<![CDATA[How to siam OT 'social' duty?.. ...]]>How do you :siam: when friends/relatives expect you to 'help out' when they see your face?

Some babies are really cute, and some mummies thought they can leave their baby in your care everytime they see you while they hop off to do other stuff.. ...After kena a few long sessions I really want to learn how to be hard hearted.. :faint:
Just because I speak mandarin and can understand mainlanders' a little better does not mean I love to yak away with them... Dinner time stare stare and look left out means I have to 'say something' to you to make you feel better.. .. :slapshead:
:rant: Sorry I am in ranting mood de.. ..I have decided to stop playing 'free labour' and 'entertainer' from now.. ..want to try relac one corner without feeling too 'guilty'.. ... :rant:
:?:

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/topic/27751/how-to-siam-ot-social-dutyRSS for NodeSat, 12 Sep 2026 12:10:12 GMTSun, 06 Nov 2011 16:58:04 GMT60<![CDATA[Reply to How to siam OT 'social' duty?.. ... on Fri, 11 Nov 2011 11:17:04 GMT]]>Hiya kiddo,

I survived! :boogie:
Some naughty relative decided to play musical chairs and saved me..
Quite a peaceful night.. .with MIL Madam Butterfly fluttering around comically only..Lucky DH heed my advice and did go around talking about exam and results.. .I told him to be sensitive to other parents with older kids..
Heng I didn't need to talk about our Sg stuff and spend the whole evening explaining to the foreign wives club.. ..very siong de...
😄

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/633118https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/633118Fri, 11 Nov 2011 11:17:04 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to How to siam OT 'social' duty?.. ... on Fri, 11 Nov 2011 07:54:18 GMT]]>

auntieM:
Hiya kiddo,

Today not off de.. ...
Dinner tonight with 'FT' wives.. hopefully sit further away...Fat hope.. :slapshead:
My DH sure anyhow 'brag' about DS's exam results in his half-past 6 chinese and I'll have to explain after him...
My Madam butterfly will also be dramatising tonight de.. .. :razz:
Really got to pop Panadol early.. :faint:
:imdrowning:
auntie M :hi5:
How is your dramadrastic, foreign dignitary dinner :evil:

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/632976https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/632976Fri, 11 Nov 2011 07:54:18 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to How to siam OT 'social' duty?.. ... on Wed, 09 Nov 2011 02:31:39 GMT]]>Hiya kiddo,

Today not off de.. ...
Dinner tonight with 'FT' wives.. hopefully sit further away...Fat hope.. :slapshead:
My DH sure anyhow 'brag' about DS's exam results in his half-past 6 chinese and I'll have to explain after him...
My Madam butterfly will also be dramatising tonight de.. .. :razz:
Really got to pop Panadol early.. :faint:
:imdrowning:

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/630599https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/630599Wed, 09 Nov 2011 02:31:39 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to How to siam OT 'social' duty?.. ... on Wed, 09 Nov 2011 00:50:38 GMT]]>

auntieM:
buds:

auntieM arh.. err.. okay lor.. next time we meet i dun bring chubs hor. 😉


No lah.. ...not applicable on you sista!

Today I braved the 'scene'.. ..said hello and ignore the baby that was almost falling off his mummy's hips and yakked with another lady..later head out for coffee..
When I came back for DS later, another older lady was 'offered' the babysitter job liao.. .. :faint:

Thank you all .. :grphug:

AuntieM off day today ---- want to go kOPI AT sPINELLI :boogie:
😉 :rotflmao:

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/630481https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/630481Wed, 09 Nov 2011 00:50:38 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to How to siam OT 'social' duty?.. ... on Tue, 08 Nov 2011 15:02:36 GMT]]>

buds:
auntieM arh.. err.. okay lor.. next time we meet i dun bring chubs hor. 😉

No lah.. ...not applicable on you sista!

Today I braved the 'scene'.. ..said hello and ignore the baby that was almost falling off his mummy's hips and yakked with another lady..later head out for coffee..
When I came back for DS later, another older lady was 'offered' the babysitter job liao.. .. :faint:

Thank you all .. :grphug:

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/630147https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/630147Tue, 08 Nov 2011 15:02:36 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to How to siam OT 'social' duty?.. ... on Tue, 08 Nov 2011 07:10:17 GMT]]>auntieM arh.. err.. okay lor.. next time we meet i dun bring chubs hor. 😉

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/629757https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/629757Tue, 08 Nov 2011 07:10:17 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to How to siam OT 'social' duty?.. ... on Tue, 08 Nov 2011 04:02:54 GMT]]>that’s just ridiculous. people should only offload their babies to people who very keenly ask to help. and even then, only family members, not casual acquaintances!

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/629596https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/629596Tue, 08 Nov 2011 04:02:54 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to How to siam OT 'social' duty?.. ... on Tue, 08 Nov 2011 01:49:07 GMT]]>

auntieM:
Thanks ladies!

I didn't really think much of all these till recently..
Sometimes while waiting for DS, this person will push the stroller near me.. ..and wait for me to 'get started' with the little one before she moves off..
Abit too much I feel like 'free' labour liao..next round will :siam:
Having to talk to friend's wife and listen to her 'brag' about how well her 11 year old P3 boy have done for his exam and how good he is over dinner really spoils one appetitie... :stupid:
Not like me good.. ...time to 'wake up my idea'.. ..
:slapshead:
tell her 'nicely': of course he is expected to do well because he is 2 years
older than a normal local P3 kid :evil: :evil: and this
is all within expectations, nothing great 🆒

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/629445https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/629445Tue, 08 Nov 2011 01:49:07 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to How to siam OT 'social' duty?.. ... on Mon, 07 Nov 2011 14:04:47 GMT]]>

auntieM:
Will take note and start action today.. .. :nunchuk:

Thanks all for tips and at least I know where to start now.. ..without feeling unsure .. :rahrah:
Side note.. These ladies all happen to be wives of friends and are not local.. ...maybe there are more of these patterns around ..

If the hubby is around, I would go to him and shove baby into his arms and say \"oh your wife has been gone for a long time and i can't find her but here is your baby\".

local or not, it is just bad manners.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/629214https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/629214Mon, 07 Nov 2011 14:04:47 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to How to siam OT 'social' duty?.. ... on Mon, 07 Nov 2011 11:39:23 GMT]]>

auntieM:
jtoh:

You mean they just push the stroller to you and walk away, expecting you to look after the baby without asking you if it's alright with you? OMG! Next time ignore them completely, chat on your phone or accidently 'sneeze' on the baby and say you have the flu.


Of course there is the usual greetings and 'you want Auntie to carry you ...'
I am determined to develop serious coughing today.. :nunchuk:
Sei sei 😄

:rotflmao: :rotflmao: :rotflmao:

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/629146https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/629146Mon, 07 Nov 2011 11:39:23 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to How to siam OT 'social' duty?.. ... on Mon, 07 Nov 2011 09:24:53 GMT]]>

jtoh:
You mean they just push the stroller to you and walk away, expecting you to look after the baby without asking you if it's alright with you? OMG! Next time ignore them completely, chat on your phone or accidently 'sneeze' on the baby and say you have the flu.

Of course there is the usual greetings and 'you want Auntie to carry you ...'
I am determined to develop serious coughing today.. :nunchuk:
Sei sei 😄

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/629105https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/629105Mon, 07 Nov 2011 09:24:53 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to How to siam OT 'social' duty?.. ... on Mon, 07 Nov 2011 08:18:55 GMT]]>You mean they just push the stroller to you and walk away, expecting you to look after the baby without asking you if it’s alright with you? OMG! Next time ignore them completely, chat on your phone or accidently ‘sneeze’ on the baby and say you have the flu.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/629078https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/629078Mon, 07 Nov 2011 08:18:55 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to How to siam OT 'social' duty?.. ... on Mon, 07 Nov 2011 07:12:35 GMT]]>Aiyoh kiddo... Not matter how cute I'd rather be on KSP than picking keychain up for the toddler.. Cantonese call it 'wan parn' and I am the ' dodo.. ...quite angry with myself for allowing this to happen... Haha 😄

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/629049https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/629049Mon, 07 Nov 2011 07:12:35 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to How to siam OT 'social' duty?.. ... on Mon, 07 Nov 2011 06:41:26 GMT]]>

autumnbronze:
auntieM:

Thanks ladies!

I didn't really think much of all these till recently..
Sometimes while waiting for DS, this person will push the stroller near me.. ..and wait for me to 'get started' with the little one before she moves off..
Abit too much I feel like 'free' labour liao..next round will :siam:

:yikes:
This is unacceptable auntieM.
You should tell that person nicely that you will go off immediately once your son arrives ...
I really do not think highly of a mummy who will leave her child like that and walk off .....

You mean got free babies for \"Rent\" where ? where? AuntieM
you want to \"champo\" a business with me \"Children/Babies for rent\"
since you have that attraction.
:rotflmao: :rotflmao:

'children for rent \" do happen in USA for childless couple :evil:

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/629038https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/629038Mon, 07 Nov 2011 06:41:26 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to How to siam OT 'social' duty?.. ... on Mon, 07 Nov 2011 06:33:33 GMT]]>Will take note and start action today.. .. :nunchuk:

Thanks all for tips and at least I know where to start now.. ..without feeling unsure .. :rahrah:
Side note.. These ladies all happen to be wives of friends and are not local.. ...maybe there are more of these patterns around ..

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/629034https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/629034Mon, 07 Nov 2011 06:33:33 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to How to siam OT 'social' duty?.. ... on Mon, 07 Nov 2011 05:42:09 GMT]]>Never knew such pple existed… maybe I always have a "don’t mess with me" face. Just look like you have more important things to do. Don’t even smile to acknowledge them. Don’t even say how cute their babies are. If the mom does that to you again, push the stroller to the information counter and tell them the mother left the baby alone and get them to announce over the PA system.


As for dinner talk, just don’t start talking. If they ask you questions, say "dunno", "not sure"… they will get tired after a while. Alternative is to probe and probe until they are scared to talk to you.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/629019https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/629019Mon, 07 Nov 2011 05:42:09 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to How to siam OT 'social' duty?.. ... on Mon, 07 Nov 2011 05:05:46 GMT]]>

Nebbermind:
the next time u see the person trying to walk off, u just pick up your phone and pretend u are answering a call and then slowly walk away from the baby lor.

This is what I do too. Pretend there's a call and then answer the phone and then wave byebye to the person and walk away. 😄

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/629009https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/629009Mon, 07 Nov 2011 05:05:46 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to How to siam OT 'social' duty?.. ... on Mon, 07 Nov 2011 05:01:30 GMT]]>the next time u see the person trying to walk off, u just pick up your phone and pretend u are answering a call and then slowly walk away from the baby lor.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/629007https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/629007Mon, 07 Nov 2011 05:01:30 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to How to siam OT 'social' duty?.. ... on Mon, 07 Nov 2011 04:48:16 GMT]]>

auntieM:
Thanks ladies!

I didn't really think much of all these till recently..
Sometimes while waiting for DS, this person will push the stroller near me.. ..and wait for me to 'get started' with the little one before she moves off..
Abit too much I feel like 'free' labour liao..next round will :siam:
:yikes:

This is unacceptable auntieM.

You should tell that person nicely that you will go off immediately once your son arrives ...

I really do not think highly of a mummy who will leave her child like that and walk off .....

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/628996https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/628996Mon, 07 Nov 2011 04:48:16 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to How to siam OT 'social' duty?.. ... on Mon, 07 Nov 2011 03:29:04 GMT]]>Thanks ladies!

I didn't really think much of all these till recently..
Sometimes while waiting for DS, this person will push the stroller near me.. ..and wait for me to 'get started' with the little one before she moves off..
Abit too much I feel like 'free' labour liao..next round will :siam:
Having to talk to friend's wife and listen to her 'brag' about how well her 11 year old P3 boy have done for his exam and how good he is over dinner really spoils one appetitie... :stupid:
Not like me good.. ...time to 'wake up my idea'.. ..
:slapshead:

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/628963https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/628963Mon, 07 Nov 2011 03:29:04 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to How to siam OT 'social' duty?.. ... on Mon, 07 Nov 2011 01:47:38 GMT]]>I would say not feeling well so can’t take care of kids,


For adults, sorry sore throat can’t talk much.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/628930https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/628930Mon, 07 Nov 2011 01:47:38 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to How to siam OT 'social' duty?.. ... on Mon, 07 Nov 2011 01:39:57 GMT]]>

auntieM:
How do you :siam: when friends/relatives expect you to 'help out' when they see your face?

Some babies are really cute, and some mummies thought they can leave their baby in your care everytime they see you while they hop off to do other stuff.. ...After kena a few long sessions I really want to learn how to be hard hearted.. :faint:
Just because I speak mandarin and can understand mainlanders' a little better does not mean I love to yak away with them... Dinner time stare stare and look left out means I have to 'say something' to you to make you feel better.. .. :slapshead:
:rant: Sorry I am in ranting mood de.. ..I have decided to stop playing 'free labour' and 'entertainer' from now.. ..want to try relac one corner without feeling too 'guilty'.. ... :rant:
:?:
Tell them politely that you are busy with other things when ask you do their chores.

Try playing with handphone if don't want to talk to them.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/628925https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/628925Mon, 07 Nov 2011 01:39:57 GMT