote another note saying 'If you are not happy, I will be sad' :love:


So sweet hor. And then a few days back, I pretended to be sleeping and he secretly kissed my cheeks before going to bed. DS is so sweet sometimes he attracts ants into the bedroom.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/252091https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/252091Tue, 31 Aug 2010 01:58:09 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to DS closer to my mum than to dw, how arh? on Tue, 31 Aug 2010 01:51:33 GMT]]>

markfch:
DW went overseas for a holiday with PILs and ds stayed behind with me as we don't want him to miss to much lessons. DS never once talked about dw during this period.


But today when my mum returned home after visiting us, within 5 min he said that he misses her already. DS said granny takes good care of him (as though we don't :roll: ). DS will automatically do a lot of things for my mum such as reminding her to take her medication etc. But my mum doesn't stay with us leh, so I don't know how come ds is so close to her?

Btw, I'm not whining (she's my mum after all), I merely stating facts. DW observed that from my side of the family, we show our love thru actions. DW said we know how to amuse children. From her side of the family, they also love as much but have difficulty expressing it. Does anyone else experience this?
How old is your DS? maybe it's just that age, and he sees granny doing a lot for him, whereas your wife works most of the time?

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/252086https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/252086Tue, 31 Aug 2010 01:51:33 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to DS closer to my mum than to dw, how arh? on Mon, 30 Aug 2010 23:56:14 GMT]]>I keep hearing about this book but I’ve never read it. Sounds like a timely reminder to dive back into parenting books, splash. Thanks for the tip, deminc!

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/251998https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/251998Mon, 30 Aug 2010 23:56:14 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to DS closer to my mum than to dw, how arh? on Mon, 30 Aug 2010 04:23:44 GMT]]>Different love languages perhaps? Perhaps your son’s "love language" is acts of service (since he reminds your mum to take medicine) and physical affection or quality time. (Five Love Languages of children - Gary Chapman).


For my younger one it is physical affection, for my elder one it is quality time and gifts. I realise that my husband can scold them very badly, but as long as he still spends time playing with them or taking them out, they will still consider him the most wonderful dad. I may spend a lot of time cooking and cleaning for them for their allergies, but to them it is meaningless. It is the time I spend doing art and craft or building lego with ds1 that makes him think that mummy loves him. For ds2, mummy can scold him but mummy must hug him afterwards.

If you observe your son to see how HE expresses affection, you will be able to guess what his love language is. Spending a bit of time "speaking" his love language everyday and you will have a good bond.

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