<![CDATA[Pls help! - My gal seems to have split personalities]]>My 5yr + gal seems to have split personalities. She behave herself & v well like by teachers & frds in sch but she behave differently when she's at home.

At home or outdoor: she'll be cranky most of the time, bathe with so much noise, cant get along with maid, refuse to do her homework or any reading or revisions, v impatient, hyperactive, short attention span, cant wait for her turn, dont listen to instructions, top of her voice most of the times, no respect & etc... (not even scare of cane, v rebellious)

At sch: v helpful, gentle, does her work when told, bathe with no noise, take turns, do things independently, does her wrk neatly & properly, respect teachers (in fact, just short attention span & talkative)

Anyone can help? BTW besides this problem, I suspect my gal with learning disabilities like dylesxia or ADHD. What should I do or where do get help? :?:

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/topic/1940/pls-help-my-gal-seems-to-have-split-personalitiesRSS for NodeFri, 17 Apr 2026 10:03:09 GMTSat, 07 Feb 2009 15:37:35 GMT60<![CDATA[Reply to Pls help! - My gal seems to have split personalities on Wed, 22 Apr 2009 09:36:45 GMT]]>Hi


my humble contributions… I study psychology and even then, i would not be confident to say that you gal has issues. In stead of seeking advice from non-professionals like us, it would be better to seek professional expertise in getting teh correct evaluation of your child. Early detection can do wonders. You might want to see a professional child psychologist. Guessing abotu condition will not help.

Secondly, split personality is a sort of mental discorder. If you suspect this, you might want to seek IMH for an assessment.

Lastly, ADHD is a mendical condition whicvh may require medication. I think most singaporean use the term "hyperactive" too loosely to describe any child who may be more active than the average or has short attention span and is active.

Hope this helps.

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Sarah78:
no one is perfect,, each child has his own different skills,talents, temperaments....you just have to accept what your child has..

spare time with your child and try to understand him...

*Kids are an extension of oneself and are God's gift* πŸ˜„ πŸ˜„ πŸ˜„ πŸ˜„
Sarah78, while it is our policy to allow the posting of external URLs if they are pertinent to the discussions, I find it difficult to accept that one must redesign one's home just so that one's children don't have \"split personalities\". I have identified and will be removing all your other posts in other threads that are irrelevant to the discussions. You are free to place your posts in the Trading Post Forum if you wish to publicise your URLs.

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Sarah78:
no one is perfect,, each child has his own different skills,talents, temperaments....you just have to accept what your child has..

spare time with your child and try to understand him...

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*Kids are an extension of oneself and are God's gift* πŸ˜„ πŸ˜„ πŸ˜„ πŸ˜„
Hey Sarah,

No advertising is allowed in this thread ya. Yr link is not relevant. Be careful being caught πŸ™‚

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/19626https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/19626Wed, 11 Mar 2009 02:53:09 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Pls help! - My gal seems to have split personalities on Fri, 13 Feb 2009 08:16:29 GMT]]>Alamak, anxious mummy123, I think you really can change or do without a maid, get a part-time cleaner to help you with housechores instead. If your maid work for you for so long, and now equivalent as part of your family and enjoy so much privileges, then she must also think for you and lighten your load.


Frankly speaking I agree with tat children with maid at home are tentatively spoilt or being abuse. We must set serious rules from the beginning to both children and maid.

For children : Our maid are here to help me to do housechores and accompany you to school but you are responsible to carry your own things unless they are too heavy and need help. She is not your slave, and you are not allow to command her but to ask politely when in need of her help. You are responsible to keep all your toys, stationery and tidy up your bed. (To train them to be responsible and when without a maid you won't suffer)

For maid : You are not allow to pamper the children with tibits, watching TV all day long, etc so that you can enjoy your time. (To prevent her to bring stranger into your house, your children can be bribe by the maid) You are to follow the schedule and menus that \"mdm\" prepare for you. Any misconducting acts or disobedient, we will deduct allowance from you. Eg 20-50 cents per misconduct.. Priviledge will only goes to you according to your attitudes and behaviours. Be persistant with your rules..

Make phone calls home regularly and at odd hours too to check on both.

Hope this works! :lol:

anxiousmummy123:
Whenever we go out, we normally bring her along and she have the same privileges as we treat her as 1 of our family alr. Be it holiday or dining she'll always tag along. If u're talking abt \"deserves\" this treatment lately, frankly speaking its more towards the interest of my kids & me as I used to depend alot on my maid. Eg of things tat I'm trying to do w/o maid's help: tying my gal's hair evy m'ng, chking her bag & revising her hmwrk with her, fetching my gal fm sch or sch bus dropping point, reading bks to them etc...

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/16699https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/16699Fri, 13 Feb 2009 08:16:29 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Pls help! - My gal seems to have split personalities on Fri, 13 Feb 2009 07:10:32 GMT]]>

schellen:
Maybe you should treat you maid the way you treat your DD? As in be more firm and set rules. Maybe your maid doesn't know why she \"deserves\" this treatment lately. Tell her diplomatically and let her draw her own conclusions as to why she feels threatened lately. If she's smart, she'll shape up.

I've always been v firm and set rules to my maid. I've also highlighted to her tat I'm v particular abt her attitude towards us & her wrk. Aft wrking with me for so long, she alr noe my style. Whenever she did smething wrg, I can be v fierce & scolded her but aft tat, I'll forget abt it. Whenever we go out, we normally bring her along and she have the same privileges as we treat her as 1 of our family alr. Be it holiday or dining she'll always tag along. If u're talking abt \"deserves\" this treatment lately, frankly speaking its more towards the interest of my kids & me as I used to depend alot on my maid. Eg of things tat I'm trying to do w/o maid's help: tying my gal's hair evy m'ng, chking her bag & revising her hmwrk with her, fetching my gal fm sch or sch bus dropping point, reading bks to them etc... it's more of the bonding I am refering to. Like yest, I bought sme stuff for my son as he'll be attending cc in Mar. Instead of asking maid to sew name tags on it, I do it on my own rather than getting her to do it then wrg I still gt to scold. I can see an improvement in my gal's behavior ever since tis bonding & quality time spent tis few days. Of cos sometimes we try to involve our son or go out as a family w/o the maid tagging along.(Used to be afraid tat maid mgt be sad if left out for outings) :stupid: Nw I m nt gg to tink so much for others, will put interest of my kids first. Even nowadays my maid do her wrk slowly like bo chap like tat, i cant bothered to nag or scold. I'll do it on my own if i can and it can be quite fun too as my gal helped to do it together wif me. (Another way of bonding) Once both my kids are in full day cc, the maid can go or stay. Tat wont be a threat to me alr and I'm surprised tat my kids behaved better w/o the maid presence. No wonder ppl always say tat kids wif maid at hm normally don't behave better than those w/o maid.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/16690https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/16690Fri, 13 Feb 2009 07:10:32 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Pls help! - My gal seems to have split personalities on Fri, 13 Feb 2009 02:30:54 GMT]]>Maybe you should treat you maid the way you treat your DD? As in be more firm and set rules. Maybe your maid doesn’t know why she "deserves" this treatment lately. Tell her diplomatically and let her draw her own conclusions as to why she feels threatened lately. If she’s smart, she’ll shape up.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/16635https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/16635Fri, 13 Feb 2009 02:30:54 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Pls help! - My gal seems to have split personalities on Fri, 13 Feb 2009 02:09:28 GMT]]>hi,


Nw tat I've learnt to do things by myself(last time used to rely on maid alot), my maid felt threatened. Will be sending my 21mths boy to my gal's cc in Mar.(Last time have the concept of, since there's a maid at hm might as well send kids to kindergarten for 3hrs only when they're 3yo. Regret tat, as my maid cant discipline my gal & reverse way, its my gal who control the maid.) Unless there's an adult tat can coach or able to discipline & control the kids if not, it's still a better choice to put them in a cc. At least, kids will learnt to be mre systhematic & organised. Though my maid had been working with us since the born of my gal which is abt 5yrs +, she's getting more bo chap, attitude prob, lazy at times, kaypo and tends to be v forgetful. Nowadays I realised tat aft she had been scolded by me, she's bound to aggitate my gal. It's reali v tired to have to deal wif kids & maid at the same time esp when we're full time working mother. (Headache! Thought maid is suppose to somehow lighten our burdens or workloads???) Keeping my cool by just walking off nowadays if maid angered me lest it affect my mood when i deal wif my kids :stupid:

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/16629https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/16629Fri, 13 Feb 2009 02:09:28 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Pls help! - My gal seems to have split personalities on Thu, 12 Feb 2009 06:45:32 GMT]]>

jenniferjoey:

they are never stupid, they are just talented in other subjects which we have not discover. ....
Absolutely agree on this one, and going to be a long-term mission. Welcome to KSP!

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/16516https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/16516Thu, 12 Feb 2009 06:45:32 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Pls help! - My gal seems to have split personalities on Thu, 12 Feb 2009 06:08:02 GMT]]>Yup.


\"Unresolved issues\" create restless sleep for my kiddies.
They will sleep talk, sob in sleep, or even nightmares if
very terok liao. Worst is - bedwetting. So, the unresolved
stuff is like never a win-win situation at least for me at that
time. It was challenging to raise a toddler and an infant at
the same time - on my own AND with the out-laws...
ermmm.. cough-cough.. i meant in-laws.. heheee.. πŸ˜‰

Unlike when we were staying with my parents, we all had
like minded stategies to deal with children and techniques
to soothe baby or time-out and stuff like that.. so i had a
lotta support. I can never thank my folks enough. Thanks
to my dad especially for the understanding and compassion
from pregnancy stage thru' the child raising times, lest i cud
have gotten post-partum depression. And to mum, who was
my angel who helped with all the physical help when i was
feeling so down.. Her all-food-must-be-fresh policy helped P2
grow up so healthy now despite the asthma.

Back to the topic, if we persevere thru' the discipline we adopt,
the kiddies in return become automatic with the kind of good
discipline, mannerism, routine and even help around the house.
The apology part too, becomes a \"willing effort\" and no longer
an encouraged approach to offences of any kind. My kiddies
now, can and will feel a sense of guilt if they do not settle their
\"case\" with me... And cos this has worked, hubs supports by
practising the same discipline as me. As he has to work everday,
he leaves the discipline to me. On the occasions where serious
offences are committed, the big guy (hubs) will step in for me.

After many years thru' trial and errors, we're happier now as
a family... Not much time is wasted at being angry at one another
or sulking for days at stretch.. yeeaa.. sigh.. its been a journey...
but resulting in a great experience, with god as our strength and the
support from the people we love. :love:

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buds:


My kiddies now bigger can even verbalise the reasoning amongst
each other and at times tell it to me... For example, before they
sleep we read bedtime story, and we wanna let the dust settle,
i will ask them, \"Are you mad that mummy raised her voice at you
this afternoon?\" If they nod, i'll resume, \"Do you know why i did
that?\" Now, depending on the nature of the crime, the reasoning
would be as follows...

Road Safety for example...
....

For the above example, my kiddies told me they were sorry to
give me a shock by doing that... and that they won't do it again.
When i apologised for being harsh or punish them, they replied
that they deserved to be punished / scolded cos it was also partly
their fault... then after many hugs and kisses all is good again.
Same as you. πŸ™‚ I never allow myself to let my DD go to sleep with an unresolved \"case\" in her head, whether she's genuinely at fault or not.

Your second point is also very important to me: the parent's ability to apologize to the child. I'm not sure how Asian parents feel about this today, but I personally do not care about this old Asian notion that the elders will never \"submit\" /apologize to the youngers. To hell with that.

I know every minute of my life that almost every time I lose my temper at my DD, I will regret it. But I still do it on rare occasion, esp. with repeat offences. However, so long as the reason is valid and understood by child, I will almost always apologize to her for being angry.

What has surprised me is that this actually resulted in my DD learning to apologize to ME for her offences. And this seems to help her develop self-discipline better.

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mincy:
[quote]so I said this, \"I want you to be a happy boy, throwing tandrum is no fun, u want to be like this?\"


Then immediately, he smiled.
looks like you boy is showing improvementand your new approach is working! I think your boy wants your approval alot :D[/quote]Ya lor, I also sense that he wants my approval a lot. sometimes, when I show slightest complaints (talking to myself in the softest voice, why is he so naughty), he can actually hear me, and would come and ask me am I angry with him. :!:

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coolbaby:
smurf:

Coolbaby,


your boy behaves like mine. sometime, I do really want a time out, not for him, but for me. cos being a SAHM and staying at home looking after 2 always-seeking-attention boys is never easy, and what you really need is plenty of patience, which I'm depleting of. especially for a short-tempered person like me. really really need a lot of work. πŸ™

Hello Smurf
thank God I'm not SAHM, cos I don't think I can survive! You are a lot better than me to be SAHM. Hopefully this phase will be over, they will learn and grow up!

It also takes me 2 years, imagine 2 years for me to learn how to deal with him.a lot of time wasted. :shock: I guess I'm also not born to be a SAHM, but I try, really trying very hard to, cos I dun want to have any regrets. πŸ™

really take a lot of effort to try not to scold him.hahha. let's work hard! :celebrate:

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anxiousmummy123:


Nw i am practising the reverse psychology method and it works though it's reali hard to follow. Tantrums throwing in my gal has become a habit & she had became a gal who doesn't know hw to express her emotions. Hope I can chg her πŸ˜„
My answer to you: about one month, from my experience. πŸ™‚ It constantly surprises me that, if we work on it, a child can change her behaviour MUCH faster than most adults. (In fact, some adults are incapable of change/improvement).

It was about one month from the time I made conscious effort to change all the :x into :love: and 😎 at home, and after that time, everything transformed.

It is also helpful to know that it is not a perfect change. There will always be the (infrequent, rare) occasion when a tantrum or a genuinely seriously offence will occur, and a scolding is necessary. It will happen.

But by and large, now that you've taken this leap of faith, keep at it for awhile. Every smile you share with your daughter will make the job easier and easier. With continued effort, a month or so from now you'll look back and be amazed at how things have transformed for the better. All the best!

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Hi there, I have seen many little children giving headache to parents.

Few things to take notes for them to throw tantrums, hard to understand, lesser words with parents, having secrets, getting restless easily, giving up or dun even bother to try in many interesting activities you provided. 😞

1. They are having problems with their peers supports in School, either they are being boycott or being criticise, Sometimes our children may even fight physically or verbally, but they won't tell us they have these fights or quarrels that we may scold/beat them. :x They are just very sensitive.

2. They are adapting to new environment and people all of the sudden and they may takes days, months or even years to know what's happening. (We have been protecting them all the time, without us in school is a very 'BIG' challenge to them. Just like we changing our jobs. Find out more about the school, know what activities or topics the school is going into, preparing them well with your kids. I find that by going to library regularly with our kids borrowing books related to the school topics helps alot.

3. All of a sudden, the child have to be overstress up by school works and CCAs, which means very little funtime left with parents and themselves. For us parents, homeworks and performance in CCAs come first, but we are seeing into our children's overall development. For the children, if we never pass the correct message of attending school is to increase their knowledge and make more friends and for their own future sake... they may think we send them to school to suffer.

For working parents, our children may not be able to get to us when they are in need of us, to call for help... Try calling them up during lunch break or when you know they will be at home, to ask about homework, any difficulties, making any new friends, any boy/girl friends, having jokes, help them to revise spelling or talk about yourself (They wants to know what mummy or daddy are doing in work or what they eat for lunch, will you be coming back in time for diner, etc) In this way you save sometimes of catching up and reensuring that they are okay, and they know you are working hard for them.

Get them a home tutor, if they perform badly in school, they are never stupid, they are just talented in other subjects which we have not discover. With home tutor to guide them as less they will be more confidence in school.

Bring your children out to educational places like Botanic Garden, Science Centre, Zoo.... to relax and having time togetherat least once a month. Let them be in-charge of the event, the food and itinery, from here they pick up responsibilities and knowledge..

As For Me, I am a sensitive mum, and want every children to be happy children.. Still trying to know every stages of my child going into.

πŸ˜„

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/16490https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/16490Thu, 12 Feb 2009 03:58:51 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Pls help! - My gal seems to have split personalities on Thu, 12 Feb 2009 02:07:21 GMT]]>[quote]so I said this, \"I want you to be a happy boy, throwing tandrum is no fun, u want to be like this?\"


Then immediately, he smiled. [/quote]looks like you boy is showing improvementand your new approach is working! I think your boy wants your approval alot πŸ˜„

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buds:


Well, all children are different and there isn't a one solution fix all... but
we try... we all try... so, take heart coolbaby, you did try and keep
trying... dun give up. By you voicing out your problems here, we all
hope that it de-stresses you a little... to share with others who went
thru or are still going thru a similar phase you are dealing with right
now. Know that you are not alone, and know that its not just your
child who may seem difficult to handle or that you're not doing a good
job as a parent. Like your nick, you be cool ok coolbaby...

We're all ears here.. Your time-out can always be here.
Hang in there, ya!
thanks buds for your time and effort in reading and replying. Thanks for all the suggestions in this thread, thank God things are slightly better. I must always remember to keep cool πŸ˜‰ not to scold him, as what sahimi said. cos this morning, he almost wanted to throw tantrum again. he's taking forver to finish up the bread. I nagged then followed by hubby nagging him to finish up which made things worst he decided to lie on the dinning chair! I have to speak softly and nicely to him to be quick and helped him with the milk then he gets moving! :roll:
Just like anxiousmummy123, I'm glad to hear all the thoughts and suggestion shared by all the mummies here. Sorry anxiousmummy123 that I hijacked your thread. Let's hope this will come to an end soon and we will be better parents and our children will know our loves for them and everyone is happy! Cheers!

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smurf:
Coolbaby,


your boy behaves like mine. sometime, I do really want a time out, not for him, but for me. cos being a SAHM and staying at home looking after 2 always-seeking-attention boys is never easy, and what you really need is plenty of patience, which I'm depleting of. especially for a short-tempered person like me. really really need a lot of work. πŸ™
Hello Smurf
thank God I'm not SAHM, cos I don't think I can survive! You are a lot better than me to be SAHM. Hopefully this phase will be over, they will learn and grow up!

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smurf:

Why does he behave like this? I dunno. :?
Kids just want what's from your heart, not what money can buy...it is simple as that. The fact that you noticed, concerned and wanted him to be a happy boy made him happy to know all these. So as parents we should not be trapped by our own guilt feelings of working so hard that we used money to do what we could actually do better with good communication.

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anxiousmummy123:
Hi,


To all mummies who replied here,

A v big thank you to all. At least I know I'm not alone. There's reali kind souls out there who wish to share their thoughts & opinions. I'm so lost & depressed when there's no one I can turn to for help until I tried my luck by starting this new thread hoping for some pointers fm mummies. At least nw I noe the main problems lies with me for being impatient, hot temper, not giving enough attention & quality time. I've always thought that by bringing her shopping, family outings and buying things that she likes is enough or what she wants. In actual fact, it's a happier mummy who will sing praises even to the v little tings that she had done, spend mre quality time with her instead of leaving evything to the maid & etc...

Hey, you know what? My thinking was the same! I also thought that by bringing my boy out together, buy new toys,sweets, etc for him means it's enough. but never did I thought that what he really NEEDS is not all these. I'm short tempered, scold him, sometimes even beat him. Yes, I used cane. but I've threw away the cane 1 mth ago.

Today, he threw tantrum again. I dunno what triggered that. I fetched him from the school bus, and once the bus left, he stomped his feet. I've totally no idea why. I did asked him what happened, but he didn't want to say. so I said this, \"I want you to be a happy boy, throwing tandrum is no fun, u want to be like this?\"

Then immediately, he smiled.

Why does he behave like this? I dunno. :?

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anxiousmummy123:
buds:



Does this mean you've quit your job, tho?

Nope, I'm just testing her. Anyway, I've explained to her the pros & cons on why I cant quit my job and had made an agreement with her that I'll make effort to fetch her fm sch, had dinner wif her or at least sit by her side when she's having dinner, tie her hair evy m'ng, read books to her b4 she goes to bed & etc... and on her part, she nid to control her tantrums or speak up if she's unhappy instead of whining, respect & love ppl ard her & herself etc... Hope it works πŸ™

You go girl!!
:celebrate:

You're now in control of the situation.
Have faith... it will work. They say the
gift of LOVE is spelt T-I-M-E! πŸ˜‰

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anxiousmummy123:
Nope, I'm just testing her. Anyway, I've explained to her the pros & cons on why I cant quit my job and had made an agreement with her that I'll make effort to fetch her fm sch, had dinner wif her or at least sit by her side when she's having dinner, tie her hair evy m'ng, read books to her b4 she goes to bed & etc... and on her part, she nid to control her tantrums or speak up if she's unhappy instead of whinning, respect & love ppl ard her & herself etc... Hope it works πŸ™

It will. πŸ™‚

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/16425https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/16425Wed, 11 Feb 2009 06:33:18 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Pls help! - My gal seems to have split personalities on Wed, 11 Feb 2009 04:10:46 GMT]]>

buds:


Does this mean you've quit your job, tho?
Nope, I'm just testing her. Anyway, I've explained to her the pros & cons on why I cant quit my job and had made an agreement with her that I'll make effort to fetch her fm sch, had dinner wif her or at least sit by her side when she's having dinner, tie her hair evy m'ng, read books to her b4 she goes to bed & etc... and on her part, she nid to control her tantrums or speak up if she's unhappy instead of whinning, respect & love ppl ard her & herself etc... Hope it works πŸ™

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/16413https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/16413Wed, 11 Feb 2009 04:10:46 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Pls help! - My gal seems to have split personalities on Wed, 11 Feb 2009 03:45:51 GMT]]>Hi,


To all mummies who replied here,

A v big thank you to all. At least I know I’m not alone. There’s reali kind souls out there who wish to share their thoughts & opinions. I’m so lost & depressed when there’s no one I can turn to for help until I tried my luck by starting this new thread hoping for some pointers fm mummies. At least nw I noe the main problems lies with me for being impatient, hot temper, not giving enough attention & quality time. I’ve always thought that by bringing her shopping, family outings and buying things that she likes is enough or what she wants. In actual fact, it’s a happier mummy who will sing praises even to the v little tings that she had done, spend mre quality time with her instead of leaving evything to the maid & etc…

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