how to parent a boy (different from a girl)?

Reply to how to parent a boy (different from a girl)? on Fri, 29 Oct 2010 08:45:51 GMT

chrismei — Fri, 29 Oct 2010 08:45:51 GMT

jedamum:
chrismei:

How old is yr ds2? yup, the school suggested to transfer him to the next term..in fact, my hb is very disappointed with the school as they are too commerical driven...in the sense that the teacher didnt make much comments only that he is \"not ready\" as compared to other kids who is 1 month older...sign....
he is going 4yo this Nov.
he started his chinese enrichment this jan.

oh. He is 2 month younger than my gal.

Reply to how to parent a boy (different from a girl)? on Fri, 29 Oct 2010 08:33:12 GMT

jedamum — Fri, 29 Oct 2010 08:33:12 GMT

chrismei:

How old is yr ds2? yup, the school suggested to transfer him to the next term..in fact, my hb is very disappointed with the school as they are too commerical driven...in the sense that the teacher didnt make much comments only that he is \"not ready\" as compared to other kids who is 1 month older...sign....

he is going 4yo this Nov.
he started his chinese enrichment this jan.

Reply to how to parent a boy (different from a girl)? on Fri, 29 Oct 2010 08:12:41 GMT

chrismei — Fri, 29 Oct 2010 08:12:41 GMT

jedamum:
chrismei:
I have a gal and a boy(going to 21 months). My boy is very different from my girl in terms of concentration span and etc. My boy is very active and climb sofa and chairs. Recently, my boy's enrichment teacher requested to withdraw my son as she felt that he is not ready and didn't comment much. I observed that other toddler who is 1 month older than him can sit at least 10 mins unlike my son. Is this normal?

your boy is only 21mth.
for kids with no ADHD, concentration span should increase when the kid grow older.
my ds2 still cannot sit still in his enrichment class (my dh joked that we pay so much for him to run around in class :P). even his preschool teacher told me that she joked to him that she will put scotch tape on his backside. my ds2 actually told me that he prefers the 'naughty corner' in his classroom cos he gets to stand up when the teacher teach! :faint:
for me, i uses the enrichment material to coach my boy at home so that he can handle his 'academic's better in his preschool and give his teachers a break (ie his teachers only need to worry about him not sitting down and need not worry about him not writing). although he does not sit down, he does not disturb his friends.
you may want to try other enrichment or wait until your kid is older? my boy started enrichment after 3yo, although he attended some trials (with disaster) much earlier.

How old is yr ds2? yup, the school suggested to transfer him to the next term..in fact, my hb is very disappointed with the school as they are too commerical driven...in the sense that the teacher didnt make much comments only that he is \"not ready\" as compared to other kids who is 1 month older...sign....

Reply to how to parent a boy (different from a girl)? on Thu, 28 Oct 2010 05:27:55 GMT

24hr-mum — Thu, 28 Oct 2010 05:27:55 GMT

all my kids sit in the study rm - we hv 2 ergo tables, with 5 chairs - for 3 kids (7, 5, 3) and me and my maid to ‘tuition’ them after dinner /tv time at night on wkdays. if i separate my boy from the rest, my no. 3 ask for me. and no. 1 tho can b left alone, always ask me how to do.

so i cant be running ard evy min from rm to rm if they sit separate.

my boy was hyper, only untiil now when he is 5+ he is much better.
so its normal for 3yo to cant sit still. i thot he maybe adhd but the psycho test ruled that out cos in sch setting he isnt hyper.

i think my boy is also like that, like different bks. do 1－３ page from each bk n he is happy also, considering himself to hv done a lot :（

ｉ　ｗｉｌｌ probably send him to brainfit studio’s play attention program when he turns 6, hoping to imprve attn span.

as for maths, he was very poor n unteachable at hm. but since aug i sent him to enopi at square 2 and he is much better. now he can do simple +2, +3 addition on his own wif out me, and do faster. i know this may be so little achievement compared to other kids but to me i m thankful enuf.
tho i still need cane to stop his playful nonsense. at least he does the addition intuitively wifout fingers stimes.

Reply to how to parent a boy (different from a girl)? on Thu, 28 Oct 2010 02:29:52 GMT

jedamum — Thu, 28 Oct 2010 02:29:52 GMT

chrismei:
I have a gal and a boy(going to 21 months). My boy is very different from my girl in terms of concentration span and etc. My boy is very active and climb sofa and chairs. Recently, my boy's enrichment teacher requested to withdraw my son as she felt that he is not ready and didn't comment much. I observed that other toddler who is 1 month older than him can sit at least 10 mins unlike my son. Is this normal?

your boy is only 21mth.
for kids with no ADHD, concentration span should increase when the kid grow older.
my ds2 still cannot sit still in his enrichment class (my dh joked that we pay so much for him to run around in class :P). even his preschool teacher told me that she joked to him that she will put scotch tape on his backside. my ds2 actually told me that he prefers the 'naughty corner' in his classroom cos he gets to stand up when the teacher teach! :faint:
for me, i uses the enrichment material to coach my boy at home so that he can handle his 'academic's better in his preschool and give his teachers a break (ie his teachers only need to worry about him not sitting down and need not worry about him not writing). although he does not sit down, he does not disturb his friends.
you may want to try other enrichment or wait until your kid is older? my boy started enrichment after 3yo, although he attended some trials (with disaster) much earlier.

Reply to how to parent a boy (different from a girl)? on Thu, 28 Oct 2010 02:21:44 GMT

chrismei — Thu, 28 Oct 2010 02:21:44 GMT

I have a gal and a boy(going to 21 months). My boy is very different from my girl in terms of concentration span and etc. My boy is very active and climb sofa and chairs. Recently, my boy’s enrichment teacher requested to withdraw my son as she felt that he is not ready and didn’t comment much. I observed that other toddler who is 1 month older than him can sit at least 10 mins unlike my son. Is this normal?

Reply to how to parent a boy (different from a girl)? on Thu, 28 Oct 2010 02:16:16 GMT

corneyAmber — Thu, 28 Oct 2010 02:16:16 GMT

jedamum:
ksi:
I also do not have a son but I think it is easier to bring up a son.
:imcool:

yes...i find it easier to bring up boys, since dh has lesser mercy for boys than girls.

You so lucky jedamum! :celebrate:

Reply to how to parent a boy (different from a girl)? on Thu, 28 Oct 2010 02:15:26 GMT

jedamum — Thu, 28 Oct 2010 02:15:26 GMT

lauren:
oh my boy is like janet_lee88's.

tho just k1, cant sit still without nonsense when doing wksheets
like to drop pencil, disturb his elder and younger sisters.
do very little and alwayz complain why so much work (even do 1 or 2 pg to him is a lot)
my girls can complete whole stack of work.

are the worksheets sch worksheets? you can varied his workload by inserting a few activity pages (eg maze, spot the difference) with academic worksheets.
as for disturbing sisters, do they have a common work area? i have the same problem (but is nosy ds1 peeping at what ds2 is doing and offered solutions before ds2 attempt the work), so i split them up and gave them their own workplace.
for cannot sit still, my ds2 cannot sit still. he can side with half a butt on the chair and the other half out of the chair with that leg on the floor. besides constant reminder, we (by chance) found a small red circular cushion in ikea and place that on his chair (he is using the adult standard chair; not with roller wheels cos very distracting) and i just need to chant 'sit on the red dot/sit in the middle of the dot' to remind him to sit down.
MHO.

Reply to how to parent a boy (different from a girl)? on Thu, 28 Oct 2010 02:07:38 GMT

jedamum — Thu, 28 Oct 2010 02:07:38 GMT

on the topic of active boys (my ds2 went for ADHD assessment but was ruled out as such although we were on half yearly review list), i have a fixed seatwork time with my ds2 (4yo). about half a hour a day. we touched on a lot of stuff this half hour cos he needs a lot of variations. i can see that he shun math (cos he cannot grasp the concept) and prefers CL and EL. we moved on before he gets tired of working on the same assessment book as he needs to be 'on the go', hence for any single subject, i had to get different sets of assessmt books so that i can rotate it. i also let him choose which book he wants to do (eg 2 math book, ask him to choose one etc). i find that giving him a designated desk decorated with 'achievement certs' from his bro (his bro writes him small notes :love: ) and his own stationery, is pretty helpful. give him easy access to his own bools, materials etc. my ds2 some times when he don't want to sleep during bedtime, he will ask to go to his desk to do his 'work'.

i have 2 boys of very different nature and really glad that ds1 is pretty matured to handle his own revision (although i have to adjust my expectations ah!).

MHO.

Reply to how to parent a boy (different from a girl)? on Thu, 28 Oct 2010 02:06:15 GMT

24hr-mum — Thu, 28 Oct 2010 02:06:15 GMT

oh my boy is like janet_lee88’s.

tho just k1, cant sit still without nonsense when doing wksheets
like to drop pencil, disturb his elder and younger sisters.
do very little and alwayz complain why so much work (even do 1 or 2 pg to him is a lot)
my girls can complete whole stack of work.

Reply to how to parent a boy (different from a girl)? on Thu, 28 Oct 2010 02:00:13 GMT

jedamum — Thu, 28 Oct 2010 02:00:13 GMT

ksi:
I also do not have a son but I think it is easier to bring up a son.

:imcool:

yes...i find it easier to bring up boys, since dh has lesser mercy for boys than girls.

Reply to how to parent a boy (different from a girl)? on Thu, 28 Oct 2010 01:48:20 GMT

janet88 — Thu, 28 Oct 2010 01:48:20 GMT

csc:
I have a boy and a girl each. DH has higher expectations on the boy than the girl. He loves them both but is 'harder' on the boy...which my boy sometimes felt that he was not 'favoured' by the dad.

As for me, I bond better with my gal cos we r best friends who love to shop and yak abt nonsensical stuff...but with my son, we talk more philosophical stuff cos he's a thinker... like dad. :roll:

my gal is a dreamer like mum.

I have a daughter, turning 6 next mth. She's young but mature at times (when she throws a tantrum, it's hard to handle her but still trying to teach her why it is wrong). We love to shop and she loves the things I am crazy over...like Hello Kitty

Hubby is harder on son too...keeps thinking of drilling him on certain stuff like IT and Science. With my son, we have secrets strictly between us both.

Reply to how to parent a boy (different from a girl)? on Thu, 28 Oct 2010 01:40:17 GMT

csc — Thu, 28 Oct 2010 01:40:17 GMT

think there is a book on 'Bringing up Boys' by James Dobson that gives a good perspective on that.

You may want to get hold of it.

I have a boy and a girl each. DH has higher expectations on the boy than the girl. He loves them both but is 'harder' on the boy...which my boy sometimes felt that he was not 'favoured' by the dad.

As for me, I bond better with my gal cos we r best friends who love to shop and yak abt nonsensical stuff...but with my son, we talk more philosophical stuff cos he's a thinker... like dad. :roll:

my gal is a dreamer like mum.

Reply to how to parent a boy (different from a girl)? on Thu, 28 Oct 2010 01:36:42 GMT

corneyAmber — Thu, 28 Oct 2010 01:36:42 GMT

I also do not have a son but I think it is easier to bring up a son.

Reply to how to parent a boy (different from a girl)? on Thu, 28 Oct 2010 01:26:13 GMT

Trapwithin — Thu, 28 Oct 2010 01:26:13 GMT

I do not have a son.

However, I heard from others that parents need to be accompanied them in the early P1/P2 years to instill the learning habits.

Reply to how to parent a boy (different from a girl)? on Thu, 28 Oct 2010 00:29:27 GMT

janet88 — Thu, 28 Oct 2010 00:29:27 GMT

My son is in P4. When he was in P1/2, I literally have to sit beside him when he does his homework/assessment book or he would be daydreaming. If I have to answer a phone call or go to the loo, he would be following me. Really tough then.

Now, I can leave him on his own, but work attitude, he has poor attention span and tends to slip shod. All his answers are always missing out keywords, be it English or Chinese. Maths, worse. He will leave out units of measurement.

Reply to how to parent a boy (different from a girl)? on Thu, 28 Oct 2010 00:24:43 GMT

24hr-mum — Thu, 28 Oct 2010 00:24:43 GMT

gd idea but not cheap leh.

i always hv to bribe him wf toys

Reply to how to parent a boy (different from a girl)? on Wed, 27 Oct 2010 23:52:56 GMT

peterch — Wed, 27 Oct 2010 23:52:56 GMT

lauren:
i got 2 girls and a boy. the boy has been hyperactive since birth (but tested dont hv adhd) but doesnt like to do wkshts, just like to play. so unlike my girls.

how to teach a boy differently from a girl?

My DS was almost the same when he was P2. Could you spare your time to accompany him to do the worksheets, make it as fun as it could be. I brought him to his favorite eating place and let him do the worksheet and eat there, then later I bought the food and brought home and DS did the worksheet at home until then my wife made some jelly or simple snacks for him so he could enjoy making the worksheets. Today DS enjoys his worksheets a lot not because of the food treats but he got used doing the worksheets