What questions would you ask your child's future bf/gf?

Reply to What questions would you ask your child's future bf/gf? on Mon, 15 Nov 2010 10:33:56 GMT

mrswongtuition — Mon, 15 Nov 2010 10:33:56 GMT

INNOVATE:
If a boy or girl happens to from a well-to-do family, the mother of all question should be are there any sibling?

:evil:

Reply to What questions would you ask your child's future bf/gf? on Mon, 15 Nov 2010 07:47:23 GMT

INNOVATE — Mon, 15 Nov 2010 07:47:23 GMT

If a boy or girl happens to from a well-to-do family, the mother of all question should be are there any sibling?

Reply to What questions would you ask your child's future bf/gf? on Mon, 15 Nov 2010 07:43:32 GMT

UncleLim — Mon, 15 Nov 2010 07:43:32 GMT

verykiasu2010:
what primary school were you from ?

GEP or not ?

what was your t-score ?

which secondary school ? IP or not ? why not ?

which uni ? which course ? honours ? master degree ?

got scholarship ? which scholarship ?

what job ? which company ? what position ? what pay ? how much bonus ?

if civil service - which stat board / ministry ? which grade pay scale ? when to reach perm secr position ?

how many children you like to have ? how soon ?

breast feed or not ? for how long ?

will stay with parents or not ?

will look after old folks or not ? yes, why ? no, why ?

alright, may be the list not exhaustive yet ?

:rotflmao: :rotflmao: :rotflmao:

It is best to make her do an online survey. The website should also be able to plot charts of GF1 against GF2 against GF3 etc. Also do not forget to assign weightage points to different questions.

Reply to What questions would you ask your child's future bf/gf? on Fri, 12 Nov 2010 22:01:34 GMT

KSP — Fri, 12 Nov 2010 22:01:34 GMT

\"which primary school were u from?\"

so that they will not have to worry of getting their children to a good primary next time.......

Reply to What questions would you ask your child's future bf/gf? on Wed, 10 Nov 2010 07:29:19 GMT

sleepy — Wed, 10 Nov 2010 07:29:19 GMT

krazy:
if his son's gf comes over and help out often in his family eg: during festive seasons or family gatherings. it means that she is fr a good family and his son can marry her.

then i asked, what abt your daughter? will she do the same? and his reply was \"how can? if my daughter has to be the maid of her bf's family, i will never let her marry him.\"

:rotflmao:

Reply to What questions would you ask your child's future bf/gf? on Wed, 10 Nov 2010 01:35:14 GMT

Quintessential Mum — Wed, 10 Nov 2010 01:35:14 GMT

Eagle-Ladybird:
When I asked permission for my wife's hand, my PIL never asked any questions. Instead they gave their blessings but took the opportunity to share what they thought was the \"most important\" thing in our lives going forward - to have common faith !

I'm one of those fortunate ones to have PILs, whom I have tremendous respect for. As a matter of fact, I'm very grateful to them, for what they
stand for, for what they believe, and how they conduct their lives.

You are truly Blessed! It is hard to come across such PILs.

Reply to What questions would you ask your child's future bf/gf? on Tue, 09 Nov 2010 12:19:40 GMT

Eagle-Ladybird — Tue, 09 Nov 2010 12:19:40 GMT

When I asked permission for my wife’s hand, my PIL never asked any questions. Instead they gave their blessings but took the opportunity to share what they thought was the "most important" thing in our lives going forward - to have common faith !

I’m one of those fortunate ones to have PILs, whom I have tremendous respect for. As a matter of fact, I’m very grateful to them, for what they stand for, for what they believe, and how they conduct their lives.

Reply to What questions would you ask your child's future bf/gf? on Mon, 08 Nov 2010 13:56:40 GMT

krazy — Mon, 08 Nov 2010 13:56:40 GMT

hmmm.... when i was getting married and doing the preps for the wedding, my mum told my hub to be, that he would have to do the tea ceremony at her place first, not after i returned in the later part of the day.

then she also requested that at the wedding banquet, both sets of parents to sit at the same vip table.

initially, my hub was like \"huh? but the rule is not like that one. tea ceremony at the bride's home only happens after she returns. and there are 2 vip tables for 2 sets of parents. \"

my mum went on to explain that it is only respectful to serve tea before taking her daughter away and to sit both sets of parents together at one vip table is to show that the 2 families are now one. the other vip table is for the elders of both families.

i realised then that yeah, its respect more than anything else.

i married the \"only son\" and of course, i have my moments with my in laws (i live with them) but it is important that parents know their place too.

given how things look these days - families having 1 boy and 1 girl structure, how many of our daughters will have to marry the \"only son\"?

i have an uncle and he has 1 son and 1 daughter. Once over some family gathering, he mentioned that if his son's gf comes over and help out often in his family eg: during festive seasons or family gatherings. it means that she is fr a good family and his son can marry her. then i asked, what abt your daughter? will she do the same? and his reply was \"how can? if my daughter has to be the maid of her bf's family, i will never let her marry him.\"

moment of truth! what we receive, we must be prepared to give.

right?

Reply to What questions would you ask your child's future bf/gf? on Mon, 08 Nov 2010 11:52:22 GMT

Quintessential Mum — Mon, 08 Nov 2010 11:52:22 GMT

Here goes (in jest but may be for real, i will never know till i have to ask):

Qn1: Are you the only son? If yes, proceed to Qn2.
Qn2: Is your mother still around? If yes, proceed to Qn 3.
Qn3: Is your mother the matriach in your family? If yes, Thank you for your interest! I am sorry to inform you that you have not been selected. Wishing you all the best in your future endeavours!

He he he he :lol:

Reply to What questions would you ask your child's future bf/gf? on Fri, 29 Oct 2010 02:45:45 GMT

duriz — Fri, 29 Oct 2010 02:45:45 GMT

Realistically, it’s a long ways before I will meet with DD’s beau.

She is only one year young.

As her mother, I’ll be happy that she is loved and cherished by this man.

All the other things will be between him and her, and rightfully so.
It’s their lives.

If they are old enough to marry, they’ll know how to do the rest.

Allow them to "live and learn" like the rest of us.

And because we live in a real world, I would ask him "Can you afford to marry/her? How do you know?"

But most importantly, I would ask the both of them "When things are not going well, do you know any penny-pinching methods? Can you advocate and stick to them (and eachother) until things get better?"

I think adversity quotient is more important than emotional quotient.

Reply to What questions would you ask your child's future bf/gf? on Fri, 29 Oct 2010 02:36:38 GMT

duriz — Fri, 29 Oct 2010 02:36:38 GMT

verykiasu2010:
I am very 'chin-chai' one

was just compiling the list based on what was said by fellow forumers on this thread :rotflmao:

I was only jumping on the fun bandwagon.
I don't think having a list of ideals is ideal.

Reply to What questions would you ask your child's future bf/gf? on Fri, 29 Oct 2010 02:19:04 GMT

verykiasu2010 — Fri, 29 Oct 2010 02:19:04 GMT

Trapwithin:
Nowsaday .. getting married is very very \"cheong\"

During my time, no proposal, no engagement, just get married.

Now .. No Diamond = No Proposal, then must have engagement, then must go oversea to do photoshoot, then must ...... etc AND before all that
the future PIL \"QUESTIONAIRE and INTERVIEW\" ...

oooi, correction : it is panel interview

Reply to What questions would you ask your child's future bf/gf? on Fri, 29 Oct 2010 02:11:59 GMT

Trapwithin — Fri, 29 Oct 2010 02:11:59 GMT

Nowsaday .. getting married is very very \"cheong\"

During my time, no proposal, no engagement, just get married.

Now .. No Diamond = No Proposal, then must have engagement, then must go oversea to do photoshoot, then must ...... etc AND before all that
the future PIL \"QUESTIONAIRE and INTERVIEW\" ...

Reply to What questions would you ask your child's future bf/gf? on Fri, 29 Oct 2010 02:09:01 GMT

verykiasu2010 — Fri, 29 Oct 2010 02:09:01 GMT

I am very 'chin-chai' one

was just compiling the list based on what was said by fellow forumers on this thread :rotflmao:

Reply to What questions would you ask your child's future bf/gf? on Fri, 29 Oct 2010 02:02:44 GMT

Trapwithin — Fri, 29 Oct 2010 02:02:44 GMT

duriz:
verykiasu2010:
what primary school were you from ?

GEP or not ?

what was your t-score ?

which secondary school ? IP or not ? why not ?

which uni ? which course ? honours ? master degree ?

got scholarship ? which scholarship ?

what job ? which company ? what position ? what pay ? how much bonus ?

if civil service - which stat board / ministry ? which grade pay scale ? when to reach perm secr position ?

how many children you like to have ? how soon ?

breast feed or not ? for how long ?

will stay with parents or not ?

will look after old folks or not ? yes, why ? no, why ?

alright, may be the list not exhaustive yet ?

:rotflmao: :rotflmao: :rotflmao:
After asking about pay, forgot to ask about DISTRIBUTION.

1. How much into savings?

2. How much into DD's account/pocket (if interviewing potential SIL)?

3. How much into recreation funds (vacays, dinners, movies etc)?

4. How much into children's (if any) education funds?

5. How much into misc (insurance, car, condo, maid etc)?

6. MOST IMPORTANTLY, how much into \"funding of PILs\"?

If vk2010 and duriz are the future PIL, all Potential Candidate sure :siam:
More stress than their PSLE. O Level, A Level, etc :rotflmao:

Reply to What questions would you ask your child's future bf/gf? on Fri, 29 Oct 2010 01:06:56 GMT

duriz — Fri, 29 Oct 2010 01:06:56 GMT

jedamum:
markfch:

Right, Chief. When the time comes, please ensure that the fonts are extra large cos my eyes will be failing me by then. Actually I'm already suffering from hyperopia so I'm using reading glasses while typing this.
can use view--> zoom in function la....

Or change the resolution on your pc/mac, gramps

Reply to What questions would you ask your child's future bf/gf? on Thu, 28 Oct 2010 15:16:53 GMT

jedamum — Thu, 28 Oct 2010 15:16:53 GMT

markfch:

Right, Chief. When the time comes, please ensure that the fonts are extra large cos my eyes will be failing me by then. Actually I'm already suffering from hyperopia so I'm using reading glasses while typing this.

can use view--> zoom in function la....

Reply to What questions would you ask your child's future bf/gf? on Thu, 28 Oct 2010 15:04:10 GMT

markfch — Thu, 28 Oct 2010 15:04:10 GMT

ChiefKiasu:
markfch:
I'll ask future DIL 'what's your KSP account name?'

Then I'll know whether future DIL goes to the in-laws thread to complain about me or not :rotflmao: ...
Don't worry, markfch, when the time arrives, we'll set up KiasuGrandParents.com just for you. That way you can complain all you like about your DILs, in vindication.

Right, Chief. When the time comes, please ensure that the fonts are extra large cos my eyes will be failing me by then. Actually I'm already suffering from hyperopia so I'm using reading glasses while typing this.

Reply to What questions would you ask your child's future bf/gf? on Thu, 28 Oct 2010 01:24:56 GMT

corneyAmber — Thu, 28 Oct 2010 01:24:56 GMT

verykiasu2010:
ksi:
[quote=\"verykiasu2010\"]
i know i know...u oni need to tell us here :evil:
Donch wan la...later become popular like PSLE exam.... :rotflmao: :siam:

would you consider introducing DSA for your potential DIL / SIL ??[/quote]

DSA no good leh....One should be put on the toes all the time in order to strive to do better.....so after the \"PSLE\" to be SIL, he will continue to have milestone tests when he becomes father to my grandkids etc....... :rotflmao:

Reply to What questions would you ask your child's future bf/gf? on Thu, 28 Oct 2010 01:19:06 GMT

verykiasu2010 — Thu, 28 Oct 2010 01:19:06 GMT

duriz

:rotflmao:

Reply to What questions would you ask your child's future bf/gf? on Thu, 28 Oct 2010 01:16:58 GMT

duriz — Thu, 28 Oct 2010 01:16:58 GMT

verykiasu2010:
what primary school were you from ?

GEP or not ?

what was your t-score ?

which secondary school ? IP or not ? why not ?

which uni ? which course ? honours ? master degree ?

got scholarship ? which scholarship ?

what job ? which company ? what position ? what pay ? how much bonus ?

if civil service - which stat board / ministry ? which grade pay scale ? when to reach perm secr position ?

how many children you like to have ? how soon ?

breast feed or not ? for how long ?

will stay with parents or not ?

will look after old folks or not ? yes, why ? no, why ?

alright, may be the list not exhaustive yet ?

:rotflmao: :rotflmao: :rotflmao:

After asking about pay, forgot to ask about DISTRIBUTION.

1. How much into savings?

2. How much into DD's account/pocket (if interviewing potential SIL)?

3. How much into recreation funds (vacays, dinners, movies etc)?

4. How much into children's (if any) education funds?

5. How much into misc (insurance, car, condo, maid etc)?

6. MOST IMPORTANTLY, how much into \"funding of PILs\"?

Reply to What questions would you ask your child's future bf/gf? on Thu, 28 Oct 2010 01:16:15 GMT

verykiasu2010 — Thu, 28 Oct 2010 01:16:15 GMT

ksi:
verykiasu2010:
[quote=\"ksi\"]
hey hey...for me to know for you to find out....:evil:
i know i know...u oni need to tell us here :evil:

Donch wan la...later become popular like PSLE exam.... :rotflmao: :siam:[/quote]would you consider introducing DSA for your potential DIL / SIL ??

Reply to What questions would you ask your child's future bf/gf? on Thu, 28 Oct 2010 01:13:26 GMT

corneyAmber — Thu, 28 Oct 2010 01:13:26 GMT

verykiasu2010:
ksi:
[quote=\"verykiasu2010\"]
wait, which aspect of practical test ? cooking ? washing ? child bearing ??? :rotflmao: :rotflmao: :rotflmao:
hey hey...for me to know for you to find out....:evil:

i know i know...u oni need to tell us here :evil:[/quote]Donch wan la...later become popular like PSLE exam.... :rotflmao: :siam:

Reply to What questions would you ask your child's future bf/gf? on Thu, 28 Oct 2010 01:13:22 GMT

duriz — Thu, 28 Oct 2010 01:13:22 GMT

verykiasu2010:
ksi:
[quote=\"verykiasu2010\"]
wait, which aspect of practical test ? cooking ? washing ? child bearing ??? :rotflmao: :rotflmao: :rotflmao:
hey hey...for me to know for you to find out....:evil:

i know i know...u oni need to tell us here :evil:[/quote]Another classic case of 越描越黑