<![CDATA[if i am a mil,]]>if i am a mil, i dont wish to


1) stay with my kids.
2) look after my grandchildren.
3) cook dinner every night for anyone (except dh) to come home to eat.
4) have to handle the my kids’ maid (s).

can only think of the above at this moment, but you never know how things might be like in the future, so…

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/topic/26944/if-i-am-a-milRSS for NodeSat, 18 Apr 2026 09:41:44 GMTSat, 15 Oct 2011 15:57:35 GMT60<![CDATA[Reply to if i am a mil, on Wed, 22 May 2013 01:33:19 GMT]]>

Funz:

......If fact, a lot of issues that seemingly reasonable women have with their ILs are a result of the husbands inability to manage his relationship with his family.
hit the nail on the head!
lurve this post!!

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1007787https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1007787Wed, 22 May 2013 01:33:19 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to if i am a mil, on Wed, 22 May 2013 00:59:25 GMT]]>

Nebbermind:
vinegar:

[quote=\"wonderm\"]

Really can't resist answering this because I have 2 sons. If it happens to me in future, I will say he is definitely not 'mummy's son'. A married man still so useless, better not tell anyone he is my son. :slapshead:

A married man still so useless, better not tell anyone he is my son 😆

You know, all these revelations reminds me of the Korean dramas.

Esp those family theme drama, there is always a fierce mother :nunchuk: who would grab anything handy and whack :spank: her GROWN UP son, usually on the head, when she is angry :siao: . Everyone :nailbite: at home is so fearful 😓 of her, not due to respect, but rather coz she is so bullying!! Even the father keeps quiet when the wimpy sons :slapshead: get walloped!! :heresmyfish:

I could never connect with these k-drama coz I thought we SG donch behave like this.

BUT I WAS WRONG!! :yikes:

No wonder k-drama is so popular here!! 🤷[/quote]Whahahaha :rotflmao:

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1007770https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1007770Wed, 22 May 2013 00:59:25 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to if i am a mil, on Wed, 22 May 2013 00:10:30 GMT]]>

vinegar:
wonderm:

[quote=\"vinegar\"]if the wife gotta come forward,tell his mother,SIL stop bullying her husband, oso confirm he is mummy son?


Really can't resist answering this because I have 2 sons. If it happens to me in future, I will say he is definitely not 'mummy's son'. A married man still so useless, better not tell anyone he is my son. :slapshead:

A married man still so useless, better not tell anyone he is my son 😆[/quote]You know, all these revelations reminds me of the Korean dramas.

Esp those family theme drama, there is always a fierce mother :nunchuk: who would grab anything handy and whack :spank: her GROWN UP son, usually on the head, when she is angry :siao: . Everyone :nailbite: at home is so fearful 😓 of her, not due to respect, but rather coz she is so bullying!! Even the father keeps quiet when the wimpy sons :slapshead: get walloped!! :heresmyfish:

I could never connect with these k-drama coz I thought we SG donch behave like this.

BUT I WAS WRONG!! :yikes:

No wonder k-drama is so popular here!! 🤷

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1007722https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1007722Wed, 22 May 2013 00:10:30 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to if i am a mil, on Tue, 21 May 2013 04:25:02 GMT]]>A married man still so useless, better not tell anyone he is my son


ABove is exactly my dh… but his mum SOOOOO proud of him leh…

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1007263https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1007263Tue, 21 May 2013 04:25:02 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to if i am a mil, on Mon, 20 May 2013 20:03:35 GMT]]>

vinegar:
wonderm:

[quote=\"vinegar\"]if the wife gotta come forward,tell his mother,SIL stop bullying her husband, oso confirm he is mummy son?


Really can't resist answering this because I have 2 sons. If it happens to me in future, I will say he is definitely not 'mummy's son'. A married man still so useless, better not tell anyone he is my son. :slapshead:

A married man still so useless, better not tell anyone he is my son 😆[/quote]Juz curious what is your FIL like?

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1007011https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1007011Mon, 20 May 2013 20:03:35 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to if i am a mil, on Mon, 20 May 2013 06:30:35 GMT]]>

wonderm:
vinegar:

if the wife gotta come forward,tell his mother,SIL stop bullying her husband, oso confirm he is mummy son?


Really can't resist answering this because I have 2 sons. If it happens to me in future, I will say he is definitely not 'mummy's son'. A married man still so useless, better not tell anyone he is my son. :slapshead:

A married man still so useless, better not tell anyone he is my son 😆

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1006717https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1006717Mon, 20 May 2013 06:30:35 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to if i am a mil, on Mon, 20 May 2013 06:30:26 GMT]]>

Funz:

......If fact, a lot of issues that seemingly reasonable women have with their ILs are a result of the husbands inability to manage his relationship with his family.
漂亮！ :goodpost:

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1006716https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1006716Mon, 20 May 2013 06:30:26 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to if i am a mil, on Mon, 20 May 2013 06:07:12 GMT]]>

wonderm:
vinegar:

if the wife gotta come forward,tell his mother,SIL stop bullying her husband, oso confirm he is mummy son?


Really can't resist answering this because I have 2 sons. If it happens to me in future, I will say he is definitely not 'mummy's son'. A married man still so useless, better not tell anyone he is my son. :slapshead:

😆 :rotflmao:

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1006694https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1006694Mon, 20 May 2013 06:07:12 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to if i am a mil, on Mon, 20 May 2013 04:41:33 GMT]]>Hubby's sister loves to bully him too...bcos this fella here never says NO to her...she will never dare to pull this stunt on the other 2 brothers..or she will kena :censored: from them.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1006652https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1006652Mon, 20 May 2013 04:41:33 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to if i am a mil, on Mon, 20 May 2013 03:01:15 GMT]]>

vinegar:
DH's SIL likes to ask my DH to do things for her.She won't ask her husband(DH's elder brother).Her excuse? her hubby in high level job while my DH is not.


there were countless time i've to stand up for my DH....i really tired...

i am struggling hard to manage everything for the family,while he is busy wf his parents,SIL..etc...They've maid to manage everything for them,while i've zero help.Yet,they still not satisfy n keep taking advantage fr. my submissive DH.

WT :censored: !

I thought high level job can ask secretary to do the running around?!!

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1006565https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1006565Mon, 20 May 2013 03:01:15 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to if i am a mil, on Mon, 20 May 2013 02:50:32 GMT]]>

vinegar:
if the wife gotta come forward,tell his mother,SIL stop bullying her husband, oso confirm he is mummy son?

Really can't resist answering this because I have 2 sons. If it happens to me in future, I will say he is definitely not 'mummy's son'. A married man still so useless, better not tell anyone he is my son. :slapshead:

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1006550https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1006550Mon, 20 May 2013 02:50:32 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to if i am a mil, on Mon, 20 May 2013 02:40:33 GMT]]>

nightlone:
janet_lee88:

when i become a mil, or before that, i will be fair to both son-in-law and daughter-in-law...be cordial and adopt a friendly approach, don't whine, don't interfere especially when they quarrel.


curious though... what is meant by 'fair'?
what's fair to me might not be fair to others...
i am sure that my dh's parents think they have been 'fair' to me...
but i really think it's not fair at all 🤷 :siam:

reminds me of the radio joke:

aunt A: my dd married well, the husband does everything, she does not hv to do anything.

aunt B: congrats. Is your son married?

aunt A (sobbing): aiyo, he suay lor. The wife does not know anything, he has to do everything.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1006514https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1006514Mon, 20 May 2013 02:40:33 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to if i am a mil, on Mon, 20 May 2013 01:55:37 GMT]]>

janet_lee88:
when i become a mil, or before that, i will be fair to both son-in-law and daughter-in-law...be cordial and adopt a friendly approach, don't whine, don't interfere especially when they quarrel.

curious though... what is meant by 'fair'?
what's fair to me might not be fair to others...
i am sure that my dh's parents think they have been 'fair' to me...
but i really think it's not fair at all 🤷 :siam:

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1006427https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1006427Mon, 20 May 2013 01:55:37 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to if i am a mil, on Mon, 20 May 2013 01:16:26 GMT]]>

vinegar:
DH's SIL likes to ask my DH to do things for her.She won't ask her husband(DH's elder brother).Her excuse? her hubby in high level job while my DH is not.


there were countless time i've to stand up for my DH....i really tired...

i am struggling hard to manage everything for the family,while he is busy wf his parents,SIL..etc...They've maid to manage everything for them,while i've zero help.Yet,they still not satisfy n keep taking advantage fr. my submissive DH.
In your case, I think the fault lies more with your DH than with your MIL & SIL. If fact, a lot of issues that seemingly reasonable women have with their ILs are a result of the husbands inability to manage his relationship with his family.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1006388https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1006388Mon, 20 May 2013 01:16:26 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to if i am a mil, on Mon, 20 May 2013 01:08:40 GMT]]>DH’s SIL likes to ask my DH to do things for her.She won’t ask her husband(DH’s elder brother).Her excuse? her hubby in high level job while my DH is not.


there were countless time i’ve to stand up for my DH…i really tired…

i am struggling hard to manage everything for the family,while he is busy wf his parents,SIL…etc…They’ve maid to manage everything for them,while i’ve zero help.Yet,they still not satisfy n keep taking advantage fr. my submissive DH.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1006381https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1006381Mon, 20 May 2013 01:08:40 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to if i am a mil, on Mon, 20 May 2013 00:54:24 GMT]]>if the wife gotta come forward,tell his mother,SIL stop bullying her husband, oso confirm he is mummy son?

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1006371https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1006371Mon, 20 May 2013 00:54:24 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to if i am a mil, on Mon, 20 May 2013 00:41:57 GMT]]>

Jennifer:
Bully? Ya, hubby n I always talk about this. What if the DIL bullies our son(s)?


Close 2 eyes lor. It is up to the man to stand up for his own rights. If he cant tolerate, he shld talk to the wife. Not his parents talk to his wife.
If parents gotta come forward, then really a mommy's boy - confirmed and double confirmed!

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1006365https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1006365Mon, 20 May 2013 00:41:57 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to if i am a mil, on Mon, 20 May 2013 00:34:26 GMT]]>

vinegar:
janet_lee88:

when i become a mil, or before that, i will be fair to both son-in-law and daughter-in-law...be cordial and adopt a friendly approach, don't whine, don't interfere especially when they quarrel.


what if u find out ur DIL bullies ur son? making him doing all hseworks n running errands...possible not to interfere?

Bully? Ya, hubby n I always talk about this. What if the DIL bullies our son(s)?

Close 2 eyes lor. It is up to the man to stand up for his own rights. If he cant tolerate, he shld talk to the wife. Not his parents talk to his wife.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1006362https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1006362Mon, 20 May 2013 00:34:26 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to if i am a mil, on Sun, 19 May 2013 15:07:18 GMT]]>Aiyoh…don’t make me worry about son being bullied into doing housework. I believe housework and child-rearing should be fair…even if wife is not working, husband should not be pushing everything to her. Lets not talk too far…still have O levels, college/poly, NS and pref Uni to go.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1006281https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1006281Sun, 19 May 2013 15:07:18 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to if i am a mil, on Sun, 19 May 2013 13:46:20 GMT]]>true…that’s exactly what i always console myself when i get pissed off.


The thing is my dh doesn’t really me well leh…Again,like what u mentioned,no one is perfect.I don’t expect him to be perfect.But he too overwhelmed wf his role as a son,seriously neglect or totally hv neglect his role as husband or father.

Imagine,he has to entertain his mother’s call when i was in middle of labour contraction…

No,i didn’t eat the ba zhan,neither did my dh. I gave all to my colleagues…

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1006249https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1006249Sun, 19 May 2013 13:46:20 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to if i am a mil, on Sun, 19 May 2013 12:27:51 GMT]]>No mil is perfect but we are married to our husband not our mil. No husband is perfect too. If we divorce our current husband, the next one will also have weaknesses. Anyway, we are also not perfect.


Talking about 1 big and 1 small ba zhan, at least you got ba zhan to eat. My mother gave birds nest to mil. Mil cooked the birds nest and give 1 bowl to DH and 1 bowl to DS. None for me although the birds nest is from my mum. Sigh… As long as my husband treats me well and no EMA, it is enough for me.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1006219https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1006219Sun, 19 May 2013 12:27:51 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to if i am a mil, on Sun, 19 May 2013 12:18:43 GMT]]>Give him the small one so he won't get fat? :evil:

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1006218https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1006218Sun, 19 May 2013 12:18:43 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to if i am a mil, on Sun, 19 May 2013 10:05:37 GMT]]>my MIL always tries to show her fairness when my DH ard.


She is a chameleon. 🆒 Once my DH goes off, she'll change colour. :rant:

I remember once she hinted me to give a bigger \"ba zhan\" to my DH.
She said:\"there r 2 ba zhan,1 big,1 small.If u dote ur DH,u shld know what to do....\"

Guess....what is my answer?................................................................................................................... :evil:

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1006186https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1006186Sun, 19 May 2013 10:05:37 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to if i am a mil, on Sun, 19 May 2013 10:02:00 GMT]]>

Jennifer:
I will give the potential gf a list of my boy's shortcomings. Continue the relationship only if she can accept them, agree not to expect my boy to change for the better. That to me is unconditional love.


Of course, I will do my best to make my boys turn into fine gentlemen with good manners.

If I fail to do so, I will issue a disclaimer :rotflmao: Enter at your own risks.
:rotflmao: :rotflmao: that's a good one.....

Jennifer,
Buds passed her humourous virus to u.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1006184https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1006184Sun, 19 May 2013 10:02:00 GMT