<![CDATA[Attitude and Behavior]]>"Is it the survival of the fittest?” only where the strong will only survive?


There is a well-established connection in the psychological literature between individuals attitudes and behaviors and the outcome of behavior, however it is not all that defined.

Just as you and I are changing in many ways, attitude and behavior are ever-changing Right?

What are your views?

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PasirRisPapa:
PAPASAN:

Learning basic mannerism , learning how to show respect to elders and peers ......... something that is missing in our young of today .....


such traits are missing in many parents, not just the young.

Yeah ! that was what i was about to say ... agree with u ! :celebrate:

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/367980https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/367980Fri, 25 Feb 2011 09:05:48 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Attitude and Behavior on Fri, 25 Feb 2011 02:35:32 GMT]]>Thanks, Tisha. 😄


ApronMama, actually, I suppose for old folks, it's because they've already gone through the usual cycle of life and their wisdom is from experience.

That's why I like being around old folks: physically, most of them are long-sighted, but no one can beat their hind-sightedness. 😉

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ANobleNerd:
Absolutely! Which is why Character can be moulded/educated. We just need to redirect that thought.


The easiest to change is Behaviour - carrot and stick, but if the Attitude can be dealt with first, the Behaviour will follow.

Most times, we are only concerned with Behaviour, because it's the most obvious. It takes more to deal with Attitude.
So true.
NobleNerd I like all your post. :celebrate:
Full of wisdom and practicality. :rahrah:

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MMM:
Besides those mentioned, I feel that being non-calculative is a important attitude in life.


Eg. If someone is calculative, he will feel cheated by people around him/boss/ company most of the time as he expects to be given a reward/ be treated in certain manner,etc... He will hence display a negative attitude towards things around him should things not go in his way and become bitter. This in turn will affect of people's impression of this person.
Most old old folks have the non-calculative attitude, I think because they have gone thru a lot, seen a lot in life, that's why they always smile. And life is happier that way. My old grandmother used to say, ... 做人要 harm harm 。(meaning not to be calculative)

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/367476https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/367476Fri, 25 Feb 2011 02:09:57 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Attitude and Behavior on Fri, 25 Feb 2011 01:01:12 GMT]]>Absolutely! Which is why Character can be moulded/educated. We just need to redirect that thought.


The easiest to change is Behaviour - carrot and stick, but if the Attitude can be dealt with first, the Behaviour will follow.

Most times, we are only concerned with Behaviour, because it’s the most obvious. It takes more to deal with Attitude.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/367392https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/367392Fri, 25 Feb 2011 01:01:12 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Attitude and Behavior on Thu, 24 Feb 2011 16:42:06 GMT]]>This may be corny to some,



Sow A thought, reap an act.
Sow an act, reap a habit.
Sow a habit, reap a character.
Sow a character, reap a destiny.


So it all starts with THOUGHT.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/367278https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/367278Thu, 24 Feb 2011 16:42:06 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Attitude and Behavior on Thu, 24 Feb 2011 15:39:19 GMT]]>You've got the A and the B, but you forgot the C! 😉


Attitude is the way you approach a situation. Positive attitude is energy generating, while negative attitude is usually energy draining. But both requires energy to initiate - so why begin with a negative?

Attitude cannot be seen, but it can affect Behaviour, which is what we can see.

A person with a positive Attitude would Behave in a positive manner, likewise for a person with a negative Attitude, their Behaviour is corresponding.

The 'C' I mentioned is Character. This is the values-essence of a person, and is not likely to change once it is set. Attitude is environment-dependant, and can change quickly, but Character is the person's identity, and is not as easy to discern as it is more deeply rooted in the person. It is the Character of a person that impress us, and it is in the Character of a person that virtues and values reside.

I read somewhere that Character is built by education, but Attitude is built by experience.

So I aim to educate my kids on what is right and wrong, what are acceptable Behaviours, what kinds of Attitudes are acceptable and hope that in doing so, it will lead them into building good Character that will stand them in good stead for life.

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PAPASAN:
Learning basic mannerism , learning how to show respect to elders and peers ......... something that is missing in our young of today .....

such traits are missing in many parents, not just the young.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/367035https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/367035Thu, 24 Feb 2011 12:35:30 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Attitude and Behavior on Thu, 24 Feb 2011 09:43:54 GMT]]>Learning basic mannerism , learning how to show respect to elders and peers ......... something that is missing in our young of today .....


result of lax parenting , public education or adopting the western culture of freedom ............... ?



:?

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/366923https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/366923Thu, 24 Feb 2011 09:43:54 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Attitude and Behavior on Tue, 22 Feb 2011 10:25:07 GMT]]>I think a person’s attitude will determine his/her behavior towards life and people, and hence the consequences of his behavior - good or bad.


Which is why I try to make this saying "When life gives you lemons, make lemonade" the motto in my life. In other words, I try to make the best out of whatever life throws me, especially the negative or bad experiences.

It’s not easy because it’s human nature to wallow in self-pity. And it takes a lot more courage to pick up your pieces and move on, than to stay in the rut of self-pity and complacency.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/365040https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/365040Tue, 22 Feb 2011 10:25:07 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Attitude and Behavior on Tue, 22 Feb 2011 04:33:16 GMT]]>Besides those mentioned, I feel that being non-calculative is a important attitude in life.


Eg. If someone is calculative, he will feel cheated by people around him/boss/ company most of the time as he expects to be given a reward/ be treated in certain manner,etc… He will hence display a negative attitude towards things around him should things not go in his way and become bitter. This in turn will affect of people’s impression of this person.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/364631https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/364631Tue, 22 Feb 2011 04:33:16 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Attitude and Behavior on Tue, 22 Feb 2011 04:29:54 GMT]]>

tankee:
one important differentiator is how fast one pick oneself up after being knocked down and learning from the experience.
An excellent lesson, but a rare one for most Singaporean kids. They are so thickly padded all over even before they fall. We parents know it.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/364628https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/364628Tue, 22 Feb 2011 04:29:54 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Attitude and Behavior on Tue, 22 Feb 2011 02:59:44 GMT]]>

tankee:
one important differentiator is how fast one pick oneself up after being knocked down and learning from the experience.

If there is one thing that I need to teach my kid .. it would be this. :celebrate:

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/364487https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/364487Tue, 22 Feb 2011 02:59:44 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Attitude and Behavior on Mon, 21 Feb 2011 15:03:25 GMT]]>one important differentiator is how fast one pick oneself up after being knocked down and learning from the experience.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/364115https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/364115Mon, 21 Feb 2011 15:03:25 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Attitude and Behavior on Mon, 21 Feb 2011 14:35:21 GMT]]>fundamentally, the ‘never-say die’ and the ‘can-do’ positive attitudes always leads to a positive outcome of one’s life! These have never changed!

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