<![CDATA[My daughters suddenly cries very easily and refuse to go sch]]>My daughter is 2.5yr old. She recenlty was sick for 2 weeks and thus missed school.


Ever since she returned to school, she has suddenly mood swings. She is also very negative, not wanting to do anything. Don’t want to drink water, don’t want to change diaper. Cries when she cannot get her way.

When we try to reason with her, she seems to be beyond reason. When we ask her to why she is crying, she say she likes to cry and she dont want to stop crying. And she will keep crying non stop. She also says things like she dont want people to love her she just want to cry.

And the school refusal, keeps saying dont want go school and cries alot.

I am worried about her. She used to be a very cheerful girl and carefree now she’s moody most of the time is this the so called terrible twos?

Is there something i can do to help her? Seeing her so miserable make me really sad.

Can anyone shed some light?

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/topic/30320/my-daughters-suddenly-cries-very-easily-and-refuse-to-go-schRSS for NodeSat, 25 Apr 2026 02:27:58 GMTSun, 01 Jan 2012 09:06:10 GMT60<![CDATA[Reply to My daughters suddenly cries very easily and refuse to go sch on Thu, 02 Feb 2012 02:41:43 GMT]]>great to hear that! sometimes it’s just a matter of re-adapting after a break.


a lot depends on how well you know the teachers and thus how well you trust them. If you can’t trust them, then you’ll always be wondering whether something happened. If you can trust them from observation or from friends’ experience with the school, then can just leave and go away with no worries.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/702050https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/702050Thu, 02 Feb 2012 02:41:43 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to My daughters suddenly cries very easily and refuse to go sch on Thu, 02 Feb 2012 00:55:20 GMT]]>glad to say now that my son is no long refusing school … it started on monday when he suddenly wakes up and say that school is open today (as opposed to saying school is closed every day previously). He now happily dresses up in the uniform and head to school. Upon reaching he is fine to walk into class himself and waves good bye to us … hahaha

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/701957https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/701957Thu, 02 Feb 2012 00:55:20 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to My daughters suddenly cries very easily and refuse to go sch on Wed, 01 Feb 2012 14:06:28 GMT]]>Perhaps when your daughter doesn’t have school she finds it very slackish and happy?


I mean, even myself, often after a long holiday like June holidays or December holidays, I don’t feel like going back to school and keep tossing and turning all night in bed

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/701736https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/701736Wed, 01 Feb 2012 14:06:28 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to My daughters suddenly cries very easily and refuse to go sch on Sun, 29 Jan 2012 08:40:17 GMT]]>glad to have all these great tips! didnt know that kids have terrible twos too hahas. thanks for sharing!

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/699257https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/699257Sun, 29 Jan 2012 08:40:17 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to My daughters suddenly cries very easily and refuse to go sch on Sat, 14 Jan 2012 05:14:07 GMT]]>i got a feeling someone is bullying ur baby at school

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/690860https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/690860Sat, 14 Jan 2012 05:14:07 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to My daughters suddenly cries very easily and refuse to go sch on Wed, 11 Jan 2012 12:24:58 GMT]]>I think we all have our own reasons for sending the kids to childcare or pre-school. In fact, I think it is beneficial to the child to socialise and learn more skills instead of staying home with grandparents and watching TV most of the time.


It is also not fair to expect our aged parents to chase after an active kid for so many years.

If you really think the school environment is upsetting - impatient teachers, bullies in school etc, change to another school by all means.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/688680https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/688680Wed, 11 Jan 2012 12:24:58 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to My daughters suddenly cries very easily and refuse to go sch on Wed, 11 Jan 2012 10:18:00 GMT]]>Why send the little girl to childcare?

1) are you a working mum?
From my past experience, I had learnt one valuable lesson.
Listen to the child . If she is upset, don’t go … Something very upsetting might had happened and she could not relate the entire incident to you yet.
Bear with her, keep her with you or send her to grandparents house to be taken care.
Wait till she is 4years old , then, you can consider sending her to K1.
Frankly speaking, no rush.
That is my just my opinion …

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/688618https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/688618Wed, 11 Jan 2012 10:18:00 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to My daughters suddenly cries very easily and refuse to go sch on Wed, 11 Jan 2012 01:28:40 GMT]]>Maybe you are right, my wife and I would usually keep talking with him about school when we are home after work. Will stop and try to make a routine for him. Hopefully he will slowly get used to it.


Today was another terrible experience for him when we left him with the teachers. Once I handed him over to the teacher to carry him in, he was crying and shouting "Mummy, Papa!". Heartache. But no choice, still turn and walk away. Hiazzzzz…

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/687939https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/687939Wed, 11 Jan 2012 01:28:40 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to My daughters suddenly cries very easily and refuse to go sch on Tue, 10 Jan 2012 13:32:02 GMT]]>Thank God my kids adapted really well to childcare. Both took about 2 weeks before they could go into the school without crying.


My tip would be to do every routine item nonchalantly. Wake up, drink milk, dawdle a bit if time permits, set a time limit eg. we will leave after the TV show ends (so choose short cartoons). Dress them up without the need to announce or get agreement every time you do it. Just do it as a matter of fact. Don’t make a big issue of everything. Keep the process calm and clockwork like.

That’s why you need to allow enough time for the morning routine. You panic, they will panic and wail. If they do start crying, just distract with something they like. You can spend a few minutes to talk about other things but carry on with the dressing in a calm manner and start taking the school bag to the car etc. Signal to your kid that it’s time to go. If all else fails, just go in the PJs. He can change in the car or at the school.

In the car, don’t harp on school. Don’t ask him what he learnt etc. Just talk about the scenery outside - cars, trees, traffic lights. I put on a Sesame Street CD for my kid and she starts singing the songs or tells me which monster it is.

When you reach, leave fast esp if he’s crying. Be ruthless. They’ll be ok. I was really ruthless but I call up to check if they are ok.

You are lucky that your kid only needs to attend a 3hr class so it’s really not that long. Give your kid a treat of ice cream for being a good boy when you fetch him.

At night, I do bedtime reading with Sesame Street & Dora books about going to school. These stories help them to see that even Elmo and Dora love school. Don’t ask him about his school at this juncture since he’s still resistant.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/687591https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/687591Tue, 10 Jan 2012 13:32:02 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to My daughters suddenly cries very easily and refuse to go sch on Tue, 10 Jan 2012 10:33:24 GMT]]>It's ok, kids always have separation anxiety. Just treat it as morning exercise for their lungs. They will get over it faster if you just leave them and go off :siam: . After some time, they will realise it is ok, and exercise their lungs less. May happen again on bad mood days, or some other occasions :nailbite: .


My DS cried for 3 terms in nursery :yikes: (2nd and 3rd term was dependent on good / bad mood days), but was perfectly adaptable by kindergarten time. He even refused to wear clothes (ran round naked) so that we could not bring him to school :faint: . Ended up we brought him there in pyjamas :slapshead: . I was so stressed I ended up crying with him :oops: !!! Thereafter we discovered he was perfectly alright once we were out of sight :stupid: .

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/687460https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/687460Tue, 10 Jan 2012 10:33:24 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to My daughters suddenly cries very easily and refuse to go sch on Tue, 10 Jan 2012 10:19:37 GMT]]>My son is 2y3m now, attending a 3hrs pre-nursery class. He seems fine when you ask him if he wants to go to school and will also reply you that he goes to school to find teachers and friends while mum and dad goes to work. But once we reach school each morning, it is non-stop crying (and ends up with him puking out his breakfast).


Teachers recommend that we hand him over fast and be out of sight.

Really at wits end as to what to do now. We have been making efforts to him before school starts that he would be attending school without parents and he is fine. Until he actually goes.

Just sharing, but advice welcome

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/687451https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/687451Tue, 10 Jan 2012 10:19:37 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to My daughters suddenly cries very easily and refuse to go sch on Mon, 02 Jan 2012 06:01:09 GMT]]>Yes, just continue and don’t bend the rules just becoz you heartache. If no choice, you still have to send. The sooner she gets used to it, the better.


You have to be a bit ruthless in the first 2 days and just leave. Dun expect her to wave bye bye to you.

One thing you can do is to get someone to fetch her home earlier for the first few days. I did that when my gal is trying to get used to a new environment. Gradually lengthen the time by half an hour. When my gal first entered childcare, I fetched her at 1pm, then 3pm, then 4.30pm, then now I can go at 6pm and she’s still happily playing with the kids there.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/678388https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/678388Mon, 02 Jan 2012 06:01:09 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to My daughters suddenly cries very easily and refuse to go sch on Mon, 02 Jan 2012 00:16:41 GMT]]>So for sch refusal, we should just continue to send her to sch. Let her get used to going sch all over again?


Just too many changes in sch, doesnt help when she was out for two weeks due to fever and when she returns she will be promoted to a new class with a new teacher and new routine.

I believe that’s why she is feeling all so uncertain.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/678228https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/678228Mon, 02 Jan 2012 00:16:41 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to My daughters suddenly cries very easily and refuse to go sch on Sun, 01 Jan 2012 13:19:50 GMT]]>Regarding the refusal of water and wearing of diapers… my gal is also doing those things, but she meant it in a cheeky way. So when wearing diapers for her, close the door of the room so she can’t escape. Then distract her by asking her about her favourite characters eg. Dora or Elmo etc, and quickly wear the diaper. It may be faster if you buy diaper pants instead of open diapers.


As for water, I try to give her spoonfuls of water at home every few minutes without her noticing. In school, I add a bit of apple juice to the water and she finishes it up. I also give my gal lots of soup since she likes that.

Don’t make drinking water a stressful thing for her. If she likes her milk, then give more formula milk / fresh milk instead. The aim is to hydrate her, and you can do that not just with water.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/678048https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/678048Sun, 01 Jan 2012 13:19:50 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to My daughters suddenly cries very easily and refuse to go sch on Sun, 01 Jan 2012 13:03:41 GMT]]>My daughter is about your gal’s age but i have an older son so i am not anxious when such things happen. My gal is going thru the terrible twos and cries over many things as well when she’s tired.


It is also quite normal to refuse to go to school after a long break. Just dun ask her at night if she wants to go to school. In the morning, tell her that she needs to go to school to play with the toys etc (dun mention your work or she will want to go with you). Don’t make it a question like "you want to go to school?". She has no choice so just say "we will go to school now." Then go about it as per normal. Ignore the crying or try to distract her in the car with her fave snack. Once you leave, she will enjoy herself there. This drama should pass after 2 days.

My gal almost refused to go to school after the long Xmas weekend. But she complied when I reminded her that her favourite teachers were waiting to play with her and she can sing her nursery rhymes (always phrase things to her benefit). Her eyes lit up when she heard she could go back to her singing and dancing.

Look out for more drama at 3yo. ahhaha… they will start to dawdle, want to find a "missing" toy or eat something you don’t have just 5mins before you need to leave for school. It’s a battle of wills.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/678035https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/678035Sun, 01 Jan 2012 13:03:41 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to My daughters suddenly cries very easily and refuse to go sch on Sun, 01 Jan 2012 10:21:34 GMT]]>Yes, thats how it is so far. For my daughter, on top of that, she will keep saying she dont want to go to sch. The night before she would cry non stop saying she want to stay at home. wanna, go work with me… all sorts of stuff…

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/677969https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/677969Sun, 01 Jan 2012 10:21:34 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to My daughters suddenly cries very easily and refuse to go sch on Sun, 01 Jan 2012 10:11:17 GMT]]>

cindylauper:
kelvin82lim:

Hi Cindy,

Thanks for your input. Fell so relieved to read that its something not so \"serious\"

I guess the consolation is she is eating well and well, sleeping quite \"ok\"

The difficult part about distracting her is she doesnt really respond to ice cream or going out, infact we find it hard to find something she likes.

I'll take your advise on the VCD before bedtime.

Any tips to battle school refusal?

I remember a familiar scene at childcare centre. In the morning, I will carry my dd to the centre. At the entrance, she will start crying loudly, tears rolling down her cheeks and all that drama. Then, the teacher will come over to \"receive\" my dd. She will then cling on to me for dear life. She will not let go, and will continue bawling as if I was selling her away. Eventually, the teacher will take her away from me and then I will go off feeling guilty. I think this is what happened to you?

First thing, just hand the crying toddler to the teacher immediately once you reach the centre. Do not hang around, hoping that she will stop crying and say good bye to you cheerfully. It doesn't happen this way. The longer you hang around, the longer she will cry. If you are still worried after you go off from the centre, just call the teacher after half an hour. Chances are, the teacher will probably tell you that your dd stopped crying and is enjoying the school activities with the rest of the kids. Terrible twos are great at drama.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/677962https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/677962Sun, 01 Jan 2012 10:11:17 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to My daughters suddenly cries very easily and refuse to go sch on Sun, 01 Jan 2012 10:08:28 GMT]]>

kelvin82lim:
Hi Cindy,

Thanks for your input. Fell so relieved to read that its something not so \"serious\"

I guess the consolation is she is eating well and well, sleeping quite \"ok\"

The difficult part about distracting her is she doesnt really respond to ice cream or going out, infact we find it hard to find something she likes.

I'll take your advise on the VCD before bedtime.

Any tips to battle school refusal?
I remember a familiar scene at childcare centre. In the morning, I will carry my dd to the centre. At the entrance, she will start crying loudly, tears rolling down her cheeks and all that drama. Then, the teacher will come over to \"receive\" my dd. She will then cling on to me for dear life. She will not let go, and will continue bawling as if I was selling her away. Eventually, the teacher will take her away from me and then I will go off feeling guilty that I am not a stay at home mother. I think this is what happened to you?

First thing, just hand the crying toddler to the teacher immediately once you reach the centre. Do not hang around, hoping that she will stop crying and say good bye to you cheerfully. It doesn't happen this way. The longer you hang around, the longer she will cry. If you are still worried after you go off from the centre, just call the teacher after half an hour. Chances are, the teacher will probably tell you that your dd stopped crying and is enjoying the school activities with the rest of the kids. Terrible twos are great at drama.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/677960https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/677960Sun, 01 Jan 2012 10:08:28 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to My daughters suddenly cries very easily and refuse to go sch on Sun, 01 Jan 2012 09:44:26 GMT]]>Hi Cindy,

Thanks for your input. Fell so relieved to read that its something not so "serious"

I guess the consolation is she is eating well and well, sleeping quite "ok"

The difficult part about distracting her is she doesnt really respond to ice cream or going out, infact we find it hard to find something she likes.

I’ll take your advise on the VCD before bedtime.

Any tips to battle school refusal?

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/677946https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/677946Sun, 01 Jan 2012 09:44:26 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to My daughters suddenly cries very easily and refuse to go sch on Sun, 01 Jan 2012 09:31:52 GMT]]>

kelvin82lim:
My daughter is 2.5yr old. She recenlty was sick for 2 weeks and thus missed school.


Ever since she returned to school, she has suddenly mood swings. She is also very negative, not wanting to do anything. Don't want to drink water, don't want to change diaper. Cries when she cannot get her way.

When we try to reason with her, she seems to be beyond reason. When we ask her to why she is crying, she say she likes to cry and she dont want to stop crying. And she will keep crying non stop. She also says things like she dont want people to love her she just want to cry.

And the school refusal, keeps saying dont want go school and cries alot.

I am worried about her. She used to be a very cheerful girl and carefree now she's moody most of the time is this the so called terrible twos?

Is there something i can do to help her? Seeing her so miserable make me really sad.

Can anyone shed some light?
Hi, I am a mother with 3 daughters, aged 14, 12 and 9. I understand what you are going through. I think your daughter is going through the terrible twos. It is quite normal for kids not to feel like going to school/childcare after being absent for a few days. My experience is that as long as she is eating well, sleeping enough and gaining enough weight for her age, everything is fine. You have to be patient and don't be too upset when she is in one of those moods. Don't let her moods affect your mood, that's most important. Don't fight head on with her when she is stubborn, try to distract her. At two, she actually has pride and will not give in to you openly. However, if you distract her with something else such an electronic gadget, or a new toy, she will \"pretend\" to be distracted and not insist on her way.
I think looking after 2 to 3 year olds are the toughest. They say \"No!\" to every question you ask, except to \"do you want ice-cream?\" and to \"do you want to go out to play?\". Sometimes they ignore me to the extent that I think they are hearing impaired. So, I test their hearing by asking softly, \"do you want ice-cream\", if they turn their head to you immediately, you know that their hearing is fine.
Maybe, you could go to the school and ask her teacher if your dd is facing any problems. Maybe, she isn't getting enough rest or sleep. Grouchy kids with insufficient sleep, can be a pain, trust me. If she can't sleep at night, don't let her watch children's vcds just before her bedtime. She will probably wake up in the middle of the night after 1pm when she realises the vcd is switched off and start crying again. Try getting some outdoor activities in the day-time, she will be able to sleep better at night.
As long as your dd is healthy and showered with love and care from you, there shouldn't be any problems. Just be patient, the terrible twos will soon be over and she will behave like an angel when she hits 4, you'll see.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/677940https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/677940Sun, 01 Jan 2012 09:31:52 GMT