Should twins be in the same class in secondary school?

Reply to Should twins be in the same class in secondary school? on Wed, 07 Mar 2012 03:44:50 GMT

twinsgirls — Wed, 07 Mar 2012 03:44:50 GMT

I would like to seek advise from anyone with Twins daughters or sons in this forum, whether is it good for them to go different secondary school or the same secondary school if their PSLE marks are different quite a lot. thanks in advance for your advise.

Reply to Should twins be in the same class in secondary school? on Thu, 01 Dec 2011 03:05:50 GMT

VALyap — Thu, 01 Dec 2011 03:05:50 GMT

I have twins too! The general feedback from parents of twins and adult twins (their grown up stories), is to separate them in different class. Why? was told that, the form teachers & friends will compare the twins, this will put tremendous pressure and unfair (cognitive development) to them in games & academics etc….! Even at home, the twins are competing with each other everyday, be it piano & games! Hence, since K1, I requested to separate my beloved twins.

Reply to Should twins be in the same class in secondary school? on Thu, 01 Dec 2011 00:08:31 GMT

pinkapple — Thu, 01 Dec 2011 00:08:31 GMT

oliveminx:
... Academically, it's the luck of the draw, eg. one gets better teachers and the other gets worse teachers.

Yup. that's one possible benefit of having them in diff classes. then if one gets a not-so-good teacher, the other can help and share what his \"better\" teacher has taught him.

Reply to Should twins be in the same class in secondary school? on Thu, 01 Dec 2011 00:06:44 GMT

pinkapple — Thu, 01 Dec 2011 00:06:44 GMT

beemer:
As parent of twins myself, I see it is beneficial to separate them. This will eliminate the risk of the weaker one comparing the result with his/her stronger sibling. Trust me, they compare. Often, this has adverse effect on developing an inferior complex or stereotyped which is an irreversible effect.

different class also will compare since it's the same common test right?

Reply to Should twins be in the same class in secondary school? on Wed, 30 Nov 2011 14:50:46 GMT

beemer — Wed, 30 Nov 2011 14:50:46 GMT

As parent of twins myself, I see it is beneficial to separate them. This will eliminate the risk of the weaker one comparing the result with his/her stronger sibling. Trust me, they compare. Often, this has adverse effect on developing an inferior complex or stereotyped which is an irreversible effect.

Reply to Should twins be in the same class in secondary school? on Wed, 30 Nov 2011 07:43:39 GMT

oliveminx — Wed, 30 Nov 2011 07:43:39 GMT

Ah Yen:
Most guys are confused - like which one should they choose and on what ground since they look so similar?

Guys dun pick girls just based on looks. Maybe yes when they are younger and immature. But if they are that superficial, the relationship won't last so no big loss.

My observation is that twins who go to different classes develop differently because of different experiences. While you want them to have their own friends, I think it's important that they have mutual friends as well. Academically, it's the luck of the draw, eg. one gets better teachers and the other gets worse teachers.

Reply to Should twins be in the same class in secondary school? on Wed, 30 Nov 2011 05:19:00 GMT

Ah Yen — Wed, 30 Nov 2011 05:19:00 GMT

Being a twin myself and having go through same school and class (except in secondary sch) with my younger twin sister, I feel the best is if we had gone to different sch.

One of the twins tend to rely on another for social circle etc usually the older one which makes the older twin less sociable. You can’t tell that the person is less sociable from outwards but the person does feel inadequate when she grows up and has to make friends. Another valid reason to go separate school is that they will then be more popular with the opposite sex. Most guys are confused - like which one should they choose and on what ground since they look so similar?

Reply to Should twins be in the same class in secondary school? on Sat, 25 Dec 2010 13:59:35 GMT

Dreamybee — Sat, 25 Dec 2010 13:59:35 GMT

Merry Christmas to all!

I think I will let them go different classes n see hw. If the school separates them, I will b comparing the teachers, their hmwk n teaching style…

It might b gd to treat them as an individual rather than being twins…

Reply to Should twins be in the same class in secondary school? on Sat, 25 Dec 2010 03:58:02 GMT

autolycus — Sat, 25 Dec 2010 03:58:02 GMT

Professionally, I’d say you should ask for them to be put them in different classes. They will probably get together after school and during recess anyway, and learn more than if they were both in the same class learning the same thing the same way twice over.

In the end, they will have richer experiences separately while at least being in the same building!

Reply to Should twins be in the same class in secondary school? on Sat, 25 Dec 2010 00:06:52 GMT

ycpang — Sat, 25 Dec 2010 00:06:52 GMT

I believe you could make special request to school to put them in the same class. Having say that, It may not be a bad thing for them to be in different class.

Reply to Should twins be in the same class in secondary school? on Fri, 24 Dec 2010 23:52:46 GMT

ksasalways — Fri, 24 Dec 2010 23:52:46 GMT

Firstly, merry Christmas to you.

Back to ur question, what exactly is ur concern if the two will be in diff class?