<![CDATA[Dilemma - to work extremely hard or to relax?]]>Third week into school re-open, my P5 DS already has 3-4 days staying back in school till 5.30pm every week. By the time he reaches home, he is exhausted but he still has school work to be done after dinner.


He never needed to do school work at night for the past 4 years.

We had a talk during the December holidays about the different secondary schools and their niche learning environment. He was very by Hwa Chong & NUS High's IT environment and set his mind to achieve 260 for PSLE. He is average in Chinese ~ 80% for his past 4 years exam results. So he asked me to help him improve his Chinese.

I planned out a daily programme for him to revise but have never the chance to execute it because of his busy schedule.

Chinese is not a subject that can do last minute work and the worst thing is - he has no interest in Chinese.

I am stressed by looking at this busy schedule - Robotic training, scrabble training, preparation for stamp competition, Maths Olympiad etc. I love the different exposure he has and he loves the challenge too. But we just simply have no time to work on Chinese.

I asked him just now if he could accept his Chinese to be 60% - 70% for his SA1 due to lack of revision. He is not willing to.

If I were to go according to my plan, I think he could maintain ~80%. But it will be very stressful for both of us during this period of time. But if I don't work with him, he doesn't like to accept the low mark.

Should I stress him (and myself) or should I let nature takes its cause?

Tough decision :frustrated:

Anyone know of any Chinese teacher or centre that offers daily programme during June & Dec Holidays ? think this is a better timing for him.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/topic/18654/dilemma-to-work-extremely-hard-or-to-relaxRSS for NodeThu, 23 Apr 2026 22:30:51 GMTMon, 24 Jan 2011 09:27:13 GMT60<![CDATA[Reply to Dilemma - to work extremely hard or to relax? on Sat, 26 Mar 2011 08:30:37 GMT]]>There are many channels to learn resilience, confidence, self-motivation, etc. which not necessary must be through CCAs…

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/386296https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/386296Sat, 26 Mar 2011 08:30:37 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Dilemma - to work extremely hard or to relax? on Wed, 23 Mar 2011 08:09:03 GMT]]>

HappyFaye:
I asked him just now if he could accept his Chinese to be 60% - 70% for his SA1 due to lack of revision. He is not willing to.


If I were to go according to my plan, I think he could maintain ~80%. But it will be very stressful for both of us during this period of time. But if I don't work with him, he doesn't like to accept the low mark.

Should I stress him (and myself) or should I let nature takes its cause?
Drop the non essential CCAs. CCA in my opinion is \"extra\". It's good to have as long it doesn't interfer with academics and rest time.

I pulled my dd from orchestra due to the intensive training requirement in school. However, she loves the instrument she played in orchestra. To save time, I engage a music teacher for her instead so that she can continue to pursue her interest with flexibility. We worked around her schedule, beats being stuck in school twice a week in compulsory group practice

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/384262https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/384262Wed, 23 Mar 2011 08:09:03 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Dilemma - to work extremely hard or to relax? on Wed, 23 Mar 2011 06:56:31 GMT]]>

meiah:
HappyFaye:

I have come to term with it - it is ok to have not-so good grade for a while. After all, PSLE is just one of the many exams. I hope I won't regret later on


I think I'm not going to be too bothered with my ds2 psle scores in future. After bugging ds1 and everything, I realise that no matter how you do in primary sch, you still get promoted to a sec sch. It is then in sec sch that will decide your path in future.

So as long as my ds2 can do well enough to go to the express stream, I think I'll be happy already. Then I'll pump in tuition for him at Sec 2.

Cos for my ds1, even though he did relatively well, he still 'almost die' in Sec 1 and I still have to find ways to help him. And it's only term 1!


I tend to think that success in future has got more to do with the resilience, confidence, self-motivation etc of a child. Perhaps these are what the CCAs & other activities can help develop more than mugging can? I don't know... As an adult looking around & back, the importance of my PSLE score seemed to have faded... But as always, balance is the hardest thing to achieve in parenting.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/384205https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/384205Wed, 23 Mar 2011 06:56:31 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Dilemma - to work extremely hard or to relax? on Wed, 23 Mar 2011 06:56:26 GMT]]>

meiah:
HappyFaye:

I have come to term with it - it is ok to have not-so good grade for a while. After all, PSLE is just one of the many exams. I hope I won't regret later on


I think I'm not going to be too bothered with my ds2 psle scores in future. After bugging ds1 and everything, I realise that no matter how you do in primary sch, you still get promoted to a sec sch. It is then in sec sch that will decide your path in future.

So as long as my ds2 can do well enough to go to the express stream, I think I'll be happy already. Then I'll pump in tuition for him at Sec 2.

Cos for my ds1, even though he did relatively well, he still 'almost die' in Sec 1 and I still have to find ways to help him. And it's only term 1!


I tend to think that success in future has got more to do with the resilience, confidence, self-motivation etc of a child. Perhaps these are what the CCAs & other activities can help develop more than mugging can? I don't know... As an adult looking around & back, the importance of my PSLE score seemed to have faded... But as always, balance is the hardest thing to achieve in parenting.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/384204https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/384204Wed, 23 Mar 2011 06:56:26 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Dilemma - to work extremely hard or to relax? on Tue, 22 Mar 2011 16:09:08 GMT]]>Same sentiments … why give yourself a chance to regret later on …


You sow what you reap …

Good luck

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/383813https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/383813Tue, 22 Mar 2011 16:09:08 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Dilemma - to work extremely hard or to relax? on Mon, 21 Mar 2011 14:41:21 GMT]]>Don’t be silly. Work on the Chinese, like right now.


You have to work with the end in mind - PSLE.

Who gives a sh*t about stamp competition and whatever else. Those won’t get you the 260 for PSLE.

And you know what? If you don’t drill the Chinese, coming from english speaking home, you won’t be able to score.

You want results, you need to invest the resources (i.e. time) in the right places.

The other CCAs can wait.

That’s my view.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/383165https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/383165Mon, 21 Mar 2011 14:41:21 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Dilemma - to work extremely hard or to relax? on Mon, 21 Mar 2011 10:48:56 GMT]]>

HappyFaye:
I have come to term with it - it is ok to have not-so good grade for a while. After all, PSLE is just one of the many exams. I hope I won't regret later on

I think I'm not going to be too bothered with my ds2 psle scores in future. After bugging ds1 and everything, I realise that no matter how you do in primary sch, you still get promoted to a sec sch. It is then in sec sch that will decide your path in future.

So as long as my ds2 can do well enough to go to the express stream, I think I'll be happy already. Then I'll pump in tuition for him at Sec 2.

Cos for my ds1, even though he did relatively well, he still 'almost die' in Sec 1 and I still have to find ways to help him. And it's only term 1!

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/383051https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/383051Mon, 21 Mar 2011 10:48:56 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Dilemma - to work extremely hard or to relax? on Mon, 21 Feb 2011 13:42:03 GMT]]>:celebrate:

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/364024https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/364024Mon, 21 Feb 2011 13:42:03 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Dilemma - to work extremely hard or to relax? on Mon, 21 Feb 2011 11:02:17 GMT]]>

HappyFaye:
I have come to term with it - it is ok to have not-so good grade for a while. After all, PSLE is just one of the many exams. I hope I won't regret later on 🙏

Wow I cannot believe I've \"met\" another mum who feels this way! :celebrate:

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/363960https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/363960Mon, 21 Feb 2011 11:02:17 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Dilemma - to work extremely hard or to relax? on Mon, 21 Feb 2011 09:45:17 GMT]]>I have come to term with it - it is ok to have not-so good grade for a while. After all, PSLE is just one of the many exams. I hope I won't regret later on 🙏

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/363879https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/363879Mon, 21 Feb 2011 09:45:17 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Dilemma - to work extremely hard or to relax? on Mon, 21 Feb 2011 09:01:13 GMT]]>HappyFaye,


I can relate to this.

DD is also in P5 and has been doing consistently well (P1 to 4) thru regular revision.

We also made time-table etc for her… but there is simply too much homework so no time to revise!

Homework, to me, is not helping her at all. AND the jump from P4 to P5 is big… all the more she would like to revise her weak areas but how to when homework takes most of the time.

I do not want her to be stay up late after completing her tons of homework. Her health comes first. Yes, even if it means her grades will be affected.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/363829https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/363829Mon, 21 Feb 2011 09:01:13 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Dilemma - to work extremely hard or to relax? on Mon, 07 Feb 2011 07:58:47 GMT]]>The best way for your child to improve Chinese, under such circumstances, is to communicate in Chinese with anyone who is able to understand the language. Otherwise, there is a number of tuition centers offer June holiday workshops.


Encourage your child to go to the library each recess and read more advanced Chinese novels or newspapers. That’s another way.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/352858https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/352858Mon, 07 Feb 2011 07:58:47 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Dilemma - to work extremely hard or to relax? on Thu, 03 Feb 2011 03:17:51 GMT]]>Thank you!

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/351848https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/351848Thu, 03 Feb 2011 03:17:51 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Dilemma - to work extremely hard or to relax? on Wed, 02 Feb 2011 08:18:17 GMT]]>my friend passed me that book but i think its sold in popular bkshop.

that bk is based on old psle syllabus but the content is still valid in terms of the emotional and other aspects of the preparation

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/351704https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/351704Wed, 02 Feb 2011 08:18:17 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Dilemma - to work extremely hard or to relax? on Wed, 02 Feb 2011 01:02:59 GMT]]>Thanks for your input. May I know where I can get the book you recommended?


Will have to talk to my DS on his preference

Happy Chinese New Year!

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/351454https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/351454Wed, 02 Feb 2011 01:02:59 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Dilemma - to work extremely hard or to relax? on Tue, 01 Feb 2011 16:20:09 GMT]]>maybe just focus on those skills he will get to learn at work in future, eg language


for me, i still worry abt psle,

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/351385https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/351385Tue, 01 Feb 2011 16:20:09 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Dilemma - to work extremely hard or to relax? on Tue, 01 Feb 2011 15:43:21 GMT]]>Thanks 24-Hr mum.


I just had a talk to his form teacher and she mentioned that P5 is the level where student will be involved in many school activities cos every schools believes that P5 is the best age for them to learn and grasp as much knowledge due to their maturity level. This is the level where they develop most in terms of life skills like leadership and people skills if given great exposure. She said more to come for students they believe can excel not only academically. My DS just told me enthusiastically that he is involved in debating training…

I guess I have to give him and myself more time to adjust…

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/351323https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/351323Tue, 01 Feb 2011 15:43:21 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Dilemma - to work extremely hard or to relax? on Mon, 31 Jan 2011 23:37:59 GMT]]>what abt cancelling some less essential activities eg scrabble or stamp competition? u can always hv such activities during sch holidays…


there is a bk: how i helped my child score in psle. go get n read. interesting.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/350430https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/350430Mon, 31 Jan 2011 23:37:59 GMT