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]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/topic/31697/naggingRSS for NodeFri, 24 Apr 2026 00:02:05 GMTMon, 06 Feb 2012 23:52:48 GMT60<![CDATA[Reply to Nagging on Tue, 24 Sep 2019 17:37:19 GMT]]>I console myself with this whenever I nag and my kids complain : https://www.rd.com/advice/parenting/nagging-mom-successful-daughters/

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1936968https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1936968Tue, 24 Sep 2019 17:37:19 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Nagging on Tue, 03 Sep 2019 09:17:05 GMT]]>Nagging is not good, it destroys my mood whenever someone nags at me

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1933425https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1933425Tue, 03 Sep 2019 09:17:05 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Nagging on Wed, 07 Aug 2019 03:46:42 GMT]]>I hate when someone nags at me esp my wife. Just an advice it is better if you speak to your partner what your issues are and talk how you can both pass to it rather than nagging. Nagging is not good for your relationship.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1927164https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1927164Wed, 07 Aug 2019 03:46:42 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Nagging on Wed, 15 Nov 2017 14:49:14 GMT]]>I’m pretty sure no one wants to be nagged at. I think some people nag without them knowing it, while some do and they do a good job at it!

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1816233https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1816233Wed, 15 Nov 2017 14:49:14 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Nagging on Mon, 24 Apr 2017 13:53:52 GMT]]>My kids and hubby have realized that I don’t nag much. I would ask for something maybe 2 or 3 times. I am fortunate that they are cooperative. The kids did reasonably well in school and university, and their careers are hectic and generally fulfilling

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1769883https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1769883Mon, 24 Apr 2017 13:53:52 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Nagging on Thu, 30 Mar 2017 05:32:38 GMT]]>Pirate , the grass is greener on the other side.


Anything in extremes is unhealthy ( including nagging :oops: ). Trading off basic sleep for anything else is a bad deal. She understands that but when it comes to implementation ...

Ok , Let me share something I wrote long ago when my daughter was still a tween and all the mother-daughter issues started rearing its head.

https://www.kiasuparents.com/kiasu/article/in-defense-of-nagging/

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1764552https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1764552Thu, 30 Mar 2017 05:32:38 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Nagging on Thu, 30 Mar 2017 05:09:41 GMT]]>

Sun_2010:
I have a different reaction to DS and DD. With Dd who needs lesser intervention but making her do stuff is like banging my head on the wall.

DD is fiercely independent and stubborn . Probably from Sec2, I didnt even know when she had what for school - tests, competitions, events. i only knew the exam schedule bcos the school emails them to me. And those that she needed my signature. Usually that wasnt our problems. But sleep time was a big issue in Sec3. I was ok id she stayed up till 12am and she promises to .I too usually go to bed by 11.30pm to 12am, but when she started staying beyond that to finish her work that got me worked up. I had to wake up at 1 am to check on her - sometimes still awake, sometimes crashed out on the study table That was affecting my next day. Our midnight struggles when on till I realised that there is no point, I had to let go since it is so important for her. If she falls sick, becomes weak, then she would have to bear the impact of that.
I dont lose it often but when I do , sigh!

DS is like me - forgetful ,has a lot of distractions . So he needs reminders and repeated reminders. He may do , may not do it but atleast he is a bit remorseful . So he has lesser nagging, maybe DD has tamed me 😆
OMG! I wish I had to nag DD to stop doing her work. You are so lucky that your DD actually gives two hoots about her school work. Heck. I would even take your DS's \"a bit remorseful\".

I suppose I could let DD face her own consequences. But how many of you would do that when the consequence is ending up in a secondary school where the COP is say 40 points below what you know she is capable of if only she cared?

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1764543https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1764543Thu, 30 Mar 2017 05:09:41 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Nagging on Thu, 30 Mar 2017 04:42:37 GMT]]>

Nebbermind:


IMH-grade nagging!
DH would agree with you :oops:

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1764541https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1764541Thu, 30 Mar 2017 04:42:37 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Nagging on Thu, 30 Mar 2017 04:39:29 GMT]]>I have a different reaction to DS and DD. With Dd who needs lesser intervention but making her do stuff is like banging my head on the wall.

DD is fiercely independent and stubborn . Probably from Sec2, I didnt even know when she had what for school - tests, competitions, events. i only knew the exam schedule bcos the school emails them to me. And those that she needed my signature. Usually that wasnt our problems. But sleep time was a big issue in Sec3. I was ok id she stayed up till 12am and she promises to .I too usually go to bed by 11.30pm to 12am, but when she started staying beyond that to finish her work that got me worked up. I had to wake up at 1 am to check on her - sometimes still awake, sometimes crashed out on the study table That was affecting my next day. Our midnight struggles when on till I realised that there is no point, I had to let go since it is so important for her. If she falls sick, becomes weak, then she would have to bear the impact of that.
I dont lose it often but when I do , sigh!

DS is like me - forgetful ,has a lot of distractions . So he needs reminders and repeated reminders. He may do , may not do it but atleast he is a bit remorseful . So he has lesser nagging, maybe DD has tamed me 😆

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1764540https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1764540Thu, 30 Mar 2017 04:39:29 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Nagging on Thu, 30 Mar 2017 02:11:37 GMT]]>

cmjesoftware:
Nagging doesn't seem to have any positive effects on my kids anymore. I let them face their own consequences. Seem to learn their lessons better.

I think the never ending type nagging will have no result. It just becomes an aria.

Though this might cow them into submission, replace Sarastro with Homework.
[youtube=http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dpVV9jShEzU][/youtube]

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1764527https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1764527Thu, 30 Mar 2017 02:11:37 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Nagging on Thu, 30 Mar 2017 01:45:22 GMT]]>True, I was thinking that kids are spared my nagging because I work full time.


Maybe if I were home with them and looking at how they go about doing their things the entire day, I may end up nagging at them.

I am also kind of a 霸道mum. I have no qualms about yanking whatever stuff they are into at the moment away from them just to get them to complete what I want them to do or they should have done. Now that they are into their teens, I do that less. Guess there is also not much need for me to do that since most of the time they know what is expected of them or rather they can anticipate what is next if I have to repeat myself too often.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1764525https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1764525Thu, 30 Mar 2017 01:45:22 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Nagging on Thu, 30 Mar 2017 01:45:01 GMT]]>Nagging doesn’t seem to have any positive effects on my kids anymore. I let them face their own consequences. Seem to learn their lessons better.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1764524https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1764524Thu, 30 Mar 2017 01:45:01 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Nagging on Thu, 30 Mar 2017 01:31:21 GMT]]>There’s bound to be more nagging when we face our kids more often than not. When I was working long hours last time, I could only see them at bedtime or after bedtime…want to nag also no chance…it’s good to have the opportunity to interact, even if it means nagging…

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1764523https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1764523Thu, 30 Mar 2017 01:31:21 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Nagging on Thu, 30 Mar 2017 01:10:30 GMT]]>I started nagging at 10pm if kids still showing no sign of getting ready for bed.

10:25pm I probably feel like screaming liao. I have very low tolerance for delaying bedtime :rant:

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1764522https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1764522Thu, 30 Mar 2017 01:10:30 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Nagging on Thu, 30 Mar 2017 00:28:58 GMT]]>

ammonite:
It does pay off. For ds2, now I can say \"3pm!\" and he will know what is expected of him. If he stays on task, he won't hear more from me. Ds1 is largely on his own now. Reminders for him is mostly updating our master calendar (he is still new to mid term planning) and clearing his laundry.

Agree. By the time my kids were in mid-Pr to sec, I generally only needed to give the one-word reminders to mark the various parts of the day. Now they are on their own except for even less frequent reminders. And since they are already so grown-up, I try to disguise my reminders as questions or chit-chat - like, \"Did you say you have an essay due on Monday?\", \"Got everything settled for tomorrow?\" etc. I don't know if I fool them, but it makes life pleasanter!

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1764518https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1764518Thu, 30 Mar 2017 00:28:58 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Nagging on Thu, 30 Mar 2017 00:19:30 GMT]]>

MrsKiasu:


:evil: turned Cleopatra when your dh knock off from work arh 😂
Lol, Cleopatra must still have her rituals even if Antony doesn't come back, 对不对？
3-5 pm is work time, so must shackle and drag the prisoner to the table with all the barang. If prisoner marches there by himself then prison warden don't need to say anything ya? The thing that truly puts me in a fit is procrastination. Both my boys went through the phase when they buried their heads in the sand, had homework stuffed at bottom of their bags, forgotten forms and textbooks etc. 3-5 was consultation time and their time of reckoning :spank:

It does pay off. For ds2, now I can say \"3pm!\" and he will know what is expected of him. If he stays on task, he won't hear more from me. Ds1 is largely on his own now. Reminders for him is mostly updating our master calendar (he is still new to mid term planning) and clearing his laundry.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1764514https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1764514Thu, 30 Mar 2017 00:19:30 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Nagging on Thu, 30 Mar 2017 00:17:45 GMT]]>

Sun_2010:

JS A kid like that and still you nag a bbit and that gives you a migrane?

As I nag my kids, I go \"You make me nag so much, and drive me crazy - wait I am going to burst a blood vessel in my brain ...\" blah blah blah
\"you think I like this, I enjoy screaming like a baneshee , I think you enjoy this, that is why you are making me do this... blah blah blah blah ...

Seriously when I get int the nag mode , God save me from me.
IMH-grade nagging!

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1764513https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1764513Thu, 30 Mar 2017 00:17:45 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Nagging on Wed, 29 Mar 2017 19:23:14 GMT]]>:rotflmao:


Some of the posts are hilariously familiar.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1764491https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1764491Wed, 29 Mar 2017 19:23:14 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Nagging on Wed, 29 Mar 2017 15:05:58 GMT]]>

jetsetter:
I withhold nagging as I get migraine when my BP rises. As such, my nags are very short and stern, e.g.


How?
Oi! (if I hear noises)
Done?
Can?
Finished?
So long?
So short?
Wrong. Try again.
Dunno? Skip!
So fast?

Praises/flatteries:

Excellent!
Wow! You're amazing!
Good job! You're fast!
Well done!
OK, wrap it up! Come and drink milk.

I don't hv to nag about laundry cos my kid will auto put them into his laundry basket and soak sports attire, swimming trunks in a basin. Will auto-hang wet towels separately on hooks.
Returns used utensils to kitchen sink without my nagging. Sometimes will help to wash cups and plates.

But occasionally, just for fun, I would mimic my MIL who is extremely naggy. I would nag in broken Cantonese and feign her high pitched voice. My kid would ROTFL hysterically cos I usually nag with a poker face.
JS A kid like that and still you nag a bbit and that gives you a migrane?

As I nag my kids, I go \"You make me nag so much, and drive me crazy - wait I am going to burst a blood vessel in my brain ...\" blah blah blah
\"you think I like this, I enjoy screaming like a baneshee , I think you enjoy this, that is why you are making me do this... blah blah blah blah ...

Seriously when I get int the nag mode , God save me from me.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1764477https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1764477Wed, 29 Mar 2017 15:05:58 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Nagging on Wed, 29 Mar 2017 11:27:14 GMT]]>

ammonite:
FantasyLandDreams:

[quote=\"ammonite\"]I nag from 3-5 pm. I consider it my maternal duty to nag until they do what they have to do. As I nag I will blame them for making me nag. After 5pm I get a free pass until 9pm when I will nag again until they are in bed, lol.


Why no need to nag from 5 to 9pm ah? Because you are busy cooking?

I try not to nag nowadays and let her suffer the consequences if homework not done etc. But sometimes still cannot help it. 🤷

5-9 is my Ah Sum to Cleopatra time mah.

So if they don't see me before 5pm, they will probably not get any nagging that day(except the get-to-bed part) until the weekend. I nag from 9am-12pm on Saturdays, lol.[/quote] :evil: turned Cleopatra when your dh knock off from work arh 😂

usually like today, me reached home. I get dd food to eat while telling her go take shower and I usually head to my desk. after she finishes her lunch, I will start doing my “homework” , telling her aloud from my seat..go do your hw and read some books..dd, ok ok. after a while I shout from inside, what are you doing now? usually she at sofa reading other books. oh ok ok, I go do it now...very short while later, mommy I go toilet ok? and she continue with her other books...I again..why so long? ok ok i m coming out. after a short while, mommy wait let me pack my bag and also my study table..me, ok but on second thought, ooi her table not messy mah I remember..no no no I told her, just pack your bag only, then do your work. ok ok..then told me go toilet again and again :faint: sat down on her table did a few pages.. mommy, dont forget to pick meimei up hor..then dinner time..like that lor..yup, I never do my 'homework' with dd properly. that's why I always receive emails from her cher. my fault.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1764455https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1764455Wed, 29 Mar 2017 11:27:14 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Nagging on Wed, 29 Mar 2017 08:29:34 GMT]]>Haha. Sometimes I ask kids if they prefer that I nag and I go into my sis kind of nag mode.


DD will go Okay okay. OMG! pls stop already. That is soooo irritating!

DS will be giggling and giggling away.

But really not my modus operandi. I run out of steam very fast and I have trouble thinking of more stuff to bring up to continue the nag.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1764430https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1764430Wed, 29 Mar 2017 08:29:34 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Nagging on Wed, 29 Mar 2017 08:22:42 GMT]]>

FantasyLandDreams:
I try not to nag nowadays and let her suffer the consequences if homework not done etc. But sometimes still cannot help it. 🤷

The problem is nowadays there are hardly any consequences if homework not done. The school just taichi it back to parents. Like, why are you, the teacher, telling me homework is not done? You expect me to do it? 🤷

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1764428https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1764428Wed, 29 Mar 2017 08:22:42 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Nagging on Wed, 29 Mar 2017 08:05:25 GMT]]>I withhold nagging as I get migraine when my BP rises. As such, my nags are very short and stern, e.g.


How?
Oi! (if I hear noises)
Done?
Can?
Finished?
So long?
So short?
Wrong. Try again.
Dunno? Skip!
So fast?

Praises/flatteries:

Excellent!
Wow! You’re amazing!
Good job! You’re fast!
Well done!
OK, wrap it up! Come and drink milk.

I don’t hv to nag about laundry cos my kid will auto put them into his laundry basket and soak sports attire, swimming trunks in a basin. Will auto-hang wet towels separately on hooks.
Returns used utensils to kitchen sink without my nagging. Sometimes will help to wash cups and plates.

But occasionally, just for fun, I would mimic my MIL who is extremely naggy. I would nag in broken Cantonese and feign her high pitched voice. My kid would ROTFL hysterically cos I usually nag with a poker face.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1764427https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1764427Wed, 29 Mar 2017 08:05:25 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Nagging on Wed, 29 Mar 2017 07:22:37 GMT]]>

FantasyLandDreams:
ammonite:

I nag from 3-5 pm. I consider it my maternal duty to nag until they do what they have to do. As I nag I will blame them for making me nag. After 5pm I get a free pass until 9pm when I will nag again until they are in bed, lol.


Why no need to nag from 5 to 9pm ah? Because you are busy cooking?

I try not to nag nowadays and let her suffer the consequences if homework not done etc. But sometimes still cannot help it. 🤷

5-9 is my Ah Sum to Cleopatra time mah.

So if they don't see me before 5pm, they will probably not get any nagging that day(except the get-to-bed part) until the weekend. I nag from 9am-12pm on Saturdays, lol.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1764416https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/1764416Wed, 29 Mar 2017 07:22:37 GMT