chocolatebar:

verykiasu2010:

so what is the definition of 'good enough' ?


i think that is the problem

good enough here i mean the kids are able to cope with his / her homework, n they able to have B , not too excellent but not too poor also, meaning middle class in sch homework performance~

LLK:

chocolatebar:

[quote=\"tamarind\"]Every parent has a different opinion of what is \"good enough\". In general 85 to 90 marks is considered bad and teachers will tell you that your kids need tuition. For some parents, they are satisfied only when their kids get 100 marks for all subjects. If the child gets 99 marks for one subject, he must go for tuition. Even when the kids get 100 marks for all subjects, parents want them to get into GEP, so they send them for GEP preparation classes. Getting A* for all subjects is not enough, because the child's PSLE score may still be lower than 260 and cannot enter the top secondary schools. Having tuition for all subjects is not the scariest, wait till you hear about kids who spend many hours memorizing model compositions every day. Are kids too tired ? Yes I think so but then parents will tell you this is good for their kids. The reason is because many parents think that NOT getting into the top secondary schools means that the kids will end up in neighbourhood schools which they think are full of gangsters. The fact is it is NOT true that neighbourhood schools are gangsters schools.

[quote]haiz~ i think all this ve to based on good personality and good education at home. my mum nvr worry bout me and the fren i approach coz i always know who can befren and who cannot.She nvr worry bout my sch results also coz she knows i ll always worry more than her. She do care bout my sch results but she just wan me to be happy in learning. I think i am very lucky to be born in my family. I have seen many kids in Singapore struggling with the dictionary, tuitions, skills lesson and etc. Honestly i feel quite shocked coz in my time i dun ve such things. All i ve to do is homeworks, and go play with my neighbour and ve my favourite art class. ><

Chenonceau:

chamonix:

:offtopic: but I...
Totally agree with you mummies! I have been \"homeschooling\" my kids unintentionally for the last one year. We are having a great time, but I really look forward to them returning to schools and expanding their own social circles themselves.

All the best when you re-integrate!! Welcome home.

maggicho:

Times are different from last time. it's so competitive nowadays. u would probably lose out if u dont hv a good tutor to guide ur child.

chamonix:

:offtopic: but I...
Totally agree with you mummies! I have been \"homeschooling\" my kids unintentionally for the last one year. We are having a great time, but I really look forward to them returning to schools and expanding their own social circles themselves.

Chenonceau:

jedamum:

2ppaamm,
my boy used to ask me if he can skip sch totally, and just do assessment books at home and attend once a week enrichment then go for exams. he claims to learn more in enrichment classes than school.
schools not only provide social exposure (friends), it also roughens kids up to take criticism (from friends/teachers), be flexible (conflict resolution/avoid confrontation), face/handle disappointment/peer pressure which may be only a fraction of what theymay face in worklife next time. and not to forget they can turn to canteen food to snack once in a while out of their mums' sight.
ok..sorry to OT. :imsorry:

:goodpost:

My son definitely learns faster (and retains better) with the computer and other book resources than in school. I send my son to school for the social element too, and to get a feel of rubrics and syllabus.

insider:

2ppaamm:

I actually think it is so sad to send kids to school for 6 hours to get administrated, learn little and then come home and study all over. Something is really and seriously wrong. On top of that, they get scoldings etc. Don't learn much, get scolded but at least got friends. I am consoled at least schools provide (hopefully) some social exposure.

I am the luckier one coz all my kids enjoy schools so far... (despite some time may get hatam by teachers left and right and got blue black...)

jedamum:

2ppaamm,
my boy used to ask me if he can skip sch totally, and just do assessment books at home and attend once a week enrichment then go for exams. he claims to learn more in enrichment classes than school.
schools not only provide social exposure (friends), it also roughens kids up to take criticism (from friends/teachers), be flexible (conflict resolution/avoid confrontation), face/handle disappointment/peer pressure which may be only a fraction of what theymay face in worklife next time. and not to forget they can turn to canteen food to snack once in a while out of their mums' sight.
ok..sorry to OT. :imsorry:

jedamum:

2ppaamm:

I actually think it is so sad to send kids to school for 6 hours to get administrated, learn little and then come home and study all over. Something is really and seriously wrong. On top of that, they get scoldings etc. Don't learn much, get scolded but at least got friends. I am consoled at least schools provide (hopefully) some social exposure.

2ppaamm,
my boy used to ask me if he can skip sch totally, and just do assessment books at home and attend once a week enrichment then go for exams. he claims to learn more in enrichment classes than school.
schools not only provide social exposure (friends), it also roughens kids up to take criticism (from friends/teachers), be flexible (conflict resolution/avoid confrontation), face/handle disappointment/peer pressure which may be only a fraction of what theymay face in worklife next time. and not to forget they can turn to canteen food to snack once in a while out of their mums' sight.
ok..sorry to OT. :imsorry:

insider:

2ppaamm:

I actually think it is so sad to send kids to school for 6 hours to get administrated, learn little and then come home and study all over. Something is really and seriously wrong. On top of that, they get scoldings etc. Don't learn much, get scolded but at least got friends. I am consoled at least schools provide (hopefully) some social exposure.

I am the luckier one coz all my kids enjoy schools so far... (despite some time may get hatam by teachers left and right and got blue black...)

2ppaamm:

I actually think it is so sad to send kids to school for 6 hours to get administrated, learn little and then come home and study all over. Something is really and seriously wrong. On top of that, they get scoldings etc. Don't learn much, get scolded but at least got friends. I am consoled at least schools provide (hopefully) some social exposure.

tutormum:

2ppaamm:

[quote=\"tutormum\"] Now, he go to school for the teaching and get an idea of what's required in the syllabus but learn mostly on his own. :censored:

O goodness! What has become of schools? Administration of syllabus?

2ppaamm:

tutormum:

Now, he go to school for the teaching and get an idea of what's required in the syllabus but learn mostly on his own. :censored:

O goodness! What has become of schools? Administration of syllabus?

tutormum:

Now, he go to school for the teaching and get an idea of what's required in the syllabus but learn mostly on his own. :censored:

tutormum:

Don't worry about offending anyone cos we know there are different types of people that make up this world. :siam:

I agree children in nature want to do their best in whatever they do. It is inbuilt in them. Look at the way they play - full of laughter and joy and they learn through play also. Once they go to school, the sparkle in the eyes get dimmer by the years. Even DS3 who was so eager to attend school when he first learnt what is school began to slack sometime in P2 or P3. :sad: Now, he go to school for the teaching and get an idea of what's required in the syllabus but learn mostly on his own. :censored:

VisualTextEducation:

Success=?


How do you define success or good enough?

What exactly is tuition and how it can benefit your child?

Never force your child to go to tuition. What if your child request for help in his or her academic subjects? Most of my students always commented that their school teachers are unable to teach them properly and they lose motivation. What they really want is to score well in their exams. They really want to! But they have no means to do that themselves. Thats where tuition comes in. Tutors like myself do not just teach. We form the basic motivation for the students to even get interested in their subjects. Most of the time,they lose interest is because of the school teachers. AND its true.

Though I agree that academic success may not be success defined here, academic success gives your child confidence. Lets say your child would like to set up his/her own business in the future and carrying the notion that he/she is a drop out, may just decide not to do so as he has always failed. (In school)

Tuition may not be imperative, but finding a good one certainly helps. Always look for a passionate teacher and not not one that only looks at $$.

My apologies if I offended anyone in this post.

insider:

tutormum:

Parents, are you doing what makes you look good or what is good for your children?

oh tutormum, I know the ugly 嘴脸 of these parents...

in their minds, all is about WINNING! (though we know the probable actual cost)

insider:

tutormum:

Parents, are you doing what makes you look good or what is good for your children?

oh tutormum, I know the ugly 嘴脸 of these parents...

in their minds, all is about WINNING! (though we are know the probable actual cost)