fussyMummy:

AC:

.... Hope i can be of some help to you. PM me.. perhaps i can offer u some adv. (pray )

Hi AC,

Dont PM can..

Share share your adv too... please

Or else, I am going to PM you, very soon..

sotongmom76:

2) Ya, I should be all alone. Cause I've been married to Malaysia for 13yrs, so we are not so close.

3Boys:

sotongmom76:

I had a great cry alone by myself and was sleepless the whole nite. So I intent to have a talk with his teacher and see how can we work together.

I'll be strong and try to pay the dets which I had owned to the SP, HDB and phone line. Then from there, I'm going to plan out everything again, and be more hardworking looking for home based job which I can do in the nite and weekends.

Is your hubby(ex?) paying any child maintenance? Perhaps get him to understand your children's situation.

AC:

.... Hope i can be of some help to you. PM me.. perhaps i can offer u some adv. (pray )

sotongmom76:

As from my last tropic, I'm a single mom with four malaysian children. We've resettled back to singapore since dec 2009.


I've not been working for the last 13yrs. So now I've started working and my children are schooling.

In the 1st place, I tot that everything will goes right and smoothly but think I was wrong now when I received a call yesterday and just saw a post \"You don't know what you have until it’s gone\".

Last year I'm working as a clerk with salary of S$1,300 without CPF. So it's not enough to cover the expenses espically the children are foregin. I've taken up another job as a part time cashier at nite. As to make the timing properly, I've talk to my boss, that I'll be working 8am to 4pm so I would be able to start work at 5pm till 10pm there.

She had agreed but of course, with my salary down to S$1,000 with CPF.

I really tot everything will be fine as I had a good talk with my children tat they'll take care of themselves.

BUT I had received a call from the science teacher that my P6 son is getting lazy and didn't pass up homework and even telling lies.

I was really stunned....my mind was blank striaght.

I don't know what to do....cause, if I don't work the part time cashier, then we'll have not enough money to surive.

If I continue working, then I'll lost connection with my children.

I know that my children are quite indepentant but I felt sorry that they don't have a dad and now it seems like they don't have a mom too.

I've a P6 son going to have his PSLE, and things really croop out different as I've planned.

What can I do?????????????????

sotongmom76:

....I'll be strong and try to pay the dets which I had owned to the SP, HDB and phone line. Then from there, I'm going to plan out everything again, and be more hardworking looking for home based job which I can do in the nite and weekends.

3Boys:

Is your hubby(ex?) paying any child maintenance? Perhaps get him to understand your children's situation.

sotongmom76:

Thanks parent who came in here to advise and encourage me!

Yesterday I and my P6 boy had a talk. Because out of a sudden he told me that he wanted to go back to his dad's place.

I knew that he's not really willing to go back to his dad's place, so we had a talk just him and I.

Found out that, he said he's going to give himself up because he don't know whether he can make it through PSLE and he's unwilling going to school.

Because he felt sorry that he didn't do his homework and telling lies to him and felt that he had let his P5 teacher and P6 teacher down. He said he can't help being lazy and want to play. He said that since Monday, he don't have recess until the last 5 mins because his teacher asked him to stay in the class to read his Sci.

THEN, I realise that I'm TOTALLY WRONG. Ya, totally wrong. So now I think that I should give up my nite job, and spend times with the kids. I had told my other 3 children, they said that it's ok even through that they can eat bread or white rice.

I had a great cry alone by myself and was sleepless the whole nite. So I intent to have a talk with his teacher and see how can we work together.

I'll be strong and try to pay the dets which I had owned to the SP, HDB and phone line. Then from there, I'm going to plan out everything again, and be more hardworking looking for home based job which I can do in the nite and weekends.

sotongmom76:

I had a great cry alone by myself and was sleepless the whole nite. So I intent to have a talk with his teacher and see how can we work together.

I'll be strong and try to pay the dets which I had owned to the SP, HDB and phone line. Then from there, I'm going to plan out everything again, and be more hardworking looking for home based job which I can do in the nite and weekends.

sotongmom76:

Thanks parent who came in here to advise and encourage me!


Yesterday I and my P6 boy had a talk. Because out of a sudden he told me that he wanted to go back to his dad's place.

I knew that he's not really willing to go back to his dad's place, so we had a talk just him and I.

Found out that, he said he's going to give himself up because he don't know whether he can make it through PSLE and he's unwilling going to school.

Because he felt sorry that he didn't do his homework and telling lies to him and felt that he had let his P5 teacher and P6 teacher down. He said he can't help being lazy and want to play. He said that since Monday, he don't have recess until the last 5 mins because his teacher asked him to stay in the class to read his Sci.

THEN, I realise that I'm TOTALLY WRONG. Ya, totally wrong. So now I think that I should give up my nite job, and spend times with the kids. I had told my other 3 children, they said that it's ok even through that they can eat bread or white rice.

I had a great cry alone by myself and was sleepless the whole nite. So I intent to have a talk with his teacher and see how can we work together.

I'll be strong and try to pay the dets which I had owned to the SP, HDB and phone line. Then from there, I'm going to plan out everything again, and be more hardworking looking for home based job which I can do in the nite and weekends.

TREX8:

1. Financial aid - see if your children's schools are able to provide any financial aid. Some aids are restricted to citizens, but others are provided by the school and applies to all students in the school. For example, ask school to see if can help with textbooks, uniform and pocket money etc.

2. Supervision help - work with your children's teachers. See if some system can be worked out for your child to stay back in school and complete homework in school. You might want to arrange a meeting with the school Principal and see what can be worked out.

For your P6 boy whom you said is \"lazy, telling lies\" - was he like this previously? You've mentioned that you've come to Singapore in Dec 2009 with your children. Where were they previously educated in? In Malaysia? Chinese or Malay medium school?

Could it be that your child is not lazy but simply cannot cope with school demands and hence didn't do his homework? Could it be that he lied to you in order not to worry you?
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cherrygal:

Really sad to read your situation.


1) Did you not obtain alimony from your ex-hubby? Where is the child support?
2) Do you have relatives here who can help you? You seem all alone...
3) Can you return to Malaysia since things are less expensive over there and you can then tap on the country's financial assistance schemes?
4) Find a more flexible job that may earn more money eg. housing agent, insurance agent etc

Your situation is so sticky primarily because of the citizenship issue. As verykiasu had suggested, ask your MP for help to see if the kids can become citizens since you are one.

Stay strong, gal!

cherrygal:

Really sad to read your situation.


1) Did you not obtain alimony from your ex-hubby? Where is the child support?
2) Do you have relatives here who can help you? You seem all alone...
3) Can you return to Malaysia since things are less expensive over there and you can then tap on the country's financial assistance schemes?

Your situation is so sticky primarily because of the citizenship issue. As verykiasu had suggested, ask your MP for help to see if the kids can become citizens since you are one.

Stay strong, gal!