<![CDATA[We don't realise what we have, until it's gone....]]>Parents. The definition of parents, by Wikipedia, is "a caretaker of an offspring", but they are a lot more than that. From young already, they have brought us up into the refined, dignified people whom we are today. Their careful, gentle hands have brought us guidance, though sometimes stern, all for our well-being, and, although you might sometimes feel that you might want to exchange parents with someone else, you never know what might be going on, behind closed doors.


And, finally, when your parents reach their final resting place, in the later years, you have so many things, unsaid, that you wished you could have sat down to talk to them about, and apologise for petty matters that were overlooked by them.

The cliché, "You don’t know what you have until it’s gone", is a phrase heard in many books, and many movies. And we always see it and laugh; at the expense of whomever it is being said at. Yet, we never realise that there is truth in old sayings. There always is a simple answer to all the complex questions in life. But all too many times we choose to disregard this and ultimately regret what we did, after rashly acting based upon split moment decisions.

So, what is this obvious solution to this question? We don’t know what will happen tomorrow nor can we change what has gone, so why do things that will dredge up unpleasant memories in the future? Each precious second dissolves as each unique snowflake melts away, never to be duplicated. Isn’t it strange, that in every different snowflake, though there are billions, not even one is alike???

Everything we say, and do, should be done and said with the mind-set that if we were to not see them again, would we want to leave this lasting impression with them, that their children are not the type of people who would make the country and the people proud?

The job of a parent is to forgive and forget, to love and to learn from. Through all the trials and tribulations in life, a parent has always come through their own adversities to provide specially for you. A story comes to mind when I talk about this:

A couple was walking on a road, when they saw an old woman. She was on a wheelchair, and was struggling to pick up her bags of milk. She looked like a destitute woman. Out of goodwill, the couple decided to help her. She started to lead them to an extremely poor section of their city. She then opened whatever she brought and gave it to the people living there. When asked by the couple why she had done so, even though she needed it herself, she had said with a smile “If people who don’t even know me can help me, like you just did, then I can do the same.”

Isn’t this what parents are like? They sacrifice everything they have for us, even though they might need it themselves. Although we might think that parents are sometimes irritating in the sense that they always expect us to keep a strict sense of order and regime around the house and wherever else, they are merely doing it for our own good.

We think that since our parents are loving, and kind, and they would never be able to say no to us, but we must remember that our safety and care is the first thing at hand for them… one of the worst things a child could do is to keep them in an old age home. If our parents have cared for us so much, why can’t we repay them in thee pittance that we can do when they grow older?

Parents. Word Web defines it as a guardian of an offspring, but I think that they are the rock that keeps us rooted to the ground, the one thing we can always count on. Though one small word, the word “Parents” is a word that will be etched into our minds, and hearts, forever.

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couriers:
What a nice post to start the morning off with. Thank you for sharing

Anytime couriers 🙂 🙂

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/362641https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/362641Sat, 19 Feb 2011 04:33:02 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to We don't realise what we have, until it's gone.... on Sat, 19 Feb 2011 04:32:44 GMT]]>

sotongmom76:
Thank you so much....recently I'm having trouble with my children....today accidently I saw your post.....now I know what I've to do....I really afraid of losing them.....

Hi sotongmum, care to elaborate??

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/362640https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/362640Sat, 19 Feb 2011 04:32:44 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to We don't realise what we have, until it's gone.... on Sun, 13 Feb 2011 20:19:57 GMT]]>What a nice post to start the morning off with. Thank you for sharing

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/357474https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/357474Sun, 13 Feb 2011 20:19:57 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to We don't realise what we have, until it's gone.... on Wed, 09 Feb 2011 08:01:25 GMT]]>The relationship between parent n child is set out well in the book The Giving Tree by Shel Silverstein, where the tree (parent) always puts the needs of the child first before his own, expecting nothing in return.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/354620https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/354620Wed, 09 Feb 2011 08:01:25 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to We don't realise what we have, until it's gone.... on Wed, 09 Feb 2011 07:39:59 GMT]]>Thank you so much…recently I’m having trouble with my children…today accidently I saw your post…now I know what I’ve to do…I really afraid of losing them…

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/354589https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/354589Wed, 09 Feb 2011 07:39:59 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to We don't realise what we have, until it's gone.... on Wed, 15 Dec 2010 03:48:55 GMT]]>any other stories about parents that you guys experienced???

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/313736https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/313736Wed, 15 Dec 2010 03:48:55 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to We don't realise what we have, until it's gone.... on Sat, 11 Dec 2010 02:55:38 GMT]]>yeah, my mum does that sometimes as well.... 😞


her mum's in mumbai, and we're here in Singapore.....

most of the times, though, kids are the brunt of the quarrels, from what i've seen and heard of other parents...

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/311898https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/311898Sat, 11 Dec 2010 02:55:38 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to We don't realise what we have, until it's gone.... on Fri, 10 Dec 2010 16:32:20 GMT]]>yup, didnt realise how much i miss my parents. still cry whenever i think of them especially after a disagreement with dh.


dont forget about our kids too. always remeber to tell them that no matter what quarrels or misunderstandings we have with them, we always want them to come home. in the heat of moments, some might chase the kids out of the house so have to watch what we say in any quarrels.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/311832https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/311832Fri, 10 Dec 2010 16:32:20 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to We don't realise what we have, until it's gone.... on Fri, 10 Dec 2010 01:37:20 GMT]]>Already done, just came back from Mumbai, VERY tired from 5 hour flight... http://www.postimage.org/


GAVE dad GIANT bear hug, din see him for 2 weeks!

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/311377https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/311377Fri, 10 Dec 2010 01:37:20 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to We don't realise what we have, until it's gone.... on Wed, 08 Dec 2010 18:01:03 GMT]]>That's why it is important to quickly apologise and mend any broken ties with our parents before it's too late. Our parents are old so we never know when they might leave us for good...


Give your parents a hug today. 😄

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/310850https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/310850Wed, 08 Dec 2010 18:01:03 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to We don't realise what we have, until it's gone.... on Wed, 08 Dec 2010 14:55:08 GMT]]>

Muffins:

If our parents have cared for us so much, why can’t we repay them in thee pittance that we can do when they grow older?
If our parents have cared for us so much, some to the extend of giving up their career/social life to nurture their offsprings, in their twilight years when mobility is compromised, are we willing to take time off and financial setback to spend that last few years taking care of them personally?

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/310769https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/310769Wed, 08 Dec 2010 14:55:08 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to We don't realise what we have, until it's gone.... on Wed, 08 Dec 2010 14:53:28 GMT]]>

LKVM:
:goodpost:

:thankyou: LKVM!!! How ya been???

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/310765https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/310765Wed, 08 Dec 2010 14:53:28 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to We don't realise what we have, until it's gone.... on Wed, 08 Dec 2010 14:44:12 GMT]]>

kingster:
good read! :celebrate:

Thanks kingster!

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/310750https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/310750Wed, 08 Dec 2010 14:44:12 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to We don't realise what we have, until it's gone.... on Wed, 08 Dec 2010 09:11:16 GMT]]>good read! :celebrate:

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/310634https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/310634Wed, 08 Dec 2010 09:11:16 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to We don't realise what we have, until it's gone.... on Mon, 06 Dec 2010 07:13:08 GMT]]>thanks chatelaine!

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/309634https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/309634Mon, 06 Dec 2010 07:13:08 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to We don't realise what we have, until it's gone.... on Mon, 06 Dec 2010 05:53:18 GMT]]>:goodpost:

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/309601https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/309601Mon, 06 Dec 2010 05:53:18 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to We don't realise what we have, until it's gone.... on Mon, 06 Dec 2010 05:36:45 GMT]]>Thanks duriz, wanted my 2000th post to be something meaningful, not just any old comment or anythin (my 1000th post was actually a :lol: in the kids say the darnest things section) 😉 🙂

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/309580https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/309580Mon, 06 Dec 2010 05:36:45 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to We don't realise what we have, until it's gone.... on Mon, 06 Dec 2010 02:28:54 GMT]]>

Muffins:
“If people who don’t even know me can help me, like you just did, then I can do the same.”


Parents. Word Web defines it as a guardian of an offspring, but I think that they are the rock that keeps us rooted to the ground, the one thing we can always count on. Though one small word, the word “Parents” is a word that will be etched into our minds, and hearts, forever.
Lovely post.

Thank you for sharing Muffins.

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