KSP:

alng:

From my daughter's own words, the factors are:

1) Sleep well
2) Pay attention in class
3) Complete all school and homework on time.

if i ask my dd, the answer would be
1) playground
2) playground
3) playground
:rahrah: :rahrah: :rahrah:

alng:

From my daughter's own words, the factors are:

1) Sleep well
2) Pay attention in class
3) Complete all school and homework on time.

WCW:

i will say all plays a part, without any of them the result will be affected


so, KSP can add in all as a option :please:

michyms:

Agree, there are kids who are in elite school who dun make it, and equally many in not so good primary schools who make it well... so the school plays a part,but obviously the kid himself/herself is what makes the difference. Of course I understand that parents try their best to send kids to elite schools so that some of the \"positive energy\" can rub off the kids, but if the kids dun absorb it then, really wasted.

MMM:

mummy of 2:

It appears that many think the child is the most impt and school is ranked 3rd or 4th. Then why all the mad rush to enroll in \"branded\" primary school? :?

Some thinks that this is a package. Eg. school must be \"decent\" = branded\" so that the \"basic\" requirement of a good environment is met. Then the next question is can the child make it or not given the good environment. So with this, I think child is still no. 1 as in a good school, you still have kids who will not do well in PSLE. Is the school not good? No, but rather it's their own desire, family environment,etc... not all child are build the same way. Some are smarter than the others.

MMM:

I fully agree with you tutormum. I think I belong to the \"kai qiao\" type. I have a cousin who is of the same age. During primary school, she used to be top of school type and given bursary and awards. My auntie always get invited to school to see her girl go up the stage to get prizes. She once told my mum that the pride of seeing her girl receiving those prizes are just so great. However when she went to sec school, she started to get interested in karoke, results slack. Then for some reasons got into an argument with her school teachers. As she belongs to the strong character type, she refused to apologise and she left school at around Sec 2 or 3. I've not seen her since that time and I heard she is married, doesn't work, stays at home and idle around.

I am the opposite. Results is just borderline and was posted to normal stream though I went to a good primary school. No desire or drive at all. Then suddenly in sec 3 I start to kaiqiao. Abit late but better than never. Went on to do my degrees, etc...

I fully understand this aspect that alot depends on the child. But being a parent now, I cannot leave it to chances. So I have to monitor the child to ensure that at least they turn out decent. So I engaged \"brain washing\" to hope to guide them to the right path.

tutormum:

Well said. There is still hope if we can find ways to help and motivate the child. Tuition does help if a child \"guai guai\" study with the tutor's schedule to improve on his grades even though he has been disadvantaged before. I've tutored many children who really \"guai guai\" work hard and improved in their grades and are doing very well in life now. However, I've also other children who no matter how hard you try, can't be bothered. This group may realise when they grow up or in Chinese we call \"Kai Qiao\". If your child has U potential when he's young doesn't mean he'll go U. Similiarly, if your child doesn't do well, don't be disheartened cos they may make it in the end. I've students who failed their exams in lower primary but are now in JC and U. I've also heard about students who did very well in primary schools but couldn't make it to U cos of many factors such as BGR and dropped out from elite school.

mummy of 2:

It appears that many think the child is the most impt and school is ranked 3rd or 4th. Then why all the mad rush to enroll in \"branded\" primary school? :?

KSP:

i would rank the factors as follows.....


1st. The child - i believe if a star is bright no matter where it is, it will shine.....

2nd. The family background, environment, parents and sbilings.

3rd. The school environment, teachers and students.

4th. The enrichment classes - this will depend on how deep the parents' pocket is and how much the child can absorb from the lessons....

i believe there are more factors than these 4..... please share your comments and opinions......

jtoh:

I would say:


#1 - Child. A child that's self-motivated, drive and natural intelligence will go a long way.
#2 - Family. The support from the family, a conducive home environment...
#3 - School. To teach all that's necessary in the syllabus.
#4 - Enrichment. For those who need it.

JonC:

@jedamum


After reading your long summary, it points back to the quality/type of the child himself/herself.

So the child is the important factor.

Smart kids are smart kids, do nothing, they will still do well themselves.

On the other, the not smart and the lazy, whatever you do, even you get heart attack, vomit blood or high blood pressure until blood burst from your head, you will still feel so helpless even you invest full time on them.

mummy of 2:

It appears that many think the child is the most impt and school is ranked 3rd or 4th. Then why all the mad rush to enroll in \"branded\" primary school? :?

sleepy:

My ranking


1. Parents and sbiling - to monitor progress and give motivational speeches regularly
2. The child - with confidence and high self-esteem
3. Enrichment classes - especially during preschool years for headstart





10. The school