insider:

... 桃花 is not always good. Meeting a 烂桃花 can destroy one's life completely. So all big boys, young men, old men, etc, do need to exercise full control of their 'animal instinct' when meeting 桃花...

hapydino:

:i'm contemplating this path too but it is a big step to me.. so i'm counting down too.. to 12 more days i will be on a 3 weeks break to 'trial run'..

Blobbi:

Sorry, skimming the thread and havent read every post (imagine me with cyber wings cos I'm a-flyin thru the threads). But wow, congratulations! What a momentous decision! I've been on and off the fence about working until I fell off completely (as in lost interest in work :lol:) . Hoping the boss will let me quit by yr end.


Anyway, you will love your new job as full time tree and koala-hugger. :love:

duriz:

RRMummy:

hey, :offtopic: but are you going SAHM soon? The guilt of being a FTWM is no fun at all...

Yes.
In 10 days I shall be
I know what you mean.
Today DD cried for me (again) in the morning when she woke up.
Almost every morning, she sees momma not next to her, she will kick up a fuss.
And when I get home, she will \"koala\" me.
I will be her \"tree\" throughout our dinner, shower, bedtime stories and singing, and then off to dreamland.

:love:

hapydino:

:offtopic:


duriz!

u gonna be a sahm?

wow!!

congrats and sure your DD is the most happy person at this decision..

i'm contemplating this path too but it is a big step to me.. so i'm counting down too.. to 12 more days i will be on a 3 weeks break to 'trial run'..

Blobbi:

Hoping the boss will let me quit by yr end.
Anyway, you will love your new job as full time tree and koala-hugger. :love:

duriz:

Yes.
In 10 days I shall be
I know what you mean.
Today DD cried for me (again) in the morning when she woke up.
Almost every morning, she sees momma not next to her, she will kick up a fuss.
And when I get home, she will \"koala\" me.
I will be her \"tree\" throughout our dinner, shower, bedtime stories and singing, and then off to dreamland.

:love:

RRMummy:

hey, :offtopic: but are you going SAHM soon? The guilt of being a FTWM is no fun at all...

duriz:

I think you're great at expressing yourself

Duriz:

RRMummy:

As a FTWM (with many many years to go) with 2 DDs, I shudder to think what is out there.. for me, the one public place I expect (now, hope) to be the safest for the child would be the school. Maybe it is a very 'childish' expectation but of all the people in the world, the last person (besides family) i would imagine to betray me and my child's trust is the teacher. That's why we think by keeping them in a better school, of spend more time in school with activities/ CCA especially if no one is home would keep them safe.. geez... this world that they are growing up in is so scary...

I feel the same with my DD

RRMummy:

Noted dear. No worries, I believe everyone is entitled to their own opinions My comments are also not directly aimed at cookie monsters' either.. Just that I'm not good with words, and some of you have phrased my thoughts in written form much better than I could myself..

RRMummy:

As a FTWM (with many many years to go) with 2 DDs, I shudder to think what is out there.. for me, the one public place I expect (now, hope) to be the safest for the child would be the school. Maybe it is a very 'childish' expectation but of all the people in the world, the last person (besides family) i would imagine to betray me and my child's trust is the teacher. That's why we think by keeping them in a better school, of spend more time in school with activities/ CCA especially if no one is home would keep them safe.. geez... this world that they are growing up in is so scary...

duriz:

Disclaimer first: my posts have nothing to do with Cookie Monsters'. I understand where you're coming from. These are JMHO.


To add on.

EVEN if the victim did seduce the perpetrator, she is still a child. The adult involved should know better. No matter how enticing the situation. That is the basic difference between children and adults: maturity, decency, the know-how plus the sheer will and strength to say no and turn away.

Children at one time or another will tempt fate and attempt anything (including dangerous situations) at their fancy.

Most adults will exercise self control, those who don't will be incarcerated, else we will live in a chaotic society.

RRMummy:

duriz:

JMHO.


This has nothing to do with Maslow's Hierarchy of Needs.

Take away the indicatives, this is about an adult preying on a child. Intentionally, with malice.

Totally agree!!

dunnoleh:

citing the role of parenting, or lack of parenting does not reduce the weight of this crime,

nor does it provide justification for the teacher to have sex with his student who is a minor.
An irrelevant distraction, I think.

no society can ever be so perfect that every single child enjoys good parental guidance.
There will always be children in less privileged circumstances.
But this does not mean that one can commit statutory rape.

duriz:

JMHO.


This has nothing to do with Maslow's Hierarchy of Needs.

Take away the indicatives, this is about an adult preying on a child. Intentionally, with malice.

insider:

... 桃花 is not always good. Meeting a 烂桃花 can destroy one's life completely. So all big boys, young men, old men, etc, do need to exercise full control of their 'animal instinct' when meeting 桃花...

insider:

... Emm...we all know men got two 'heads' and it's not that they don't know about the LAW; just that sometimes they use the wrong 'head' to think and get themselves into hot soup! heeheehee...

insider:

。。。 I have two sons and I really don't know what 'interesting' stories they may get themselves into one day...

insider:

Emmm... we don't know the full details of the story.


Could it be a very vain, sexy and promiscuous girl trying to seduce the innocent inexperienced teacher and that silly teacher kena conned? When we read news like this, we are likely to jump into the conclusion of the man is the wolf and the girl is the sheep when actually sometimes the reverse is true.

We really don't know who is the actual 'victim' per se in the case though nonetheless, the adult will have to take most part of the responsibility unless his lawyer can prove the wayward background of the girl that led him to such dire state and thereby can lighten his sentence; otherwise, tsk tsk tsk...

PS: 15 years old girls can be very very scary nowadays...

PS2: Imagine if one raises a goody-goody son who is excellent in studies and shy and never has any girlfriend before. Then the son subsequently enters teaching as a career and then meets this voluptuous matured young girl who keeps seducing him and he enters the 'trap' and then kena arrested. If you were the parent, how would you feel?

PS3: taking the case's 'speculations' a bit further that the girl is promiscuous and has slept with countless men and the man is actually a 'virgin', so who got more to lose?

Well, we really don't have the full details at hands and so the real 'victim' is really unknown...

dunnoleh:

citing the role of parenting, or lack of parenting does not reduce the weight of this crime,

nor does it provide justification for the teacher to have sex with his student who is a minor.
An irrelevant distraction, I think.

no society can ever be so perfect that every single child enjoys good parental guidance.
There will always be children in less privileged circumstances.
But this does not mean that one can commit statutory rape.