divzerotrainer:

e3nity:

What sort of training did u provide?

Hi e3nity,

I conduct training on iPhone apps development.

Ivy Ang Siow Kia:

Hi,


Ya, my son also very bad at focusing until he reach 7 years old. I sent him for asessment at KKh too, for about 3 mths and I picked up some very useful tactics to handle my child in terms of focusing during work, when someone is talking to him etc. I used them consistantly even until today.

He can't finish a piece of worksheet by himself and couldn't focus for more than 5 mins. He would feel stressed and complain of chest pain, which is worrying. I had shared with the childcare centre which he was previously attending and even to his current P1 teacher, the childcare centre was supportive and applied the tactics and find it useful too and his concentration span improved. It needs a lot of constant reminders, and its hard work for the dedicated teachers. We have to put in alot of efforts as well.

If anyone of u want me to share the tactics, please pm me.


Ivy

e3nity:

cheerymummy:

How about a 6 year old? How to get her to focus? She jumps from topic to topic when she talks and I get complaints from teachers that she will drift on in class all the time.

Hi cheerymummy, my ds is 6yrs old too.. he dont focus on his work.. instead teachers got to constantly remind him to be focus.. i try to encourgage his good behavior more regularly these days..

before any lesson or by the end of the day, i'll go thru a list of right behavior expected..

For example, end of today when i pick DS from his CC i'll have a short chat with teachers to understand what is DS's recent problems.. It could be walking about during lesson, not focusing when teachers are teaching or even refuse to do his homework.. So before bedtime, i'll take a piece of paper and write down what is expected of him the next day together with him in checklist format..

He participates by selecting the color of the color pencils i use to write.. then i tel him.. This paper will be given to the teachers.. he got to behave well and i'll see how many boxes in the checklist his teachers have ticked.. When he behave appropriately (most boxes ticked), i'll ask him to recap did his teachers scolded him frequently or praised him.. which behavior makes him feel good.. he is able to notice the different treatment teachers give him when he behave appropriately and when he behave badly.. So he tries to follow those guided behavior on the checklist..

DS also has the tendency of hoping from 1 topic to another.. what i do is constantly remind him that we are at TOPIC A now.. we can address TOPIC B later after we complete A.. Sometimes they maybe upset when we stop them from going further.. but i'll just explained to him ONE AT A TIME.. i explain to him using this analogy.. When i feed u 1 spoonful of rice can you swallow? his reply is yes.. When i feed u 2 spoonful of rice can you swallow? his reply is no.. then i ask him.. Why no? his reply is because the mouth is full.. I further explain to him.. its the same concept.. our brain hands and eyes can do a thing by a time.. so only after we accomplished task A then we will tackle task B..

Hope my method works for your DD too..

cheerymummy:

How about a 6 year old? How to get her to focus? She jumps from topic to topic when she talks and I get complaints from teachers that she will drift on in class all the time.

divzerotrainer:

e3nity:

What sort of training did u provide?

Hi e3nity,

I conduct training on iPhone apps development.

e3nity:

What sort of training did u provide?

divzerotrainer:

I wonder if there are any dads in this topic?


From the postings that I have read, it sounds really familiar to me and that was what I did when I was around that age as well. It seems to me that most boys behave like that, and yes, don't fret. It is part and parcel of their learning and discovery stage.

I conduct training from neighbourhood schools to top schools, and almost all the boys that I have seen behave in the same way. These boys are in secondary school.

For a 6 year old, a mind filled with imagination and exploration, to behave in that way is natural, and parents should encourage their discovery and creativity at this stage. Asking them to sit still is killing their natural way of learning. If there is something that they find interesting, they will naturally sit still and focus. If you have not found what interest them, keep finding. And the same goes for adults too.

sean wife:

I hear stories from my colleagues whose kids can sit and do work by themselves since 4 yrs old or even earlier, and I am really envious….at least it means that even if we are at work, they are able to get some work done by themselves…but not my kids who are turning 4 in Sep. They are twins and it has been almost impossible to get both of them to sit down and do work AT THE SAME TIME. Even on a 1-1 basis, they are not that kind that will ‘guai-guai’ sit down and do work…after doing a few questions, will start to say things like there are tired and why so much work etc etc….even for hands-on activities and games, also difficult to sustain their interest for more than say 15 mins.

jasmineong:

hmm, maybe I should encourage more instead of scold. I have been nagging and scolding

and I still see them with the same unfocused look whenever I go off for a break. Time to try something new.

jasmineong:

Yes, how to get my kids to grow up and learn to study and focus on their own? They always need to have me around or in school their teachers must be the strict kind if not they will try to get away with not doing their best.


I want to tear my hair out over their attitudes!

Sun_2010:

hexagon,


there is hope.
DD is less Stubborn now ( sec 1 this yr) than when she was in P4/P5 .
3 years back i was wondering how on earth was I going to survive the teenage phase. Now it seems not so impossible

on second thoughts may be i have grown used to her behaviour , lol!