<![CDATA[Newbie- MummyThreeStreams]]>Hey everyone,

Been lurking for quite sometime. Figured it was time I said something!

I have two boys and another on the way. My first will be entering P1 next year, while my second will be in nursery.

I've found this site helpful and really appreciate the honest sharing from members.

Have a good one!

😄

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/topic/16049/newbie-mummythreestreamsRSS for NodeMon, 20 Apr 2026 11:01:16 GMTThu, 18 Nov 2010 07:32:32 GMT60<![CDATA[Reply to Newbie- MummyThreeStreams on Fri, 17 Dec 2010 07:49:05 GMT]]>KSP :welcome: you to KSP

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/315172https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/315172Fri, 17 Dec 2010 07:49:05 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Newbie- MummyThreeStreams on Tue, 14 Dec 2010 16:31:17 GMT]]>

DesertWind:


Hi Mummy3Streams,

Well, you have come to the right forum to vent indeed! You should check out the \"Problems with In-Laws\" thread under \"Relationship\" if you have not already discovered it. And you should be shocked by the number of views and post in this thread, wah lau, can fight with the P1 registration man! :!:

So you are definitely not alone in wanting to vent about IL. But just to caution you not to get addicted to it hor?
:rotflmao:
Oh I went to check that thread out! But my problems are not so serious lah. Just minor irritations. If I'm in a good mood then I won't think of complaining. If I'm in a bad mood then I can complain to hubby the whole day!!

Mustn't get too addicted to complaining coz the mind can get permanently poisoned against them, which would not be good. After all they're still family. Gotta learn to get along.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/313533https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/313533Tue, 14 Dec 2010 16:31:17 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Newbie- MummyThreeStreams on Mon, 13 Dec 2010 12:04:54 GMT]]>

MummyThreeStreams:
DesertWind, Oh dear! It must've sucked big time not to gave support from your own family!! I would've been very upset...

How was your experience with the confinement nanny? I've heard some horror stories...
Hi Mummy3Streams,

I am not upset at all because it is pretty common to hire confinement nannies and most of my friends/relatives will not have help from either their mother/MIL so....

As for my experience with my confinement nanny, OK lah, the most common comments from my friends/hubby about her is that she talked too much! But for me at home whole day, it was pretty good to chat with her, we chatted almost about everything under the sun! She was wondering how come my MIL only visited me & baby once after our discharge from hospital and thereafter did not even hear her phone calls for next 2 weeks?

Her cooking was quite good but in the 3rd week my mother visited and then asked how come the confinement nanny did not cook any tonic eg. ginseng, cordeceps etc. soup for me? She was quite unhappy about it because she thought the confinement nanny will take good care of me! I casually mention to the confinement nanny who was pretty defensive and said that she had asked me on the first day she came whether I want to have special tonic soup and I had told her not really necessary.

Because if I wanted to, I have to go buy all the Chinese herbs etc. and then she will cook and I did not know ANYTHING about such tonic mah! The confinement nanny then told me she knew cordeceps was very very expensive then, ie. a little bit cost SGD300-400 and some husbands she knew bought about SGD1,000 worth for his wife in one case, blah, blah, blah.....After all her talking, I somehow got the feeling she is indirectly saying that we cannot afford to buy such expensive herbs and somemore want her to cook tonic soups? 😛

Oh well, as for the baby, ok lah, she looked after well enough and knew how to use the bottle steamer etc.(which I was hopeless in), managed all the baby clothes and baby gifts and then advising what brands of diapers to buy too. She cleaned, changed the baby's diapers and bath the baby automatically so overall she was OK.

But since I was breast-feeding my boy then, she was a bit at lost that there was no need for her to make formula milk and feed through bottle. Even at night I will ask to sleep with my baby so she felt she was not doing enough in this aspect. She was also worried that I don't have enough breast-milk and told me I was one of those who do not have enough milk. But then my boy grew and grew so after a while, she was a bit more relaxed!

The nanny also boil herbal bath for me and told me to buy those from medicine shop especially for confinement bathing so I was wiping myself using this herbal bath instead of directly bathing. But as for \"down there\", I just use the shower to spray & wash, for me I definitely cannot tahan not to wash, especially after pooing!

But after 1 week of confinement when I was due to go to the gynae for check-up, I had a full bath. The confinement nanny also never say anything. Not your own daughter mah so why bother right? After that, I bath every 4 days or so did not feel too bad!

If you ask me whether I will hire a confinement nanny again should I have another chance, I will be in quite a delimma though....
:celebrate:

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/312850https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/312850Mon, 13 Dec 2010 12:04:54 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Newbie- MummyThreeStreams on Mon, 13 Dec 2010 11:46:39 GMT]]>

24hr-mum:
hi DesertWind, i m surprised ur mil didnt want to look after the grandchild at least. and i think its wrong for her to say that its ur mum's job. it has always been the MIL's job i thought, cos traditionally speaking, the grandchildren belong to the hubby family, right？ cos the kids bear their surname wat.

Hi 24hr-mum,

Long story lah, suffice to say all our situation is different and my MIL is not quite a typical one. For eg, she refused to co-live with us even though my husband is her only son and my sister-in-law has migrated overseas long ago.

As for looking after either baby or me, she has already given her all already to her husband & son (my FIL & hubby) so she deemed her job already done. Always complaining of aches and pain hence I also will really pai-seh to ask her to do anything.

For me, I do not feel it is my \"right\" to have help from my mother or MIL. If I can afford not to burden them, I will rather not to ie. it is only money mah to engage a confinement nanny. Ownself-independance lor!

So I am not at all upset by this. I am a very filial daughter and an understanding daughter-in-law. KEE HEE HEE!
:evil:

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/312847https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/312847Mon, 13 Dec 2010 11:46:39 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Newbie- MummyThreeStreams on Mon, 13 Dec 2010 11:40:03 GMT]]>

MummyThreeStreams:
Oh dear, I hope I don't seem like I dislike my MIL. I think she's great, but there are just somethings that really rile me up! (Just like there are some things my mum does that annoys me to the end of the earth...) I'm glad there's this forum to vent and get it out of my system, and not always complain only to DH (I mean, I wouldn't like him to keep complaining to me about my mum either).

Hi Mummy3Streams,

Well, you have come to the right forum to vent indeed! You should check out the \"Problems with In-Laws\" thread under \"Relationship\" if you have not already discovered it. And you should be shocked by the number of views and post in this thread, wah lau, can fight with the P1 registration man! :!:

So you are definitely not alone in wanting to vent about IL. But just to caution you not to get addicted to it hor?
:rotflmao:

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/312845https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/312845Mon, 13 Dec 2010 11:40:03 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Newbie- MummyThreeStreams on Mon, 13 Dec 2010 04:34:26 GMT]]>hi MummyThreeStreams


in 2007 i got to know my neighbor who recommended to me Newlife supplements and natural health approach, avoidg the common five whites (white flour, white salt, white milk, white rice, n 1 more i forgot)

so i hv been taking regularly during my preg.

my mil cooked much ginger n i cant tahan. almost fever.

my #3 is new era. brought up v differently. she is almost 15kg.
but my #2, a boy, only 18kg. skinny n choosy too. he n #1 old era
my mil also loves to top up their food wif meat when they hvnt even finish the food in the bowl. she feel she must do her part to take more food for them even tho i already set up the meal.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/312604https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/312604Mon, 13 Dec 2010 04:34:26 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Newbie- MummyThreeStreams on Mon, 13 Dec 2010 03:39:04 GMT]]>

24hr-mum:

so i was totally free - free to go out, free to bathe, free to do wat i wanted, cos personally i dont believe in confinment practices or food.
Thank goodness my mum also doesn't believe in confinement practices! She told me the first thing she did after delivering me was to bathe and wash her hair. And I did that too, coz I couldn't stand that dirty sticky feeling. (Though they give you a powder bath, you still feel yucky down there...) Also, I had jamu massage - don't tell me I'm supposed to not bathe for 1 month after all that oils on my hair and body?!

But it must be a bit uncomfortable to be looked after by your MIL if you are not close to her - can strain the relationship if you are not on good terms. Although my MIL only came for the first week, and DH was around to protect me, it was already uncomfortable. e.g. when my MIL found out I was bathing and washing my hair she was shocked and was nagging me and also my husband to \"quan\" me. But I ignored her.

Then my MIL, who was cooking my confinement food, doused all my food with alcohol, even though we told her not to because I was nursing and also because it affected the contraction of my uterus. She also put liver and kidney in EVERYTHING! I got so sick of them and sneaked them to my DH. Then he got sick of them and that's one reason why he asked his mum no need to come...

So my mum took over the kitchen and cooked just normal nutritious food. But I really like the black trotters with vinegar! I tell my mum to cook it all the time. And I ask her to add sesame oil and ginger in everything, because I also love sesame and ginger. That's about the only confinement type food she cooks.
24hr-mum:
now at 3yo, she is 15kg, and wears the clothes that my #1 wore when #1 was 4-5yo.
15kg! Wow! that's a very good size! How do you remember to take all those supplements? What does spirulina do?

My 3yo is only 13kg. My 6yo is only 20kg. And very skinny. My MIL complains all the time. But he's a fussy eater. I don't really mind. It's genetic. My side of the family is very skinny. Doc says my boys are growing well, so it's not a problem. But my MIL's nagging can be annoying - and she will insist on feeding the 6yo (even though he's going to P1 next year!!!) so that she can stuff him with more food.

Oh dear, I hope I don't seem like I dislike my MIL. I think she's great, but there are just somethings that really rile me up! (Just like there are some things my mum does that annoys me to the end of the earth...) I'm glad there's this forum to vent and get it out of my system, and not always complain only to DH (I mean, I wouldn't like him to keep complaining to me about my mum either).

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/312579https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/312579Mon, 13 Dec 2010 03:39:04 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Newbie- MummyThreeStreams on Mon, 13 Dec 2010 00:56:52 GMT]]>hi DesertWind


i m surprised ur mil didnt want to look after the grandchild at least.
and i think its wrong for her to say that its ur mum's job.
it has always been the MIL's job i thought, cos traditionally speaking, the grandchildren belong to the hubby family, right？
cos the kids bear their surname wat.


for me, mil was involved in confinment for #1 and #2.
was scary. she discouraged me from breastfeeding for my #1, makg feel that i was wrong to deprive my bb of formula cos my milk was 'not enuf'.
but i persisted n bb only drank formula for a few feeds n that's all. i nursed direct n pumped.

for #3, i was lucky i had NO confinement cos 1 wk after bb was born, my mil had moved out cos she cant tahan hvg to compete wif me n the maid over the kids 🙂
so i was totally free - free to go out, free to bathe, free to do wat i wanted, cos personally i dont believe in confinment practices or food.
during preg for #3， i had a lot of supplements - sprulina, vit c, vit c, flaxseed oil, honey, etc. as i was on natural health path. so i dont believe in taking chickn, pork liver, meat etc. my bb was very healthy n smarter than the rest. and her 1st yr of bb food was primarily vegetarian. n she has no problems pooing. in fact she pooed after every meal, 3x a day cos her digestion was very good. now at 3yo, she is 15kg, and wears the clothes that my #1 wore when #1 was 4-5yo.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/312407https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/312407Mon, 13 Dec 2010 00:56:52 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Newbie- MummyThreeStreams on Sun, 12 Dec 2010 15:09:26 GMT]]>DesertWind,

Oh dear! It must’ve sucked big time not to gave support from your own family!! I would’ve been very upset…

I’m indeed blessed and probably very spoilt. I’m the only daughter and eldest child so I think my mum was jumping at the chance. Actually, our kids are the only grandchildren on both sides, so the grandparents are always very anxious to be involved. In fact, on the first week, for my first child, even my MIL turned up though she knew my mum was looking after me. Her excuse was that my mum didn’t know how to cook confinement food. In the end, DH sent her packing coz we couldn’t take having the two grandmas (with clashing beliefs) at our place at the same time… But my MIL will still help out during confinement once in awhile so that my mum can have a break. Not as comfortable as with my own mum, but I appreciate it nonetheless.

How was your experience with the confinement nanny? I’ve heard some horror stories…

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/312357https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/312357Sun, 12 Dec 2010 15:09:26 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Newbie- MummyThreeStreams on Sun, 12 Dec 2010 14:04:14 GMT]]>

MummyThreeStreams:
Not hiring a confinement nanny - never did and never will. I'm just not comfortable sharing my space with a stranger. I'm fortunate coz my mum, who is a retired midwife, is more than happy to look after me. I love being pampered by my mum! 😄

Wow, you are just so blessed Mummy3Streams!
Your mum was a midwife too and can help you out - indeed very blessed.

When I had my boy, my mum told me she would not be able to help me since she wouldn't know about doing confinement food plus she was very busy with my nephew & niece whom she is looking after full-day.

My mother-in-law, knowing my mum will not be helping me, not so subtly said that such job should be done by my own mother and not the mother-in-law so she hope I can understand (why she will not be helping to look after me or the baby that is for the first month!). I was most :x because I NEVER ask her to! The thought has not even crossed my mind to ask for her help. In fact, I definitely will not want because she thinks is is degrading to be serving the daughter-in-law hand and foot. Sorry, anyway I didn't mean to rant about my MIL.

So long & short, I told both of them (mother & MIL) that never mind, I can handle and will hire my own PROFESSIONAL confinement nanny to look after me, thank you very much!

Liddat lor...
😉

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/312327https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/312327Sun, 12 Dec 2010 14:04:14 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Newbie- MummyThreeStreams on Sun, 12 Dec 2010 10:37:31 GMT]]>

DesertWind:
Hi Mummy3Streams,


Do you intend to get a confinement nanny for the first month? Why/why not?
😄
Hi DesertWind,

Not hiring a confinement nanny - never did and never will. I'm just not comfortable sharing my space with a stranger. I'm fortunate coz my mum, who is a retired midwife, is more than happy to look after me. I feel a lot more comfortable with her, and I can speak my mind if I disgree. Also, after having helping me for my two older ones, she knows my style so adjustment is minimal.

She doesn't cook the full confinement menu because afterall she's not a confinement lady, and she doesn't stay overnight, but DH will be around for at least the first week, so we can cope.

I love being pampered by my mum! 😄

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/312267https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/312267Sun, 12 Dec 2010 10:37:31 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Newbie- MummyThreeStreams on Sun, 12 Dec 2010 09:47:24 GMT]]>Hi Mummy3Streams,


Do you intend to get a confinement nanny for the first month? Why/why not?
😄

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/312252https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/312252Sun, 12 Dec 2010 09:47:24 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Newbie- MummyThreeStreams on Sat, 04 Dec 2010 03:41:03 GMT]]>flashing is very fast. its the discipline to remember to do it, just like discipline to eat ur health supplements.


u can flash it at dinner time, before tv time (tell them cant watch tv if dont read the card）, or before bed time. tie it to some routine.

those words he know already, separate them. just repeat those words the child isnt sure. dont hv to flash very fast. just normal speed but keep lettg the child see the same words he not sure

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/308927https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/308927Sat, 04 Dec 2010 03:41:03 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Newbie- MummyThreeStreams on Fri, 03 Dec 2010 13:47:12 GMT]]>

24hr-mum:
i have left #3 a lot to my maid who luckily does read to her and can teach her to read n write


i spend most time reading to #1 daily when she was very young, tried to #2 but he dislike reading, got to force but still doable. #3 i havnt started and #3 alrdey 3yo. but #3 can also read cos i did flash cards
Haven't been here the past few days because work has been crazy!

I don't read to DS2 as much as I used to read to DS1. I guess we just have to accept that there are 24 hours in a day and there is just less time for everything. You can see it in his development. For e.g. DS2 started recognising the letters of the alphabet later than DS1. But I'm not in any big hurry as long as he is progressing.

How do you find the time and discipline to do flash cards? Do you find them useful? I'm lazy and easily bored so I'd rather read books to them! Especially Dr. Seuss books. They are so much fun!

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/308781https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/308781Fri, 03 Dec 2010 13:47:12 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Newbie- MummyThreeStreams on Tue, 30 Nov 2010 08:45:43 GMT]]>i have left #3 a lot to my maid who luckily does read to her and can teach her to read n write


i spend most time reading to #1 daily when she was very young, tried to #2 but he dislike reading, got to force but still doable. #3 i havnt started and #3 alrdey 3yo. but #3 can also read cos i did flash cards

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/306540https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/306540Tue, 30 Nov 2010 08:45:43 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Newbie- MummyThreeStreams on Tue, 30 Nov 2010 02:48:22 GMT]]>Even now I find that I spend a lot less time with DS2 than DS1, and my friends with >1 say that they face the same situation. How do you manage that?


I’ve tried to arrange the scool hours next year such that I will have chunks of time alone with each child, but don’t know if my plans will work out well!

At least I’ll not be working, so that will free up more time…

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/306257https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/306257Tue, 30 Nov 2010 02:48:22 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Newbie- MummyThreeStreams on Mon, 29 Nov 2010 23:16:17 GMT]]>having 3 kids myself, i think transiting from 2 to 3 shdnt be a problem.

just that u may find urslf neglecting #3 cos #1 or #2 will be in pri sch and #3 still bb or toddler. when kids start pri sch, all the mind will be channelled to their studies…

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/306162https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/306162Mon, 29 Nov 2010 23:16:17 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Newbie- MummyThreeStreams on Mon, 29 Nov 2010 15:04:09 GMT]]>

24hr-mum:
my only stream is enuf to drown me.


pple wif only child or two always ask me how i handle three kids,
but i read from other thread that some mummies (i think is blessedmum) have 5 kids, and some hv 4 (breadnmuffin, i think). i wonder how they handle too. when it comes to buying textbks, uniforms, wow, bulk purchase.

i got 3 kids, enuf to form swimming class already next time.

sometimes i look at myself and wonder if i know what i'm doing! when DS1 goes to P1 next year, i think it will be much worse...but i try to keep relaxed...so my kids don't attend academic-type enrichment classes. just music and sports.

my transition from one to two kids was quite easy compared to the transition from no kids to one kid. i'm hoping the transition from two to three will be even easier...

btw, DS2 is very taken my your avatar because we have the same jigsaw puzzle at home!

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/306026https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/306026Mon, 29 Nov 2010 15:04:09 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Newbie- MummyThreeStreams on Tue, 23 Nov 2010 02:45:19 GMT]]>my only stream is enuf to drown me.


pple wif only child or two always ask me how i handle three kids,
but i read from other thread that some mummies (i think is blessedmum) have 5 kids, and some hv 4 (breadnmuffin, i think). i wonder how they handle too. when it comes to buying textbks, uniforms, wow, bulk purchase.

i got 3 kids, enuf to form swimming class already next time.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/299609https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/299609Tue, 23 Nov 2010 02:45:19 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Newbie- MummyThreeStreams on Tue, 23 Nov 2010 02:40:44 GMT]]>hi Mummy3Streams,


actually before i read the previous thread, the nickname already made me suspect u have 3 boys :）

i got only 1 stream, a headache one

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/299597https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/299597Tue, 23 Nov 2010 02:40:44 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Newbie- MummyThreeStreams on Tue, 23 Nov 2010 02:14:40 GMT]]>

DesertWind:
MummyThreeStreams:

:rotflmao:


Now you see what you've done, I'll never be able to look at my nickname in the same way again!!!

:rotflmao: :rotflmao: :rotflmao:

Hi Mummy3Streams,

I can just see the perfect avatar for you! You know the one with the cute little boy \"streaming\" into the fountain? Hey, that will be fantastic!
😉

DesertWind,
Naughty ah you...!

😉

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/299579https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/299579Tue, 23 Nov 2010 02:14:40 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Newbie- MummyThreeStreams on Tue, 23 Nov 2010 02:06:05 GMT]]>

ChiefKiasu:
MummyThreeStreams:

:rotflmao:


Now you see what you've done, I'll never be able to look at my nickname in the same way again!!!

Paiseh... din know it would be so disturbing... just PM me if you wanna change it. How about ThreeCheers? :celebrate:

No la, it's ok. The word 'Stream' has a very special meaning to me. So I'll keep it and have a giggle about your story once in awhile.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/299575https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/299575Tue, 23 Nov 2010 02:06:05 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Newbie- MummyThreeStreams on Mon, 22 Nov 2010 14:15:54 GMT]]>:welcome: :welcome: :welcome: :welcome:

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/299383https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/299383Mon, 22 Nov 2010 14:15:54 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Newbie- MummyThreeStreams on Mon, 22 Nov 2010 14:14:47 GMT]]>

MummyThreeStreams:
:rotflmao:


Now you see what you've done, I'll never be able to look at my nickname in the same way again!!!
:rotflmao: :rotflmao: :rotflmao:

Hi Mummy3Streams,

I can just see the perfect avatar for you! You know the one with the cute little boy \"streaming\" into the fountain? Hey, that will be fantastic!
😉

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/299382https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/299382Mon, 22 Nov 2010 14:14:47 GMT