TabNas\" post_id=\"1961699\" time=\"1580711319\" user_id=\"182960:

Yes. It's really adorable if they went to school and went home together. In that case, they can improve their bond with each other. Some twins are so competitive to each other and I don't want it to happen.

LeilKhor18\" post_id=\"1957066\" time=\"1578030617\" user_id=\"183233:

Sounds challenging! I am expecting twins b/g and due in March. For parents who have twins, how do you manage to lessen the competition between them at home? Is it really true that there would be a superior and inferior one?

LeilKhor18\" post_id=\"1957067\" time=\"1578030626\" user_id=\"183233:

Sounds challenging! I am expecting twins b/g and due in March. For parents who have twins, how do you manage to lessen the competition between them at home? Is it really true that there would be a superior and inferior one?

sean wife\" post_id=\"1957060\" time=\"1578029722\" user_id=\"2790:[quote=\"sean wife\" post_id=1957060 time=1578029722 user_id=2790]
Is it that twins are extremely particular about so-called fairness? Even cutting of a piece of chocolate to share must be fair in their eyes. Or maybe more to do with the kids's nature itself.
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vividlaurel\" post_id=\"1957019\" time=\"1578017289\" user_id=\"2712:

May I ask if your twins are the same gender or different genders?

In my case, they are extremely close even though they are competitive. It's lucky that in sec school, they have taken different subject combinations, but they still have some common subjects so they do compare marks. In the plus side, they help each other while studying, so I am guessing it evens out in the end.

They also didn't want to showcase they are twins, but some friends did come to know. In my DS's case, his bestie went to the same sec school as him and so I guess he told some people. But it was not a big deal as in primary school since 99% of DS's friends didn't know DD.

I think your twins are in lower sec. If yes, they are still going through puberty, so hang in there. The bond they have will never die, they will be very close to each other once they get the competitiveness out of their systems and mature a bit more.

sean wife\" post_id=\"1957018\" time=\"1578016857\" user_id=\"2790:[quote=\"sean wife\" post_id=1957018 time=1578016857 user_id=2790]In our case, having twins in different classes did not really help to reduce any sense of competition or comparison among them. Even when they were in different classes from P1-P3, somehow classmates and teachers know they are twins, and referred them as ‘the twins’. Yes, they have different capabilities and it is stressful every time results are released. They bicker a lot, almost to the ‘water-fire cannot mix’ stage. Come to secondary school, they chose to go different schools. Logistically it’s a big change for us, since we are so used to the convenience of having them in the same school/same tuition class timings all these years. Many of their teachers were also surprised by their decision, although they also know that given their character, it is almost impossible to change their mind once they have decided on something. In my twins’ own words, they look forward to the day no one knows they have a twin. I am hoping that distance will make their heart grow fonder of each other and hopefully more peace prevails at home

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sean wife\" post_id=\"1957018\" time=\"1578016857\" user_id=\"2790:[quote=\"sean wife\" post_id=1957018 time=1578016857 user_id=2790]In our case, having twins in different classes did not really help to reduce any sense of competition or comparison among them. Even when they were in different classes from P1-P3, somehow classmates and teachers know they are twins, and referred them as ‘the twins’. Yes, they have different capabilities and it is stressful every time results are released. They bicker a lot, almost to the ‘water-fire cannot mix’ stage. Come to secondary school, they chose to go different schools. Logistically it’s a big change for us, since we are so used to the convenience of having them in the same school/same tuition class timings all these years. Many of their teachers were also surprised by their decision, although they also know that given their character, it is almost impossible to change their mind once they have decided on something. In my twins’ own words, they look forward to the day no one knows they have a twin. I am hoping that distance will make their heart grow fonder of each other and hopefully more peace prevails at home[/quote]

vividlaurel\" post_id=\"1956982\" time=\"1578011818\" user_id=\"2712:

I would suggest, as like the others that putting them different classes is the best.

I have twins (b/g) who are currently waiting for their O level results. In primary school, they were in the same school, but always in different classes. But still, inevitable comparisons would occur. Especially if they have the same teacher for a subject, or a teacher taught one of them in one year and the other in another year. They would compare both of them, more so since my son was stronger in STEM subjects and my daughter in languages and humanities. And these comparisons are inevitable since we are human. I am sure even those siblings who are not twins but study in the same school go through it. PTM was not too bad since the school would give us slots and if I finished one, I would just walk to the other class, even if it was not my time and most teachers would accommodate us.

After PSLE, they were posted to different schools and in retrospect, this was the best decision! They both bloomed in their respective schools, especially DD who always felt she was not as good as her brother in studies. Yes PTM was a bit of a hassle, but since both schools were a 10-minute walk away, we managed it for the past four years.

Both are very close to each other today and if one is away from home, the other will be antsy till the other is back.

Give your children the space to grow. Yes, they are multiples and that bond will never go away. Let them bloom individually, as they may not have the same interests in life.

Hope my perspective as a parent of multiples helps!

Imp75\" post_id=\"1956972\" time=\"1578008675\" user_id=\"2358:

how about thinking this way? Why don't parents manage their behavior instead of managing the environment? There are competition everywhere and therefore having sibling competition is not a bad thing after all ( at least they care enough to want to do better?). I can't comment on how intense is the twins competition (can't tell from post) but maybe if the twins are close enough to each other (they should be if same gender?), then actually is this competition likely to cause divide? I probably don't think so.....I feel like putting them in the same class has its benefits also...

zac's mum\" post_id=\"1956916\" time=\"1577969232\" user_id=\"53606:[quote=\"zac's mum\" post_id=1956916 time=1577969232 user_id=53606]

Estéema\" post_id=\"1956896\" time=\"1577961398\" user_id=\"66413:

I think Esteema’s suggestion to put them in different classes would be sufficient.

I know of boy/girl twins in different schools, but that’s because the father die die want son to go to his alma mater.

I also know of triplet boys intentionally placed into 3 separate classes to minimize competition. But do note that the parents are super busy every time parent-teacher meeting rolls around! Rushing to meet 3 separate sets of teachers!

At least within same school, just rush from classroom to classroom. If different schools, then rush from one school to another.

I agree. It is impractical to spend more for their transport and it is not a guarantee that they will change if one wil be transferred to another school. I could not imagine how to raise multiple births!

Estéema\" post_id=\"1956896\" time=\"1577961398\" user_id=\"66413:

GeneL1976\" post_id=\"1956875\" time=\"1577956480\" user_id=\"182958:

Hello! I would like to ask for your opinion regarding my twins. They are now P3, both are in the same class. But we have noticed that they always compete with each other. My wife and I are thinking of enrolling in different schools instead. Would that help to minimize their competition with each other?

You can request sch to assign twins in diff classes. Wasn’t this be less drastic & more convenient for parents to send kids to same sch? They might eventually share same CL teachers tho. Just saying there’s a possibility.

GeneL1976\" post_id=\"1956875\" time=\"1577956480\" user_id=\"182958:

Hello! I would like to ask for your opinion regarding my twins. They are now P3, both are in the same class. But we have noticed that they always compete with each other. My wife and I are thinking of enrolling in different schools instead. Would that help to minimize their competition with each other?

JHJC:

Hi Parents

for those of you that has multiple birth ... when your childrens were in pre school. Did you put them in same class? or is it better to seperate them? could you share why too?
Thank you.

JHJC:

Hi Parents

for those of you that has multiple birth ... when your childrens were in pre school. Did you put them in same class? or is it better to seperate them? could you share why too?
Thank you.