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[quote]Zhang Xinyang with his father in a Beijing University of Technology student dorm in 2008. The 16-year-old would rather have his own house. (Photo/CFP)

A Chinese child prodigy, touted to be the youngest student enrolled in a doctoral program in China, has prompted debate among internet users after he said in a TV interview that he thought his parents should buy him an apartment in Beijing.

Zhang Xinyang, 16, a PhD student at Beihang University in the capital, is said to be the youngest doctoral candidate in the country. He became a college student at 10 and received his master's degree at 13, enrolling in the doctoral program at Beihang University in September of this year.

In an interview with state broadcaster CCTV on Oct. 16, the teenager from the northeastern province of Liaoning surprised his audience by saying his parents should buy him an apartment in Beijing. \"What good will a doctorate do for me if I cannot have an apartment to live in?\" Zhang asked.

Knowing his parents are not able afford to a house in China's capital, the teenager told the interviewer that his biggest goal for the time being is to own a house in Beijing and that his parents, who want him to stay in the city, should work hard to provide him with a comfortable living environment.

His remarks drew comments from China's internet community, with many saying they were puzzled by Zhang's arrogant request. Some, however, sympathized with him given that he had spent his childhood fulfilling his parents' hopes through his stunning academic performance.

One critical internet user said, \"Such a selfish PhD won't do any good to the world,\" while another said Zhang simply didn't understand the meaning of gratitude. Still another user commented that Zhang's parents only had themselves to blame as their child had become spoiled.

Xiong Ling, a psychological counselor in Chengdu, said Zhang's comments were an expression of anger directed at his parents because he had given up his childhood to fulfill their demands. Xiong urged parents not to impose adult ambitions on children, instead giving them free rein to pursue their own goals.

References:

Zhang Xinyang 張炘煬

Xiong Ling 熊玲[/quote] :siao:

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/topic/27247/china-s-youngest-phd-student-stirs-parenting-debateRSS for NodeSat, 18 Apr 2026 11:00:35 GMTMon, 24 Oct 2011 02:43:52 GMT60<![CDATA[Reply to China's youngest PhD student stirs parenting debate on Sun, 11 Dec 2011 23:07:18 GMT]]>his attitude behavior towards his parents is atrocious, so self centred, show ill respect & no manners to his parents ! So rude - who teach you this ? got the cheek to ask your parents ... buy you a condo? this very thought is wrong in the first place! after all these long years your parents toil in hardship, pain, sweat & labor from birth, to take care of you, wake up so many times in the middle of night to feed you when you were a baby crying for milk when you hungry, just to change your soiled napkin to make your backside comfortable, bathe you, teach you, groom you ?


ah boy, better wake up .... so what if you're academic PhD student, who cares ! there is a fundamental great flaw in your character, lack of virtue.

when his parents grow old, hope that this boy won't send them to ...
this China boy better recall what he had been taught in his pre-school days - Honor your parents in Di Zi Gui and ... yin shu shi yin. Yes, recall and recap what your kindergarten teacher had taught & remind you before during K1 / K2 days in 孝. go back to your starting point.

go back to your roots :-

at home, Be Dutiful to Your Parents
========================================

1. When your parents call you, answer them right away.

2. When they command you to do something, do it quickly.

3. When your parents instruct you, listen respectfully.

4. When your parents reproach you, obey and accept their scolding; try hard to change and improve yourself and start anew.

5. In the winter, make sure your parents keep warm.

6. In the summer, make sure your parents keep cool.

7. Greet them in the morning to show them that you care.

8. At night, be sure that parents rest well.

============================================

(一) 入则孝


1. 父母呼。应勿缓。

2. 父母命。须奉行。

3. 父母教。须敬听。

4. 父母责。须顺承。

5. 冬则温。

6. 夏则凊。

7. 晨则省。

8. 昏则定。

go back to your basic fundamental

弟子规

总　叙
弟子规　圣人训　首孝弟　次谨信
泛爱众　而亲仁　有余力　则学文

入 则 孝

父母呼　应勿缓　父母命　行勿懒
父母教　须敬听　父母责　须顺承
冬则温　夏则凊　晨则省　昏则定
出必告　反必面　居有常　业无变
事虽小　勿擅为　苟擅为　子道亏
物虽小　勿私藏　苟私藏　亲心伤
亲所好　力为具　亲所恶　谨为去
身有伤　贻亲忧　德有伤　贻亲羞
亲爱我　孝何难　亲憎我　孝方贤
亲有过　谏使更　怡吾色　柔吾声
谏不入　悦复谏　号泣随　挞无怨
亲有疾　药先尝　昼夜侍　不离床
丧三年　常悲咽　居处变　酒肉绝
丧尽礼　祭尽诚　事死者　如事生

出 则 弟
兄道友　弟道恭　兄弟睦　孝在中
财物轻　怨何生　言语忍　忿自泯
或饮食　或坐走　长者先　幼者后
长呼人　即代叫　人不在　己即到
称尊长　勿呼名　对尊长　勿见能
路遇长　疾趋揖　长无言　退恭立
骑下马　乘下车　过犹待　百步余
长者立　幼勿坐　长者坐　命乃坐
尊长前　声要低　低不闻　却非宜
进必趋　退必迟　问起对　视勿移
事诸父　如事父　事诸兄　如事兄

谨
朝起早　夜眠迟　老易至　惜此时
晨必盥　兼漱口　便溺回　辄净手
冠必正　纽必结　袜与履　俱紧切
置冠服　有定位　勿乱顿　致污秽
衣贵洁　不贵华　上循分　下称家
对饮食　勿拣择　食适可　勿过则
年方少　勿饮酒　饮酒醉　最为丑
步从容　立端正　揖深圆　拜恭敬
勿践阈　勿跛倚　勿箕踞　勿摇髀
缓揭帘　勿有声　宽转弯　勿触棱
执虚器　如执盈　入虚室　如有人
事勿忙　忙多错　勿畏难　勿轻略
斗闹场　绝勿近　邪僻事　绝勿问
将入门　问孰存　将上堂　声必扬
人问谁　对以名　吾与我　不分明
用人物　须明求　倘不问　即为偷
借人物　及时还　后有急　借不难

信
凡出言　信为先　诈与妄　奚可焉
话说多　不如少　惟其是　勿佞巧
奸巧语　秽污词　市井气　切戒之
见未真　勿轻言　知未的　勿轻传
事非宜　勿轻诺　苟轻诺　进退错
凡道字　重且舒　勿急疾　勿模糊
彼说长　此说短　不关己　莫闲管
见人善　即思齐　纵去远　以渐跻
见人恶　即内省　有则改　无加警
唯德学　唯才艺　不如人　当自砺
若衣服　若饮食　不如人　勿生戚
闻过怒　闻誉乐　损友来　益友却
闻誉恐　闻过欣　直谅士　渐相亲
无心非　名为错　有心非　名为恶
过能改　归于无　倘掩饰　增一辜

泛 爱 众
凡是人　皆须爱　天同覆　地同载
行高者　名自高　人所重　非貌高
才大者　望自大　人所服　非言大
己有能　勿自私　人所能　勿轻訾
勿谄富　勿骄贫　勿厌故　勿喜新
人不闲　勿事搅　人不安　勿话扰
人有短　切莫揭　人有私　切莫说
道人善　即是善　人知之　愈思勉
扬人恶　即是恶　疾之甚　祸且作
善相劝　德皆建　过不规　道两亏
凡取与　贵分晓　与宜多　取宜少
将加人　先问己　己不欲　即速已
恩欲报　怨欲忘　报怨短　报恩长
待婢仆　身贵端　虽贵端　慈而宽
势服人　心不然　理服人　方无言

亲 仁
同是人　类不齐　流俗众　仁者希
果仁者　人多畏　言不讳　色不媚
能亲仁　无限好　德日进　过日少
不亲仁　无限害　小人进　百事坏

余 力 学 文
不力行　但学文　长浮华　成何人
但力行　不学文　任己见　昧理真
读书法　有三到　心眼口　信皆要
方读此　勿慕彼　此未终　彼勿起
宽为限　紧用功　工夫到　滞塞通
心有疑　随札记　就人问　求确义
房室清　墙壁净　几案洁　笔砚正
墨磨偏　心不端　字不敬　心先病
列典籍　有定处　读看毕　还原处
虽有急　卷束齐　有缺坏　就补之
非圣书　屏勿视　蔽聪明　坏心志
勿自暴　勿自弃　圣与贤　可驯致

pray that Heaven be merciful to this family. hope this boy be enlightened soon, by well wishing close friends, teachers & relatives around. Help him U turn back, learn to respect people, respect humanity & respect parents. pray for miracle happen to help resolve this family animosity or emotional barrier suspect breakdown somewhere - whatever had happened between him & parents. perhaps counsellor or social worker can visit their home, help to restore harmony, peace in the home & a loving relationship built on simple trust, love, respect & kindness between son & parents ?

if continue to be ungrateful - whatever he does, Heaven witness and observe silently from the sky. if he doesn't learn to honor his parents, Heaven can intervene. Yes! indeed Heaven has the power & authority to strip off & remove whatever good things or status in life he had enjoyed / achieved / acquired before, leaving him naked, back to square 1. (da hui yuan sin). Yes! boy, better wake up. this word 孝, is very important. You \"reap what you sow.\" Heaven is witness to how he's going to treat his parents. Nothing escape the hawk eyes of Heaven. Heaven is watching, all the time .... 'Ren zai zuo, Tien zai kan ni'.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/660165https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/660165Sun, 11 Dec 2011 23:07:18 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to China's youngest PhD student stirs parenting debate on Sun, 11 Dec 2011 07:49:50 GMT]]>What’s the use of having a smart kid when doesn’t even think for the parents.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/659942https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/659942Sun, 11 Dec 2011 07:49:50 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to China's youngest PhD student stirs parenting debate on Sat, 29 Oct 2011 06:13:22 GMT]]>if i am a teacher, i hope my students will have a sense of humour after attending my classes...............not just knowledge. 😂

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/621859https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/621859Sat, 29 Oct 2011 06:13:22 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to China's youngest PhD student stirs parenting debate on Sat, 29 Oct 2011 01:28:09 GMT]]>

smurf:
Not really, some people just cannot control their kids no matter what, and have to depends heavily on school. But good sch usually dun care much about value, more about grades.

In every good school, there will definitely be some bad sheep. Just like in the not-so-good sch, there will be some outstanding students. Parents should be the ones to teach correct values to their kids from young. If not , by the time the kids go to sch, their behaviour is already so bad the teachers won't be able to help much.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/621780https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/621780Sat, 29 Oct 2011 01:28:09 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to China's youngest PhD student stirs parenting debate on Fri, 28 Oct 2011 11:25:08 GMT]]>It’s weird. But last time, people tend to leave the teaching to school? Last time, people are so afraid of teachers, but now, the teachers are afraid of students.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/621597https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/621597Fri, 28 Oct 2011 11:25:08 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to China's youngest PhD student stirs parenting debate on Fri, 28 Oct 2011 10:59:49 GMT]]>

smurf:
Not really, some people just cannot control their kids no matter what, and have to depends heavily on school. But good sch usually dun care much about value, more about grades.

That's too much of a generalization.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/621589https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/621589Fri, 28 Oct 2011 10:59:49 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to China's youngest PhD student stirs parenting debate on Fri, 28 Oct 2011 10:52:28 GMT]]>Not really, some people just cannot control their kids no matter what, and have to depends heavily on school. But good sch usually dun care much about value, more about grades.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/621584https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/621584Fri, 28 Oct 2011 10:52:28 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to China's youngest PhD student stirs parenting debate on Fri, 28 Oct 2011 10:38:56 GMT]]>Good manners and good breeding begin at home. People who think that being in a school will help raise a well-mannered child are sadly mistaken.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/621580https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/621580Fri, 28 Oct 2011 10:38:56 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to China's youngest PhD student stirs parenting debate on Fri, 28 Oct 2011 10:28:12 GMT]]>OT:


Was waiting for bus, saw a boy from CHS (yes, must post school name), then ds2 was just looking at him curiously. Immediately, he stare back at ds2 and said, ‘WHAT!!’ VERY LOUDLY. As if want to provoke a fight.

His domestic helper was embarrassed and quickly said, ‘eh’ softly, meaning to tell him not to say that.

Good sch doesn’t mean good behaviour. Good education doesn’t mean good value. Learnt something today again. Haha.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/621577https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/621577Fri, 28 Oct 2011 10:28:12 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to China's youngest PhD student stirs parenting debate on Fri, 28 Oct 2011 03:08:22 GMT]]>some years back I read an article about a local mother who withdrew her son from an elite school because he was getting more haolian and disrespectful to her.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/621186https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/621186Fri, 28 Oct 2011 03:08:22 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to China's youngest PhD student stirs parenting debate on Thu, 27 Oct 2011 06:40:06 GMT]]>Which article? The Taiwanese who sue parents or the one who stabbed his mom? I either watched from fenghuang news or TVBS news. Can try either sites for old articles if you can read chinese - ifeng.com

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/620550https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/620550Thu, 27 Oct 2011 06:40:06 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to China's youngest PhD student stirs parenting debate on Thu, 27 Oct 2011 05:46:59 GMT]]>you still have that article ?


i can’t find on internet

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/620498https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/620498Thu, 27 Oct 2011 05:46:59 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to China's youngest PhD student stirs parenting debate on Thu, 27 Oct 2011 05:24:16 GMT]]>I vaguely recall a similar incident of a Taiwanese boy who sued his parents for not having taught him the proper values since young.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/620471https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/620471Thu, 27 Oct 2011 05:24:16 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to China's youngest PhD student stirs parenting debate on Thu, 27 Oct 2011 04:22:39 GMT]]>He could be harbouring resentment towards his parents. Seems like his parents pressurized him a lot. So maybe he expected rewards for his hard work.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/620415https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/620415Thu, 27 Oct 2011 04:22:39 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to China's youngest PhD student stirs parenting debate on Thu, 27 Oct 2011 04:20:04 GMT]]>he lost his precious innocent childhood, without proper guidance in character moral values. Sad


he grow up not knowing what is the meaning of learn to honor your parents, respect your parents. :slapshead:

today, his definition of success means owning a big house, having lots of $.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/620412https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/620412Thu, 27 Oct 2011 04:20:04 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to China's youngest PhD student stirs parenting debate on Thu, 27 Oct 2011 03:51:26 GMT]]>i pity this child who lost his childhood and innocence. maybe the parents have good intention but use the wrong methods. both parties are losers.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/620388https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/620388Thu, 27 Oct 2011 03:51:26 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to China's youngest PhD student stirs parenting debate on Thu, 27 Oct 2011 03:19:17 GMT]]>so sad to hear this child saying such things to reporters like that.

his parents must be grieved inside, to hear the son say such thing …

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/620337https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/620337Thu, 27 Oct 2011 03:19:17 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to China's youngest PhD student stirs parenting debate on Thu, 27 Oct 2011 01:28:15 GMT]]>

pinky:
LOLMum:

i am sure parents in spore do have similar requests from their kids or made such promises to their kids.


probably the rich parents here dangle a car as a carrot for their kids to do well at A level (happened to one classmate of mine during JC) and a condo at U level :evil:

:yikes:

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/620186https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/620186Thu, 27 Oct 2011 01:28:15 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to China's youngest PhD student stirs parenting debate on Thu, 27 Oct 2011 01:24:19 GMT]]>

pinky:
LOLMum:

i am sure parents in spore do have similar requests from their kids or made such promises to their kids.


probably the rich parents here dangle a car as a carrot for their kids to do well at A level (happened to one classmate of mine during JC) and a condo at U level :evil:

On the other hand can anyone see many of our children be able to
fair any better without help from us in these competitive and
high inflation day and age ........
seem like many KSP parents may not expect their children to
look after them but instead it the other way round to get them started

its a catch 22 .... 🦆

Having said that dangling any of the carrots for results
it's does not help in character building no matter how much
we love them , what kind of generations and generations we want
to create in the future is really in many parents hand :hi5:

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/620183https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/620183Thu, 27 Oct 2011 01:24:19 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to China's youngest PhD student stirs parenting debate on Thu, 27 Oct 2011 00:59:41 GMT]]>

LOLMum:
i am sure parents in spore do have similar requests from their kids or made such promises to their kids.

probably the rich parents here dangle a car as a carrot for their kids to do well at A level (happened to one classmate of mine during JC) and a condo at U level :evil:

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/620153https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/620153Thu, 27 Oct 2011 00:59:41 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to China's youngest PhD student stirs parenting debate on Wed, 26 Oct 2011 23:36:11 GMT]]>i am sure parents in spore do have similar requests from their kids or made such promises to their kids.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/620066https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/620066Wed, 26 Oct 2011 23:36:11 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to China's youngest PhD student stirs parenting debate on Wed, 26 Oct 2011 23:16:37 GMT]]>Groomed to be self-entitled from young.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/620053https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/620053Wed, 26 Oct 2011 23:16:37 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to China's youngest PhD student stirs parenting debate on Tue, 25 Oct 2011 14:42:44 GMT]]>

pinky:
concern2:

This reminds me of an incident of a Chinese guy who was asked by his mom to return home from Japan cos she couldn't afford to pay his fees anymore and upon his arrival at the airport in China, stabbed her to death.


understand it must be an extremely exasperating decision for him but still... killing his own mother ??

The price of competition and upward mobility make people less humane
and very self centred to the hilt 😓 :gloomy:

Seems like the parent must provide everything for their child to excel
in this day and age ?? towards to the extreme at least it seem in China?

SG has a slightly different version of extreme ? :skeptical:

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/619257https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/619257Tue, 25 Oct 2011 14:42:44 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to China's youngest PhD student stirs parenting debate on Tue, 25 Oct 2011 03:05:32 GMT]]>

concern2:
This reminds me of an incident of a Chinese guy who was asked by his mom to return home from Japan cos she couldn't afford to pay his fees anymore and upon his arrival at the airport in China, stabbed her to death.

understand it must be an extremely exasperating decision for him but still... killing his own mother ??

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/618585https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/618585Tue, 25 Oct 2011 03:05:32 GMT