<![CDATA[Missing stationeries]]>Hi all there,


Believe everyone encounter that kid came home with missing item, especially pencils, ruler, eraser,sharpener,1 out of 24 colour pencils. Lucky not with missing school bag or pencil box ๐Ÿ˜“

April liao, my P1 boy came back with missing stationeries quite frequent!! ๐Ÿ˜›

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/topic/2668/missing-stationeriesRSS for NodeWed, 24 Jun 2026 11:36:26 GMTSat, 11 Apr 2009 09:14:34 GMT60<![CDATA[Reply to Missing stationeries on Wed, 29 Jul 2009 10:20:01 GMT]]>

Luvkid:
Andaiz:

Heyhey, so to boost his \"PUNISHMENT BANK\", does DS add to it?


We've set up a Mummy's Stationeer...has normal stationery, and some fancy ones (like coloured pens etc). If DD loses any stationery item, she's to buy the replacement from her own pocket.

So far, so good. I'm happy with it since I need to stock up on spares anyway, no skin off my back.

Err...... things still go wrong...... This evening, ds came back with \"unfulfil duty\"-TO SOAK HIS SOCKS. :nunchuk: I showed him the bucket where he placed his socks and asked \"What's this?\"
He answered,\"Opps, minus 10 cts from my pocket money lor....\"
I said,\" If u remember to do so, do i have to do this???\" :x
He replied,\" no lah....... :wrongmove:

So now, what is it???!!

I actually have reservations of making such a direct link between $$$ and reward/ punishment for behavior/ responsibility.

What's going to happen when it comes to a point where they say, take the $$$ lor, i still have alot!

Perhaps it is better to link non-performance of tasks to non-monetary punishments such as less TV/ play, time or additional housework for a week instead.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/44564https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/44564Wed, 29 Jul 2009 10:20:01 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Missing stationeries on Tue, 28 Jul 2009 13:35:07 GMT]]>

Andaiz:
Heyhey, so to boost his \"PUNISHMENT BANK\", does DS add to it?


We've set up a Mummy's Stationeer...has normal stationery, and some fancy ones (like coloured pens etc). If DD loses any stationery item, she's to buy the replacement from her own pocket.

So far, so good. I'm happy with it since I need to stock up on spares anyway, no skin off my back.
Err...... things still go wrong...... This evening, ds came back with \"unfulfil duty\"-TO SOAK HIS SOCKS. :nunchuk: I showed him the bucket where he placed his socks and asked \"What's this?\"
He answered,\"Opps, minus 10 cts from my pocket money lor....\"
I said,\" If u remember to do so, do i have to do this???\" :x
He replied,\" no lah....... :wrongmove:

So now, what is it???!!

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/44023https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/44023Tue, 28 Jul 2009 13:35:07 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Missing stationeries on Tue, 28 Jul 2009 10:36:51 GMT]]>

buds:
For every pencil lost, put 10 cents

in special petty cash box. Make it
ala donation box! Ahahaa! :lol:
Luvkid:
For Can't name the special petty cash box as donation box. Cos ds is too kind hearted, said \"let's DONATE to ah gong (grandpa-already left us), even i dun have anything missing, just put 10cent/20cent to the donation box and DONATE to ah gong\" ๐Ÿ˜› I changed the petty cash box as \"PUNISHMENT BANK\"(not only for missing item, but also applies for unfulfil duty) cos he has 1 PIGGY BANK for his saving. Earlier on we had a count for his saving and i showed him his PUNISHMENT BANK, and asked him
\"is it a big amount here?\"
He answered \"not at all\" :x
\"If u dun miss out any thing or fulfill your duties, these will be yours\"
He looked at me and gave me a silly smile ๐Ÿ˜›

Let's forward to term 3 and see any result then..
Heyhey, so to boost his \"PUNISHMENT BANK\", does DS add to it?

We've set up a Mummy's Stationeer...has normal stationery, and some fancy ones (like coloured pens etc). If DD loses any stationery item, she's to buy the replacement from her own pocket.

So far, so good. I'm happy with it since I need to stock up on spares anyway, no skin off my back.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/43999https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/43999Tue, 28 Jul 2009 10:36:51 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Missing stationeries on Fri, 29 May 2009 18:29:32 GMT]]>

buds:
For every pencil lost, put 10 cents

in special petty cash box. Make it
ala donation box! Ahahaa! :lol:
Can't name the special petty cash box as donation box. Cos ds is too kind hearted, said \"let's DONATE to ah gong (grandpa-already left us), even i dun have anything missing, just put 10cent/20cent to the donation box and DONATE to ah gong\" ๐Ÿ˜› I changed the petty cash box as \"PUNISHMENT BANK\"(not only for missing item, but also applies for unfulfil duty) cos he has 1 PIGGY BANK for his saving. Earlier on we had a count for his saving and i showed him his PUNISHMENT BANK, and asked him
\"is it a big amount here?\"
He answered \"not at all\" :x
\"If u dun miss out any thing or fulfill your duties, these will be yours\"
He looked at me and gave me a silly smile ๐Ÿ˜›

Let's forward to term 3 and see any result then..

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/31425https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/31425Fri, 29 May 2009 18:29:32 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Missing stationeries on Mon, 18 May 2009 09:43:12 GMT]]>

yjj:
Especially since DD is in a girls school and 95% of all the kids carry a PINK school bag, and 50% of those bought the same model in the school store when it was on discount.


I dont like to add other stuff like key chain/ dolls as they add to the weight of the already heavy bags.
My DD goes to a co-ed school and all the girls in her class had pink bags! That's what I saw on the first day. The keychain I attached to her bag loop has her name in very big letters and I think it helps that her name is unique.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/29190https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/29190Mon, 18 May 2009 09:43:12 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Missing stationeries on Mon, 18 May 2009 09:17:31 GMT]]>

acforfamily:
Guess what? When my son was in kindergarten, he lost...not an eraser, a pencil or whatever but.......... his schoolbag!


It was an artbag and all of them had to carry to school on art day. Everyone's was the same and he someone must have taken his. Was nonchalant about it. After a big lecture about taking care of his things, he learned to start looking for his things and trying to remember where he left them.
I find it useful to personalize the standard issue bags by drawing a picture with a slightly different shaded permanent marker, incorporating the initials as part of the design. Something simple like a flower with initials in the leaf for a girl.

This helps DD to locate her bag quickly and prevent others from taking hers.

Especially since DD is in a girls school and 95% of all the kids carry a PINK school bag, and 50% of those bought the same model in the school store when it was on discount.

I dont like to add other stuff like key chain/ dolls as they add to the weight of the already heavy bags.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/29187https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/29187Mon, 18 May 2009 09:17:31 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Missing stationeries on Wed, 13 May 2009 01:16:04 GMT]]>Guess what? When my son was in kindergarten, he lostโ€ฆnot an eraser, a pencil or whatever butโ€ฆ his schoolbag!


It was an artbag and all of them had to carry to school on art day. Everyoneโ€™s was the same and he someone must have taken his. Was nonchalant about it. After a big lecture about taking care of his things, he learned to start looking for his things and trying to remember where he left them.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/28362https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/28362Wed, 13 May 2009 01:16:04 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Missing stationeries on Fri, 01 May 2009 02:21:24 GMT]]>sigh......recently my dear son came back with 2 missing item,ie eraser and THERMOMETER (given by the school at the start of this year). Due to swine flu, school is conducting actively on temperature taking exercise. But he came back with the thermometer missing.


me: \"where's yr eraser?\"
my son: \"in school.\"
me: \"where's the thermometer?\"
my son: \"in school.\"
me: \"WHY DUN U LEAVE YRSELF IN SCHOOL TOO?\" :x
my son: ......... :shock: (keep quiet,thinking why mummy said this)

I ended this by saying \"Go back to school and find back the items on tmr, th thermometer is critical for the temp taking exercise, u ought to find it, if not answer to yr teacher by yrself!\" And there goes his ๐Ÿ˜ข ๐Ÿ˜ข ๐Ÿ˜ข . \"Is yr responsibility to take care of yr stuff! Stop and off u go!\" (On that day, he has taekwando training)

After he went off, I checked his bag 1 more time. :booboo: I found the thermometer. Me, what to do now??? :imsorry: Apologise when his taekwando training ended. He replies \"Dun do that again hor\" (Scolding him with nothing) I'm sorry too, but not keeping my belongings properly....\" :snuggles:

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/26820https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/26820Fri, 01 May 2009 02:21:24 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Missing stationeries on Thu, 30 Apr 2009 16:57:56 GMT]]>Heyya Luvkid,


I'd hold my stoic self first... when he turns his face away,
giggle a bit... and later when i sit to think abt what just
transpired, mebbe tear a bit... ๐Ÿ˜ข ... its like haiyah..
so poor thing right...

Parenting ain't easy.
Most times parents feel so bad to discipline children in
certain ways and tend to succumb to \"its ok lah\" not a
big of a deal anyways.. but you let up once, you know you'll
let up again many other times after that.. so consistency and
perserverance is so impportant lor.

:ugogirl:

Anyways, just so you know... putting in petty cash box
provides a physical sense of the moo-lah ($$$). Meaning
that the child can see just how MUCH money was being
thrown in there say... in a month! As compared to the
deduction format, which is more of a loss of income
feeling. Hehehee.. But hey, when it comes to the moh-nay
whichever way, the pinch will be felt the same..

Have faith, Luvkid. Your lucky spell will show you the
way through thee end. ๐Ÿ˜‰

Cheerios.
Hava great weekend!

:celebrate:

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/26801https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/26801Thu, 30 Apr 2009 16:57:56 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Missing stationeries on Thu, 30 Apr 2009 16:36:48 GMT]]>For every pencil lost, put 10 cents

in special petty cash box. Make it
ala donation box! Ahahaa! :lol:[/quote]

Hey buds,

I used your method, but instead of set a petty cash box/donation box, i deducted my boy pocket money. Each item found missing, deducts 10 cent on the pocket money for next day. This started 2 weeks back. Yet still in every few days, sure got something gone missing. But at least not that frequent anymore. ๐Ÿ™ One day, he came back with an item missing, he pleaded with me \"give me chance, tmr i go and find,ok\" This really makes me dun know to laugh or cry :?

Hopefully by term 3 or term 4 or next year, he has no problem of this.... :roll:

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/26800https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/26800Thu, 30 Apr 2009 16:36:48 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Missing stationeries on Wed, 22 Apr 2009 15:39:31 GMT]]>

sleepy:
Mine opposite. She comes home with additional stationeries, gifts from her classmates. eg. pencil lead, stack of colour papers, cute note book, colourful paper clips, etc


Generous children who have good intention but didn't realise their parents need to replace those items given away.

I insist she returns those items the very next day or else I will throw away. So there's no incentive for her to accept those gifts. She has since learnt to reject all gifts since she knows I'm not thrilled.
Hey yeah sleepy... mine too. But again only initial periods in P1. Beyond
that no more such nonsense already. Suppose its just a phase our kiddies
go through lah.. But i do not remember bringing my frenz stuff home when
i was her age though... ๐Ÿ˜›

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/25500https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/25500Wed, 22 Apr 2009 15:39:31 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Missing stationeries on Wed, 22 Apr 2009 15:37:28 GMT]]>

schellen:
buds, luckily, my DD is nonchalant about the name labels. Maybe because she went to childcare where we have to label everything, she got used to it.


I gave her MY own set of colour pencils, the one I bought for myself when I had to use it for my previous job. Since I had no use for it anymore and almost brand new, and as a gift to her for starting P1, I gave it to her. It's from Faber-Castell and I noticed that at the end of each pencil, there is a little \"white area'' for you to write the name on. This is so useful as before, I had to change to a silver marker in order to label legibly on her old set of dark-coloured pencils.
I have begun labelling all the kiddies things since they each had their own
stuff. Cos i have two princesses, so some things bought are identical.. If
thiings do get mixed up then there's no issue of mine or yours - all clearly
labelled.

My elder daughter didn't mind any labelling i did for any of her stuff when
she was in P1. In fact, if she has new stuff and i forgot to label them, she
will remind me and insist i label them before she brought them to school..
Now P2 oredi, hehehee... think she noe how to pai-seh liao. Big girl mah.
Can't be still need mummy to label all her property. Must oredi know own
property! Kekekeke..

Yes, i agree with you schellen. Those small white strip area is very useful!

Oh yes, childcare MUST label everything! Very important!

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/25499https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/25499Wed, 22 Apr 2009 15:37:28 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Missing stationeries on Wed, 22 Apr 2009 15:25:15 GMT]]>Mine opposite. She comes home with additional stationeries, gifts from her classmates. eg. pencil lead, stack of colour papers, cute note book, colourful paper clips, etc


Generous children who have good intention but didnโ€™t realise their parents need to replace those items given away.

I insist she returns those items the very next day or else I will throw away. So thereโ€™s no incentive for her to accept those gifts. She has since learnt to reject all gifts since she knows Iโ€™m not thrilled.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/25495https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/25495Wed, 22 Apr 2009 15:25:15 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Missing stationeries on Wed, 22 Apr 2009 15:02:10 GMT]]>I remember when i was young, my parents will put in some new pencils for me when i am asleep.


The next day, when i go to school. I was like wtf these pencils are not mine and then i give them to my friends lol. When i return home, i was scolded by my parents for losing the pencils.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/25490https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/25490Wed, 22 Apr 2009 15:02:10 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Missing stationeries on Wed, 22 Apr 2009 09:57:26 GMT]]>HI,


As for me, I will write his name on the colour pencils, pencils and with initials at the back of the pencil (flat part)

Ruler also name written on it. Story books, in fact all books, I will hold the book pages tightly then write it on the side of the book. No matter how they want to tear the first page off, still the name is there.

Oh, kids are no longer the same like us. They dont treasure their things and belongings as much as we do. All their things are so expensive, I bought colleen colour pencils faber castell and gonis, he dont seems to love them. Brand new, he will be very excited and love it. Very happy and thanked me for all these, time passed, he will put and mix inside a big box. Oh, when I saw it, ohโ€ฆ all mixed up and became a box full of colour pencils. We appreciate all our things cost we dont buythem so often when we were young. Now maybe we relly pampered them.

Now he is better, he will keep only a few to bring to school and lesson, the rest he will leave it at home.

I bought him a big piece of eraser, he will picked on it and throw it at his friends and when he is in deep thoughts, his fingers will subconcious picked at the eraser. Kids are kids.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/25458https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/25458Wed, 22 Apr 2009 09:57:26 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Missing stationeries on Wed, 22 Apr 2009 09:33:35 GMT]]>buds, luckily, my DD is nonchalant about the name labels. Maybe because she went to childcare where we have to label everything, she got used to it.


I gave her MY own set of colour pencils, the one I bought for myself when I had to use it for my previous job. Since I had no use for it anymore and almost brand new, and as a gift to her for starting P1, I gave it to her. Itโ€™s from Faber-Castell and I noticed that at the end of each pencil, there is a little "white areaโ€™โ€™ for you to write the name on. This is so useful as before, I had to change to a silver marker in order to label legibly on her old set of dark-coloured pencils.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/25448https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/25448Wed, 22 Apr 2009 09:33:35 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Missing stationeries on Wed, 22 Apr 2009 07:15:57 GMT]]>

yjj:
I label all the important stationary too, except wooden pencil and small erasers. Thankfully my girl takes care of her things and keep track, and I dont take \"I dunno\" for answer.

I super KS kind. ๐Ÿ˜› Wooden pencils and colour pencils individually
labelled with thin black marker with kiddies' name. And she has yet to
lose them. Recently, she got awarded with a good pupil award of some
kind and i bought the 36 Staedtler colours in a metal case (sleek set
boy!) for her in support of her good effort in school and taking pride
in her school work. It cost a whopping SGD $27.00! Before discount..
Popular was having a sale selling it at SGD $13.50 so i got it lah.. :lol:
But i showed her the original price and.......

She went... :!:
\"For me???\"

Then she went ... :drool:
\"Wuuaaah mummy, so nice.. thank you.\"

Hugs me tight and... finally... ๐Ÿ˜ข
(tears of joy lah... not the wailing kind... but got no appropriate emoticon)

And i told her, \"See! How fortunate you are...? This is so expensive!\"
\"It's quality stuff. Colours come on easily without much pressing of
the pencils so you won't be too tired doing your colouring work...\"

\"You better not lose it ok..\"

Then she went... :faint:

When i tagged her name sticker on the metal box,
she said,\"Ermmm, mum. Can you not write my
name on the colour pencils one by one like b4?
I can take care of my colours fine without them.
Don't worry...\" Embarassment clearly lit her face. :oops:

\"Why? You pai-seh is it?\"
\"Ermm... uh-huh.. actually.. yah. I won't lose it i promise.\"
\"Okay, if you do... i'll use thicker markers to label them in future!\" :rotflmao:

That got her scared out of her wits!
yjj:
I always tell her if \"you dunno\" then it is not important and you dont need it, so no replacement.
yjj:
If she loses something, I will not replace it immediately, but will allow her to take something old that is being used at home for school instead.

I only replace her lost stationary with new ones at the start of new term, but worn out/ used up ones get replaced immediately.

Hope this helps ๐Ÿ™‚
Hey, good one here, yjj. I abide by this too!

Cheerios!

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/25421https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/25421Wed, 22 Apr 2009 07:15:57 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Missing stationeries on Wed, 22 Apr 2009 06:36:47 GMT]]>

yjj:
I always tell her if \"you dunno\" then it is not important and you dont need it, so no replacement.


If she loses something, I will not replace it immediately, but will allow her to take something old that is being used at home for school instead.

I only replace her lost stationary with new ones at the start of new term, but worn out/ used up ones get replaced immediately.

Hope this helps ๐Ÿ™‚
Hmm, I shall try that reasoning with my DD if she loses something again (touchwood!). I didn't bother to replace the lost eraser and I told her why I got her that \"special\" eraser too. Since she couldn't find it or didn't bother to. I just told her to use an old one (that wasn't as effective).

I think she takes a bit more care nowadays.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/25413https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/25413Wed, 22 Apr 2009 06:36:47 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Missing stationeries on Wed, 22 Apr 2009 05:40:19 GMT]]>I label all the important stationary too, except wooden pencil and small erasers. Thankfully my girl takes care of her things and keep track, and I dont take \"I dunno\" for answer.


I always tell her if \"you dunno\" then it is not important and you dont need it, so no replacement.

If she loses something, I will not replace it immediately, but will allow her to take something old that is being used at home for school instead.

I only replace her lost stationary with new ones at the start of new term, but worn out/ used up ones get replaced immediately.

Hope this helps ๐Ÿ™‚

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/25390https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/25390Wed, 22 Apr 2009 05:40:19 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Missing stationeries on Sun, 12 Apr 2009 08:04:06 GMT]]>

schellen:
buds, I'll try the role-play suggestion later with my DD.


Luckily, she goes to a single session school so things may still be around.
Have fun!

It's a mental checklist we want these kiddos to have...
And no giving friends anything!! :roll:

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/23563https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/23563Sun, 12 Apr 2009 08:04:06 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Missing stationeries on Sun, 12 Apr 2009 07:53:38 GMT]]>buds, Iโ€™ll try the role-play suggestion later with my DD.


Luckily, she goes to a single session school so things may still be around.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/23561https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/23561Sun, 12 Apr 2009 07:53:38 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Missing stationeries on Sun, 12 Apr 2009 07:50:21 GMT]]>Heyya schellen, forgot to share with you...

pencils and erasers (lost) still not too bad..
my kiddie first week, forgot art file.. with
new (untouched) drawing block inside &
new ruler.. Big item, okay! Still can forget
to bring home. So now, rule of thumb, similar
to checking for stuff before exiting taxi or bus,
i get her to practise checking all her stuff has
been packed in the bags before leaving her
table or class.

I even role play...

>5 pencils... Check!
>2 erasers... Check!
>1 ruler... Check!
>1 notepad... Check!
>1 scissors... Check!
>1 glue-stick... Check!

Zip up pencil case...

P2 : Ok, done mummy.
Me : Oit! Forgot to check under the desk..
Me : You have just lost another art file based on this role play.. :roll:

*Note : Things left under table usually do not come back.
*Note : Be it labelled or not. One classroom usually utilised by 2 sessions.
*Note : If lost, consider it - bye-be-liao... gone case. :roll:

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/23560https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/23560Sun, 12 Apr 2009 07:50:21 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Missing stationeries on Sun, 12 Apr 2009 07:42:34 GMT]]>Good luck, Luvkid! :evil:


Update hor!

Cheerios.
:celebrate:

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/23559https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/23559Sun, 12 Apr 2009 07:42:34 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Missing stationeries on Sun, 12 Apr 2009 07:33:38 GMT]]>For every pencil lost, put 10 cents

in special petty cash box. Make it
ala donation box! Ahahaa! :lol:[/quote]

Hi buds,

Think will start off with your idea or the one u mentioned earlier
(So, if we can be the
hard-hearted-it's-for-your-own-good-kinda folks
can ask them to purchase the stationery replacements
themselves, from their pocket-money-savings...)
Let's wait n see how my boy going to handle.... :evil:

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/23557https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/23557Sun, 12 Apr 2009 07:33:38 GMT