<![CDATA[Self-focused young generation]]>I can’t help it but I think that Singaporean youths- are becoming more self-focused… I want this-- as I "must to be seen as" this…


The “What’s in it for me?” syndrome may be starting to creep in these younger generation and what worse may even stunt their possibilities of achieving common goals and objectives when it comes to unified team-building, or in the long road become courteous Singaporeans willing to have a heart to see another person as a ‘person’…

How can we help them break out of it? Should it start at home? what can schools do to create the awareness?

Any thoughts- teachers in this forums, mums in this forums…

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/topic/24004/self-focused-young-generationRSS for NodeSun, 26 Apr 2026 21:16:16 GMTFri, 15 Jul 2011 08:19:37 GMT60<![CDATA[Reply to Self-focused young generation on Fri, 22 Jul 2011 08:21:02 GMT]]>

Daddy 😧
snowman.697:

Stop focussing too much on grades and being the top. The whole point of exams is to do your best, not to be the best.


This is just a bad excuse for failure... exactly the reason why our SG students are losing out to foreign students.

I agree with snowman.697. It is the same thing I tell my sons and I want them to live by. As for the philosophy behind it, I will not go into it. We see what we choose to see. I don't see the young generation as selfish. But I think there's too much emphasis on academics to the point that many of them do not have time to get to know themselves well. If there's any selfishness, it really stems from the \"I must be better than you\" attitude that promotes constant competitiveness.

[Moderator's Note]

I have edited away the para on the specific individual. Let's stay on the thread's discussion and cease the discussion on any specific individual as it is deemed out of topic.

Appreciate your understanding.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/503063https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/503063Fri, 22 Jul 2011 08:21:02 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Self-focused young generation on Fri, 22 Jul 2011 07:09:07 GMT]]>[Moderator's Note]


Dear all,

Sometimes we form opinions of people based on what we have read in the forum over a period of time. Everyone is entitled to their personal views. However, being an open forum, perhaps we should refrain from passing remarks that could potential hurt an individual and come across as a personal attack. Let's keep an open mind and encourage people to share. On the other side of the fence, whatever we share we also need to be cognisant that it would be subjected to some amount of criticism by people who have some experience in certain areas. It is imperative to be open to suggestion as well and it takes humility to learn.

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]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/502924https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/502924Fri, 22 Jul 2011 07:09:07 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Self-focused young generation on Fri, 22 Jul 2011 06:42:26 GMT]]>

Jennifer:

I think it is quite unnecessary to dig up a post dated in year 2010 and shared it here.

Be more gracious and cut the young boy some slack.

if you hv a copy of ytd's Mind Your Body, pls read page 26.
I think I'm being gracious... as in finding out why he wrote/think in that way... if not I would have chided him further.
Anyway, I'll Mind My Own Business...
:celebrate:

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/502870https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/502870Fri, 22 Jul 2011 06:42:26 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Self-focused young generation on Fri, 22 Jul 2011 06:22:00 GMT]]>

Daddy 😧
Jennifer:


Yes, he is attending RVHS this year.

Came across 1 of snowman's post... I think he needs some serious counselling... :sad:
http://www.kiasuparents.com/kiasu/forum/viewtopic.php?f=23&t=13578&p=254146#p254146

Like they say... children follow the examples (good and bad) of their parents... :sad:

I think it is quite unnecessary to dig up a post dated in year 2010 and shared it here.

Be more gracious and cut the young boy some slack.

if you hv a copy of ytd's Mind Your Body, pls read page 26.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/502810https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/502810Fri, 22 Jul 2011 06:22:00 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Self-focused young generation on Fri, 22 Jul 2011 01:42:00 GMT]]>

Daddy 😧
Reminds me of Star Wars...

young anakin skywalker started out being a bright, adorable kid... got overcome with rage/anger in his youth... succumbed to the dark side and became Darth Vader.

:celebrate:
You very cute lah...

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/501916https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/501916Fri, 22 Jul 2011 01:42:00 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Self-focused young generation on Fri, 22 Jul 2011 01:40:58 GMT]]>Snowman... heard that? You've as much potential as Anakin Skywalker.


DON'T GO OVER TO THE DARK SIDE AND LET YOUR ANGER AND FEAR CONTROL YOU!!

Mwahahahahahahaha!

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/501911https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/501911Fri, 22 Jul 2011 01:40:58 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Self-focused young generation on Fri, 22 Jul 2011 01:39:16 GMT]]>Reminds me of Star Wars...

young anakin skywalker started out being a bright, adorable kid... got overcome with rage/anger in his youth... succumbed to the dark side and became Darth Vader.

:celebrate:

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/501901https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/501901Fri, 22 Jul 2011 01:39:16 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Self-focused young generation on Fri, 22 Jul 2011 00:38:19 GMT]]>

Strparent:
Just followed a link to this posting on young couple threatening elderly woman, for taking pictures of them.


http://singaporeseen.stomp.com.sg/stomp/sgseen/ugly_commuters/699788/couple_threatens_mum_after_they_refuse_to_give_up_their_seats.html

as a footnote, read also the SMRT officer's reply when she called to report the incident.


Times have indeed changed - no longer auto stand up to offer seats to the needy. 🙏
I read that. Terrible display of behavior by the couple and apathy by the SMRT officer.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/501718https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/501718Fri, 22 Jul 2011 00:38:19 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Self-focused young generation on Fri, 22 Jul 2011 00:34:27 GMT]]>

Chenonceau:


Poor baby. We should set better examples for him here. He might be here looking for another role model. He might be here trying to assuage the pain of such a difficult relationship with his Dad. Don't we all let off steam here... problem is... he'll find few people who can help him vent. We are all parents here and therefore are more likely to side his Dad.

But it is awful to live with such a bad-tempered parent. I am sure he is a sweet child. We'll just adopt him and sayang him more then. Poor baby.
Think we should not be too hasty and jump to conclusion based on what is being said in the forum.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/501708https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/501708Fri, 22 Jul 2011 00:34:27 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Self-focused young generation on Thu, 21 Jul 2011 13:28:15 GMT]]>Just followed a link to this posting on young couple threatening elderly woman, for taking pictures of them.


http://singaporeseen.stomp.com.sg/stomp/sgseen/ugly_commuters/699788/couple_threatens_mum_after_they_refuse_to_give_up_their_seats.html

as a footnote, read also the SMRT officer's reply when she called to report the incident.


Times have indeed changed - no longer auto stand up to offer seats to the needy. 🙏

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/501230https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/501230Thu, 21 Jul 2011 13:28:15 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Self-focused young generation on Thu, 21 Jul 2011 12:27:05 GMT]]>

Daddy 😧
Jennifer:


Yes, he is attending RVHS this year.

Came across 1 of snowman's post... I think he needs some serious counselling... :sad:
http://www.kiasuparents.com/kiasu/forum/viewtopic.php?f=23&t=13578&p=254146#p254146

Like they say... children follow the examples (good and bad) of their parents... :sad:

Poor baby. We should set better examples for him here. He might be here looking for another role model. He might be here trying to assuage the pain of such a difficult relationship with his Dad. Don't we all let off steam here... problem is... he'll find few people who can help him vent. We are all parents here and therefore are more likely to side his Dad.

But it is awful to live with such a bad-tempered parent. I am sure he is a sweet child. We'll just adopt him and sayang him more then. Poor baby.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/501168https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/501168Thu, 21 Jul 2011 12:27:05 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Self-focused young generation on Thu, 21 Jul 2011 10:33:55 GMT]]>

Jennifer:

Yes, he is attending RVHS this year.
Came across 1 of snowman's post... I think he needs some serious counselling... :sad:
http://www.kiasuparents.com/kiasu/forum/viewtopic.php?f=23&t=13578&p=254146#p254146

Like they say... children follow the examples (good and bad) of their parents... :sad:

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/501074https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/501074Thu, 21 Jul 2011 10:33:55 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Self-focused young generation on Thu, 21 Jul 2011 10:07:56 GMT]]>

Daddy 😧
Jennifer:

[quote=\"Daddy D\"]Perhaps snowman can do a favour and just tell us his age.

I think he's older than 13.

Based on last year PSLE discussion thread, Snowman took PSLE last year, this year he is in sec 1.

How old did you think he is?

And he's from River Valley High School [*IP] ?
I'll reserve my comments...[/quote]Yes, he is attending RVHS this year.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/501052https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/501052Thu, 21 Jul 2011 10:07:56 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Self-focused young generation on Thu, 21 Jul 2011 10:00:24 GMT]]>

Jennifer:
Daddy 😧

Perhaps snowman can do a favour and just tell us his age.

I think he's older than 13.

Based on last year PSLE discussion thread, Snowman took PSLE last year, this year he is in sec 1.

How old did you think he is?

And he's from River Valley High School [*IP] ?
I'll reserve my comments...

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/501047https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/501047Thu, 21 Jul 2011 10:00:24 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Self-focused young generation on Thu, 21 Jul 2011 09:36:28 GMT]]>

Daddy 😧
Perhaps snowman can do a favour and just tell us his age.

I think he's older than 13.
Based on last year PSLE discussion thread, Snowman took PSLE last year, this year he is in sec 1.

How old did you think he is?

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/500994https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/500994Thu, 21 Jul 2011 09:36:28 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Self-focused young generation on Thu, 21 Jul 2011 05:07:57 GMT]]>

Nebbermind:

there are some leaders who still go by the school of thoughts that in order to get things done, they shd not show too much apathy.
does this count as an example ? :nailbite: :nailbite: :siam:

http://i54.tinypic.com/15d6rg2.jpg\">


maybe the ideology of creating a sense of self-reliance has evolved to one of self-centredness :sad: :sad:

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/500180https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/500180Thu, 21 Jul 2011 05:07:57 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Self-focused young generation on Thu, 21 Jul 2011 00:48:05 GMT]]>a

Chenonceau:
linden2000:

Unfortunately some never outgrow this self-centeredness and as adults, still expect the world to revolve around them. Expect people to drop everything and run to them whenever they need help.


Yeah... some adults are worse.

there are some leaders who still go by the school of thoughts that in order to get things done, they shd not show too much apathy.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/499496https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/499496Thu, 21 Jul 2011 00:48:05 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Self-focused young generation on Thu, 21 Jul 2011 00:00:49 GMT]]>

linden2000:
Unfortunately some never outgrow this self-centeredness and as adults, still expect the world to revolve around them. Expect people to drop everything and run to them whenever they need help.

Yeah... some adults are worse.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/499442https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/499442Thu, 21 Jul 2011 00:00:49 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Self-focused young generation on Thu, 21 Jul 2011 00:00:20 GMT]]>

Sun_2010:
Chenonceau :goodpost:

:thankyou:

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/499441https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/499441Thu, 21 Jul 2011 00:00:20 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Self-focused young generation on Wed, 20 Jul 2011 16:06:57 GMT]]>Unfortunately some never outgrow this self-centeredness and as adults, still expect the world to revolve around them. Expect people to drop everything and run to them whenever they need help.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/499318https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/499318Wed, 20 Jul 2011 16:06:57 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Self-focused young generation on Wed, 20 Jul 2011 15:26:20 GMT]]>Chenonceau :goodpost:

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/499246https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/499246Wed, 20 Jul 2011 15:26:20 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Self-focused young generation on Wed, 20 Jul 2011 07:45:18 GMT]]>

Funz:
Practically every generation will view the next generation as self-focused or self-centred.


Yup... I agree. I think self-centredness is part of every adolescent. Up until then, they've been kids. They ask and we give. They want and we provide. They wish and we oblige. It's ok when you're a little 3 year old clamouring for attention, resources and toys. It's alright when a 3 year old can only understand things from their own perspective. Adults expect to indulge kids.

But adolescents are kids in adult bodies. Biologically they've grown to a size where adults no longer expect to indulge them. But adolescents can't understand why they no longer can clamour and want and desire and think only of themselves, after all they haven't changed mentally... but we have.

Once I realized that, it was just a matter of patiently pointing out my new expectations and patiently explaining them to my DD again, and again, and again... It was difficult for her to understand why I kicked up a fuss when she called up and expected me to leave IMMEDIATELY to fetch her home from somewhere...

Now, she is not self-focused anymore. She has learnt to think beyond herself. It's part of helping them grow up when we help them think beyond themselves? That's my theory - all teens are self-centred just like all babies are self-centred. We just have to help them grow up?

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/498702https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/498702Wed, 20 Jul 2011 07:45:18 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Self-focused young generation on Wed, 20 Jul 2011 07:36:22 GMT]]>Practically every generation will view the next generation as self-focused or self-centred.


We view the next generation as self-focused, our parents view us as such and their parents in turn saw them that way as well.

Each generation will think that the next have it easier to some extent and that makes them soft, less driven, more self-centred, etc.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/498679https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/498679Wed, 20 Jul 2011 07:36:22 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Self-focused young generation on Wed, 20 Jul 2011 07:10:28 GMT]]>I should say they are "self-centered" as well

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/498602https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/498602Wed, 20 Jul 2011 07:10:28 GMT