<![CDATA[Ok to carry kids' sch bags when picking them up from sch?]]>I pick ds from his sch daily. I observed that a lot of parents will help carry their kids’ sch bags to their cars. I refused to do that cos I’m paranoid that this will encourage ds to be reliant on me in future.


Qn: Am I paranoid?

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/topic/18597/ok-to-carry-kids-sch-bags-when-picking-them-up-from-schRSS for NodeWed, 22 Apr 2026 12:14:05 GMTSat, 22 Jan 2011 14:56:41 GMT60<![CDATA[Reply to Ok to carry kids' sch bags when picking them up from sch? on Mon, 24 Jan 2011 05:58:50 GMT]]>I carried my dd’s bag after we pick her up from school. Their bags are just too heavy now. Maybe when she is in upper pri, will get her to carry her own bag.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/343591https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/343591Mon, 24 Jan 2011 05:58:50 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Ok to carry kids' sch bags when picking them up from sch? on Mon, 24 Jan 2011 05:44:05 GMT]]>

HappyFaye:
My action differs from my answer :oops:


I do not carry for them if the kids walks for short distances. However, when I fetch them from school which takes more than 20-minutes walk, I tend to carry for them...
I don't carry school bag for my two kids since P2 unless they need to carry extra bag or long walking distance. Used to see this mother of two(P4 boy and P5 girl) carry 2 school bags+2 water bottles (front and back) everyday and children just follow behind with “hands free”… .\"super mum\"!!

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markfch:
janet_lee88:


Same here...mummy can do some exercise 'carrying weights' walking him to school. He's only 24kg and his bag is ridiculously heavy. My petite neighbour lets her son carry his own school bag as she can't carry it.

Your P5 boy only 24kg? Yours and Jen's boys are really very light-weighted by my standard. If my ds is so thin, FIL will give me grief everytime I visit him.

Yup...he's skinny even though he can polish off 2 bowls of rice each meal. He eats a lot and nibbles every now and then...but his metabolism is high. He can finish one container of pineapple tarts if I don't control him. As long as he's happy and healthy, I'm ok.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/343381https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/343381Mon, 24 Jan 2011 03:29:58 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Ok to carry kids' sch bags when picking them up from sch? on Mon, 24 Jan 2011 03:20:17 GMT]]>My action differs from my answer :oops:


I do not carry for them if the kids walks for short distances. However, when I fetch them from school which takes more than 20-minutes walk, I tend to carry for them...

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Chenonceau:
Grandma brings a cloth bag along when she brings Little Boy home by public transport. She then takes out a few books from his bag to lighten it. That way, his load is lighter but he is still carrying his own bag.

Somehow I think your mum & I share the same child upbringing philosophy 😄 .

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janet_lee88:

Same here...mummy can do some exercise 'carrying weights' walking him to school. He's only 24kg and his bag is ridiculously heavy. My petite neighbour lets her son carry his own school bag as she can't carry it.
Your P5 boy only 24kg? Yours and Jen's boys are really very light-weighted by my standard. If my ds is so thin, FIL will give me grief everytime I visit him.

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keroppi:
I don't carry my kids' bags - not even when they are in lower primary. I drive my kids to/from school so they only need to walk a limited distance. If their bags are heavy, then they'll need to do something about it, eg. leave non-core subject books like art, music, drawing blocks, etc in school.


I am more concerned with my own back at this age.
I am bugging my son to open up by asking his teacher for the locker key...books like Music, Social Studies, Health Education and exercise books should be left in school. If he can take out all these extras, it will be much much lighter.

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Jennifer:
Now that I send my P4 boy to sch via public tpt daily, I will carry his bag in the morning as we need to cross 2 overhead bridges. When going home, he carries it unless it is really heavy. My boy weighs only 22 kg.
Your P4 boy only weighs 22kg? My P1 boy is already 25kg and growing. Now I know what you meant by describing your 2 boys as scrawny.

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keroppi:
I am more concerned with my own back at this age.

That's a good one. If we don't take care of ourselves, how can we can take of our children right? :celebrate:

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/343185https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/343185Mon, 24 Jan 2011 00:40:22 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Ok to carry kids' sch bags when picking them up from sch? on Mon, 24 Jan 2011 00:39:44 GMT]]>Grandma brings a cloth bag along when she brings Little Boy home by public transport. She then takes out a few books from his bag to lighten it. That way, his load is lighter but he is still carrying his own bag.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/343184https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/343184Mon, 24 Jan 2011 00:39:44 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Ok to carry kids' sch bags when picking them up from sch? on Mon, 24 Jan 2011 00:33:22 GMT]]>I don’t carry my kids’ bags - not even when they are in lower primary. I drive my kids to/from school so they only need to walk a limited distance. If their bags are heavy, then they’ll need to do something about it, eg. leave non-core subject books like art, music, drawing blocks, etc in school.


I am more concerned with my own back at this age.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/343182https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/343182Mon, 24 Jan 2011 00:33:22 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Ok to carry kids' sch bags when picking them up from sch? on Mon, 24 Jan 2011 00:33:17 GMT]]>

Jennifer:
Now that I send my P4 boy to sch via public tpt daily, I will carry his bag in the morning as we need to cross 2 overhead bridges. When going home, he carries it unless it is really heavy. My boy weighs only 22 kg.


Once I fetched my elder boy home, I also carried his bag after he complained of shoulder ache (that day PE was vigorious push up, chin up etc). His weight just hits 41 kg.

I am definitely more chubby that both of them :lol:
Same here...mummy can do some exercise 'carrying weights' walking him to school. He's only 24kg and his bag is ridiculously heavy. My petite neighbour lets her son carry his own school bag as she can't carry it.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/343181https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/343181Mon, 24 Jan 2011 00:33:17 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Ok to carry kids' sch bags when picking them up from sch? on Mon, 24 Jan 2011 00:05:50 GMT]]>Now that I send my P4 boy to sch via public tpt daily, I will carry his bag in the morning as we need to cross 2 overhead bridges. When going home, he carries it unless it is really heavy. My boy weighs only 22 kg.


Once I fetched my elder boy home, I also carried his bag after he complained of shoulder ache (that day PE was vigorious push up, chin up etc). His weight just hits 41 kg.

I am definitely more chubby that both of them :lol:

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sleepy:
jtoh:

Your P3 dd is 37kg heavier than you? You must be super slim!



oops, left out the comma
She's 37kg, more chubby than me (based on BMI) :lol:

Phew! I was imagining this super slim mummy with her P3 dd towering over her.

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sleepy:
jtoh:

Your P3 dd is 37kg heavier than you? You must be super slim!



oops, left out the comma
She's 37kg, more chubby than me (based on BMI) :lol:

:lol: :lol:

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/343014https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/343014Sun, 23 Jan 2011 14:24:52 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Ok to carry kids' sch bags when picking them up from sch? on Sun, 23 Jan 2011 14:20:58 GMT]]>

jtoh:
Your P3 dd is 37kg heavier than you? You must be super slim!


oops, left out the comma
She's 37kg, more chubby than me (based on BMI) :lol:

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/343009https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/343009Sun, 23 Jan 2011 14:20:58 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Ok to carry kids' sch bags when picking them up from sch? on Sun, 23 Jan 2011 14:20:41 GMT]]>From the poll, 10 forummers said ‘yes’ and 6 said ‘no’. That’s consistent with my observation.


In view of health concern raised by vk2010 I may revert to carrying the sch bag for ds. But I’ll make sure that he carries something as well. It shouldn’t be old dad is carrying everything and ds is dancing around hands-free. Very particular dad I must be.

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sleepy:
My P1 will insist to carry her bag, claim that it's not heavy at all. We walk to school 7 minutes by foot. Her reason - she doesn't want to burden me with her school bag. Oh so sweet :love:


My P3 shoved me her bag when she was in P1/2. Since school reopened, I refused to carry her bag for her anymore. She's still trying her luck everyday though, would tell me her bag is oh soooooooo heavy. Alamak, she's 37kg more chubby than me, I'm sure she's strong enough to carry her school bag 😐
Your P3 dd is 37kg heavier than you? You must be super slim!

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sleepy:
My P1 will insist to carry her bag, claim that it's not heavy at all. We walk to school 7 minutes by foot. Her reason - she doesn't want to burden me with her school bag. Oh so sweet :love:


My P3 shoved me her bag when she was in P1/2. Since school reopened, I refused to carry her bag for her anymore. She's still trying her luck everyday though, would tell me her bag is oh soooooooo heavy. Alamak, she's 37kg more chubby than me, I'm sure she's strong enough to carry her school bag 😐
Hehehe, your DD's so cute. Testing water huh? 😉

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/342893https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/342893Sun, 23 Jan 2011 13:24:08 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Ok to carry kids' sch bags when picking them up from sch? on Sun, 23 Jan 2011 12:56:33 GMT]]>My P1 will insist to carry her bag, claim that it's not heavy at all. We walk to school 7 minutes by foot. Her reason - she doesn't want to burden me with her school bag. Oh so sweet :love:


My P3 shoved me her bag when she was in P1/2. Since school reopened, I refused to carry her bag for her anymore. She's still trying her luck everyday though, would tell me her bag is oh soooooooo heavy. Alamak, she's 37kg more chubby than me, I'm sure she's strong enough to carry her school bag 😐

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/342851https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/342851Sun, 23 Jan 2011 12:56:33 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Ok to carry kids' sch bags when picking them up from sch? on Sun, 23 Jan 2011 12:02:40 GMT]]>I have been carrying my DD's bag from the car to the back gate and vice versa as their bags are just too heavy and being P1s and P2s, they are too tiny to call such a heavy load. So as far as I can minimise her load (even for that few steps), I will do so. DH and I are worried that the heavy load will cause her to slouch or hunch.


BUT, I have just decided that since she is in Pri 3 now, she should be carrying her own bag. Hence, from tomorrow onwards, she has to carry her own bag. Mornings are fine, since I drop her doorstep in school. 😉 😉

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/342772https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/342772Sun, 23 Jan 2011 12:02:40 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Ok to carry kids' sch bags when picking them up from sch? on Sun, 23 Jan 2011 11:54:02 GMT]]>

carebear:
sall:

I think it's ok to carry bags for them, when they're a bit older, they would automatically reject your offer, cos they feel embarrassed. They dun even want you to pick them from school. So dun have to worry about training them to be independent.


Hahahaha.... u r rite sall!
My DS1 who is in S2 will carry his own bag to the car even if i offer to carry it for him.
He will offer to carry the grocery for me too.
I think as parents, if we offer to carry their bags for them when they are young, they will follow our example when they are older to help us carry things 😄 !

it is teaching by example, helping a needy person in need, regardless of age

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sall:
I think it's ok to carry bags for them, when they're a bit older, they would automatically reject your offer, cos they feel embarrassed. They dun even want you to pick them from school. So dun have to worry about training them to be independent.

Hahahaha.... u r rite sall!
My DS1 who is in S2 will carry his own bag to the car even if i offer to carry it for him.
He will offer to carry the grocery for me too.
I think as parents, if we offer to carry their bags for them when they are young, they will follow our example when they are older to help us carry things 😄 !

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/342717https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/342717Sun, 23 Jan 2011 10:53:06 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Ok to carry kids' sch bags when picking them up from sch? on Sun, 23 Jan 2011 07:49:01 GMT]]>I think it’s ok to carry bags for them, when they’re a bit older, they would automatically reject your offer, cos they feel embarrassed. They dun even want you to pick them from school. So dun have to worry about training them to be independent.

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