<![CDATA[Ideally, how many kids would you have?]]>If you do not have your current constraints (for whatever reasons that hold you back), how many children would you have had/choose to have?


I happened to see a poll about "How many Children do you have", and thought it’ll be interesting to know how many children Singaporeans would choose to have if given a choice (without the current constraints if any).

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jedamum:
if the parent cannot handle favouritism, better to stop at as little as possible.

MHO.
http://sg.yahoo.matchmove.com/news/article/playing-favorites

Unfortunately, that's what mostly will happen if have more than one kid, from the study.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/600013https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/600013Sun, 02 Oct 2011 05:30:02 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Ideally, how many kids would you have? on Fri, 16 Sep 2011 13:48:08 GMT]]>Ideally I would love to have 3 just like my own family!


Now have 2 boys and already very happy. But looking at my cute BB makes me wish I can have 3. Actually I think physically I still CAN but there is the age risk lor and I am scared the third one may not turn out well…

I think part of the reason was because my pregnancies were all very easy ie. no throwing up, ate well, slept well, and got treated very well too! So happy! When things turned out well, I guess one can get "addicted" to being procreative. Hee…hee…

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/587226https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/587226Fri, 16 Sep 2011 13:48:08 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Ideally, how many kids would you have? on Fri, 16 Sep 2011 12:59:34 GMT]]>if the parent cannot handle favouritism, better to stop at as little as possible.

MHO.

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Mrsbongz:
We prefer to have 3, but decided to stop at 2... we don earn much, not even the current middle-class kinda pay... but the trade off is we get to spend alot more time with each other and the children... we believe in striking a balance, we work to live well, and living well as a family means spending time not money... so with wat we have now, just nice for 2 lah..

the topic is for the number of kids, without current constrains, so means no need work until no time for kids. 😂

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/587193https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/587193Fri, 16 Sep 2011 12:57:35 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Ideally, how many kids would you have? on Fri, 16 Sep 2011 08:19:43 GMT]]>Sometimes it’s boil down as to what extent u r providing…of cos if everything is premium grade, 1 is enuff. Agreed with Mrsbongz, the most impt is our valuable time rather just monetary value. Enjoy the moments with children, once over we’ll nvr able to turn bk time.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/587012https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/587012Fri, 16 Sep 2011 08:19:43 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Ideally, how many kids would you have? on Fri, 16 Sep 2011 07:34:08 GMT]]>We prefer to have 3, but decided to stop at 2… we don earn much, not even the current middle-class kinda pay… but the trade off is we get to spend alot more time with each other and the children… we believe in striking a balance, we work to live well, and living well as a family means spending time not money… so with wat we have now, just nice for 2 lah…

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/586958https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/586958Fri, 16 Sep 2011 07:34:08 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Ideally, how many kids would you have? on Fri, 16 Sep 2011 06:17:45 GMT]]>

Fairy:
markfch:

If I have a million bucks the bank, I will want 4 kids - 2 boy boy & 2 gal gal.


With ample money, I can be a SAHD and give my best to my children.

Unfortunately I am poor, so I limit myself to only one kid :<

Same here. We would love to have 2 boys and 2 girls if we can afford to provide them with a reasonable standard of living. Sadly, we can only settle for 2, a boy and a girl. Although we still have to worry about providing for them and having enough for our own needs when we are old, we are very happy to have them and are still counting our blessings everyday for the past 15 years! We do not know how our children will turn out to be one day, but we treasure the time we have with them before they become totally independent and do not need us any more. Children are gifts from God. Those who are childless, not by choice will understand what I mean.


AWESOME!

I believe that too... except about the poor status. We make ourselves to be poor by how we live our lives.

eg.
Do we go for massive sales at expos?
I gave up on that... cos I believe and I know that the poor spend time to save money, and the rich spend money to save time. It is the time that we use properly will help in getting us richer (in all sense, not only financial)... and the dollars we save are really not very worth the time spent, if you stop to think about it in depth.

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concern2:
MadScientist:

We planned to have 4, way before getting married...


Achieving that dream soon... 🙂

:congrats:

Wow, that's an achievement!


Thanks! 🙂

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markfch:
If I have a million bucks the bank, I will want 4 kids - 2 boy boy & 2 gal gal.


With ample money, I can be a SAHD and give my best to my children.

Unfortunately I am poor, so I limit myself to only one kid :<
Same here. We would love to have 2 boys and 2 girls if we can afford to provide them with a reasonable standard of living. Sadly, we can only settle for 2, a boy and a girl. Although we still have to worry about providing for them and having enough for our own needs when we are old, we are very happy to have them and are still counting our blessings everyday for the past 15 years! We do not know how our children will turn out to be one day, but we treasure the time we have with them before they become totally independent and do not need us any more. Children are gifts from God. Those who are childless, not by choice will understand what I mean.

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bebebub:
And what if our timeline is up before the child(ren) is/are independent :sad: :offtopic:

immediate relatives... cousins, nephews etc. That's why we always trying to get our child to have constant interaction with them

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janet_lee88:
I'm happy if my kids can grow up to be honest, filial and have good values. No need PHD...better still if daughter can be doctor...be financially independent and intelligent.

Ya, recently someone I know got pregnant before married, and after the initial shock, there was euphoria in the family of being grandparents at 40+...Amazing.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/585697https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/585697Thu, 15 Sep 2011 02:54:11 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Ideally, how many kids would you have? on Thu, 15 Sep 2011 02:45:25 GMT]]>I’m happy if my kids can grow up to be honest, filial and have good values. No need PHD…better still if daughter can be doctor…be financially independent and intelligent.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/585687https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/585687Thu, 15 Sep 2011 02:45:25 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Ideally, how many kids would you have? on Thu, 15 Sep 2011 02:16:26 GMT]]>

MadScientist:
We planned to have 4, way before getting married...


Achieving that dream soon... 🙂
:congrats:

Wow, that's an achievement!

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/585654https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/585654Thu, 15 Sep 2011 02:16:26 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Ideally, how many kids would you have? on Thu, 15 Sep 2011 01:44:07 GMT]]>We planned to have 4, way before getting married...


Achieving that dream soon... 🙂

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bebebub:
concern2:

[quote=\"daddy2007\"]
Thus 1 is good enough. Though I think the only child will be lonely. But we can be friends with the child too 🙂

So who can be their friend when our deadline is up?

:sad:

And what if our timeline is up before the child(ren) is/are independent :sad: :offtopic:[/quote]
Try to get him/her to marry before he/she gets her Phd :rotflmao:
(reference to LKY's talk at NUS recently)

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concern2:
daddy2007:


Thus 1 is good enough. Though I think the only child will be lonely. But we can be friends with the child too 🙂

So who can be their friend when our deadline is up?

:sad:

And what if our timeline is up before the child(ren) is/are independent :sad: :offtopic:

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/585405https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/585405Wed, 14 Sep 2011 15:34:10 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Ideally, how many kids would you have? on Wed, 14 Sep 2011 10:03:58 GMT]]>

LOLMum:
his/her spouse and children.

:snuggles: That's what families are for.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/585213https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/585213Wed, 14 Sep 2011 10:03:58 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Ideally, how many kids would you have? on Wed, 14 Sep 2011 09:53:22 GMT]]>his/her spouse and children.

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daddy2007:

Thus 1 is good enough. Though I think the only child will be lonely. But we can be friends with the child too 🙂
So who can be their friend when our deadline is up?

:sad:

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/585178https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/585178Wed, 14 Sep 2011 09:30:14 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Ideally, how many kids would you have? on Wed, 14 Sep 2011 09:22:37 GMT]]>Ideally 2.


But logical thinking 1 is enough. My current one is already a high maintenance needs which need constant interaction. Need my own private time too

Financial thinking, 1 is more than enough giving the high living standard in Spore and the rat race happening in Spore. More people are getting kiasu and sending their child (even starting from 18 months) to all sort of enrichment classes. Cannot catch up. Also wondering how to sponsor 2 or more to tertairy education if you notice all those studies (esp from insurance companies) on how much does it cost for education in 10 -15 years time. The amount is in term of hundreds of thousands.

Furthermore, in this new age, we won't want to depend on our child to provide for us when we are old. So we also have to build our retirement fund too

Thus 1 is good enough. Though I think the only child will be lonely. But we can be friends with the child too 🙂

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/585171https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/585171Wed, 14 Sep 2011 09:22:37 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Ideally, how many kids would you have? on Wed, 14 Sep 2011 03:55:51 GMT]]>I have always wanted to have two kids. One boy and one girl. However … heaven bestowed me with two lovely sons. Many people told me to try for the third one, but I’m really not keen.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/584699https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/584699Wed, 14 Sep 2011 03:55:51 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Ideally, how many kids would you have? on Wed, 14 Sep 2011 03:45:50 GMT]]>Hahahahaha…

Yeah i also like tat baby baby caring period…
I dont mind loan baby for awhile to secure temp relief burden to mommy but then end of the day , I am gg to return back baby to mommy while i return to my nest … peacefully

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/584679https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/584679Wed, 14 Sep 2011 03:45:50 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Ideally, how many kids would you have? on Wed, 14 Sep 2011 03:38:32 GMT]]>Depending on the temper of the child. If easy going, 吃饱就睡 & 胖胖 cute cute, this kind of baby I don't mind having 10. If tantrum throwing, mood swing, hard to serve kind, 1 already more than enough


Ideally 3 kids would be perfect with the 3rd one having wider age gap, then mama won't suffer empty nest syndrome. But confirm now too old to give birth anymore. I will ask my brother if he can loan me one to 养胖胖 after he got married :rotflmao:

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mummyo:
If totally no restrictions... the more the merrier! But only if guarantee can get all boys.


I only want boys. Luckily I've 3 and all boys. :imcool:
Wow, how come only want boys? And lucky you, all your kids are boys as per what you wished.

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