Funx3:

cimman:

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I did the Same thing.
As long as my Gal scores near or above the Avg, and Maintain her position more or less in the class position, I know she's OK. We pat each other's shoulders and out we go celebrate -liao!

But I do highlight those Q she got X or marks deducted for careless mistakes and sigh together with her over how many more marks she could add to her score, if only she has been more careful, or precise in her answers. Normally she get the Hint ....
(to be more careful ....)

I do the same thing. I believe comparision is important. It provides a feedback on the areas we should work on. There are 4 subjects. In the limited time that the student has, he can't focus on all 4 subjects. He has to prioritize the weak ones and focus on those. To understand which subjects should demand a higher percentage of time, comparision is needed. The comparision should not be made on marks alone as this is an inaccurate measuring yardstick, as we all know, especially when one makes the jump to P3 or to P5. It should be compared with the median marks in class and at the school level.
This will give us the feedback we need on how much time to allocate to each subjects for revision.

cimman:

Funx3:

I did the Same thing.
As long as my Gal scores near or above the Avg, and Maintain her position more or less in the class position, I know she's OK. We pat each other's shoulders and out we go celebrate -liao!

But I do highlight those Q she got X or marks deducted for careless mistakes and sigh together with her over how many more marks she could add to her score, if only she has been more careful, or precise in her answers. Normally she get the Hint ....
(to be more careful ....)

I do the same thing. I believe comparision is important. It provides a feedback on the areas we should work on. There are 4 subjects. In the limited time that the student has, he can't focus on all 4 subjects. He has to prioritize the weak ones and focus on those. To understand which subjects should demand a higher percentage of time, comparision is needed. The comparision should not be made on marks alone as this is an inaccurate measuring yardstick, as we all know, especially when one makes the jump to P3 or to P5. It should be compared with the median marks in class and at the school level.
This will give us the feedback we need on how much time to allocate to each subjects for revision.

Funx3:

I did the Same thing.
As long as my Gal scores near or above the Avg, and Maintain her position more or less in the class position, I know she's OK. We pat each other's shoulders and out we go celebrate -liao!

But I do highlight those Q she got X or marks deducted for careless mistakes and sigh together with her over how many more marks she could add to her score, if only she has been more careful, or precise in her answers. Normally she get the Hint ....
(to be more careful ....)

Suz855:

I will set target with my girls and want them to out-perform them. I always warn them it is useless to compete with others as it is oneself that they have to outperform inorder to show continuous improvement and progress ... besides competing with their classmates also make them selfish and less likely to share knowledge and work cordially on school work together.


I would still ask them how their classmates are doing as it is always amazing to know that despite the school teaching so little (have to teach my girl all this while) yet come the assessments, all the kids will still manage to score very well ..... :oops:

verykiasu2010:

sometimes the kids do compare among themselves without the parents doing it


DS would come back and and said so and so how many marks....(usually those higher than his)...and that would be his next target...that bunch of boys are super competitive, can discuss amongst themselves for half a day for half a mark question to see who has got better answer......

snowball:

is it advisable to check with class teacher on the highest n lowest marks of each subject ? as i dont feel comfortable to check with other parents, i dont like to compare, but i need the \"medium\" mark to gauge my kid's standard ....

snowball:

is it advisable to check with class teacher on the highest n lowest marks of each subject ? as i dont feel comfortable to check with other parents, i dont like to compare, but i need the \"medium\" mark to gauge my kid's standard ....

chrisu:

Of course I do compare since the class and standard ranking is not stated in the report book.


I did that because marks by itself serve no purpose. Say if my girl scored 90 marks for Maths while all her classmates scored 91 and above, that means my girl is last in the class for Maths. It may also mean that the Maths paper may be easy too. So my girl still lose out to the rest of the class in Maths.

snowball:

is it advisable to check with class teacher on the highest n lowest marks of each subject ? as i dont feel comfortable to check with other parents, i dont like to compare, but i need the \"medium\" mark to gauge my kid's standard ....

Pen88n:

When DS comes back with his marks, we normally go thru the paper together and identify where he has \"short-change\" himself by making careless mistakes or incomplete answers. With this, he will know what is the potential he should be able to achieve for this paper.


I do not compare with other kids individually, but I use the high, low, mean and standard deviation provided by school to show DS where he stands in comparison with his cohort for each individual subjects.

Busymom:

But I do compare ds with his older sister, except not openly

Pen88n:

When DS comes back with his marks, we normally go thru the paper together and identify where he has \"short-change\" himself by making careless mistakes or incomplete answers. With this, he will know what is the potential he should be able to achieve for this paper.


I do not compare with other kids individually, but I use the high, low, mean and standard deviation provided by school to show DS where he stands in comparison with his cohort for each individual subjects.

Comparison has no end state - there is always another higher mountain out there. Different kids has different potential - how to compare orange with apple? What is important is the kid has tried his best and not \"short-change\" himself and his effort.

MummyThreeStreams:

When I was in primary school, my mum always asked me about how the rest of the class did. I did not like it. It was extremely demoralizing if I didn't do as well as so and so. And, if I topped the class, so what, it did not serve to make me try to work harder. When I reached secondary school, and my mum had less time to worry about my grades, I never tried to compare my results with anyone else. I only competed against myself and pushed myself based on what I thought I could achieve. I bring this attitude to my child. I don't compare him with his classmates. He does tell me how his classmates do. I listen but don't encourage it. I'll wait for his teachers' feedback to figure out if he's doing well enough or not.

Pen88n:

Comparison has no end state - there is always another higher mountain out there. Different kids has different potential - how to compare orange with apple? What is important is the kid has tried his best and not \"short-change\" himself and his effort.

MummyThreeStreams:

When I was in primary school, my mum always asked me about how the rest of the class did school. I did not like it. It was extremely demoralizing if I didn't do as well as so and so. And, if I topped the class, so what, it did not serve to make me try to work harder. When I reached secondary school, and my mum had less time to worry about my grades, I never tried to compare my results with anyone else. I only competed against myself and pushed myself based on what I thought I could achieve. I bring this attitude to my child. I don't compare him with his classmates. He does tell me how his classmates do. I listen but don't encourage it. I'll wait for his teachers' feedback to figure out if he's doing well enough or not.