<![CDATA[A good read - DID I MARRY THE RIGHT PERSON?]]>:love: :goodpost:

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/topic/22089/a-good-read-did-i-marry-the-right-personRSS for NodeThu, 23 Apr 2026 20:10:43 GMTFri, 13 May 2011 01:29:17 GMT60<![CDATA[Reply to A good read - DID I MARRY THE RIGHT PERSON? on Fri, 08 Jun 2012 02:05:37 GMT]]>

WCW:

THE KEY TO SUCCEEDING IN MARRIAGE IS NOT FINDING THE RIGHT PERSON; IT'S LEARNING TO LOVE THE PERSON YOU FOUND.
Hi WCW, this is really a good post I simply love the line that Iโ€™ve quoted above.

It makes so much sense, and yet written in a very sweet way.

I love it so much that I just have to share it on my FB wall. Hope you donโ€™t mind ๐Ÿ˜„
ImMeeMee:
We live with my in-laws and its their house. There are a lot of differences in styles between the in-laws and myself. DH refuses to move out when I broach the subject, citing filial piety. I enjoy privacy but the house is full of relatives during weekends, leaving the house in a mess every time. ILs can change furniture arrangements and renovate the house without consulting us and I have to follow instructions. I dont like this lack of control over my own family.
Oh yes, this is so sick.

And it is such a pity when itโ€™s the ILs are the ones who cause the friction in your marriage.

It is no issue for your DH to be filial, but where do you stand as a wife?

Being filial to parents does not mean you canโ€™t have your own independence.

I do not know how, but you have to talk it out with your DH.

Listen, if you canโ€™t find happiness in the house, no matter how hard you try, you are bound to lose faith in your marriage someday, God forbids!

And should that were to happen because of ILs, itโ€™s definitely not worth it.

I kinda read this post a lil late. Itโ€™s been a few years since you put up this post.

Wherever you are, I hope that things have gotten better now for you and your family.

Cheers!

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/775817https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/775817Fri, 08 Jun 2012 02:05:37 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to A good read - DID I MARRY THE RIGHT PERSON? on Fri, 06 Apr 2012 14:47:52 GMT]]>Let me see โ€ฆ


1) silent treatment when angry - check.
2) complaint of noisy snoring - check.
3) nagging when I forgot to do things - check.
4) grumble that I do not listen to her - check.
5) black face when I am late - check.

Mmmmmโ€ฆ what else?

6) pours me tea when I need one (a few times annually) - check.
7) hugs and kisses that still taste like honey - check.
๐Ÿ˜Ž how beautiful she looks when asleep - check.
9) how cute she looks when just awake - check.
10) still beams the most beautiful smile when presented with a single rose - Double check.

Definately right - chop, stamp, sign, and confirm.
The one and only I can never do without.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/742214https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/742214Fri, 06 Apr 2012 14:47:52 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to A good read - DID I MARRY THE RIGHT PERSON? on Wed, 21 Dec 2011 07:09:44 GMT]]>you make a lot of sense. thanks for sharing. learning to love the person you found, indeed. still am trying. ๐Ÿ™‚

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/668763https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/668763Wed, 21 Dec 2011 07:09:44 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to A good read - DID I MARRY THE RIGHT PERSON? on Wed, 16 Nov 2011 13:00:48 GMT]]>:thankyou: for the inspiring :goodpost: :love:

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/637339https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/637339Wed, 16 Nov 2011 13:00:48 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to A good read - DID I MARRY THE RIGHT PERSON? on Wed, 19 Oct 2011 11:21:40 GMT]]>A very meaningful and thought-provoking read.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/614494https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/614494Wed, 19 Oct 2011 11:21:40 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to A good read - DID I MARRY THE RIGHT PERSON? on Wed, 19 Oct 2011 10:54:42 GMT]]>Good post! It is a timely reminder for me too, love is a decision.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/614488https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/614488Wed, 19 Oct 2011 10:54:42 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to A good read - DID I MARRY THE RIGHT PERSON? on Sat, 15 Oct 2011 17:03:42 GMT]]>After married, sometimes it's normal to look at your spouse and ask yourself this question..I do that quite often myself :oops: & I wonder if he ask himself also...can't tell heh.. Thanks for sharing!

:goodpost:

WCW:
limlim:

The title is a valid question indeed.. as pple say..

Love is blind.. Marriage is THE eye opener.. ๐Ÿ˜‰

yes... u will realise alot of things after... errr hmmmm.... marriage... and then another stage is when have children... ๐Ÿ™‚

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/611359https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/611359Sat, 15 Oct 2011 17:03:42 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to A good read - DID I MARRY THE RIGHT PERSON? on Sat, 15 Oct 2011 17:03:32 GMT]]>After married, sometimes it's normal to look at your spouse and ask yourself this question..I do that quite often myself :oops: & I wonder if he ask himself also...can't tell heh.. Thanks for sharing!

:goodpost:

WCW:
limlim:

The title is a valid question indeed.. as pple say..

Love is blind.. Marriage is THE eye opener.. ๐Ÿ˜‰

yes... u will realise alot of things after... errr hmmmm.... marriage... and then another stage is when have children... ๐Ÿ™‚

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/611358https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/611358Sat, 15 Oct 2011 17:03:32 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to A good read - DID I MARRY THE RIGHT PERSON? on Wed, 12 Oct 2011 14:09:53 GMT]]>good post for me to learn.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/609158https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/609158Wed, 12 Oct 2011 14:09:53 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to A good read - DID I MARRY THE RIGHT PERSON? on Wed, 27 Jul 2011 02:46:04 GMT]]>

WCW:
yes niang niang kiddo...

must listen hehe ๐Ÿ˜‰

but really difficult to find the spark, u know what i mean :?
WCW,
spark :rotflmao: ask the Man in the house ,
They all hang up their boots use for chasing the gals
and become a Couch Potato after they got married ,
Like mY DH say \" NO MORE CHALLENGE mah\" :evil: :spank:

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/510332https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/510332Wed, 27 Jul 2011 02:46:04 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to A good read - DID I MARRY THE RIGHT PERSON? on Wed, 27 Jul 2011 00:16:25 GMT]]>

WCW:
usually the case when one is too long in a relationship...

how about go back to ur honeymoon place :?
honeymoon phase and place yah :evil: :celebrate:
it's in the mind even if you are at the 20-30 anniversary,
it not practical to keep a 'constant\" honeymoon phase :?

Simplicity is the key , find small thing in your daily life
with your spouse to spark the relationships,
SG pace and concrete space is not conducive , find
nature , place of serenity ...doono for me its works,

Think we go through different phases in our relationships,
it no more about the spark it more appreciation. :hi5:

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/509876https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/509876Wed, 27 Jul 2011 00:16:25 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to A good read - DID I MARRY THE RIGHT PERSON? on Mon, 25 Jul 2011 10:25:37 GMT]]>

happy to be mum:


only thing now is how to find excitement in our lives...it is getting too monotonous esp so when DS started his formal education. Why excitement and heart beating fast feelings gone when one is too long in a relationship? How to create some excitement once again?
Absence makes the heart grow fonder. ๐Ÿ˜‰

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/507009https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/507009Mon, 25 Jul 2011 10:25:37 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to A good read - DID I MARRY THE RIGHT PERSON? on Mon, 25 Jul 2011 09:43:24 GMT]]>I believe I did marry the right person & I always feel I am luckyโ€ฆ I have been with my DH for almost 17 yrs (OM goodness, have it been that long??!) married for almost 8 yrs & we can tell each other anything under the sun.


only thing now is how to find excitement in our livesโ€ฆit is getting too monotonous esp so when DS started his formal education. Why excitement and heart beating fast feelings gone when one is too long in a relationship? How to create some excitement once again?

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/506947https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/506947Mon, 25 Jul 2011 09:43:24 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to A good read - DID I MARRY THE RIGHT PERSON? on Thu, 30 Jun 2011 09:15:58 GMT]]>I can not agree with you more. Love is like a tree that needs nurturing. The daily trifles may make us tired and disappointed, but we can not blame love. Marriage is the tomb of love, as the old saying goes. Actually, we will not know where to bury ourselves without marriage.

Though we may face some challenges and difficulties in the twist and turn of life and of marriage, we should try our best to conquer them and live our life and cultivate our love to the fullest.
I still believe Jack shall have Jill.
:celebrate:

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/464493https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/464493Thu, 30 Jun 2011 09:15:58 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to A good read - DID I MARRY THE RIGHT PERSON? on Wed, 29 Jun 2011 06:04:32 GMT]]>[quote]THE KEY TO SUCCEEDING IN MARRIAGE IS NOT FINDING THE RIGHT PERSON; IT'S LEARNING TO LOVE THE PERSON YOU FOUND. [/quote]
Agree :hi5: ... The person who will keep to the promise of staying with you in good times and in bad times. Working out issues together, no finger pointing or blame whatsoever. Holding onto the burden (each holding their end of the \"stick\") and ensuring the well-being of the family... That (in a gist) is the right person to marry :dancing:

:goodpost:

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/461839https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/461839Wed, 29 Jun 2011 06:04:32 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to A good read - DID I MARRY THE RIGHT PERSON? on Wed, 29 Jun 2011 01:12:16 GMT]]>

WCW:
her \"how do u know\" means how u know he is my dh ๐Ÿ™‚

yalor.. she said she'll answer that question but she never answer how she knows he is her hubby......

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/460973https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/460973Wed, 29 Jun 2011 01:12:16 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to A good read - DID I MARRY THE RIGHT PERSON? on Tue, 28 Jun 2011 10:17:39 GMT]]>

WCW:
limlim:

[quote=\"WCW\"]

I noticed that there was a large man sitting next to her so I said, 'It depends. Is that your husband?' In all seriousness, she answered 'How do you know?'

Let me answer this question because the chances are good that it's weighing on your mind.

Here's the answer.


err.. actually.. did she answer the question? can't seems to find leh..

her answer is how do u know lor... ๐Ÿ˜‰[/quote] :pokeeye: :spank:

\"How do you know\" is the question lah.....

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/460453https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/460453Tue, 28 Jun 2011 10:17:39 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to A good read - DID I MARRY THE RIGHT PERSON? on Tue, 28 Jun 2011 01:03:51 GMT]]>The title is a valid question indeed.. as pple say..


Love is blind.. Marriage is THE eye opener.. ๐Ÿ˜‰

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/459356https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/459356Tue, 28 Jun 2011 01:03:51 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to A good read - DID I MARRY THE RIGHT PERSON? on Tue, 28 Jun 2011 00:56:15 GMT]]>

WCW:


I noticed that there was a large man sitting next to her so I said, 'It depends. Is that your husband?' In all seriousness, she answered 'How do you know?'

Let me answer this question because the chances are good that it's weighing on your mind.

Here's the answer.
err.. actually.. did she answer the question? can't seems to find leh..

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/459331https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/459331Tue, 28 Jun 2011 00:56:15 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to A good read - DID I MARRY THE RIGHT PERSON? on Thu, 16 Jun 2011 09:07:15 GMT]]>

WCW:
u sure can!! rem we are one tough parent ๐Ÿ˜‰ dnt mess with us ๐Ÿ˜‰

http://www.glitter-graphics.com
cheers!

:celebrate: :celebrate: :celebrate:

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/448329https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/448329Thu, 16 Jun 2011 09:07:15 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to A good read - DID I MARRY THE RIGHT PERSON? on Wed, 15 Jun 2011 05:02:11 GMT]]>

LOLMum:
hi inmeemee and bigsnoopy,


sad to hear that your dh is unsupportive. it is the same for a few of my friends too.

but theirs might be different from yours because they knew before marriage that their bf (now hubby) is very pro his own family and gf (now wives) are kinda on the 2nd tier. but they still went ahead and got married. now home is like war zone (some mellowed now) but the relationship between couples is definitely very very plain like water.

but like it or not, have to consider kids so my friends chucked their own unhappiness aside.........at least till the kids are older....

take care ..... all the best.
sad to hear that the relationship between the couple is plain like water. i am hoping to move away from that.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/446947https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/446947Wed, 15 Jun 2011 05:02:11 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to A good read - DID I MARRY THE RIGHT PERSON? on Wed, 15 Jun 2011 05:01:05 GMT]]>

WCW:
YKVT:

[quote=\"WCW\"]maybe let your DH read this article?


Aiya no use. It will create more troubles. His side of the family is always more precious. He is even willing to change his dinner time to suit his family.

if that's the case, u have to learn to accept he being like this..... no choice, for ur children. Man are like this, wont realise anything till they lost it, learn though the hard way. no matter how much things wife said they never listen[/quote]Agree, still learning how to accept. but its tough.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/446941https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/446941Wed, 15 Jun 2011 05:01:05 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to A good read - DID I MARRY THE RIGHT PERSON? on Tue, 14 Jun 2011 14:52:05 GMT]]>oic Then really must have really strong endurance power.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/446528https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/446528Tue, 14 Jun 2011 14:52:05 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to A good read - DID I MARRY THE RIGHT PERSON? on Tue, 14 Jun 2011 14:43:09 GMT]]>I thought now no more arranged marriage.

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