<![CDATA[Vexed.... wat to do?]]>recently, i was disturbed by my colleague.


once, an unpleasant incident happened but no one knew. that day, i was wearing a white blouse with a faint stain near my chest. mebe 2 him, it was obvious he made a comment on it. i felt so uncomfortable cos tis meant he was lookin at my chest....

now, he was worse. he called mi 'Darling' when no one was in office. if tis was a joke, sori i could not take it cos to me, tis was very disgustin. he said such a greetin is 'qing qie'. oh pls... nonsense!

tis mornin, he said 'gd mornin' to mi. i ignored him and he continued 2 ask whether i was moody..

he was married with children who are teenagers.

i dunno wat to do... how 2 tell my boss or other colleagues? i was e oni ger in e office. ignorin him seems 2b useless but i do not care if our relationship turns sour since we have no work interactions.

😢 😢 😢 😢 😢 😢 😢 😢 😢 😢

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/topic/17255/vexed-wat-to-doRSS for NodeSat, 18 Apr 2026 09:28:22 GMTFri, 17 Dec 2010 02:02:38 GMT60<![CDATA[Reply to Vexed.... wat to do? on Thu, 23 Dec 2010 07:59:41 GMT]]>hi mummyjune and qizai... my supervisor had helped mi 2 warn them and now they stop their nonsense. but i still feel very er xin if tok 2 both of them cos of work or see them lol.


merry xmas and happi new yr 2 my advisors :):):):):):):):)

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/318851https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/318851Thu, 23 Dec 2010 07:59:41 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Vexed.... wat to do? on Thu, 23 Dec 2010 06:57:43 GMT]]>

northernstar:
to all my advisors here... i've reported to my supervisor le~! he said he will help mi 2 warn them! if they dun listen, he said i can tell my boss and their boss! den we see if they are scared will affect their appraisal anot lol!

Good that you've made progress on your situation.

Glad to be of some help. Merry Christmas!

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/318810https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/318810Thu, 23 Dec 2010 06:57:43 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Vexed.... wat to do? on Wed, 22 Dec 2010 04:26:19 GMT]]>

northernstar:
to all my advisors here... i've reported to my supervisor le~! he said he will help mi 2 warn them! if they dun listen, he said i can tell my boss and their boss! den we see if they are scared will affect their appraisal anot lol!

thats great! dun suffer in silence! :celebrate:

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/317850https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/317850Wed, 22 Dec 2010 04:26:19 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Vexed.... wat to do? on Tue, 21 Dec 2010 16:26:30 GMT]]>to all my advisors here… i’ve reported to my supervisor le~! he said he will help mi 2 warn them! if they dun listen, he said i can tell my boss and their boss! den we see if they are scared will affect their appraisal anot lol!

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/317070https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/317070Tue, 21 Dec 2010 16:26:30 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Vexed.... wat to do? on Tue, 21 Dec 2010 06:25:38 GMT]]>oh so i guess it’s best to get hold of all his family members’ contact no lol. wow sound so exciting lol.

den i must get my HR fren to help le lol.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/316745https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/316745Tue, 21 Dec 2010 06:25:38 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Vexed.... wat to do? on Tue, 21 Dec 2010 06:13:26 GMT]]>

northernstar:
ksi, wat a great idea u hv! but wat if he goes and change number after i get his wife's no?

Heh heh I see this coming... Home number... He needs a very good reason to tell his wife if he needs to change so many phone numbers. By then, he should know better than to trifle with you. After all he is married and has more to lose than you do.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/316741https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/316741Tue, 21 Dec 2010 06:13:26 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Vexed.... wat to do? on Tue, 21 Dec 2010 05:59:57 GMT]]>ksi, wat a great idea u hv! but wat if he goes and change number after i get his wife’s no?

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/316732https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/316732Tue, 21 Dec 2010 05:59:57 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Vexed.... wat to do? on Tue, 21 Dec 2010 05:12:42 GMT]]>

northernstar:
tks mummyjune! all of u had let mi noe that there r nicenice aunties and uncles in tis forum 😆


hi ksi, if he noes i can get his wife's no from his hp easily, dun u tink he will oso come snatch my hp and delete it away himself? if it's easier said than done.. u're v funni lol.
Alamak, what is good old paper for? For keeping backups la...
Bottomline is to keep him on his toes not to be funny with you.
So what if he deletes...naive to think everything ends with digital world....you still have the number and that is your trump card should he not behave himself!

Also, if he dares to do anything funny, pull out the phone to snap and mms to his wife. I won't spare any time dealing with such jerks and instead of making myself worry about him daily, I would rather he worries about me daily!! gd riddance to bad rubbish. :lol:

Yes I am funny indeed, just don't be funny with me in the wrong way!!! :rotflmao:

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/316704https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/316704Tue, 21 Dec 2010 05:12:42 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Vexed.... wat to do? on Tue, 21 Dec 2010 04:51:24 GMT]]>tks mummyjune! all of u had let mi noe that there r nicenice aunties and uncles in tis forum 😆


hi ksi, if he noes i can get his wife’s no from his hp easily, dun u tink he will oso come snatch my hp and delete it away himself? if it’s easier said than done… u’re v funni lol.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/316685https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/316685Tue, 21 Dec 2010 04:51:24 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Vexed.... wat to do? on Tue, 21 Dec 2010 04:34:01 GMT]]>aiya…if it’s me, this is what I will do.


Find out his wife’s contact.
If need be, I will show him his wife’s contact on my phone.

That should put him miles away if he knows roses can prick too!! :x

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/316675https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/316675Tue, 21 Dec 2010 04:34:01 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Vexed.... wat to do? on Tue, 21 Dec 2010 04:27:35 GMT]]>

northernstar:
actually, i had thought of mentioning it to my supervisor today. but he is very busy and can't even go for lunch together. but i will find a chance to do so. if not, i will send an email.


tks for ur consolation 🙂

i'm in my late 20s, haven married yet.
ya, its good that u will let yr supervisor know. u r welcome 🙂 hope things go well for you. :celebrate:

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/316666https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/316666Tue, 21 Dec 2010 04:27:35 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Vexed.... wat to do? on Tue, 21 Dec 2010 04:12:50 GMT]]>actually, i had thought of mentioning it to my supervisor today. but he is very busy and can't even go for lunch together. but i will find a chance to do so. if not, i will send an email.


tks for ur consolation 🙂

i'm in my late 20s, haven married yet.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/316654https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/316654Tue, 21 Dec 2010 04:12:50 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Vexed.... wat to do? on Tue, 21 Dec 2010 04:03:57 GMT]]>

northernstar:
oh mummyjune, ur company is so gd... will protect women 🙂 if i were u, i will find its such a nuisance to see him often..


yes, i already din talk to him much but he never got e hint haiz... i din even wanna greet him back.. but when he asked mi work thing (oni related 2 stationary), i will ans him without a smile too... i had kept a distance from him, but sometimes yuan jia lu zhai leh 😞

there's oso another sicko lor haiz... they r in e same dept..

are u disturbed if he whistled at u?
dun worry so much. if he still disturbs u, best is juz ignore him if no one is able to help u. some men r like that, sickos & perverts. if he still disturbs u during yr working hrs, tel him off, tel him u r working & he is disturbing u & u will complain him if he still continues to disturb u.

if anyone whistle at me i juz ignore be it colleagues or friends, since they know ur name why should they whistle if they need to talk to u. some men r juz trying to be funny. they tink its fun to disturb women.

btw r u very young?

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/316637https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/316637Tue, 21 Dec 2010 04:03:57 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Vexed.... wat to do? on Tue, 21 Dec 2010 03:07:52 GMT]]>oh mummyjune, ur company is so gd... will protect women 🙂 if i were u, i will find its such a nuisance to see him often..


yes, i already din talk to him much but he never got e hint haiz... i din even wanna greet him back.. but when he asked mi work thing (oni related 2 stationary), i will ans him without a smile too... i had kept a distance from him, but sometimes yuan jia lu zhai leh 😞

there's oso another sicko lor haiz... they r in e same dept..

are u disturbed if he whistled at u?

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/316589https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/316589Tue, 21 Dec 2010 03:07:52 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Vexed.... wat to do? on Tue, 21 Dec 2010 02:44:20 GMT]]>

northernstar:
wa e man who disturbed u is so thick-skinned. u oredy scolded him yet he stil continues 2b funni with u...


u tink i shd wait for a 3rd time? cos i oredy told him strictly i'm not comfortable wif wat he did to me 😞
well, cos his character is like that, abit pervert & like to disturb women. what to do, we juz ve to keep our distance from people like him. sometimes when i meet my big boss in the lift i almost want to tell him abt this man but endup never say cos i felt that such things better to inform HR 1st den trouble my big boss... unless HR never do anything den i will tell my big boss if there is a chance cos my big boss is protective towards female staff in the office.

but so far so good, even today when tat man saw me he juz smile & greet me morning, so out of courtesy i juz greet him back morning but never smile.

he still disturbing u till now? do u ve any work dealing with him? i tink its beta for u to voice out, tel him dun disturb u anymore or u will let yr boss know.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/316578https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/316578Tue, 21 Dec 2010 02:44:20 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Vexed.... wat to do? on Tue, 21 Dec 2010 02:10:16 GMT]]>wa e man who disturbed u is so thick-skinned. u oredy scolded him yet he stil continues 2b funni with u...


u tink i shd wait for a 3rd time? cos i oredy told him strictly i'm not comfortable wif wat he did to me 😞

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/316554https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/316554Tue, 21 Dec 2010 02:10:16 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Vexed.... wat to do? on Tue, 21 Dec 2010 02:04:17 GMT]]>

northernstar:
hi mummyJune, but after he apologised, will u feel awkward when seeing him or worried that he will do it again? is ur workin relationship with him affected?


hi noobparent, u're such a gd hubby 🙂

yesterday, that uncle did not call mi that name again.. but i guessed cos my male colleagues were around. now, when he comes into my office, i will be scared that he calls mi that cos i dun like...
now when i see him i will ignore him but he will try to find chance to talk to me & is always talk rubbish. now im more mean when i talk to him or i will show him black face when he talks to me etc. this type of person no need to give face. he's juz a supervisor, anything i can also complain to his HOD. fortunately for me, i seldom ve any work dealings with him, occassionally if there is, i will juz strictly talk business with him. when he tries to get funny i will scold him. for example there was once when he took a camera & wanted to take pic of me, immediately i scolded him loudly(loud enough for all my colleagues to hear), i told him if he dares to take pic of me i will sue him for harressment. he was abit paiseh & said softly 'no la juz joking with u only'.

hey, if tat uncle still try to disturb u, dun b too nice to him. perverts like these usually like to test water on harmless women. if he tries to be funny, u ve to voice out & protect yrself.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/316549https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/316549Tue, 21 Dec 2010 02:04:17 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Vexed.... wat to do? on Tue, 21 Dec 2010 01:41:32 GMT]]>is blowing a virtutal kiss a kind of harassment too?

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/316533https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/316533Tue, 21 Dec 2010 01:41:32 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Vexed.... wat to do? on Tue, 21 Dec 2010 00:55:43 GMT]]>hi mummyJune, but after he apologised, will u feel awkward when seeing him or worried that he will do it again? is ur workin relationship with him affected?


hi noobparent, u're such a gd hubby 🙂

yesterday, that uncle did not call mi that name again.. but i guessed cos my male colleagues were around. now, when he comes into my office, i will be scared that he calls mi that cos i dun like...

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/316497https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/316497Tue, 21 Dec 2010 00:55:43 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Vexed.... wat to do? on Mon, 20 Dec 2010 10:06:29 GMT]]>

mummyJune:
noobparent= ya but he apologised after i stopped him. i did told my HOD abt this matter, she told me if he does it again she will let the big boss know.


northernstar= yes, im fortunate to ve good colleagues cos my office has more female den male, the male colleagues are not usually in the office.
Good. Since he apologised and I assume he is sincere about it, no harm giving him a second chance.

But such things should not be tolerated.

If anybody dares to do this to my dear wifey, I'll get him hanged.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/316252https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/316252Mon, 20 Dec 2010 10:06:29 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Vexed.... wat to do? on Mon, 20 Dec 2010 06:47:00 GMT]]>noobparent= ya but he apologised after i stopped him. i did told my HOD abt this matter, she told me if he does it again she will let the big boss know.


northernstar= yes, im fortunate to ve good colleagues cos my office has more female den male, the male colleagues are not usually in the office.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/316137https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/316137Mon, 20 Dec 2010 06:47:00 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Vexed.... wat to do? on Mon, 20 Dec 2010 06:30:24 GMT]]>hi noobparent, tks for ur acticle.. so far we did not have any physical contact and i also tried to avoid that. i do not have other female colleagues or boss unfortunately.


hi 3Boys, i wont report to HR but i will report to my supervisor first and sees how it goes after i warn this pervert and he doesn'tt stop his nonsense.

hi mrswongtuition, tks for sharing ur story.. so far he 'anyhow' calls mi when no one is around so i do not have any witness.

hi mummyJune, tks for sharing ur experience.. u're so lucky to have such gd colleagues who cooperate 2 help u. are they all men or women? like qizai mentioned, shouting and staring at tis kind of sicko dun help much 😜 so i must have some ACTION.

i reli appreciate all of your advices 🙂 will update u all if he continues his behavior tks all 😄

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/316129https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/316129Mon, 20 Dec 2010 06:30:24 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Vexed.... wat to do? on Mon, 20 Dec 2010 05:55:03 GMT]]>

mummyJune:
i used to be disturbed by this male colleague. he always talk to me in a cheeky tone & whenever he sees me goes to the toilet he will follow me, trying to grab a chance to talk to me, even wait for me outside the toilet. he's married with 2 teenage kids. once he show me a pic of his dog, stand very near to me & all the sudden touch somewhere close to my chest, i was in shock! i stopped him & quickly walk away. i was so upset i told my hubby abt it, he advise me to talk to my boss.


endup i had enough i told all my colleagues, my HR & my HOD abt him. fortunately they knew how 'perverted' he was, they all gang up & scolded him for harassing me, my HR even ask the boss is tat male colleague very free, why always go around distrub women in the office. after this incident some of my colleagues told me when theres no one around he will disturb some female colleagues like how he did to me.

my HOD even told me to shout at him if he comes near to me. from then on, whenever he talks to me rubbish or in a cheeky tone i will talk loudly to him if he dares to disturb me i will tell the big boss. so far so good, now he left me alone, although at times he will still try his luck but i juz ignore him or give him a FIERCE STARE.
He touched you?

You could have made a Police report already. He would likely have been convicted of outrage of modesty.

The law is very strict on this. Outrage of modesty is a super serious offence.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/316115https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/316115Mon, 20 Dec 2010 05:55:03 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Vexed.... wat to do? on Mon, 20 Dec 2010 05:41:03 GMT]]>i used to be disturbed by this male colleague. he always talk to me in a cheeky tone & whenever he sees me goes to the toilet he will follow me, trying to grab a chance to talk to me, even wait for me outside the toilet. he’s married with 2 teenage kids. once he show me a pic of his dog, stand very near to me & all the sudden touch somewhere close to my chest, i was in shock! i stopped him & quickly walk away. i was so upset i told my hubby abt it, he advise me to talk to my boss.


endup i had enough i told all my colleagues, my HR & my HOD abt him. fortunately they knew how ‘perverted’ he was, they all gang up & scolded him for harassing me, my HR even ask the boss is tat male colleague very free, why always go around distrub women in the office. after this incident some of my colleagues told me when theres no one around he will disturb some female colleagues like how he did to me.

my HOD even told me to shout at him if he comes near to me. from then on, whenever he talks to me rubbish or in a cheeky tone i will talk loudly to him if he dares to disturb me i will tell the big boss. so far so good, now he left me alone, although at times he will still try his luck but i juz ignore him or give him a FIERCE STARE.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/316102https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/316102Mon, 20 Dec 2010 05:41:03 GMT