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Too stress?

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/topic/28285/10-per-cent-of-s-poreans-affected-by-mental-illnessesRSS for NodeThu, 23 Apr 2026 16:21:18 GMTSun, 20 Nov 2011 08:38:53 GMT60<![CDATA[Reply to 10 per cent of S'poreans affected by mental illnesses on Thu, 24 Nov 2011 15:11:24 GMT]]>

buds:
MadScientist:

It's really not so much about the place, but more about the people.


We can choose... Choose not to live like the others, choose the more important things in life, choose your own destiny...

:goodpost: from you as usual, MadScientist.

Thanks for the compliments buds! :celebrate:

I really do aim to convert that good post into good fatherhood. 😓

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/643547https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/643547Thu, 24 Nov 2011 15:11:24 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to 10 per cent of S'poreans affected by mental illnesses on Thu, 24 Nov 2011 01:01:48 GMT]]>pray that there will not be too 'dramatic' reactions after the release of the

PSLE results this afternoon 🙏 I believe every child has done his/her
best.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/642976https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/642976Thu, 24 Nov 2011 01:01:48 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to 10 per cent of S'poreans affected by mental illnesses on Wed, 23 Nov 2011 02:50:47 GMT]]>

jtoh:
markfch:

[quote=\"MadScientist\"]
Indeed there are more (child) cases, but you know what? A lot of these cases (in IMH) are referred from schools, and when they review the case, a significant number are due to the parents being the cause of it. The parents have the mental illness and \"pass it down\" to the next generation by perpetuating it all.

I personally heard of children (young kids, 6-7 years old) receiving corporal punishment when they didn't fulfill their parents' expectations in studies. I asked myself, what are these parents trying to prove?

In their zeal to groom an 'ideal' child, they have lost all perspective. Either these parents are trying to live life vicariously, or they have such a desperate need to boast to others how 'smart' their kids are, or they are simply mistaken that being average in studies equals being unsuccessful in life and vice versa.

I've heard of kids as old as twelve who are caned by their parents when they don't come home with perfect scores on their tests. 98% isn't good enough. :yikes: If a kid is judged to be good enough only if they perform well academically, their self-worth hinges on just that one element. The consequences can be quite dire if he falls from that pedestal in later years.
markfch:
Nebbermind:

Sometimes we know what we want to do....but after joining the KSP forum, it's like being hit by a tsunami and we totally lost our bearings!! 😉

That's why it takes a brave soul to surf KSP and yet maintain one's perspective. :lol:

Every year around Jul-Aug period, if we take a look at the vindictiveness of some of the P1 registration posts, we'll almost be forgiven to think that being unsuccessful in balloting into one's choice school will spell doom and gloom for the rest of that unfortunate child's life.

That's so true![/quote]Indeed it is... and I would be 95% sure (pls dun cane me!) that the parents themselves were never able to achieve it. Thus, they are actually projecting their dreams onto their children, and wanting their children to succeed in their own failures... it is all an ego trip, deep deep down inside.

Yes, there are some rather disturbing posts around here... but it is the freedom of each parent to make their own choices. Hopefully, more will learn that there is probably only one way to help your children... to help yourself first as a parent.

Cheers!

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/642151https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/642151Wed, 23 Nov 2011 02:50:47 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to 10 per cent of S'poreans affected by mental illnesses on Wed, 23 Nov 2011 02:27:26 GMT]]>

markfch:
jtoh:


If a kid is judged to be good enough only if they perform well academically, their self-worth hinges on just that one element. The consequences can be quite dire if he falls from that pedestal in later years.

If we look at some of the suicide notes written, the underlaying message is usually I'm a failure in life. Some of these people can be considered as successful people by any measurement. Yet they end their life because they think that they're a failure.

I tell you, something is wrong.

In their minds, what they do is never good enough. :sad:

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/642129https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/642129Wed, 23 Nov 2011 02:27:26 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to 10 per cent of S'poreans affected by mental illnesses on Wed, 23 Nov 2011 02:16:54 GMT]]>

jtoh:

If a kid is judged to be good enough only if they perform well academically, their self-worth hinges on just that one element. The consequences can be quite dire if he falls from that pedestal in later years.
If we look at some of the suicide notes written, the underlaying message is usually I'm a failure in life. Some of these people can be considered as successful people by any measurement. Yet they end their life because they think that they're a failure.

I tell you, something is wrong.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/642122https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/642122Wed, 23 Nov 2011 02:16:54 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to 10 per cent of S'poreans affected by mental illnesses on Wed, 23 Nov 2011 02:01:20 GMT]]>

markfch:
MadScientist:


Indeed there are more (child) cases, but you know what? A lot of these cases (in IMH) are referred from schools, and when they review the case, a significant number are due to the parents being the cause of it. The parents have the mental illness and \"pass it down\" to the next generation by perpetuating it all.

I personally heard of children (young kids, 6-7 years old) receiving corporal punishment when they didn't fulfill their parents' expectations in studies. I asked myself, what are these parents trying to prove?

In their zeal to groom an 'ideal' child, they have lost all perspective. Either these parents are trying to live life vicariously, or they have such a desperate need to boast to others how 'smart' their kids are, or they are simply mistaken that being average in studies equals being unsuccessful in life and vice versa.

I've heard of kids as old as twelve who are caned by their parents when they don't come home with perfect scores on their tests. 98% isn't good enough. :yikes: If a kid is judged to be good enough only if they perform well academically, their self-worth hinges on just that one element. The consequences can be quite dire if he falls from that pedestal in later years.
markfch:
Nebbermind:

Sometimes we know what we want to do....but after joining the KSP forum, it's like being hit by a tsunami and we totally lost our bearings!! 😉

That's why it takes a brave soul to surf KSP and yet maintain one's perspective. :lol:

Every year around Jul-Aug period, if we take a look at the vindictiveness of some of the P1 registration posts, we'll almost be forgiven to think that being unsuccessful in balloting into one's choice school will spell doom and gloom for the rest of that unfortunate child's life.

[/quote]

That's so true!

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/642110https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/642110Wed, 23 Nov 2011 02:01:20 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to 10 per cent of S'poreans affected by mental illnesses on Wed, 23 Nov 2011 01:28:26 GMT]]>

MadScientist:

Indeed there are more (child) cases, but you know what? A lot of these cases (in IMH) are referred from schools, and when they review the case, a significant number are due to the parents being the cause of it. The parents have the mental illness and \"pass it down\" to the next generation by perpetuating it all.
I personally heard of children (young kids, 6-7 years old) receiving corporal punishment when they didn't fulfill their parents' expectations in studies. I asked myself, what are these parents trying to prove?

In their zeal to groom an 'ideal' child, they have lost all perspective. Either these parents are trying to live life vicariously, or they have such a desperate need to boast to others how 'smart' their kids are, or they are simply mistaken that being average in studies equals being unsuccessful in life and vice versa.
Nebbermind:
Sometimes we know what we want to do....but after joining the KSP forum, it's like being hit by a tsunami and we totally lost our bearings!! 😉
That's why it takes a brave soul to surf KSP and yet maintain one's perspective. 😂

Every year around Jul-Aug period, if we take a look at the vindictiveness of some of the P1 registration posts, we'll almost be forgiven to think that being unsuccessful in balloting into one's choice school will spell doom and gloom for the rest of that unfortunate child's life.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/642082https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/642082Wed, 23 Nov 2011 01:28:26 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to 10 per cent of S'poreans affected by mental illnesses on Wed, 23 Nov 2011 00:58:12 GMT]]>

buds:
MadScientist:

It's really not so much about the place, but more about the people.


We can choose... Choose not to live like the others, choose the more important things in life, choose your own destiny...

:goodpost: from you as usual, MadScientist.

Sometimes we know what we want to do....but after joining the KSP forum, it's like being hit by a tsunami and we totally lost our bearings!! 😉

On a more serious note, it's been great to see my own kids having shown a pretty good level of intelligence...well, I wld said above us (parents). But intelligence has limited 'goodness' if our child is lacking wisdom on how to use his intelligence. Think alot of us parents are also lacking in wisdom to instil wisdom is our next gen.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/642065https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/642065Wed, 23 Nov 2011 00:58:12 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to 10 per cent of S'poreans affected by mental illnesses on Tue, 22 Nov 2011 17:13:14 GMT]]>

MadScientist:
It's really not so much about the place, but more about the people.


We can choose... Choose not to live like the others, choose the more important things in life, choose your own destiny...
:goodpost: from you as usual, MadScientist.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/641989https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/641989Tue, 22 Nov 2011 17:13:14 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to 10 per cent of S'poreans affected by mental illnesses on Tue, 22 Nov 2011 17:10:51 GMT]]>

HyperKiasu:
i think giftedness is by nature, and run by genes. if kids are not gifted enuf to get in GEP, then parents should blame themselves for not possessing the giftedness genes :evil:

:idea:

:evil:
jtoh:
Uh-oh! This will give some parents more reason to hothouse their kids into GEP. If their kids don't get into GEP it's a direct reflection of their poor genes. :yikes: Lagi lose face. :shock:
:yikes:

:faint:

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/641987https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/641987Tue, 22 Nov 2011 17:10:51 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to 10 per cent of S'poreans affected by mental illnesses on Tue, 22 Nov 2011 16:57:31 GMT]]>It’s really not so much about the place, but more about the people.


We can choose… Choose not to live like the others, choose the more important things in life, choose your own destiny…

Indeed there are more (child) cases, but you know what? A lot of these cases (in IMH) are referred from schools, and when they review the case, a significant number are due to the parents being the cause of it. The parents have the mental illness and "pass it down" to the next generation by perpetuating it all.

Take home message here… The children are not to be blamed, the parents never too the responsibility, nor the choices.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/641984https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/641984Tue, 22 Nov 2011 16:57:31 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to 10 per cent of S'poreans affected by mental illnesses on Tue, 22 Nov 2011 16:10:38 GMT]]>Its a sad sad world that we live in. Singapore is quite a stressful country to live in. I know Norway is a place with lots of happy citizens. The mothers can take 1 year off paid leave to care for their babies and fathers get 3 weeks off too, I think. I m very sure their education system is unlike ours. Our kids are educated in a way that they can never think out of their box.


China is also another stressful place to live in.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/641914https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/641914Tue, 22 Nov 2011 16:10:38 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to 10 per cent of S'poreans affected by mental illnesses on Tue, 22 Nov 2011 15:19:29 GMT]]>

jtoh:
HyperKiasu:

[quote=\"markfch\"]I read the article as 10% of S'poreans will be affected by mental illness. I'm not surprised. When I read of kids who didn't get through GEP round 2 crying because they would get scolding from their parents, I know that it's a crazy, stressful world that some of us live in.


I asked myself what's the point of this scolding? What are those parents trying to prove? Then I realized that pride is a very dangerous thing to have. So what if we can't boost to our friends that our kids are in GEP? Why do we care so much about what others think of us? If we can let go of our pride, life will be less stressful for our kids and we can be happier as a family.

i think giftedness is by nature, and run by genes. if kids are not gifted enuf to get in GEP, then parents should blame themselves for not possessing the giftedness genes :evil:

Uh-oh! This will give some parents more reason to hothouse their kids into GEP. If their kids don't get into GEP it's a direct reflection of their poor genes. :yikes: Lagi lose face. :shock:[/quote]oh ya, these parents are among the 10%, ..... :siao: :sick:
pity their kids... 😢

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/641851https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/641851Tue, 22 Nov 2011 15:19:29 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to 10 per cent of S'poreans affected by mental illnesses on Tue, 22 Nov 2011 11:05:31 GMT]]>

HyperKiasu:
markfch:

I read the article as 10% of S'poreans will be affected by mental illness. I'm not surprised. When I read of kids who didn't get through GEP round 2 crying because they would get scolding from their parents, I know that it's a crazy, stressful world that some of us live in.


I asked myself what's the point of this scolding? What are those parents trying to prove? Then I realized that pride is a very dangerous thing to have. So what if we can't boost to our friends that our kids are in GEP? Why do we care so much about what others think of us? If we can let go of our pride, life will be less stressful for our kids and we can be happier as a family.

i think giftedness is by nature, and run by genes. if kids are not gifted enuf to get in GEP, then parents should blame themselves for not possessing the giftedness genes :evil:

Uh-oh! This will give some parents more reason to hothouse their kids into GEP. If their kids don't get into GEP it's a direct reflection of their poor genes. :yikes: Lagi lose face. :shock:

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/641667https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/641667Tue, 22 Nov 2011 11:05:31 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to 10 per cent of S'poreans affected by mental illnesses on Tue, 22 Nov 2011 08:42:32 GMT]]>read a newspaper article before about kids as young as 6-7 being admitted to IMH for psychiatric treatment.. very sad to hear that :sad:

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/641564https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/641564Tue, 22 Nov 2011 08:42:32 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to 10 per cent of S'poreans affected by mental illnesses on Tue, 22 Nov 2011 08:37:43 GMT]]>

markfch:
I read the article as 10% of S'poreans will be affected by mental illness. I'm not surprised. When I read of kids who didn't get through GEP round 2 crying because they would get scolding from their parents, I know that it's a crazy, stressful world that some of us live in.


I asked myself what's the point of this scolding? What are those parents trying to prove? Then I realized that pride is a very dangerous thing to have. So what if we can't boost to our friends that our kids are in GEP? Why do we care so much about what others think of us? If we can let go of our pride, life will be less stressful for our kids and we can be happier as a family.
i think giftedness is by nature, and run by genes. if kids are not gifted enuf to get in GEP, then parents should blame themselves for not possessing the giftedness genes :evil:

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/641561https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/641561Tue, 22 Nov 2011 08:37:43 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to 10 per cent of S'poreans affected by mental illnesses on Mon, 21 Nov 2011 04:51:50 GMT]]>

markfch:
I read the article as 10% of S'poreans will be affected by mental illness. I'm not surprised. When I read of kids who didn't get through GEP round 2 crying because they would get scolding from their parents, I know that it's a crazy, stressful world that some of us live in.


I asked myself what's the point of this scolding? What are those parents trying to prove? Then I realized that pride is a very dangerous thing to have. So what if we can't boost to our friends that our kids are in GEP? Why do we care so much about what others think of us? If we can let go of our pride, life will be less stressful for our kids and we can be happier as a family.
I don't understand the need to get kids into GEP so that the parents can brag either. I always assumed that GEP was for the 'gifted'. So you're either 'gifted' or not. You're not supposed to be able to spend thousands of dollars and be hothoused into being 'gifted'.

No wonder our kids are getting stressed out. If you don't make it to GEP, the top secondary school, the elite triple science class, medicine faculty etc, you've failed your parents bec they've lost their bragging rights. And if by some chance you scrape into the GEP, a top secondary school etc but you can't keep up, you get even more stressed.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/640708https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/640708Mon, 21 Nov 2011 04:51:50 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to 10 per cent of S'poreans affected by mental illnesses on Sun, 20 Nov 2011 18:18:38 GMT]]>I do not like the system too, but system is built by those in authority, it’s you who put them in the position to decide for you, so live with it or leave it or exercise your authority at the right time if you think there is a "better alternative" (which nobody knows until given a chance to try)

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/640472https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/640472Sun, 20 Nov 2011 18:18:38 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to 10 per cent of S'poreans affected by mental illnesses on Sun, 20 Nov 2011 14:38:28 GMT]]>I read the article as 10% of S'poreans will be affected by mental illness. I'm not surprised. When I read of kids who didn't get through GEP round 2 crying because they would get scolding from their parents, I know that it's a crazy, stressful world that some of us live in.


I asked myself what's the point of this scolding? What are those parents trying to prove? Then I realized that pride is a very dangerous thing to have. So what if we can't boost to our friends that our kids are in GEP? Why do we care so much about what others think of us? If we can let go of our pride, life will be less stressful for our kids and we can be happier as a family.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/640404https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/640404Sun, 20 Nov 2011 14:38:28 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to 10 per cent of S'poreans affected by mental illnesses on Sun, 20 Nov 2011 09:12:24 GMT]]>I’m mad, not crazy…

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/640232https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/640232Sun, 20 Nov 2011 09:12:24 GMT