<![CDATA[Do you bring yr parents/inlaws for tours/travelling?]]>hi everyone, how often do you bring yr parents & inlaws to travel? do you fork out for their expenses as well?

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/topic/25598/do-you-bring-yr-parents-inlaws-for-tours-travellingRSS for NodeSun, 03 May 2026 16:05:06 GMTTue, 06 Sep 2011 08:41:33 GMT60<![CDATA[Reply to Do you bring yr parents/inlaws for tours/travelling? on Mon, 19 Dec 2011 03:19:27 GMT]]>depending on where we are going, we'll bring our parents.they normally prefer to go to nearby countries as the long journery is too much for them..

at least,we'll get some private times if we choose to travel to further countries 🙂

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/666076https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/666076Mon, 19 Dec 2011 03:19:27 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Do you bring yr parents/inlaws for tours/travelling? on Fri, 16 Dec 2011 07:52:27 GMT]]>Yupz.. for DH & myself.. we've been gg holidays w my parents n his mum quite often.. but usually is nearby countries.. but i guess it is the time together tat is more impt den hw far we go.. so.. it still is now.. n i guess it will b still.. 🙂

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/664492https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/664492Fri, 16 Dec 2011 07:52:27 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Do you bring yr parents/inlaws for tours/travelling? on Fri, 16 Dec 2011 07:40:13 GMT]]>Spend time with your parents while you still can. Need not be holidays to faraway places, can even be a weekend at a chalet will be memories that you will treasure. Me and my siblings have been going for family trips with our parents for years and with each trip we cannot help but be reminded that there may not be many such trips left with them.


We were supposed to for to Korea last week with my sisters and my parents. However, at the very last minute, my family is not able to make it so my sisters with their family and my parents went ahead. The reason for this sudden change? My FIL passed away suddenly, on the day that we were supposed to fly off.

It has been a hectic week and we are just getting back to our normal routine. DH is feeling really down. He has many regrets and is feeling very guilty. He regretted not spending more time with FIL. He regretted not including them in our yearly holidays. He feels even worse when he was clearing out FIL’s stuff and saw that most of the photos of PIL’s holidays were with his Sis and there were none with us. All these are eating away at him now.

I feel bad for DH and can only hope that with time, he will be able to let go of his guilt and going forward, make the effort to spend more time with his mother.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/664478https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/664478Fri, 16 Dec 2011 07:40:13 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Do you bring yr parents/inlaws for tours/travelling? on Fri, 16 Dec 2011 05:03:19 GMT]]>I agree too. If can afford, bring them for holidays. If not, even short trips to Malaysia is good. We must treasure the time we have with our parents.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/664314https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/664314Fri, 16 Dec 2011 05:03:19 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Do you bring yr parents/inlaws for tours/travelling? on Thu, 15 Dec 2011 01:14:13 GMT]]>

sane:
I do try to bring my parents out to tour at least once a year, full expenses by me. My hb or bro wont join..but then it's alright. I just want to be filial to them.


My philosophy is to treasure the time with our parents, nothing lasts forever..there's no need to be calculative especially towards our family.
:goodpost: Agreed with you :hi5:

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/663113https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/663113Thu, 15 Dec 2011 01:14:13 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Do you bring yr parents/inlaws for tours/travelling? on Wed, 14 Dec 2011 13:57:47 GMT]]>I do try to bring my parents out to tour at least once a year, full expenses by me. My hb or bro wont join…but then it’s alright. I just want to be filial to them.


My philosophy is to treasure the time with our parents, nothing lasts forever…there’s no need to be calculative especially towards our family.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/662783https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/662783Wed, 14 Dec 2011 13:57:47 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Do you bring yr parents/inlaws for tours/travelling? on Mon, 07 Nov 2011 14:16:15 GMT]]>Yes, for my inlaws. My mum does not like travelling. When we travel with inlaws, we pay for all expenses, including money to spend.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/629223https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/629223Mon, 07 Nov 2011 14:16:15 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Do you bring yr parents/inlaws for tours/travelling? on Thu, 03 Nov 2011 06:39:12 GMT]]>

ningning:
sometimes, bring parents to holidays, can also lead to unhappiness among siblings...............too

I understand where you are coming from but serious it's a fine line.

I have 4 sils. Out of the 4 bils that I've, only 1 will always bring my pils out for dinner and also bring them for overseas hols. The rest don't. I feel that it's not because they are not filial but rather, they have different personalities. This bil who likes to bring my pils out is the traditional thinking type and can communicate with my pils. Another 2 are like me, no disrecpect but talk only when there is something to say. The eldest is sociable and we are quite transparent. He told me that it's good that my this bil brings my pils out but sometimes he think of his behaviour differently.

Eg. during birthday, we will all share presents but this bil in particular will bring an extra hamper for my pils. So that makes him the most loved son in law. Luckily I am the only dil so no need to \"compete\" 😉 Such actions sort of put on added stress on the rest especially the eldest so it brings about some \"hidden conflicts\". My eldest bil felt that my this \"favored\" bil is trying to get into my pils' good books and hence those acts. For me, I simply bochap as I feel that no matter what happens, my fil will still favor my hubby (his only son) most. There is no doubt about it.

We wanted to organise a major family hols this year. But only the favored son in law family is joining us. The eldest decided against joining as he dun think he can tahan the acts over 8 days of travel. It's unfortunate as I think it would be fun if they join us too as my pils are already in their 70's. My eldest bil is more fun loving, sociable and joker and he is more straightforward which I appreciate him for that. While the favored bil is serious towkay type....abit boring for my liking and this can be translate into more \"scheming\"???. But both are doing well financially and drive luxury cars so no diff in that sense. But he told me explicitly if they are going, he will think twice about joining.... So much for family politics.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/626377https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/626377Thu, 03 Nov 2011 06:39:12 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Do you bring yr parents/inlaws for tours/travelling? on Thu, 03 Nov 2011 06:24:20 GMT]]>

Strparent:
MMM:

My 6 years old recently told us that she will bring us for holidays when she is a grown up. She would help us to carry our luggage and pay for the trip as we are old then. I told her that mummy loves to go countries like Europe and US 😉


Sure our our offsprings grow up to be filial kids.

MMM, that is sweet...but you should hope she will also said that when she is 16 😉

and I am a firm believer that kids will take after their parents, so don't worry about the filial part :imanangel:

strparent : are you the one trying to get a house so that everyone can stay together????

Yes I agree. That's why I said to her.... are you sure you will do that???? 😉 She even insist that we should stay with her and not our 2 older kids....

I feel that as parents we need to lead by examples. Then they will start to think that what we are doing is the norm and will not have 2nd thoughts about it.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/626357https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/626357Thu, 03 Nov 2011 06:24:20 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Do you bring yr parents/inlaws for tours/travelling? on Thu, 03 Nov 2011 06:12:55 GMT]]>Some of us are lucky to have siblings that chip in expenese, no matter what are the size of their chip in. Its the thoughts that counts. But there are some siblings, who just refused to do so, despite they have very very good income. They have taken their parents love and care for granted. And worse, they are not unhappy that the other siblings has taken the initiative to bear all the expenses for the trip , coz they thought other siblings purposely bring parent to holiday to reflect that they are "filial".


sometimes, bring parents to holidays, can also lead to unhappiness among siblings…too

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/626345https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/626345Thu, 03 Nov 2011 06:12:55 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Do you bring yr parents/inlaws for tours/travelling? on Wed, 02 Nov 2011 02:52:29 GMT]]>

Strparent:
yqyq:

My parent has been travelling with me at least once or twice a year. Usually total expenses will be share among the siblings or at least me and my sis.

And irregardless who bring, all of us will try to chip in..after all both of them in 60's jor...if now dont travel, in future maybe difficult to walk or enjoy if too old.

yqyq 🆒 I agree wholeheartedly.

when my father was diagnosed with cancer a few years ago, he said he had not visited 3 places - Shanghai, Perth ( he has been to all other major cities in AUS except Perth ) and Las Vegas.
but due to his chemo treatments, it was difficult to plan. My brother managed to bring him and mum to Shanghai after the 1st complete cycle of chemo. After the 2nd cycle, I brought him and mum to Perth. But Las Vegas......super long trip and his condition.... We failed to fulfill that last wish.
Even now, once a while, I think of him and I hated the fact that we had all the time in the world BEFORE, but we did not asked him where he wanted to go. He was always chinchai when we discussed, and usually end up go places where we or the kids liked.
So now, when my mum said she feels like going a place, we will try to plan to go soonest.


Dont leave it too late to regret. I still miss my old man. 🙏


Sad to hear that...take care strparent

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/625003https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/625003Wed, 02 Nov 2011 02:52:29 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Do you bring yr parents/inlaws for tours/travelling? on Tue, 01 Nov 2011 14:34:25 GMT]]>

yqyq:
My parent has been travelling with me at least once or twice a year. Usually total expenses will be share among the siblings or at lease me and my sis.

And irregardless who bring, all os us will try to chip in..after all both of them in 60's jor...if now dont travel, in future maybe difficult to walk or enjoy if too old.
yqyq 🆒 I agree wholeheartedly.

when my father was diagnosed with cancer a few years ago, he said he had not visited 3 places - Shanghai, Perth ( he has been to all other major cities in AUS except Perth ) and Las Vegas.
but due to his chemo treatments, it was difficult to plan. My brother managed to bring him and mum to Shanghai after the 1st complete cycle of chemo. After the 2nd cycle, I brought him and mum to Perth. But Las Vegas......super long trip and his condition.... We failed to fulfill that last wish.
Even now, once a while, I think of him and I hated the fact that we had all the time in the world BEFORE, but we did not asked him where he wanted to go. He was always chinchai when we discussed, and usually end up go places where we or the kids liked.
So now, when my mum said she feels like going a place, we will try to plan to go soonest.


Dont leave it too late to regret. I still miss my old man. 🙏

MMM:
My 6 years old recently told us that she will bring us for holidays when she is a grown up. She would help us to carry our luggage and pay for the trip as we are old then. I told her that mummy loves to go countries like Europe and US 😉

Sure our our offsprings grow up to be filial kids.
MMM, that is sweet...but you should hope she will also said that when she is 16 😉

and I am a firm believer that kids will take after their parents, so don't worry about the filial part :imanangel:

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/624404https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/624404Tue, 01 Nov 2011 14:34:25 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Do you bring yr parents/inlaws for tours/travelling? on Tue, 01 Nov 2011 06:36:32 GMT]]>My parent has been travelling with me at least once or twice a year. Usually total expenses will be share among the siblings or at lease me and my sis.

And irregardless who bring, all os us will try to chip in…after all both of them in 60’s jor…if now dont travel, in future maybe difficult to walk or enjoy if too old.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/624048https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/624048Tue, 01 Nov 2011 06:36:32 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Do you bring yr parents/inlaws for tours/travelling? on Tue, 01 Nov 2011 06:07:12 GMT]]>My 6 years old recently told us that she will bring us for holidays when she is a grown up. She would help us to carry our luggage and pay for the trip as we are old then. I told her that mummy loves to go countries like Europe and US 😉


Sure our our offsprings grow up to be filial kids.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/624022https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/624022Tue, 01 Nov 2011 06:07:12 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Do you bring yr parents/inlaws for tours/travelling? on Tue, 01 Nov 2011 05:56:22 GMT]]>Strparent, good post.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/624015https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/624015Tue, 01 Nov 2011 05:56:22 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Do you bring yr parents/inlaws for tours/travelling? on Mon, 31 Oct 2011 16:43:08 GMT]]>With my parents, definitely yes. But no way with hubby’s side.

Holiday will be ruined spending 24/7 with them. A holiday is meant to be enjoyed. Besides they don’t like to fly. The last time they went to US (early this year), they were so reluctant…even though tickets already issued. Bags not even packed the day b4 flight.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/623545https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/623545Mon, 31 Oct 2011 16:43:08 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Do you bring yr parents/inlaws for tours/travelling? on Mon, 31 Oct 2011 10:42:20 GMT]]>It's fun to travel with families, along with my sis family, we brought our parents to Taiwan last Christmas, the feeling was great and kids love it too 🕺 would like to do this more often when we can

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/623326https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/623326Mon, 31 Oct 2011 10:42:20 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Do you bring yr parents/inlaws for tours/travelling? on Mon, 31 Oct 2011 10:15:18 GMT]]>If there is one thing I learnt from my father, was that loving your own children is unconditional, and in that aspect, so should filial piety be. He always do all the chores for his parents, buy them any good food when he could afford, bring them to watch shows, bring them on short holidays, etc, and each time never expecting any gratitude back or appreciation. Why ? I think he is just returning whatever he can back, for their efforts when he was growing up.


Likewise, my brothers and I do the same - we bring our parents ( and in-laws ) on holidays when we can. Sometimes to places we want to go, and sometimes to places they want to go, or even sometimes to places where we can only afford to go 😉 . It doesnt matter where - one brother likes to to go Japan, Taiwan, Australia, one likes to go Europe, China, HK, and one may only can afford to go Thailand, Malaysia, Bali, etc, and sometimes we go all together in a big group of 15 to 20 ppl. But it doesnt matter where, you can always tell the parents are very happy to be with their child and their grandchildren.

We have to ask ourselves - why we bring our own parents overseas, or just for a nice dinner ? To gain gratitude ? Envy ? :scratchhead:

I thought it is because we do it, because we appreciate all they have done before and still doing as grandparents. Without them, we wont be here, and nothing we can do, will ever repay back everything they have done. The best thing is, our kids also see this action and reasoning, and hopefully ( but not necessary ) they will want to do the same for us in future.

Just my own thoughts. I feel that it should just come naturally and unconditionally.

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]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/623312https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/623312Mon, 31 Oct 2011 10:15:18 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Do you bring yr parents/inlaws for tours/travelling? on Mon, 31 Oct 2011 07:28:29 GMT]]>I now seldom bring my mum to holiday with me and my DH anymore. Coz the last previous trip, i brought her to Australia, i had actually checked with my elder sister whether she can chip in a little but she declined. She pointed out that since i initiated to bring her along, so i should be the one who to pay the whole fare and everything. I was a little upset coz she and her DH was doing very well in their career and they can afford to go for expensive meals and holidays probably twice a year or more. My mum had helped to care for their three kids since they are borned, but yet they had never brought her along to any holidays except those one day Malaysia trip. It is even zero now , coz her kids are all grown up now and need not to have extra help to care for them during holiday trips.


The reason why i stop bringing my mum since that last trip is when i complaint to my mum that sis declined to chip in for her trip, she still defend her that she is financial not so good…OMG…and my mum look sad throughout the trip coz she missed her three grandchildren…thats why i decided to not to bring her to any trip anymore. Furthermore, i knew that sis also nvr give her any pocket money to bring along to the trip with me then. yet my mum still think very highly of my sis and feels that she is filial…despite she seldom or worse now never bring out her out for meals or shopping since all her kids have all grown up…Sigh…my mum is a "filial mum"…indeed.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/623104https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/623104Mon, 31 Oct 2011 07:28:29 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Do you bring yr parents/inlaws for tours/travelling? on Mon, 31 Oct 2011 03:11:13 GMT]]>Usually we just bring my parents for holidays. Most of the time we pay for their accomodation, flights or coaches. For parents in law…never went holiday with them before. Guess they always decline and not free and have 1001 reasons so me and hubby decided just forget it. Me and my sis will take our turn to bring our parents for holiday. But most of the time its just me who will bring them for short trips.This year will bring them to Bali in December. Its kinda year end treat afterall they help to look after my son.

The sad part…sometimes my PIL will ask questions where i go with whom bla bla bla but when we ask they always say ‘its ok’ or 'dun wan’t…wat to do…haiz… sigh

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/622837https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/622837Mon, 31 Oct 2011 03:11:13 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Do you bring yr parents/inlaws for tours/travelling? on Fri, 21 Oct 2011 06:50:12 GMT]]>we do. we like it coz it helps to have more hands to help with children.

in terms of expenses, my family v zi dong one.
we pay first they oso will transfer back.

IL not so sure. think my Dh pays first but not sure if they pay back. i guess sometimes?

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/616038https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/616038Fri, 21 Oct 2011 06:50:12 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Do you bring yr parents/inlaws for tours/travelling? on Mon, 17 Oct 2011 13:04:46 GMT]]>I like travelling with my mom. My dad doesn’t like travelling coz he has gone to most of the countries in the past. Mom prefers to tag along with me so she doesn’t need to think. I usually pay for the flight and accommodation and she pays for the rest of the expenses.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/612523https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/612523Mon, 17 Oct 2011 13:04:46 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Do you bring yr parents/inlaws for tours/travelling? on Sun, 16 Oct 2011 01:35:58 GMT]]>Since we got married and had kids, it became a habit to bring our in-laws for a holiday once a yr, it became our way of saying thanks to them for helping us look after our kids… and I find it a great bonding time…


This year, we are thinking of going japan… but not sure how to plan yet

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/611406https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/611406Sun, 16 Oct 2011 01:35:58 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Do you bring yr parents/inlaws for tours/travelling? on Sun, 16 Oct 2011 01:29:43 GMT]]>Since we got married and had kids, it became a habit to bring our in-laws for a holiday once a yr, it became our way of saying thanks to them for helping us look after our kids… and I find it a great bonding time…


This year, we are thinking of going japan… but not sure how to plan yet

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/611403https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/611403Sun, 16 Oct 2011 01:29:43 GMT