markfch:

buds:

From the above sharing, what i can deduce is that being a nice chap your
self, i'm sure the genes generated from having nice parents as well.

Fortunately I get mostly my mum's genes I guess. Get what I'm saying :evil:

buds:

Hokay... now for my consideration. :idea:
I can be convinced you'd make a fabulous FIL, hands-on,
understanding, loving, funny, (etc)... but your wifey... how
do you think you'd see her as future MIL? Would she prefer
a working DIL instead of a SAHM since she's career oriented?

What if my DD2 wants to be SAHM to take care of your DS and
their family? :lol:

Now we are talking business, buds :lol:

Both dw & I seem to have the same concept about the roles of son & dil. You see, it doesn't matter whether we agree or disagree with what views our future dil holds. We've this framework which spells out clearly that once ds marries, for better or worse he belongs totally to his dw. Once married, to ds his dw should come first. Otherwise something is wrong.

Because we already have this mindset, I believe we will try our best not to intrude into the lives of ds & dil. And for the sacrifices that we are making now, we really don't expect anything in return. Even financially, we plan for our own retirement nest independent of future support from ds. You can't expect one person to comfortably support 2 old folks in s'pore.

I think personally the most difficult barrier for me to overcome is in the upbringing of grandkids. I've a certain high expectation of ds. So I may inadvertently misplace the same expectation on grandkids. So I must paste this sticker big big in my bedroom \"My grandchild is not my child, therefore that's my son's responsibility, not mine\" so that I don't become unneccessarily intrusive. :oops:

Talk until so nice hor. Don't know whether when the litmus test comes, can fulfil what I preached or not? But at least the basic idea is there.

markfch:

DW ever mentioned to me that she rated me an 'A' as a father but 'C-' as a husband. Everything I do, I do it for ds. Occasionally my conscious will prick me and that's when I'll try to do something for dw.

Recently I bought a $2k branded bag for dw and I felt the pinch, though I tried not to show it. But I'm sure if I were do the same for ds, I would feel very very happy. I'm not sure if it's a hainanese thing cos my father is also like that.

Anyone else is guilty of the same sin?

Eagle-Ladybird:

Angelight:

Get your wife to determine her primary love language as well (it could be 1 or 2) and both of you can start applying it in your marriage, like me and DH.

This is a mistake :stupid: I asked last night, and she replied \"what ?! After all these years, and yuo don't know my love language ?? :x \" . . . actually I don't even know what is \"love language\" let alone hers

Eagle-Ladybird:

Angelight:

Get your wife to determine her primary love language as well (it could be 1 or 2) and both of you can start applying it in your marriage, like me and DH.

This is a mistake :stupid: I asked last night, and she replied \"what ?! After all these years, and yuo don't know my love language ?? :x \" . . . actually I don't even know what is \"love language\" let alone hers

Angelight:

Get your wife to determine her primary love language as well (it could be 1 or 2) and both of you can start applying it in your marriage, like me and DH.

Angelight:

Hi Markfch,


Perhaps you do not know your wifey's love language. Everyone of us has one or two primary love languages and a 'love tank' that needs to be filled up. But if we do not know our spouse's love language, we will not be able to fill up their love tank, thus leading to dissatisfaction and complaints in our marriage.

I just posted \"What is Your Love Language?\" in my blog. Maybe you could have a read and see which 'love language' applies to your wife and which to you. Then you both can work towards a more satisfying marriage.

markfch:

DW ever mentioned to me that she rated me an 'A' as a father but 'C-' as a husband. Everything I do, I do it for ds. Occasionally my conscious will prick me and that's when I'll try to do something for dw.

Recently I bought a $2k branded bag for dw and I felt the pinch, though I tried not to show it. But I'm sure if I were do the same for ds, I would feel very very happy. I'm not sure if it's a hainanese thing cos my father is also like that.

Anyone else is guilty of the same sin?

markfch:

autumnbronze:

[quote=\"LKVM\"]

AB ur hubby lawyer mah??? he takes which kinda cases? must remember him if in case need anything

I never confirm leh

autumnbronze:

LKVM:

AB ur hubby lawyer mah??? he takes which kinda cases? must remember him if in case need anything

I never confirm leh

LKVM:

AB ur hubby lawyer mah??? he takes which kinda cases? must remember him if in case need anything

autumnbronze:

Well then you are probably just waiting for the game to start in Nov so that you can resuscitate your rusty skills back to life again, no? :lol:

autumnbronze:

BigDevil:

Haha...no I'm not a lawyer, but AB's hubby is. Right, AB?

:faint:



omy, you managed to dig that up too

BigDevil:

This mata now very rusty leh...so long no word game oredi.

BigDevil:

Sun_2010:

[quote=\"BigDevil\"] Chief is indeed Hainanese[/url].

Wow Big D, u a lawyer???
Can dig up info from the tonnes of posts here??

:salute:

Sun_2010:

BigDevil:

Chief is indeed Hainanese[/url].

Wow Big D, u a lawyer???
Can dig up info from the tonnes of posts here??

:salute:

Sun_2010:

BigDevil:

Chief is indeed Hainanese[/url].

Wow Big D, u a lawyer???
Can dig up info from the tonnes of posts here??

:salute:

BigDevil:

Chief is indeed Hainanese[/url].

westmom:

markfch:

[quote=\"westmom\"]
must ask Chief's DW leh....i tot i read before that he is one....

Toh not hainanese lah. Han is I think.