<![CDATA[Maid issue : MOM came &amp; took maid away]]>Today, 3 Ministry of Manpower officers came to my house and bring away my maid, causing much inconvenience just because my maid don’t feel like to work for me. Just this simple reason. Did they try to mediate between us (my maid and me)? No and the reason they gave is since the maid don’t feel like to work for us, we cannot force her and have to let her go with the help from MOM. There is no counseling, no mediation, no explanation from us, simply listen and follow the maid wishes with backing from MOM, we have to let her go…that’s simple.


Did the MOM think for me? I have 2 young children, 1 eight yrs old and the other 5 yrs old. Who have to make arrangement for them without the maid? I have. If that’s the case, don’t always urge us to give birth to babies and yet, help is so vulnerable…maid says don’t want to work and immediately go to agency, leaving us to think how to cope and manage….is this fair to us? Does the miserable baby bonus help us to take care of all these? No and luckily, I only have 2 children and decided to stop…it will be worse if I have 3 or more children…coping work and family is no joke.

Although my maid suppose to care for my 2 children, she still need my help and until now, 13 months with us, the maid never once cook a full meal for me or my children. I still have to cook for her.

The funny part is under the work permit act, even if my maid is the one requesting for a transfer, I have to bear her accommodation, meal and levy at full cost before she transfer. If she requests to go home before her 2-year contract is up, we also have to bear the air ticket for her, according to work permit act. What if we sign 2 year contract with a company, we will need to be penalized if we leave earlier than the contact. Why maid is so protected??? Do not need to fulfil the 2 years contract and at point, she has the right to call it quit without any penalty, cost and serving notice period!!! If there is such a company, please recommend to me and I will jump into it without fail……

If every maid like her, I will be very busy. I asked the officers, MOM discourages us to change maid frequently – too frequent, we need to be interviewed. If maid complains to MOM and asked for a transfer, we are also being questioned. What is the protection for us, employers?

I asked the agency. For the new maid, I have to pay a salary increase of more than 10% for a fresh maid with no experience, in addition to insurance and agency fee. In addition, we have to train them at least 6 months. As a professional working in the society, my yearly increment is only 3% to 5%, worse than a maid and if I change a job, I will be expected to perform immediately. So, why maid has such a privilege. Are we Singapore citizen better off than foreign labor? No, even if we don’t like to work in a company, we still require to provide notice period but maid don’t need, a word and she can go……

If maid salary increases at such a high rate, we should expect a better quality maid. Yet, the maid we hire is getting worse and worse and we pay more and more……Is there fairness? If the maid is paid that high, at least she must produce a certain quality standard…who set the standard? Nobody!!! The quality of maid we hire over the years are getting worse and worse.

What is our protection as an employer? How MOM protect us? Is there a balance between the maid and us? I write in to voice my feedback and my disappointment on the how the whole issue is resolved.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/topic/26655/maid-issue-mom-came-amp-took-maid-awayRSS for NodeThu, 23 Apr 2026 03:40:20 GMTFri, 07 Oct 2011 15:39:45 GMT60<![CDATA[Reply to Maid issue : MOM came &amp; took maid away on Thu, 17 May 2012 06:41:21 GMT]]>

dasalo:
Each time I read any news about maid, I really get riled up.


I encouraged a maidless family. Change your mind set and living style and things will fall into places with determination. (I did)

Whats the point of having maids when all odds are against you. What you are seeking is only help and it comes with a hefty price.
Ask yourself if all that you hear, see and experienced is worth it.
:goodpost:
Me went maidless for 1 week am doing good and happy.... 😄 :imcool:

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/764210https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/764210Thu, 17 May 2012 06:41:21 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Maid issue : MOM came &amp; took maid away on Tue, 15 May 2012 07:12:52 GMT]]>aiyoh … employers cannot control maid …where got hope leh? …want to hire maid but don’t know how to control maid …let maid control instead …aiyoh

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/762599https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/762599Tue, 15 May 2012 07:12:52 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Maid issue : MOM came &amp; took maid away on Tue, 15 May 2012 06:26:42 GMT]]>Each time I read any news about maid, I really get riled up.


I encouraged a maidless family. Change your mind set and living style and things will fall into places with determination. (I did)

Whats the point of having maids when all odds are against you. What you are seeking is only help and it comes with a hefty price.
Ask yourself if all that you hear, see and experienced is worth it.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/762562https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/762562Tue, 15 May 2012 06:26:42 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Maid issue : MOM came &amp; took maid away on Sat, 07 Apr 2012 08:41:24 GMT]]>Just wondering;


The 3 MOM officers who came down to take the maid away…do they have maids themselves?
Would they like it if 3 other MOM officers came and give them the same treatment when they have problems with their own maids …?
What if their parents’ maids were the ones who wrote in to MOM and they are sent to go take the maids away from their own parents?

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/742431https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/742431Sat, 07 Apr 2012 08:41:24 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Maid issue : MOM came &amp; took maid away on Sat, 17 Mar 2012 18:00:25 GMT]]>

Learning Dad:
ksi:

Personally I feel that we are culturally quite different from the Indos and Pinoys so if the twain never meet especially living under the same roof, tough to have a resolution


as in all forms of communication & relationship, it requires 2 'involved parties'...if I may borrow an old adage \"it takes 2 hands to clap\"....yes we are definitely culturally different...we were raised differently, we have different values & belief....both parties must be willingly to recognize and accept these diversities..

:goodpost: :goodpost: i must remind my relatives and friends this

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/730542https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/730542Sat, 17 Mar 2012 18:00:25 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Maid issue : MOM came &amp; took maid away on Fri, 16 Mar 2012 22:26:23 GMT]]>

ksi:
Personally I feel that we are culturally quite different from the Indos and Pinoys so if the twain never meet especially living under the same roof, tough to have a resolution

as in all forms of communication & relationship, it requires 2 'involved parties'...if I may borrow an old adage \"it takes 2 hands to clap\"....yes we are definitely culturally different...we were raised differently, we have different values & belief....both parties must be willingly to recognize and accept these diversities..

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/730214https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/730214Fri, 16 Mar 2012 22:26:23 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Maid issue : MOM came &amp; took maid away on Mon, 12 Mar 2012 06:43:09 GMT]]>I am so shocked!

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/728117https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/728117Mon, 12 Mar 2012 06:43:09 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Maid issue : MOM came &amp; took maid away on Tue, 11 Oct 2011 00:30:29 GMT]]>inhuman

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/607297https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/607297Tue, 11 Oct 2011 00:30:29 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Maid issue : MOM came &amp; took maid away on Mon, 10 Oct 2011 22:21:08 GMT]]>surprise its a mynmar, they r quite good at making up stories n getting their way, gone are the days when they were known for being hardworking and honest.

It is true that MOM does not recognise th agents contract. I once wanted to blaklist a indon maid some years back that abused my girl.
She was finally left at the agent who wanted to transfer her but the officr at MOM mention that if she was transfered they will stop her immdiately. I did ask what if the employer needed the maid, the offier mentionedd that thy will inform the current employer.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/607271https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/607271Mon, 10 Oct 2011 22:21:08 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Maid issue : MOM came &amp; took maid away on Mon, 10 Oct 2011 11:24:24 GMT]]>

pat3:


I spoken to them in the contact state we both party must give notice 21 days . But the office say “MOM override all the contract you had written.”

That the point in time I shock and I does not know any employment act got such ruling. Had to let them go.

MOM at 6438 5122.
the laws are tipped in the favour of these maids. i seriously wonder if the top management staff working in mom has any such problems with bad maids and how the issues were dealt with.

i am sure mom is awared of such scheming maids and yet have not done anything to help employers. maids are only jailed if they are charged with attempted murder or murder. others, well, sweep under the carpet.

their countries are trying to raise the minimum wage (with support from groups in singapore) and yet supply such quality to us.

i do strongly urge my friends to go maidless if they could do so. maids now are just different from those we have had years ago.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/607117https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/607117Mon, 10 Oct 2011 11:24:24 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Maid issue : MOM came &amp; took maid away on Mon, 10 Oct 2011 09:17:28 GMT]]>For your infor mine maid is from Burmese. Agree with Burmese maid is extremely stubborn and pride. certainly needs lots of tolerance and patience. Scold her she will say want to quit. We had counsel her the next day back to normal. We numerous counseling with her for this one year. All I had to say her cleanness and responsibility is there that why we had tolerance and patience to her.


On the last Friday incident, mine maid actually wrote a letter to MOM. This letter is provided by MOM I think is some form which send direct to MOM to seek for help. I can recall we had dispute with her. but we resolved on that day after 5 to 6 hr talk. Till last Friday she happily say us when is my mom birthday. As she know we will get her to restaurant. Is kind of normal.

Three week later MOM call want to meet up with my maid .But did not mention any thing just a routine check with she happiness. (I also inform them mine maid sensitive and stubborn pls don’t trigger her anything)

On that day 3 office come. Lock in to room and interview her. after interview they don’t allow us to talk to her. they want to bring to maid back becos she want transfer. I spoken to them in the contact state we both party must give notice 21 days . But the office say “MOM override all the contract you had written.”

That the point in time I shock and I does not know any employment act got such ruling. Had to let them go.




Employment Contracts
To avoid disputes, the Ministry of Manpower (MOM) encourages employers and
their FDWs to enter into a written employment contract.
Employment agencies commonly draft mutually agreeable contracts for the
two parties involved.
In event of an employment problem or breach of contract by her employer,
the FDW can lodge a complaint or file a claim with MOM. MOM will contact
the employer and arrange for a meeting between the FDW and the employer to
resolve the dispute.



Disputes with your foreign domestic worker
Disputes might arise because of misunderstandings and differing
expectations.
When these happen, you should first try to resolve them with your FDW.
Even if there is suspicion that she might have committed a misdeed or
crime, you should not take matters into your own hands by meting out
physical or other forms of punishment.
If you need assistance, please contact your employment agency or MOM which
offers help to resolve such employment disputes. The conciliation service
is provided free-of-charge. Please contact MOM at 6438 5122.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/607032https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/607032Mon, 10 Oct 2011 09:17:28 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Maid issue : MOM came &amp; took maid away on Mon, 10 Oct 2011 08:41:35 GMT]]>Agree. Myanmar maid lagi worse.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/606994https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/606994Mon, 10 Oct 2011 08:41:35 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Maid issue : MOM came &amp; took maid away on Mon, 10 Oct 2011 06:47:09 GMT]]>Personally I feel that we are culturally quite different from the Indos and Pinoys so if the twain never meet especially living under the same roof, tough to have a resolution

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/606870https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/606870Mon, 10 Oct 2011 06:47:09 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Maid issue : MOM came &amp; took maid away on Mon, 10 Oct 2011 06:30:35 GMT]]>hi gumiho


i also believe once in a while have to chit chat with my maid but after a while, i am afraid to do so..reason..she will be telling me her family always need money and that is when she will start to ask for advance salary.

initially when she just joined me, she told me her 2 maid friends got raped by their employer and now waiting for the case. i mean...to me, i can't believe it is true.

you are right when you said abt \"self discipline\" but when she does not appreciate the freedom you given to her and always tell alot of white lies, i do not think there is the point to continue 😞

i have given my maid alot of freedom but seems like she does not know what is self discipline...i still have alot to learn! *haiz*..maid hunting is quite an experience man!

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/606850https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/606850Mon, 10 Oct 2011 06:30:35 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Maid issue : MOM came &amp; took maid away on Mon, 10 Oct 2011 05:09:33 GMT]]>

happy to be mum:
my guess...must be a phinoy maid? 😉 sound so familiar when you mentioned \"cannot say she is no good\" 😉 mine is super prideful!

Indon maids are also full of pride

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/606779https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/606779Mon, 10 Oct 2011 05:09:33 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Maid issue : MOM came &amp; took maid away on Mon, 10 Oct 2011 05:08:14 GMT]]>I feel that the problem lies in \"Lack of Communication\".


According to our friends who seldom cook at home, almost everyday they will (maid included) settle their lunch and dinner in restaurants. Basically the maid only has to assist the ma'am to take care of 2 kids and tidying up the house (mansionette). When the Maid's Birthday, they will bring her to a restaurant for celebration and even bought her gift (eg. $200 Guess Watch :yikes: ). What more can the maid ask for right ? Since she is leading a \"good life\" with her employer.

Well........ We are WRONG ! :whut:

When we visited our friend's place with our helper, our friend's maid complained a lot to our helper. Saying her employer (our friends) went out for sumptous meal without her, her ma'am is picky / fussy and stingy, always reprimand her......etc. We were puzzled. What went wrong ? Our conclusion is \"Lack of Communication\".

Our helper is all alone in an unfamiliar country. We are like her family member, she is relying on us. When she is depress, who can she turn to ? Her friends ? Most of the family I heard/saw does not allow their helper to chat with their \"friends\". Do you think the helper will pour their woes to us ? Definitely yes. But only until you had gained their trust. Some families with maid are always struggling in between RESTRICTION or FREEDOM. However, I always emphasize \"DISCIPLINE\" to my helper. Occasionally I will remind her of \"Self-Discipline\". Fortunately, we are still in a good relationship :xedfingers:

I believe once a while we have to sit down and chit chat with our helper to listen to their needs. It doesn't has to be long, at least 15mins out of your busy schedule is enough. Just to show them at least we care for them. :hugs:

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/606778https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/606778Mon, 10 Oct 2011 05:08:14 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Maid issue : MOM came &amp; took maid away on Mon, 10 Oct 2011 03:42:51 GMT]]>my guess...must be a phinoy maid? 😉 sound so familiar when you mentioned \"cannot say she is no good\" 😉 mine is super prideful!

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/606722https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/606722Mon, 10 Oct 2011 03:42:51 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Maid issue : MOM came &amp; took maid away on Mon, 10 Oct 2011 03:12:57 GMT]]>

verykiasu2010:
MOM did not issue notice / warning at all, even if there is any valid complaints ?


or may be the maid swallow all the warnings and notices issued by MOM ?
That's a good point.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/606687https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/606687Mon, 10 Oct 2011 03:12:57 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Maid issue : MOM came &amp; took maid away on Mon, 10 Oct 2011 03:04:32 GMT]]>MOM did not issue notice / warning at all, even if there is any valid complaints ?


or may be the maid swallow all the warnings and notices issued by MOM ?

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/606678https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/606678Mon, 10 Oct 2011 03:04:32 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Maid issue : MOM came &amp; took maid away on Mon, 10 Oct 2011 02:25:39 GMT]]>This should even be made known to the media… tat such ting is happening… leaving us Employers so helpless as to wat to do…


Pat3 has 2 young kids… n there’s not even a chance for Pat3’s family to seek other arrangement first…

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/606634https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/606634Mon, 10 Oct 2011 02:25:39 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Maid issue : MOM came &amp; took maid away on Mon, 10 Oct 2011 02:23:05 GMT]]>Juz one word… ‘OUTRAGEOUS!!’

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/606629https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/606629Mon, 10 Oct 2011 02:23:05 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Maid issue : MOM came &amp; took maid away on Mon, 10 Oct 2011 02:09:48 GMT]]>or perhaps during her off days, the maid secretly run down to MOM a few times to complain, unknown to the employer.


must be happening for quite sometime already … the employer unaware. MOM don’t usually out of sudden go down to an employer’s house, and remove the maid straight away. MOM must have some facts with them, ready at their finger tips. need to listen to both sides of the story, for the Truth.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/606611https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/606611Mon, 10 Oct 2011 02:09:48 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Maid issue : MOM came &amp; took maid away on Mon, 10 Oct 2011 02:05:20 GMT]]>All maids know how to contact MOM. When they arrive in Singapore they’re given a newsletter from MOM with MOM’s contact details. There’s also a postage paid feedback form they can send to MOM.


I suspect MOM and the maid aren’t telling Pat3 everything. MOM won’t come down to take away a maid based on one letter. They will call up the house to talk to the maid first to assess the situation. They will also try to arrange for an interview at MOM. It could be that the maid has been complaining to MOM for a long time already, claiming mistreatment and restriction of movement.

So where did the maid go after MOM took her away?

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/606606https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/606606Mon, 10 Oct 2011 02:05:20 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Maid issue : MOM came &amp; took maid away on Sun, 09 Oct 2011 20:26:57 GMT]]>agree with peapot!! also go tackle ur agent for supplying such a maid.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/606515https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/606515Sun, 09 Oct 2011 20:26:57 GMT