<![CDATA[Faithful maid leaving, should I let my kids know?]]>Hi parents,

My maid of 5 years will be leaving us next year. She was here since my boy was born. My 2 children (5 and 2 years old) are very close to her and she treated them well too. I am not sure if I should let the children know of her intention to go back home. For them, she’s like a family member who is there all their lives. Perhaps, they think that she will continue to be there for them.

Haiz…any parents with such experience and how do you deal with that? Thanks.

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Claire Chung\" post_id=\"2130164\" time=\"1709512475\" user_id=\"157506:[quote=\"Claire Chung\" post_id=2130164 time=1709512475 user_id=157506]
I need a space to release. My helper of more than 10 years was diagnosed with stage 2 breast cancer in 2021, and we decided to support her for treatment here in SG as she had been with us for many years, and was part of the family. It was very expensive but sending her back to Philippines for treatment was not really an option as the hospitals there were still struggling to deal with covid. She went through chemo and the final operation, and had recovered well.

Last year she was supposed to go for the check up to make sure the cancer had not relapsed. However, I was so worried that it would relapse and I don't have the means to support her for another round of treatment, so I just skipped the check up, and only requested for more of the medication. My intention then was to let her go back to Philippines in Dec 2023, and to do the check up there. If there was any issue, I can still support her medical fees.

So I spoke to her about it. Somehow I'm not sure whether it was miscommunicated or she didn't understand me, nothing was spoken about her leaving in Dec 2023. It didn't help that I had an operation in Nov 2023 and was trying to recover. It dragged until 2024, and I told her that she needs to go back to continue her medication in Philippines. I then asked her to give me a date for me to buy her air ticket back.

Suddenly about 3 weeks ago she said she actually wants to stay in SG to work (3 years ago she was hesitant to renew her contract so I had assumed that she already wants to go back), but I was concerned about her medication. And honestly my children are big already and don't really need her help, plus I was still trying to recover from the financial strain that her treatment caused.

After some discussions, she said she will go back to Philippines. Her mom also wanted her back, especially after her cancer episode. So I bought the ticket on the date that she requested for. But on hindsight, I think it seemed like I was just hell bent on sending her back, which wasn't my intention.

She left last Sat night, and it was such a traumatic experience for my family. At the departure, we were all sobbing. She was thankful to us for supporting her through cancer, and being kind to her throughout her 10 years with us. My son was the hardest hit. She was with us since he was 2 months old, and he felt like she was a second mother to him. I had never seen him cry so badly openly, and then I realised how traumatic it must be for him. I'm not someone who is very expressive or emotional, so I treated her leaving quite matter of factly, that the children are big enough, I am struggling financially, and she needs to follow up on the necessary check ups. On hindsight, I should have done a proper goodbye instead of being so \"casual\" about it. Now, I'm feeling so much guilt, towards her and towards my son. Why didn't I just wait a while more, let her decide whether she wants to stay or go back, and then do a proper closure.

It's been two days, I haven't been able to deal with the guilt ever since she left. I can't mention her or think about her without breaking down. I can't bring myself to go into her room now, I can't bring myself to think about clearing out her room. My son also breaks down at the mention of her, and I feel so guilty about not realising how traumatic it would be for him. This feeling is identical to when someone close to you has just passed away.

I probably wouldn't get any response to this post. But if anyone is reading this, have you experienced this? How long does it take to get over this? How can I help my son to get over this too?[/quote]
Do you still have the contact with her? You and your son can go to Philippines to visit her during his school holiday and you can also financially support her medical fees there if you are willing to. For you son, just explain to him the maid wants to stay with her own mother and family members because her mother and relatives miss her. You son can also any time call her or video with her anytime via handphone.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/2130172https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/2130172Mon, 04 Mar 2024 01:51:14 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Faithful maid leaving, should I let my kids know? on Mon, 04 Mar 2024 01:12:52 GMT]]>

Claire Chung\" post_id=\"2130164\" time=\"1709512475\" user_id=\"157506:[quote=\"Claire Chung\" post_id=2130164 time=1709512475 user_id=157506]
I need a space to release. My helper of more than 10 years was diagnosed with stage 2 breast cancer in 2021, and we decided to support her for treatment here in SG as she had been with us for many years, and was part of the family. It was very expensive but sending her back to Philippines for treatment was not really an option as the hospitals there were still struggling to deal with covid. She went through chemo and the final operation, and had recovered well.
...[/quote]
Yeah. My sister had a maid who has been with the family for 15 years and had the same breast cancer. But she kept her cancer secret from the family for too long for fear of being sent back and by the time we discovered it, it was already in the late stage... :faint: She went for chemo but that wasn't very effective. So she decided to go back home. My sister gave her $50k and paid for all her medical expenses. Just a couple of months ago, we received news that she has passed away. It was very sad news, as she was like family to my sister's family.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/2130168https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/2130168Mon, 04 Mar 2024 01:12:52 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Faithful maid leaving, should I let my kids know? on Mon, 04 Mar 2024 00:34:35 GMT]]>I need a space to release. My helper of more than 10 years was diagnosed with stage 2 breast cancer in 2021, and we decided to support her for treatment here in SG as she had been with us for many years, and was part of the family. It was very expensive but sending her back to Philippines for treatment was not really an option as the hospitals there were still struggling to deal with covid. She went through chemo and the final operation, and had recovered well.


Last year she was supposed to go for the check up to make sure the cancer had not relapsed. However, I was so worried that it would relapse and I don’t have the means to support her for another round of treatment, so I just skipped the check up, and only requested for more of the medication. My intention then was to let her go back to Philippines in Dec 2023, and to do the check up there. If there was any issue, I can still support her medical fees.

So I spoke to her about it. Somehow I’m not sure whether it was miscommunicated or she didn’t understand me, nothing was spoken about her leaving in Dec 2023. It didn’t help that I had an operation in Nov 2023 and was trying to recover. It dragged until 2024, and I told her that she needs to go back to continue her medication in Philippines. I then asked her to give me a date for me to buy her air ticket back.

Suddenly about 3 weeks ago she said she actually wants to stay in SG to work (3 years ago she was hesitant to renew her contract so I had assumed that she already wants to go back), but I was concerned about her medication. And honestly my children are big already and don’t really need her help, plus I was still trying to recover from the financial strain that her treatment caused.

After some discussions, she said she will go back to Philippines. Her mom also wanted her back, especially after her cancer episode. So I bought the ticket on the date that she requested for. But on hindsight, I think it seemed like I was just hell bent on sending her back, which wasn’t my intention.

She left last Sat night, and it was such a traumatic experience for my family. At the departure, we were all sobbing. She was thankful to us for supporting her through cancer, and being kind to her throughout her 10 years with us. My son was the hardest hit. She was with us since he was 2 months old, and he felt like she was a second mother to him. I had never seen him cry so badly openly, and then I realised how traumatic it must be for him. I’m not someone who is very expressive or emotional, so I treated her leaving quite matter of factly, that the children are big enough, I am struggling financially, and she needs to follow up on the necessary check ups. On hindsight, I should have done a proper goodbye instead of being so "casual" about it. Now, I’m feeling so much guilt, towards her and towards my son. Why didn’t I just wait a while more, let her decide whether she wants to stay or go back, and then do a proper closure.

It’s been two days, I haven’t been able to deal with the guilt ever since she left. I can’t mention her or think about her without breaking down. I can’t bring myself to go into her room now, I can’t bring myself to think about clearing out her room. My son also breaks down at the mention of her, and I feel so guilty about not realising how traumatic it would be for him. This feeling is identical to when someone close to you has just passed away.

I probably wouldn’t get any response to this post. But if anyone is reading this, have you experienced this? How long does it take to get over this? How can I help my son to get over this too?

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/2130164https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/2130164Mon, 04 Mar 2024 00:34:35 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Faithful maid leaving, should I let my kids know? on Sun, 21 Feb 2021 17:06:18 GMT]]>My maid who had been with me for 3 years just left yesterday morning. It’s past midnight but I can’t sleep. I am surprised at how heart broken I am feeling. She decided long ago that she would be going home and had given me ample notice. I don’t know whether I am feeling what my daughter of 3 yo who has been under my maid’s care her entire life is feeling. She is awake a good part of the night crying as well.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/2015500https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/2015500Sun, 21 Feb 2021 17:06:18 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Faithful maid leaving, should I let my kids know? on Wed, 15 Apr 2020 05:47:16 GMT]]>Happened to us before where our house help for how many years left us. Our kids have learned to trust her and has been closed with her. But we needed to tell them the truth that she’s leaving and explained why she can’t be with us anymore. Just make sure to let them understand so this won’t cause them more sadness.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1971258https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1971258Wed, 15 Apr 2020 05:47:16 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Faithful maid leaving, should I let my kids know? on Mon, 13 Jan 2020 06:14:02 GMT]]>

Michy79\" post_id=\"1942674\" time=\"1571728194\" user_id=\"165767:

I understand how you feel because we also experience the same thing when my nana, my maid since I was a child and became my kid's nanny too, decided to retire. I love her and I treated her like a family but we have to let her go because she deserves to spend the rest of her life to be with her family she left when she decided to work for our family way back in 1970s. I let my child spend a day with her, we went to Universal Studios and on that place, we broke the news to my kids. Tried flowed on their eyes but with nana's magic, the kids were able to understand why she had to leave. It's been five months since the last time she cooked a sumptuous meal for our family. 😞
That's a sad story. but I guess it's already time to let your nanny retire. She's been a nanny for all of you and i know, all of you had a special place in her heart.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1958750https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1958750Mon, 13 Jan 2020 06:14:02 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Faithful maid leaving, should I let my kids know? on Sat, 09 Nov 2019 04:31:58 GMT]]>funny story. first few years we were so angry with our maid. Nowadays, our maid is our boss. She bosses our children around and me and DH are quite glad it turned out this way to instill some discipline. Would be sad to see her leave!

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1945479https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1945479Sat, 09 Nov 2019 04:31:58 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Faithful maid leaving, should I let my kids know? on Fri, 21 Jun 2019 01:58:37 GMT]]>i hired a helper after the confinement lady for my firstborn left, the decision was totally unexpected as we didnt expect two adults not being able to handle a baby. Our helper came, stayed on for 5.5 years and saw me through 2 other subsequent births ( including a pair of twins). She had been more than just help to us, she supported my breastfeeding journey for all my 4 kids ( i breastfed them all for at least 1 year) and encouraged me when my supply was low or when i dosed off during my night pumping sessions. She was older than me , already a mother of 2 teenager boys and was very experienced when it came to handling kids. However, she respected my wishes and never gone against what i wanted her to do. She could voice her reservations and left it to me to decide. When my husband or 1 traveled for work, she would step up and take good care of the kids so that we would feel less miserable having to be away. She was already like family to us, we let her go home every year when we take our long vacation so that she can spend time with her kids and even brought her along to some of our shorter vacations.


She had asked to return for her son’s graduation this April and we let her do so. However, she didnt return since then. Long story short, she just disappeared and we were so worried that something may have happened to her. if it’s truly so, we wanted to be able to help her sons at least as she is widowed given that she had helped our family so much. We tried means to locate her but failed and her last seen on WA coincided with the message she sent me to tell me she had reached manila and her flight home was delayed. We found out that she took the plane ride from singapore to manila but failed to board the one from manila back to her hometown, her luggage was still at the hometown airport when we last contacted the airline. For the first few days since her sudden departure, i cried as i cook, shower as i feared something bad may have happened to her. To me, i dont know if the departure was planned, if it was then i wondered what could i have done more for her or rather what did we not do right, if it wasnt all i wanted to know was that she is fine. I told her that the day she decided to call it a day and go home, we would give her a sum of gratuity to go home. Now that i cannot do this, i just feel so sad. I have been very jaded about helpers ever since she left, i felt so broken within. My firstborn was so devasted when she knew that auntie didnt return and she cried so many days before she stopped.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1915228https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1915228Fri, 21 Jun 2019 01:58:37 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Faithful maid leaving, should I let my kids know? on Wed, 19 Jun 2019 09:26:46 GMT]]>The thought of that makes me feel sad already…

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1915039https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1915039Wed, 19 Jun 2019 09:26:46 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Faithful maid leaving, should I let my kids know? on Tue, 11 Jun 2019 02:38:29 GMT]]>

penmighty\" post_id=\"1913069\" time=\"1559476835\" user_id=\"159062:

it's time to let go means it's time. It's inevitable that one day your maid will leave. Question is only when

the only time I heard of maids not leaving is when some family member marries the maid. very bizarre.
:yikes:

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1914083https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1914083Tue, 11 Jun 2019 02:38:29 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Faithful maid leaving, should I let my kids know? on Sat, 08 Jun 2019 04:43:33 GMT]]>lol marrying a maid 😕

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1913803https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1913803Sat, 08 Jun 2019 04:43:33 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Faithful maid leaving, should I let my kids know? on Sun, 02 Jun 2019 12:00:35 GMT]]>it’s time to let go means it’s time. It’s inevitable that one day your maid will leave. Question is only when


the only time I heard of maids not leaving is when some family member marries the maid. very bizarre.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1913069https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1913069Sun, 02 Jun 2019 12:00:35 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Faithful maid leaving, should I let my kids know? on Fri, 31 May 2019 02:00:44 GMT]]>It’s hard to find a faithful maid nowadays and it’s even harder if you have found one and will leave you for good. The bond you have will never be replaced. But for cases like this you have no choice but to let go… as for those who are left behind, with the technology that we have I think you’ll be able to still communicate with each other until the time comes that they have accepted she’s far away now. Time heal all wounds, you just have to be patient.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1912821https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1912821Fri, 31 May 2019 02:00:44 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Faithful maid leaving, should I let my kids know? on Mon, 15 Apr 2019 08:54:24 GMT]]>Hi Reiann,


Thanks for reviving this post. I am reading it today as my helper of 3.5 years gave us her resignation yesterday and I am heart broken.

She had been with us since our girl was 7months young. And like many had mentioned they are like our comrades through the tough times. She even remembers my girl's skin care cream and itchiness issues better than I do. We travelled together to Macau, Penang and many weekends in HK Ocean Parks together.

However she is choosing to go unite with her sister who applied a job for her in Canada. The job conditions are so much better and her possibility of spending weekend with her sister is not something that HK can offer, hence I understand her reason to go. But it saddens me that she has all these in mind without some heads up to me, in fact just 2 weeks ago, she agreed she is going to continue the 3 contract. Then this happen...

She was actually applying to go Canada, then why don't tell us. We had been very open about our relationship, like friend and treat her like our family.

Well, I'm getting pass the stage of all these questioning and self doubt and just want to give her my blessings.

She has been a wonderful help and much like our family staying with us in Malaysia and Singapore over cny or even travelling from Malaysia back to HK with my daughter and my Mom.

What left now is some sadness. Sadness that it will be so different without her and wonder how to let the news out to my daughter and then it is the day of good bye.

How many times she had seen me cry over home family issues, baby issues and now crying over her letter... She is a friend afterall.

Just want to post here... And if anyone wanna comment, or advise, feel free.. 🙂

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1906518https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1906518Mon, 15 Apr 2019 08:54:24 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Faithful maid leaving, should I let my kids know? on Mon, 15 Apr 2019 02:15:03 GMT]]>This is an old thread, but I really need some cathartic writing and release. Also, it helps tremendously to read some of your writing here, as I can't seem to find much on employers' feelings when their helpers return home. All I get when I googled was a bunch of maid abuse stories, or 'horror stories' of maids doing 'stuff'/running away.


Like some of you who posted above...
My helper of 2 years left yesterday, not just because the contract was up (she wanted to continue working), but because of circumstances back home, she needed to return for her young son's sake. When I found out the news a few months ago I was already heartbroken, but went on to get a replacement helper. The new helper had an overlap of a week...

My kids said goodbye to her last night just before they went to bed, while I was sobbing my eyes out. I was and am surprised by my own emotions, that I am so affected. I suppose the last two years with me, she has became my ally, my partner in crime in raising the children, and we sure did have our ups and downs! But gosh I am so, so affected and am so down about her leaving. I know she needs to go home, and she has my full blessings, but we will all miss her so much. The kids haven't really missed her yet; we have been prepping them from the start, that she has to return home soon. But I suppose kids doesn't understand the permanence of things... ah well.

I wish more of you could share your feelings/emotions and stories here, of your dear helpers who have been such great help and bonded with the families over the years! I definitely needed this space to share this, and to cry a bit more (ahhh I'm doing this at work, ugh, my sore eyes!)

😞

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1906445https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1906445Mon, 15 Apr 2019 02:15:03 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Faithful maid leaving, should I let my kids know? on Fri, 08 Oct 2010 07:01:53 GMT]]>hi there,


wanted to share with you my personal experience. same thing happened to me in jan. i had a maid for close to 6 years and helped us alot, taking care of my dad and my eldest boy since he was a kid. she had to leave due to some family matters and it was quite sudden.

my kid was just 5 then and he just cried and cried for a whole 1 month almost. i took the approach of telling him that she has own family and stuff so she has to take care of her own family now. but i helped him keep in touch with her through phone calls twice a month. what to do? good maids are hard to come by!

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/272775https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/272775Fri, 08 Oct 2010 07:01:53 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Faithful maid leaving, should I let my kids know? on Wed, 06 Oct 2010 11:07:21 GMT]]>Sounds exactly like mine.... I sent off my maid of 7 years too 2 years back. Terrible experience for the past 2 maids after her departure until I got this current one (the 3rd)...


I bought her a gold bangle as her wedding gift (as she's going home to get marry & to settle down). As a token of appreciation after all these years, we paid her 1 extra month.

We had a meal with her at the airport and bid goodbye to her...
I & my elder cried like a baby... (my hb took photographs of us with red swallon eyes and had it mailed over to her) as I had her during my pregnancy for my first child, I treated her like my younger sister. We really cant bare the separation at that moment... Till to-date, we're still in contact with her via phone.. sms.. letters from my elder son.

While I'm happy that she's now married with a daughter and lead a happy life there 🙂

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/271487https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/271487Wed, 06 Oct 2010 11:07:21 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Faithful maid leaving, should I let my kids know? on Wed, 06 Oct 2010 10:12:37 GMT]]>Hi

My helper also leaving end Nov 10 too after 7 yrs. She came when my no.2 was born. Thereafter, I had 2 more and these are the two who are very attached to her. I have already told all 4 of them recently and I can only say that the 4yr old would be the one who will miss her terribly as he always look for her for "shelter" when I punished him. The 2yr old may not understand yet until the reality sinks in. As for the two older ones, I think they understand it quite well and I told them they would be the "auntie" to help me on household chores…ha ha. We planned to bring all of them to airport for a meal and to send her off.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/271474https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/271474Wed, 06 Oct 2010 10:12:37 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Faithful maid leaving, should I let my kids know? on Tue, 05 Oct 2010 15:22:06 GMT]]>Wow, Good Thread…


Because my helper of 5.5 years will be leaving end of Nov 10. She has been with us since my DS was a mth old and my DD1 2. [my DD2 is 3 mths]

We are going thru a prolonged "handing and taking" over period for the last 3 mths we were operating with 2 helpers [1st is Phil, new one is from Myanmar]. Hopefully by the time the older one leaves, the new on would knowour habits etc.

Stressful time for DW & I.

Gecko

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/270838https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/270838Tue, 05 Oct 2010 15:22:06 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Faithful maid leaving, should I let my kids know? on Tue, 05 Oct 2010 12:47:07 GMT]]>

MMM:
Our 1st maid worked with us for 5 years as well. So my 1st 2 kids were 4 and 5 years old when she wanted to go home to get married.


We will always tell them so and so is going back to kampung kampung,etc... My son was extremely close to her as she took care of him since he was a NB.

But on the day of departure, we choose not to bring them along as I heard that some kids can be really drama during the farewell.

I recalled that after we came back from airport and told the kids that she has gone home. My son's 1st response was \"Who is going to cook for us tonight?\". He was K1 then. So though he was close to her, in his eyes, she is probably someone who will cook and take care of him that's all.

I agree with another forumner, out of sight, out of mind.
Like all of you I had a maid for 6 years arriving 2 wks before my DS came into the world. When she left, we brought our son to send her off. She had been a good maid and was sad to see her leave but happy that she is going back to get married. We nvr had another maid after that. At the airport, I cried so much but he never shed a single tear.

Even after 1 year she left, she stills call up to enquire about our wellbeing and also called my DS on his birthday. My DS was very close to her and up to today he will ask to go to Minadao to visit kakah...it is not out of side out of mind. Maybe it is just the way individual kids behave.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/270725https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/270725Tue, 05 Oct 2010 12:47:07 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Faithful maid leaving, should I let my kids know? on Tue, 05 Oct 2010 12:10:47 GMT]]>Mamaiya, no need to let your kids know that the maid is leaving cos kids at that age don’t think about what to next in the future. On the day the maid is leaving just tell them she is going home to her family and that they will get a new auntie.

My first maid was with me for 8 years, but fortunately, I had the luxury of taking care of my kids most of the time, so the kids were not the least affected by her departure. From young, I told them that auntie is here to earn money for her family, just like mommy go out to earn money, and ultimately it is one’s own family that is most important.
I was the one most affected by her impending departure. But when she left and the new and enthusiastic maid came, the sadness vanished almost immediately!

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/270712https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/270712Tue, 05 Oct 2010 12:10:47 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Faithful maid leaving, should I let my kids know? on Tue, 05 Oct 2010 10:45:56 GMT]]>Our 1st maid worked with us for 5 years as well. So my 1st 2 kids were 4 and 5 years old when she wanted to go home to get married.


We will always tell them so and so is going back to kampung kampung,etc… My son was extremely close to her as she took care of him since he was a NB.

But on the day of departure, we choose not to bring them along as I heard that some kids can be really drama during the farewell.

I recalled that after we came back from airport and told the kids that she has gone home. My son’s 1st response was "Who is going to cook for us tonight?". He was K1 then. So though he was close to her, in his eyes, she is probably someone who will cook and take care of him that’s all.

I agree with another forumner, out of sight, out of mind.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/270689https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/270689Tue, 05 Oct 2010 10:45:56 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Faithful maid leaving, should I let my kids know? on Tue, 05 Oct 2010 10:30:58 GMT]]>Hi mamamiyah,


I suspect your 2 yo will be \"out of sight, out of mind\". Mine did when he was 2 yo and maid went back for holidays. The first 2 days he was looking for her in the kitchen and after that, he \"forgot\" until he saw her again 2 weeks later and became quite shy!

But for your 5 yo, he will remember already and will feel the impact the most. So you must explain to him early and manage the separation as gently as possible. Not sure how you can make them less detached though if they are sleeping in same room....
:celebrate:

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/270683https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/270683Tue, 05 Oct 2010 10:30:58 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Faithful maid leaving, should I let my kids know? on Tue, 05 Oct 2010 04:55:07 GMT]]>My current maid who has been with us for 5yrs oredi will be going home to get married next year. She is our only maid so far and she was here since DS was a baby and DD 2yrs old.


We do talk to the kids about her going back and she does show them pictures of her family and her fiance. We talk pretty openly about the day that she will be going back and that there will be a new kakak or even no kakak at all. Well kids being kids, they get excited about her getting married and moving into her new house and about what she will be doing since she will no longer be working for us. Guess the reality of her not being part of their daily life has not sunk in yet.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/270392https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/270392Tue, 05 Oct 2010 04:55:07 GMT