<![CDATA[Troubled by Tutor's action]]>I’m trouble by the incident that happen last Saturday. I hope parents here can shed some lights as to what action should I take.


My ds1 attended chinese tuition with the same tutor for almost 2 years plus. Last Saturday, he cried after the tuition teacher left. He said that he doesn’t want to continue with the chinese tuition. I sat and talked to him and he mentioned that the teacher actually bend his finger, step on his feet and pull his cheek. He said the teacher did that as he did not answer her questions fast enough.

Dh who sent the teacher out told me that ds1 drifted off and didn’t give her the right answers despite her going thru with him a few times. She didn’t mentioned that he did anything to him.

Now both of us are disturbed by what happened. We have yet to speak to the teacher but intend to do so when she come by this weekend. This teacher is also my ds2 and ds3 childcare teacher.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/topic/19438/troubled-by-tutor-s-actionRSS for NodeFri, 04 Sep 2026 09:07:23 GMTMon, 21 Feb 2011 01:00:42 GMT60<![CDATA[Reply to Troubled by Tutor's action on Mon, 06 Jun 2011 01:14:40 GMT]]>hi concerneddad,


Not quite. My maths was wonderful with a good tutor’s guidance. Left on my own, I’m like a blind bat. that’s why I dropped maths in jc…figured it wasn’t worth the brain cramps trying to figure out what I didn’t know.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/437817https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/437817Mon, 06 Jun 2011 01:14:40 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Troubled by Tutor's action on Fri, 03 Jun 2011 13:15:23 GMT]]>Hi hquek…


I think you must be a very self-motivated type of student. If the student was the "blur blur" type or unmotivated, then this type of tuition will not be so useful to him.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/436840https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/436840Fri, 03 Jun 2011 13:15:23 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Troubled by Tutor's action on Mon, 30 May 2011 01:10:50 GMT]]>Hi unclelim,


Actually teach tuition is very smart, good money and can be tax free if the person so wishes. But I think good tutors can perform magic. I failed my A-maths in Sec 3, and I met a wonderful tutor (lost contact…sorry) who transformed that into an A in O’s. To this day, I still have no clue how he did it. Best of all, i was in a GROUP class - his modus operandi was to have kids (of all levels) stream in for an hour and do their own work; anything we didn’t know, we’ll check with him.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/432890https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/432890Mon, 30 May 2011 01:10:50 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Troubled by Tutor's action on Fri, 27 May 2011 07:21:29 GMT]]>

hquek:
UncleLim:

Changing tutor is a good option. Personally the most I have ever got from private tutors is one who kept telling my daughter she is so stupid. My daughter is not so bright but I thought if the tutor has such a short fuse, maybe she is not so good a tutor after all.


Woah lau, if my kid get that from a tutor, I would just tell him/her, \"if she is so smart, why would she need you. And if you are such a good tutor, you won't find her stupid\". :mad:

Ya Lor ! I was thinking worse... \"If you are so clever, why are you still just teaching tuition?!\" But I held my tongue.. no need to be so evil. Live and let live.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/431660https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/431660Fri, 27 May 2011 07:21:29 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Troubled by Tutor's action on Thu, 26 May 2011 09:49:54 GMT]]>

UncleLim:
Changing tutor is a good option. Personally the most I have ever got from private tutors is one who kept telling my daughter she is so stupid. My daughter is not so bright but I thought if the tutor has such a short fuse, maybe she is not so good a tutor after all.

Woah lau, if my kid get that from a tutor, I would just tell him/her, \"if she is so smart, why would she need you. And if you are such a good tutor, you won't find her stupid\". :mad:

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/430951https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/430951Thu, 26 May 2011 09:49:54 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Troubled by Tutor's action on Thu, 26 May 2011 09:35:32 GMT]]>Changing tutor is a good option. Personally the most I have ever got from private tutors is one who kept telling my daughter she is so stupid. My daughter is not so bright but I thought if the tutor has such a short fuse, maybe she is not so good a tutor after all.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/430939https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/430939Thu, 26 May 2011 09:35:32 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Troubled by Tutor's action on Thu, 21 Apr 2011 00:46:09 GMT]]>Thank you for all the feedback.


Tamarind, I agreed with you on the point of being in the room with DS1. However, I do not have the luxury to do so as I’ve got to take care of DS2 and DS3.

I’m in the midst of changing tutor and looking out for one that fits the timing and my budget. Group tuition is not suitable for him as he gets distracted easily.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/404777https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/404777Thu, 21 Apr 2011 00:46:09 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Troubled by Tutor's action on Wed, 20 Apr 2011 17:25:17 GMT]]>The point is that your kid is no longer comfortable with the teacher. For the ease of mind, its better to install a CCTV. If it really happens as your kid says… :x :x :x

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/404728https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/404728Wed, 20 Apr 2011 17:25:17 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Troubled by Tutor's action on Wed, 23 Mar 2011 14:36:19 GMT]]>I understand your patience and concern over handling a student who might also possess behavioral disorder or not. Have you thought about an alternate environment for troubled kids? I can relate when a friend of mine has gone through the same thing, he lived, worked and taught with a troubled teen and was wondering how he can help. Such behavioral disorder can result to something traumatic and the kid needs to be in an environment that can promote growth through therapeutic sessions. Ive been recommended by someone to check http://www.experts123.com/q/what-makes-turning-winds-academic-institute-different-from-other-programs-out-there.html, have you heard of them? Do you think its alright for kids to be in residential treatment program, or institutions that have wilderness programs for troubled teens? Any advice would be appreciated.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/384524https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/384524Wed, 23 Mar 2011 14:36:19 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Troubled by Tutor's action on Thu, 17 Mar 2011 18:36:16 GMT]]>Maybe 1-1 teaching doesn’t suit your kid. Some kids function better in a small class vis-a-vis 1-1.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/381774https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/381774Thu, 17 Mar 2011 18:36:16 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Troubled by Tutor's action on Thu, 17 Mar 2011 15:40:15 GMT]]>

tamarind:
heyhoe:

Thanks for your comments, HoSayLiao and luckysusie8. I'm still monitoring the situation and hope that it will improves.


Luckysusie8, with regards to CCTV in the study room - did you let the tutor knows? Also, can you share what is the cost involve?

Cheers,

Actually there is no need to spend money installing CCTV. You have all the right to be in the study room when she is teaching your son.

I used to be a private tutor before, and I have taught many young children. Parents/grandparents were always present and they could hear and see clearly how I was teaching. A good tutor has nothing to hide. If she insists that you leave the study room, then you should change a new tutor.


Hi Tamarind, I just sent you a pm 🙂

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/381737https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/381737Thu, 17 Mar 2011 15:40:15 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Troubled by Tutor's action on Thu, 17 Mar 2011 03:54:57 GMT]]>

heyhoe:
Thanks for your comments, HoSayLiao and luckysusie8. I'm still monitoring the situation and hope that it will improves.


Luckysusie8, with regards to CCTV in the study room - did you let the tutor knows? Also, can you share what is the cost involve?

Cheers,
Actually there is no need to spend money installing CCTV. You have all the right to be in the study room when she is teaching your son.

I used to be a private tutor before, and I have taught many young children. Parents/grandparents were always present and they could hear and see clearly how I was teaching. A good tutor has nothing to hide. If she insists that you leave the study room, then you should change a new tutor.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/381488https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/381488Thu, 17 Mar 2011 03:54:57 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Troubled by Tutor's action on Thu, 17 Mar 2011 03:17:20 GMT]]>Thanks for your comments, HoSayLiao and luckysusie8. I’m still monitoring the situation and hope that it will improves.


Luckysusie8, with regards to CCTV in the study room - did you let the tutor knows? Also, can you share what is the cost involve?

Cheers,

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/381460https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/381460Thu, 17 Mar 2011 03:17:20 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Troubled by Tutor's action on Wed, 16 Mar 2011 08:21:14 GMT]]>I used to hire some irresponsible home tutor before and my kid did complaint that the teacher didn’t teach her much thing and always SMSing during the lesson. Some time late and fall asleep…


In the end, my hubby ask someone install the CCTV into the study room. everything solved…

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/381120https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/381120Wed, 16 Mar 2011 08:21:14 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Troubled by Tutor's action on Tue, 15 Mar 2011 04:42:29 GMT]]>Hi. I think it is important to know the circumstances that lead to the incident. For example, the child did not concentrate, is it because the question is too difficult? If say, the question is too difficult, that means the tutor did not have the patience to teach difficult questions. If not, it means that the child is a rotten apple, not wanting to learn properly.


If the tutor is impatient to teach difficult questions, of course u change tutor. if the child is not willingly to leard even easy questions, then sacking the tutor will send the wrong message to your child.

Also, if your child is unwillingly to learn, is it because he is already scoring A*? If that is the case, of course he will find tuition an unnecessary chore. If your child is a border line case and still dare to show bad attitude, then u have to really let him suffer the physical punishments.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/380454https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/380454Tue, 15 Mar 2011 04:42:29 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Troubled by Tutor's action on Mon, 07 Mar 2011 01:15:16 GMT]]>Dear All,


Thank you for your concerns and feedback.

I had a good chat with the teacher last week. She has informed me that my ds didn’t concentrate well and this frustrates her. I’ve informed her to let me know if she has any concerns about this in future. Also, informed her due to my ds sensitive nature, to inform me as I do not want him to have any phobia/scared towards her lessons. I hope she has noted and will continue to monitor.

As for my ds, I’ve asked him to give her another chance and to let me know immediately should this things happen in future.

Cheers!

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/374787https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/374787Mon, 07 Mar 2011 01:15:16 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Troubled by Tutor's action on Sat, 05 Mar 2011 16:29:48 GMT]]>Being a tutor myself, i do agree that tutor have certain level of stress to cope and it can get frustrating when the student simply cant answer what i have just taught.


Nevertheless it is definitely not acceptable for the tutor to behave in such manner toward your child. Not matter how many students she have now, such behavior can be quite worrying. In addition, i am afraid after what she have did to your child, whether or not intentionally or unintentionally, your child would have certain level of fear toward the tutor. Such fear is definitely undesirable for young kids.

I am new to the forum, these are just my personal opinion. Hope it helps…

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/374183https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/374183Sat, 05 Mar 2011 16:29:48 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Troubled by Tutor's action on Sat, 05 Mar 2011 15:46:37 GMT]]>I think you should do some investigation. Like ask the kids that were in the class at the time. Just to have a fair view of what happened.


If the teacher really did do those things. Then I would change the tutor immediately. Under no circumstances that the tutor is allowed to do this to a child.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/374170https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/374170Sat, 05 Mar 2011 15:46:37 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Troubled by Tutor's action on Sat, 05 Mar 2011 08:55:27 GMT]]>"bend his finger, step on his feet and pull his cheek" – definitely not acceptable!

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/373878https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/373878Sat, 05 Mar 2011 08:55:27 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Troubled by Tutor's action on Mon, 21 Feb 2011 13:51:30 GMT]]>Agree to have a good talk with the tutor and give your ds a break. I heard from my friends that her tutor who pulled her dd’s hair when dd could not understand after repeated instructions. :x


i guess some tutors are just not patient enough and tutoring may not be their passion.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/364030https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/364030Mon, 21 Feb 2011 13:51:30 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Troubled by Tutor's action on Mon, 21 Feb 2011 13:21:41 GMT]]>

heyhoe:
Hi verykiasu2010,


My ds didn't mentioned before until last week, that occassionally she will step on his feet.

I find it puzzling too but now I wonder is it because she has more students now. We have been recommending her to our friends whom I know she charges more as their kids are on higher levels.

At times, I wonder if it is just frustration of teaching that overcomes her. Sigh, don't know if I should talk to her first or just let ds quit. Afterall, I still have two other ds under her at childcare.
best to have a chat with the tutor, with an open mind

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/364012https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/364012Mon, 21 Feb 2011 13:21:41 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Troubled by Tutor's action on Mon, 21 Feb 2011 10:00:58 GMT]]>It’s hard to guess what had happened. Stand from the tutor’s point, I have better way for corporal punishment than ‘step on feet’. Child may not lie but they may blend imagination with reality. My son of 5 can tell very sophisticated story mixed with imagination if he wants something to happen or not happen.


But there is one thing obvious, your son does not like the teacher and/or the tuition itself. So give him a break and see whether he is overloaded by tuition.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/363902https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/363902Mon, 21 Feb 2011 10:00:58 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Troubled by Tutor's action on Mon, 21 Feb 2011 09:24:45 GMT]]>Hi verykiasu2010,


My ds didn’t mentioned before until last week, that occassionally she will step on his feet.

I find it puzzling too but now I wonder is it because she has more students now. We have been recommending her to our friends whom I know she charges more as their kids are on higher levels.

At times, I wonder if it is just frustration of teaching that overcomes her. Sigh, don’t know if I should talk to her first or just let ds quit. Afterall, I still have two other ds under her at childcare.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/363856https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/363856Mon, 21 Feb 2011 09:24:45 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Troubled by Tutor's action on Mon, 21 Feb 2011 09:14:02 GMT]]>

heyhoe:
Thanks dramamama70 for your comments.


I don't think my kid would lie too but I do know he could be over sensitive.

The teacher has been with us for the past 2 years and I know she puts in effort to teach. Neverthless, it still comes to the wellbeing of a child that is most important.
of all of last two years - any problem ? why the 'sudden' change in behaviour by the tutor ?

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/363843https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/363843Mon, 21 Feb 2011 09:14:02 GMT