My child results are very very bad.

Reply to My child results are very very bad. on Tue, 23 Nov 2010 06:39:53 GMT

DC Mummy — Tue, 23 Nov 2010 06:39:53 GMT

CatTy 007:
Hi,

I can understand how u are feeling. I guess you'll need to sit down n discuss with ur hubby what kind of childhood do u want for your child and what are your expectations for him?
A straight As child or a happy child?

Personally, B3 n B4 aren't very poor. Think abt it, were u a straight As kid when u were young? I just came upon a news article reporting that alot of young kids nowadays are having mental problems like depression and this trend is on the rise.
I think we as parents need to reflect are we giving our kids too much pressure. My hub and my stand is that we want our child to have a happy childhood. Not that they can fail but they must put in their best effort. We don't require them to get straight As but we're fine with Bs n above.
I don't know whether this piece of advice is of any help to you but I hope that you and your kid will be happier.
snowwhitejt:
Hi,

My son results are very very bad. B3 for English & Chinese. B4 for Math & Science.
Should I put him in student care? or get a 1 to 1 tutor for him again?
Next year he will be in the morning session(P4) & I strongly believed that he will be watching or sleeping the whole day at home.
Wat should I do?
Any good student care to recommend near CCK north 6?
Any good tutor to recommend?

I guess parent main worry is with present result, how the child will handle primary leaving examinations. Esp. when he moves to higher primary level and syllabus gets tougher. Sad to say that school leaving exam PSLE will be the instrument tool to determine streaming and type of secondary school he/she goes to.

If a child has been obtaining consistent good results, many parents may feel confident that he / she should be able to do handle well in PSLE by default. However, if the child starts showing down trend in school results, it will inevitably cause parent’s anxiety.

I also believe in giving a child a happy and memorable childhood life and this is always been top priority among many parents here as well, I believe. However, there are other areas (i.e. academic aspect as one of them) we need to look into as well. In this meritocracy driven system, we need to strike a balance between sweetness and hardship after all. It may sound easier than done, but we are the parents for bring up our own child, we should know and gauge to what extend we can go.

Reply to My child results are very very bad. on Tue, 23 Nov 2010 05:07:55 GMT

janet88 — Tue, 23 Nov 2010 05:07:55 GMT

Teo:
Hi,

It seems I'm not the only parent stress out here.
My son will be in P5 next yr and his result has been sliding every yr. I'm despately looking for a good tutor before it is too late.
Any recommendation for a good tutor in the north?

My son's grades dipped when he went to P3 !!!
It was very scary to see his results in the 60s range. That was for CA1 and SA1. He likes Science, so that subject score was around 70+. He has Chinese tuition since K2 but switched him to one-to-one in P1.
Next year P5, I really dare not i magine what his results will be like.
So this holidays, we have an agreement to put in 2 hours everyday or his brain will be washed out in Jan.

Reply to My child results are very very bad. on Tue, 23 Nov 2010 04:53:31 GMT

CatTy 007 — Tue, 23 Nov 2010 04:53:31 GMT

Hi,

I can understand how u are feeling. I guess you'll need to sit down n discuss with ur hubby what kind of childhood do u want for your child and what are your expectations for him?
A straight As child or a happy child?

Personally, B3 n B4 aren't very poor. Think abt it, were u a straight As kid when u were young? I just came upon a news article reporting that alot of young kids nowadays are having mental problems like depression and this trend is on the rise.
I think we as parents need to reflect are we giving our kids too much pressure. My hub and my stand is that we want our child to have a happy childhood. Not that they can fail but they must put in their best effort. We don't require them to get straight As but we're fine with Bs n above.
I don't know whether this piece of advice is of any help to you but I hope that you and your kid will be happier.

snowwhitejt:
Hi,

My son results are very very bad. B3 for English & Chinese. B4 for Math & Science.
Should I put him in student care? or get a 1 to 1 tutor for him again?
Next year he will be in the morning session(P4) & I strongly believed that he will be watching or sleeping the whole day at home.
Wat should I do?
Any good student care to recommend near CCK north 6?
Any good tutor to recommend?

Reply to My child results are very very bad. on Mon, 22 Nov 2010 13:28:38 GMT

Teo — Mon, 22 Nov 2010 13:28:38 GMT

Hi,

It seems I’m not the only parent stress out here.
My son will be in P5 next yr and his result has been sliding every yr. I’m despately looking for a good tutor before it is too late.
Any recommendation for a good tutor in the north?

Reply to My child results are very very bad. on Mon, 22 Nov 2010 09:49:59 GMT

angelz88 — Mon, 22 Nov 2010 09:49:59 GMT

KC:
Sharmila, have PM u. Hope to hear fm

U.
sharmila:
I suggest you get a current school teacher to teach your child. I had the same problem for my DS. He is in P4 this year and was having the same tutor since P2. However, when I quit my job and monitored her teaching I found that there wasn't any improvement. I managed to get a current school teacher and now his grades improved from F to Band 2.

I am feeling relieved that I am not the only stressed up parent around!

If anyone knows of a good tuition teacher, please pm me.

Reply to My child results are very very bad. on Tue, 16 Nov 2010 13:02:35 GMT

kchua05.06803yahoo.06803com.06803sg — Tue, 16 Nov 2010 13:02:35 GMT

Sharmila, have PM u. Hope to hear fm

U.

sharmila:
I suggest you get a current school teacher to teach your child. I had the same problem for my DS. He is in P4 this year and was having the same tutor since P2. However, when I quit my job and monitored her teaching I found that there wasn't any improvement. I managed to get a current school teacher and now his grades improved from F to Band 2.

Reply to My child results are very very bad. on Tue, 16 Nov 2010 01:36:41 GMT

kchua05.06803yahoo.06803com.06803sg — Tue, 16 Nov 2010 01:36:41 GMT

Hi Snowwhitejt,

If you are looking student care at CCK..i recommend Pro Teach at Blk 555..is it near to your place? Which school is yr son in?

My son maths also since pri 1 to 2 ...always get passing grade and marks hardly moved...I understand yr agony and now understand why parents used to say stress stress from schooling kids..

I guess he is pri 4 still got time to help him out...before PSLE!

snowwhitejt:
Hi,

My son results are very very bad. B3 for English & Chinese. B4 for Math & Science.
Should I put him in student care? or get a 1 to 1 tutor for him again?
Next year he will be in the morning session(P4) & I strongly believed that he will be watching or sleeping the whole day at home.
Wat should I do?
Any good student care to recommend near CCK north 6?
Any good tutor to recommend?

Reply to My child results are very very bad. on Tue, 16 Nov 2010 01:34:37 GMT

aqeqiq — Tue, 16 Nov 2010 01:34:37 GMT

snowwhitejt:
Hi Janet,

Yes, I agree with you dey simply bochap and don't understand y we do tis & dat. Onli noe how to complain tis and dat.
No, the tutor homeworks are sooooooo little.
I'm lost lost lost ...sad sad sad....
I reali that he noe the hardwork that I put in for him soon and willingly to study hard.

Hi snowwhitejt,

Based on what you have posted, I think motivation is missing. I think your son must feel good about his study successes then he will want to continue to work hard. How about giving him small achievable goals like improving math marks by 5 marks for each test then praise him like crazy when he achieves it? My friend shared this method with me.

Reply to My child results are very very bad. on Tue, 16 Nov 2010 00:43:54 GMT

2centsworthy — Tue, 16 Nov 2010 00:43:54 GMT

Hi snowwhitejt

I send you a pm.

Reply to My child results are very very bad. on Mon, 15 Nov 2010 13:49:41 GMT

sharmila — Mon, 15 Nov 2010 13:49:41 GMT

I suggest you get a current school teacher to teach your child. I had the same problem for my DS. He is in P4 this year and was having the same tutor since P2. However, when I quit my job and monitored her teaching I found that there wasn’t any improvement. I managed to get a current school teacher and now his grades improved from F to Band 2.

Reply to My child results are very very bad. on Mon, 15 Nov 2010 13:24:44 GMT

snowwhitejt — Mon, 15 Nov 2010 13:24:44 GMT

Hi Janet,

Yes, I agree with you dey simply bochap and don't understand y we do tis & dat. Onli noe how to complain tis and dat.
No, the tutor homeworks are sooooooo little.
I'm lost lost lost ...sad sad sad....
I reali that he noe the hardwork that I put in for him soon and willingly to study hard.

Reply to My child results are very very bad. on Mon, 15 Nov 2010 13:21:14 GMT

snowwhitejt — Mon, 15 Nov 2010 13:21:14 GMT

Hi ppnqq,

We did had a heart to heart talks many many times.
Everytime he will promise me he will do well but things never happen and his results are getting bad to worst.
I'm reali very very lost and dunno wat to do..

Reply to My child results are very very bad. on Mon, 15 Nov 2010 13:15:58 GMT

janet88 — Mon, 15 Nov 2010 13:15:58 GMT

snowwhitejt:
Yes, he had 7 tutors in 2010 & chased ALL 6 away. Left this lady tutor who has tried her very best to teach. At times e tutor will need to beg him to do his work especially Math. Giving him everyday 1:1 tution doesn't seem to help as his results are still very bad.

Next year he will be in AM session and I believe he is not going to do his homework or anyting during the afternoon so I am thinking if i should enrol him to student care but my concern is his math. If he is going to a group tution than he sure can't catch up as he can't even do P2 assessment papers.
I am really very lost with my child school work. He is last in the sch this year & I am really very worry when he is in P4.

I understand your frustrations as a parent when child is not willing to work hard...we are all stressed up as parents :frustrated: and the child is bochap. Guess the tutors are not able to entice him to be keen in the subject. The tutor needs to be able to understand your child's personality and 'get him of his shell'.
Are the tutors giving him too much homework ? Too much homework from tutors on top of school hw can backfire too.

Reply to My child results are very very bad. on Mon, 15 Nov 2010 13:08:54 GMT

radiantmum — Mon, 15 Nov 2010 13:08:54 GMT

I second ppnqq’s views - find out why first.

Check out Adam Khoo’s I’m Gifted, So Are You book. He was bottom of the class primary and secondary but once he finds his motivation and direction, he shines. Your kid is possibly awaiting for the right button to be pressed. All the best!

Reply to My child results are very very bad. on Mon, 15 Nov 2010 12:55:57 GMT

thinking — Mon, 15 Nov 2010 12:55:57 GMT

Hi Littlehelper

Can you pm me the maths tutor detail u mentioned?Can elaborate more on her?

Reply to My child results are very very bad. on Mon, 15 Nov 2010 07:17:19 GMT

ppnqq — Mon, 15 Nov 2010 07:17:19 GMT

snowwhitejt:
Yes, he had 7 tutors in 2010 & chased ALL 6 away. Left this lady tutor who has tried her very best to teach. At times e tutor will need to beg him to do his work especially Math. Giving him everyday 1:1 tution doesn't seem to help as his results are still very bad.

Next year he will be in AM session and I believe he is not going to do his homework or anyting during the afternoon so I am thinking if i should enrol him to student care but my concern is his math. If he is going to a group tution than he sure can't catch up as he can't even do P2 assessment papers.
I am really very lost with my child school work. He is last in the sch this year & I am really very worry when he is in P4.

Sorry to hear about that but for my view, I feel that you should have a heart-to-heart talk with him and try to find the root cause of it because if there are some underlying reasons for eg due to some health/behavioral/emotional issues etc, and if the issues are not compromised or resolved, I feel that even if you get the best tutor or put him in the best student care also useless. Pardon my straight forwardness, this is how I feel towards what you have quoted.

If I were you, I will try to talk to his form teacher to find out how is he behaving and doing in school, find out what does the teacher thinks and feels about your child. They could give you some clue or even good advises, then have a good talk with your child (not in a reprimanding manner), try to find out if something is bothering him or makes him unhappy, or anything that is obstructing his studies or what makes him hate tuition (since you mentioned he 'chased' away so many tutors).

You have to know what is happening first, then you are able to find the most suitable or appropriate solution to it and not to keep looking for a tutor for him. It will be endless if the root cause of it is not found and resolved. To add on, you may also seek for professional help like a qualified counselor. JMHO and good luck.

Reply to My child results are very very bad. on Sun, 14 Nov 2010 15:48:19 GMT

littlehelper — Sun, 14 Nov 2010 15:48:19 GMT

Oh i see.

Mayb give him incentives if he does his work?
i know of someone that pays the kid 1 dollar after he finishes one asssesment book (not very good to bribe the kid but if no choice, this could be a way and then slowly get rid of the habit?)
I have a good math tutor to recommend but she’s really expensive and i m not sure if she’s still taking in students cos she’s very packed.
But she’s good.
She does home tuition and she runs her own tuition center (of cos not her teaching in the center)
Which area do you live?
Actually if you can i believe you can coach your son in his math cos primary school math is quite simple.
Just get the basics right, i think it will be alright.
Better get smth done quickly cos from p4 onwards the math will be quite tough…

Reply to My child results are very very bad. on Sun, 14 Nov 2010 06:41:55 GMT

snowwhitejt — Sun, 14 Nov 2010 06:41:55 GMT

Yes, he had 7 tutors in 2010 & chased ALL 6 away. Left this lady tutor who has tried her very best to teach. At times e tutor will need to beg him to do his work especially Math. Giving him everyday 1:1 tution doesn’t seem to help as his results are still very bad.

Next year he will be in AM session and I believe he is not going to do his homework or anyting during the afternoon so I am thinking if i should enrol him to student care but my concern is his math. If he is going to a group tution than he sure can’t catch up as he can’t even do P2 assessment papers.
I am really very lost with my child school work. He is last in the sch this year & I am really very worry when he is in P4.

Reply to My child results are very very bad. on Sun, 14 Nov 2010 06:20:03 GMT

littlehelper — Sun, 14 Nov 2010 06:20:03 GMT

If he needs help with his studies , better to get tuition for him.

Not necessarily 1:1 as it’s expensive but if you afford then why not?
What do you mean again? He is having tuition now but still get poor results? That shows that your child would probably need a different tutor that can teach so that he will understand/suit your child’s learning style.

If he just needs to be disciplined and someone to watch him do his work which could lead to an improvement of marks, then student care would be fine.
Student care teachers can teach/coach your child(some) then the other subjects that they can’t you can get a tutor for your child.