slmkhoo:

lego:

In my opinion, having more choices in life may not always be a good thing. It makes life more complicated sometimes.

I agree!

lego:

In my opinion, having more choices in life may not always be a good thing. It makes life more complicated sometimes.

alng:

So if freezing of eggs is legalised, would mothers here encourage your daughters to freeze their eggs at mid 20s?

doodbug:

I think there is a certain beauty is supporting each other when we still had nothing, to seeing each other through graduation, the adjustments to work, and ultimately, career progression, kids and all.

MyPillow:

MrsKiasu:

[quote=\"Funz\"]I was just telling my sis gotta stop watching all those K-drama. It's planting unrealistic ideas in my head.


Told DH that my shoulders are very tight lately and back aching. K-drama dudes will give their gals a loving massage. DH told me to go sit on the massage chair. :razz:

:rotflmao:

funz, did you request for a shoulder massage so openly from your dh..still dont get it, bring your shoulder to him la

phtthp:

MrsKiasu:

some people marry young but delay the process of having children ..some marry at older age and knowing that the window period is not at their side, keep pumping up own body health and put effort in conceiving..so about same for some of them I believe.. I have a friend who we thought may not get married, once found a suitable guy only..wah the rest as fast as lightning..



one gal friend in 40s, say men (young included) cannot escape from her..this is really too much la difficult to accept it, not a right thing to do..but all has own values some older women can still stay very attractive one if she wants?

this attractive Winter Sonata lead actress, at aged early 40s, married a young man, several years much younger than her :-

https://www.google.com.sg/amp/m.scmp.com/magazines/style/news-trends/article/2140200/south-korean-actress-choi-ji-woo-quiet-private-wedding%3Famp=1

alng:

janet88:

maybe get to know more friends of the opposite sex instead of being tied down.


for boys, maybe when they are done with NS?
for girls, 22?

I personally think 22 is a bit too late for girls. At 22, the girls are graduating from Uni or would have graduated and started working. It is best to find their other half in the uni and start to plan for their future. For those who find their other half in the uni, they normally get married at late 20s and can start family planning at 30.

alng:

Time is most unfair to girls. The girls' marketability shelf life is short while the boys' marketability shelf life is much longer. In fact, the boys' market increases as they age and mature.

MrsKiasu:

Funz:

I was just telling my sis gotta stop watching all those K-drama. It's planting unrealistic ideas in my head.


Told DH that my shoulders are very tight lately and back aching. K-drama dudes will give their gals a loving massage. DH told me to go sit on the massage chair. :razz:

:rotflmao:

funz, did you request for a shoulder massage so openly from your dh..still dont get it, bring your shoulder to him la

MrsKiasu:

some people marry young but delay the process of having children ..some marry at older age and knowing that the window period is not at their side, keep pumping up own body health and put effort in conceiving..so about same for some of them I believe.. I have a friend who we thought may not get married, once found a suitable guy only..wah the rest as fast as lightning..



one gal friend in 40s, say men (young included) cannot escape from her..this is really too much la difficult to accept it, not a right thing to do..but all has own values some older women can still stay very attractive one if she wants?

Funz:

ammonite:

I get where you are coming from and not everyone wants kids. But put it another way, will you say anything to your daughter if she decides to date or marry an infertile guy? I see it more as having options and making informed choices, not the individual value per se. Similarly marrying up or down (financially or education wise) or having different religions comes with its own set of challenges.


I have friends who marry only at 40 to their age peers, with the understanding that kids are not in the deal.

Very honestly, I am ok with it. Adoption is always an option if they still want kids in their lives.

As for religion and SES, both have to manage their expectations.

What is more important is DD, even DS, finding a decent partner who loves and support them.

ammonite:

I get where you are coming from and not everyone wants kids. But put it another way, will you say anything to your daughter if she decides to date or marry an infertile guy? I see it more as having options and making informed choices, not the individual value per se. Similarly marrying up or down (financially or education wise) or having different religions comes with its own set of challenges.


I have friends who marry only at 40 to their age peers, with the understanding that kids are not in the deal.

slmkhoo:

Funz:

Okay, doesn't sit well with me that a woman's value is reduced to her age and the viability of her eggs.


Maybe I am being naïve and idealistic but I will never want my DD to be objectified like that.

I agree with you. I am not going to tell my daughters to get started early because their chances will fade with their looks or the health of their ova! On the other hand, my own experience with meeting my husband at 20 and marrying at 23 pre-disposes me to think that starting early is not a bad idea. But the main thing, in my opinion, is to find the right person in terms of values, character, personality match etc, at whatever age. Finding that person earlier just means more years to enjoy the relationship.

alng:

Funz:

I was just telling my sis gotta stop watching all those K-drama. It's planting unrealistic ideas in my head.


Told DH that my shoulders are very tight lately and back aching. K-drama dudes will give their gals a loving massage. DH told me to go sit on the massage chair. :razz:

Funz, your DH needs to learn that if reject DW must also know how to reject nicely...he needs to learn to say something like this - I don't know how to massage and I might make your back ache worse, better let the expert (massage chair) does the massaging for you. LOL!

Funz:

Okay, doesn't sit well with me that a woman's value is reduced to her age and the viability of her eggs.


Maybe I am being naïve and idealistic but I will never want my DD to be objectified like that.

Funz:

I was just telling my sis gotta stop watching all those K-drama. It's planting unrealistic ideas in my head.


Told DH that my shoulders are very tight lately and back aching. K-drama dudes will give their gals a loving massage. DH told me to go sit on the massage chair. :razz: