<![CDATA[Reward after Exam]]>I know everyone is busy preparing their kids for the coming exam.

But STOP for a moment and THINK.

Recently I have been thinking, what I should get for my child after the exam is over. Then it dwells on me how sometimes, we reward our kids based on academic results. Does that makes our love for our kids CONDITIONAL?

So I decided to buy my dd a BIG gift and I will give it to her immediately after the exam. Not after the result is released, not after she has attained certain pre-set goals. A reward purely because I love her and would like to encourage her that daddy love her whatever the outcome of the result is.

So how will you reward your kids after exam?

If you are like me, other than busy helping them ..
We have to start hunting for presents too :celebrate:

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/topic/14388/reward-after-examRSS for NodeWed, 22 Apr 2026 08:47:28 GMTMon, 04 Oct 2010 06:36:07 GMT60<![CDATA[Reply to Reward after Exam on Tue, 19 Oct 2010 13:02:44 GMT]]>Let me share what is my rewards after exams. During school days, I can only go out and play with my friends during weekends. If I do well in exams, I can go out and play with my friends everyday in the holidays.


So maybe, u can extend your child’s playing time. No need to spend money at all.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/278825https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/278825Tue, 19 Oct 2010 13:02:44 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Reward after Exam on Sun, 10 Oct 2010 15:54:26 GMT]]>I also do not practise giving rewards, but I think I will have to give one this year! :stupid:


Cos to encourage my ds1 to study for psle, I told him that he would get a laptop if he could get 4As and get into his affiliate sch. Prob I was thinking that since I save money by not sending him for tuition, a laptop should be cheaper than 1 to 2 years of tuition! Besides he may need one for sch next year.

Recently, I told him no need to get 4As lah, why so stress, relax! And he gave me this... 😛

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/273753https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/273753Sun, 10 Oct 2010 15:54:26 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Reward after Exam on Tue, 05 Oct 2010 13:16:55 GMT]]>Regardless of how old one is, everyone loves tangible rewards.


Some are satisfied with small gifts "It’s the thoughts that count", some want bigger presents.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/270753https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/270753Tue, 05 Oct 2010 13:16:55 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Reward after Exam on Tue, 05 Oct 2010 10:09:50 GMT]]>conversely, i don't give ds1 much reward when he was in preschool. his 'reward' for finishing a written pc of work was usually a stamp or sticker. i started giving him rewards for P1 work cos he told me that when he understands that good results is the reward in itself, topping it up with material rewards will surely make his day. 😐 then his dad said give it to him la, cos most of the other times, he is actually quite a sensible boy. besides, we seldom buy toys for him, maybe about <5x a year; but we are prepared to say no to electronic gadgets at this age (no psp whatsoever cos it has little learning value and is highly addictive...even toys like lego gives better learning value).

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/270667https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/270667Tue, 05 Oct 2010 10:09:50 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Reward after Exam on Tue, 05 Oct 2010 09:08:48 GMT]]>[quote=\"verykiasu2010\"]We do not practise giving gifts for any performance in exams, academic or otherwise. The recognition is in the result itself


The thrill and satisfaction comes from attaining his / her personal target. The most we do is go out for a meal.
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Same here, we go for a gd meal or extend their games/computer hours or going for excursion. My ds recently got a distinction for his piano exam, we brought him out for a buffet which he love.

For me,i dont quite approve of materials/monetary rewards, now my ds are still young, still can give them small carrots, what about as they grow older? i have to dangle bigger and sweeter carrot then he will work hard - no carrot no work 😢

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/270618https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/270618Tue, 05 Oct 2010 09:08:48 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Reward after Exam on Tue, 05 Oct 2010 05:28:10 GMT]]>Interestingly … every child’s language of love is different.


Some prefers gifts and words of affirmation, others might prefer a hug.
There are also some children who language of love is that parents be there for them or doing little things like cooking, playing with them.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/270424https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/270424Tue, 05 Oct 2010 05:28:10 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Reward after Exam on Tue, 05 Oct 2010 04:15:16 GMT]]>the best rewards, if it may be called rewards, is the praise and affirmation verbalised by the parents for their hard work and achievement…


‘well done, keep it up!’

‘you have done your best, regardless of result’

‘we are proud of you’

etc

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/270358https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/270358Tue, 05 Oct 2010 04:15:16 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Reward after Exam on Tue, 05 Oct 2010 04:10:04 GMT]]>Rewards of intangible love, that’s understood. But after asking my young DS what his primary language of love is, it’s tangible gifts. He thinks people who buy him things are people who love him. So, while we espouse unconditional love, it is also important to give our kids tangible items at appropriate events.


While I did well at my own exams for the pride, it was a bonus to get a trip to Toys R Us with my parents. I still remember what my parents got me.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/270352https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/270352Tue, 05 Oct 2010 04:10:04 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Reward after Exam on Tue, 05 Oct 2010 04:05:55 GMT]]>

mummyjoyce:
We plan to do thigns after the exam (likes going hi-tea, shopping, etc) as rewards and somethings to look forward. We dont wait for result then reward but if we see that DDs are already putting loads of effort to prepare for the exam, we will reward them regarding of the result.

you mean \"regardless of result\" :?

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/270350https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/270350Tue, 05 Oct 2010 04:05:55 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Reward after Exam on Tue, 05 Oct 2010 04:04:38 GMT]]>I do not know if anyone misunderstood me. Just to clarify.


I am encouraging parents not to reward based on performance but rather their love for their kids.

So give away rewards/gifts ... intangible gifts included 😄

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/270348https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/270348Tue, 05 Oct 2010 04:04:38 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Reward after Exam on Tue, 05 Oct 2010 03:30:55 GMT]]>We plan to do thigns after the exam (likes going hi-tea, shopping, etc) as rewards and somethings to look forward. We dont wait for result then reward but if we see that DDs are already putting loads of effort to prepare for the exam, we will reward them regarding of the result.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/270327https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/270327Tue, 05 Oct 2010 03:30:55 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Reward after Exam on Tue, 05 Oct 2010 03:13:33 GMT]]>my ds already asking for a soccer ball on last day of the exam (12 Oct)

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/270309https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/270309Tue, 05 Oct 2010 03:13:33 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Reward after Exam on Tue, 05 Oct 2010 02:43:15 GMT]]>Reward?


What reward? :whut:

In fact, before exam fever begins... i will bring them out for a nice meal.
Recently, we went Swensens & i said... \"Let's all chill before exam fever
strikes, aye girls?\" My girls said, \"Yeah... you're right mum! Thanks!\" No
need to wait till after getting the results.

verykiasu2010:
We do not practise giving gifts for any performance in exams, academic or otherwise. The recognition is in the result itself

The thrill and satisfaction comes from attaining his / her personal target.
I ditto verykiasu2010 & sleepy.

It is also not our practice to do
or encourage so. After the results
they said, \"Mum, i'm so happy and
very proud with my results. I think i
did well with the preparations i made.
If i made even more advance preparations
i think i can do even better... but i'm just over
the moon right now.\"
sleepy:
No promise of rewards. I believe it's her duty to study. Just like daddy's duty to bring home bacon. She has the easiest task in our household, so no room for complaint.

Okie okie, having say that, this mean mummy did bring her out for dinner on the last day of exam and buy her a whole lot of new storybooks to celebrate 'good bye homework, hello summer'.
Yes.. yes.. like sleepy this mean mommy will also just
grab nice books and craft supplies for them when she
spots them in the shops. :oops:

But not on the note that it IS a reward for results attained. 😉

Psst... sleepy... my DD2 will be the one saying... \"Don't buy me
anything. I like studying and it is my responsibility to study. So,
my results is my reward.\"

Aaah... :love: My angelic little monkey, as always... 😉

Like others, we too may occasionally go for a trip.
But not in any relation to results, more for year-end
family treat & time to unwind after a whole year's work.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/270271https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/270271Tue, 05 Oct 2010 02:43:15 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Reward after Exam on Tue, 05 Oct 2010 02:31:44 GMT]]>

Brenda10:
DD is happy if we reward her Graphic Novel \"Winx Club\". :lol:

i thot i saw \"wine club\" .... lol

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/270256https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/270256Tue, 05 Oct 2010 02:31:44 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Reward after Exam on Tue, 05 Oct 2010 02:31:08 GMT]]>DD is happy if we reward her Graphic Novel \"Winx Club\". :lol:

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/270253https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/270253Tue, 05 Oct 2010 02:31:08 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Reward after Exam on Tue, 05 Oct 2010 02:22:07 GMT]]>

sleepy:
To top it up, a special priviledge, I allowed her to spend all her free time after exam on her favourite hobby - reading 😉

My DD also love reading. We are trying to get her to prep for exam and read less. She consumed \"12 books\" last month in the midst of busy preparing for her exam.

At that rate, if I buy all the storybook .. will go broke soon :torchme:

Fortunately, there are libraries ... friends and relatives ... :celebrate:

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/270245https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/270245Tue, 05 Oct 2010 02:22:07 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Reward after Exam on Tue, 05 Oct 2010 02:17:06 GMT]]>

verykiasu2010:
A few years ago we were at a resort in Europe and DS asked whether we get to go back to the same resort if he achieves his target in PSLE. We agreed but lately he said it is a waste of money to go back to the same place. Phew !

Shows that your DS is maturing .. good sign for parents :celebrate:

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/270243https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/270243Tue, 05 Oct 2010 02:17:06 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Reward after Exam on Mon, 04 Oct 2010 13:41:09 GMT]]>

Trapwithin:

So how will you reward your kids after exam?
No promise of rewards. I believe it's her duty to study. Just like daddy's duty to bring home bacon. She has the easiest task in our household, so no room for complaint.

Okie okie, having say that, this mean mummy did bring her out for dinner on the last day of exam and buy her a whole lot of new storybooks to celebrate 'good bye homework, hello summer'.

To top it up, a special priviledge, I allowed her to spend all her free time after exam on her favourite hobby - reading 😉

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/270016https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/270016Mon, 04 Oct 2010 13:41:09 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Reward after Exam on Mon, 04 Oct 2010 13:33:38 GMT]]>We do not practise giving gifts for any performance in exams, academic or otherwise. The recognition is in the result itself


The thrill and satisfaction comes from attaining his / her personal target. The most we do is go out for a meal.

A few years ago we were at a resort in Europe and DS asked whether we get to go back to the same resort if he achieves his target in PSLE. We agreed but lately he said it is a waste of money to go back to the same place. Phew !

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/270012https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/270012Mon, 04 Oct 2010 13:33:38 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Reward after Exam on Mon, 04 Oct 2010 13:01:24 GMT]]>

Augmum:
As for me, i often reward my gal as and when ......

if i see anything i think she would love to have it,
i would buy to reward her with no particular reasons
so i dun think she would expect from me a reward immed after an exam
or for getting good grades
(now think abt it, so far no particular rewards for her for all these yrs of exams..... 😉 )
my boy will get a sum of money regardless of how he perform (figure is however pegged on the results); we gauge him based on the efforts he put in in the preparation ....he can choose to spend it or keep it in the bank. last year, he chose something which exceeded this sum (Lego set) and his dad topped it up for him without questions.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/269998https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/269998Mon, 04 Oct 2010 13:01:24 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Reward after Exam on Mon, 04 Oct 2010 07:44:35 GMT]]>As for me, i often reward my gal as and when ......

if i see anything i think she would love to have it,
i would buy to reward her with no particular reasons
so i dun think she would expect from me a reward immed after an exam
or for getting good grades
(now think abt it, so far no particular rewards for her for all these yrs of exams..... 😉 )

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/269875https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/269875Mon, 04 Oct 2010 07:44:35 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Reward after Exam on Mon, 04 Oct 2010 07:41:35 GMT]]>

wonderm:
In fact, after each exam, the children will think of some \"reward\" for the parents and the maid for supporting them through their exams. The reward they gave us does not cost money, it could be a nice card or just helping the maid with some household chores to show their appreciation.

So sweet and thoughtful. Well Done Wonderm :celebrate:

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/269873https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/269873Mon, 04 Oct 2010 07:41:35 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Reward after Exam on Mon, 04 Oct 2010 07:40:26 GMT]]>

heyhoe:
So far only DS1 has exam.


We'd normally bring all 3 DS to go shopping centre the week after DS1 exam is over. Each allocated a small budget about $10 each to get what they wanted.

This is more to thank him for his effort (cooperate with us in going thru the revision) plus to motivate his two other brothers. His efforts let him earn gifts not just for him but also his brothers.

Sometimes, we increase his budgets slightly as it's usually quite difficult to get gift that he wanted.
I like the idea of giving them a budget and let them get stuff they liked.
One store came to mind - DIASO :lol:

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/269872https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/269872Mon, 04 Oct 2010 07:40:26 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Reward after Exam on Mon, 04 Oct 2010 07:29:55 GMT]]>

Trapwithin:
I know everyone is busy preparing their kids for the coming exam.

But STOP for a moment and THINK.

Recently I have been thinking, what I should get for my child after the exam is over. Then it dwells on me how sometimes, we reward our kids based on academic results. Does that makes our love for our kids CONDITIONAL?

So I decided to buy my dd a BIG gift and I will give it to her immediately after the exam. Not after the result is released, not after she has attained certain pre-set goals. A reward purely because I love her and would like to encourage her that daddy love her whatever the outcome of the result is.

So how will you reward your kids after exam?

If you are like me, other than busy helping them ..
We have to start hunting for presents too :celebrate:
Totally agree with you. Since young, we explain to the children the best reward for their hardwork is the results they get or at least the feeling that they have tried their best. No materialistic award from parents for good results. Our love for them is shown throughout the year by providing for them and be there for them, which have absolutely nothing to do with exams results. In fact, after each exam, the children will think of some \"reward\" for the parents and the maid for supporting them through their exams. The reward they gave us does not cost money, it could be a nice card or just helping the maid with some household chores to show their appreciation.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/269865https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/269865Mon, 04 Oct 2010 07:29:55 GMT