<![CDATA[whats the age gap between your kids?]]>Hi all,

Like to find out the better age gap between your kids. Is it closer the better or the other. :?

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/topic/3255/whats-the-age-gap-between-your-kidsRSS for NodeTue, 21 Apr 2026 14:48:55 GMTTue, 19 May 2009 08:10:05 GMT60<![CDATA[Reply to whats the age gap between your kids? on Tue, 21 Jul 2009 08:59:16 GMT]]>

Twins:
I know of a friend who has had 4 C-sections, and is looking so trim and fit

Wow, you mean it's possible to have 4 C-sect? My gynae told me the max is 3.

My cousin-in-law's girls' age gap is very close, less than 2 years. They behave more like very good friends cum playmates. But must also consider the gender of the children, think girls generally socialise better.

I have 2 boys, both delivered via c-section too. Age gap is 4 years. They are well, elder and younger brother lor. Younger brother must listen to Elder brother type of relationship. They dun play as much together when DS2 was much younger, but now my 2 year old runs and imitates my 6 year old. There is a limitation to the kind of games that they play together as well. Esp so when we can now play board games and chess with DS1, but DS2 is still at the building blocks stage.

We plan for such an age gap bec we wanna enjoy each of their infancy stage, treat them as individuals with undivided attention so that they can be unique and not be looked upon like a shadow of his elder brother's. Plus we dun want people to compare them, like kor kor can do this, how come di di can't. So such a wide age gap will ensure the gossipy relatives will not be able to compare too closely, since they will be at a very different stage altogether.

The cons to this plan is that, it's really like starting the whole birth-giving and child-rearing stage altogether again. We had to keep our toys in the store for a few years before they can be used by DS2. By the time, DS2 is ready for the toys, they got all mouldy and outdated. So, most of the things are bought again.

C-section, up to this point in time, didn't really great damages to my health. But there is a bulging tummy that will be quite obvious as compared to natural births since the cut is near to that area.

But if you are a mummy who can't stand pain, better dun opt for c-section.
Once, I shared a delivery suite with a mummy who was due to c-section due to some complications. She delivered before me, but when I was already walking and going to the toilet, she's still feeling too painful to get out the bed.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/41178https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/41178Tue, 21 Jul 2009 08:59:16 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to whats the age gap between your kids? on Tue, 21 Jul 2009 08:56:05 GMT]]>

winth:
schellen:

I remember having a thread like this somewhere...but can't remember exactly. Anyone?


It's under Working with your Children -> Whats the age gap between your kids?

Thanks, winth! I copied the link: http://www.kiasuparents.com/kiasu/forum/viewtopic.php?t=3255

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/41176https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/41176Tue, 21 Jul 2009 08:56:05 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to whats the age gap between your kids? on Tue, 21 Jul 2009 08:48:51 GMT]]>

schellen:
I remember having a thread like this somewhere...but can't remember exactly. Anyone?

It's under Working with your Children -> Whats the age gap between your kids?

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/41172https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/41172Tue, 21 Jul 2009 08:48:51 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to whats the age gap between your kids? on Tue, 21 Jul 2009 08:42:19 GMT]]>

TimmyOwner:
Hi


Like to ask how long you all waited before having your second or third child, and what age gap you feel is the best - from the parents' perspective and for the child?

Also anyone has more than 1 c-section when delivering their babies before, and whether it harmed their health?

Thanks!
Hi TimmyOwner
I've had 2 C-sections, 22 months apart. I know of a friend who has had 4 C-sections, and is looking so trim and fit.....envy envy!!

My view is child birth is a major activity for a woman's body, whether natural or C. It's how you take care of yourself after the delivery that would be important. Of course, the obstetrician will play an important part. I was up and about by day 3.

In terms of age gap, it's really what you feel would be important. My view of having the kids with smaller age gap is that they can play together and share stuff like toys and clothes. Chances are they will also be closer since there are more opportunities to share common play interests, school-related topics etc.

IMHO.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/41169https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/41169Tue, 21 Jul 2009 08:42:19 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to whats the age gap between your kids? on Tue, 21 Jul 2009 08:33:12 GMT]]>

TimmyOwner:
Hi


Also anyone has more than 1 c-section when delivering their babies before, and whether it harmed their health?

Thanks!
Both my children are born under c-section. They're about 20 months apart. 2 other friends with 3 children - all born under c-section. Think the maximum for c-section is 3 , i think.

C section is a rather major operation so more time is required for recuperation after child birth. I was still able to breast-feed my two kids and carry them - but for the first two months, I think it's best to rest more in bed. And eat all the 'po' you can - so whatever confinement dishes my mil cooked, i 'walloped' them - actually i love confinement food especially 猪脚醋.
Avoid drinking cold water - drink red date tea (also my fav). Keep yourself warm and you will recover fast.

Well, it's up to you to believe all these but it works for me. I used to be rather sickly (having flu quite frequently) before child birth but after giving birth to my 2 children, I can testify that my health is much better and my mum commented I look 'redder' , not so 'yellow' like before.

Actually, I would like to go for the maximum quota - but a miscarriage put a stop to that - anyway - no regrets. 😄

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/41163https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/41163Tue, 21 Jul 2009 08:33:12 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to whats the age gap between your kids? on Tue, 21 Jul 2009 08:15:02 GMT]]>I remember having a thread like this somewhere…but can’t remember exactly. Anyone?

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/41152https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/41152Tue, 21 Jul 2009 08:15:02 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to whats the age gap between your kids? on Tue, 21 Jul 2009 05:39:46 GMT]]>Hi,


I gave birth to my second son one month after my first one turns 3.

That was a manageable age gap for me. 😄

Both was delivered by c-section. I'm healthy but not that fit though. 😛

At times, I do feel some pain at the c-section area if I stress myself too much or carry heavy things. 😢 but that happens rarely.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/41079https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/41079Tue, 21 Jul 2009 05:39:46 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to whats the age gap between your kids? on Tue, 21 Jul 2009 05:33:41 GMT]]>[Moderator's note: Topics merged.]


Hi

Like to ask how long you all waited before having your second or third child, and what age gap you feel is the best - from the parents' perspective and for the child?

Also anyone has more than 1 c-section when delivering their babies before, and whether it harmed their health?

Thanks!

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/41074https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/41074Tue, 21 Jul 2009 05:33:41 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to whats the age gap between your kids? on Wed, 03 Jun 2009 08:26:03 GMT]]>For me,


1st and 2nd 2 years apart
2nd and 3rd 5 years apart.

3rd is really an accident. It is a surprised gift from God.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/32074https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/32074Wed, 03 Jun 2009 08:26:03 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to whats the age gap between your kids? on Wed, 03 Jun 2009 08:01:47 GMT]]>Wow TSH0202…6 - very hard to beat…and what blessings.


For mine,
#1 and #2 23 months
#2 and #3 19 months coz #3 was very kang cheong …and intense - came out at 35 weeks!

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/32072https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/32072Wed, 03 Jun 2009 08:01:47 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to whats the age gap between your kids? on Thu, 28 May 2009 17:19:53 GMT]]>Mine: 1st and 2nd - 2 years apart

2nd and 3rd - 3 years apart
3rd and 4th - 1 year apart
4th and 5th - 2 years apart
5th and 6th - 2 years apart

It's a blessing! :love:

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/31059https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/31059Thu, 28 May 2009 17:19:53 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to whats the age gap between your kids? on Fri, 22 May 2009 16:39:35 GMT]]>Mine at 4 years gap. Little bro arrived before my elder boy turned 4.


It is within my plan. When elder boy was 2 plus to 3, found that he was LONELY, he need a playmate. Some might not agreed that \"is time to give a playmate to a child\", but i find nothing wrong about that. Especially, when elder boy was at that age, he was more matured then. Of cos when he was much younger at few months to 2yo, i dare not to think of it. Still remember, mil chased me for a 2nd one when elder boy was just few days old. :!: Taking care together will be easier 😛 Of cos, i dun agreed with too many years apart like 7 yo or older, :scared: need to start all over again!! and with the elder one at the new challenging Pr 1, then with another new born in hand to feed, to burp, to change diaper...... 😛 So i chose the middle out of it.

Well, this 2 boys have different character. The elder boy is more soft hearted, more flicker, easy to get influence; the younger one is more strong minded, stubborn and dun get influence easily. Still learning with them... :celebrate:

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/30181https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/30181Fri, 22 May 2009 16:39:35 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to whats the age gap between your kids? on Fri, 22 May 2009 06:18:32 GMT]]>Of course I will be expecting more from my elder one, and a little less from my baby, because he is afterall about a year younger. But I have to thank my elder one, as he had taken the initiative to teach his brother how to read when they were still in kindergarten. My elder one picked up reading very early and he was patient enough to read the daily readers to his young brother every day before he learnt how to read independently.


And, lucky me, both my children are quite smart and they are able to deliver good results. But strangely, though my young one also made some careless mistakes in his papers, I tend to let him off more lightly, as to me, his results are already a "WOW" for a little baby (Bec he is almost the youngest in class and quite small build but is one of the top scorers in the class). And I like the confidence that he shows in himself.

I also did not feel that I had missed out anything during my baby’s baby days. As, hours outside working hours are fully dedicated to my 2 darlings (no need to cook or do any household chores). In fact it had really been a joy to have 2 boys growing up together and seeing how close they have become, and how caring they can be over each other.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/30084https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/30084Fri, 22 May 2009 06:18:32 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to whats the age gap between your kids? on Fri, 22 May 2009 05:35:32 GMT]]>Hi Mowmow,


Wow that's really interesting to have 2 kids in the same year. My No. 1 was Dec baby so it's not possible to be the same yr. :lol: But it would be crazy and probably fun if they were born in the same yr. With both your kids in P1 this year, how does it work in terms of expectation?

Not sure abt you but I feel that having kids of such close gaps have lots of physical impact. Eg. the continuous stretching of the belly for 1 yr plus compared to other mums who are able to recuperate, go back to normal before getting pregnant again...

Also, i realise that I don't remember much of No.2 baby time. Probably too busy juggling with the 2 of them that time just passed by so quicky and before we know it, he is now a big boy. Unlike now with my No.3 who is in Nursery, we enjoy having a \"baby\" at home as she is so different from the older ones (still innocent and cute).

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/30063https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/30063Fri, 22 May 2009 05:35:32 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to whats the age gap between your kids? on Fri, 22 May 2009 05:16:29 GMT]]>

MMM:
Our No. 1 (girl) and No. 2 (boy) was 11 months apart. They are both yr end kids so they are in a different year otherwise it would be like \"twins\". People usually mistook them for twins as No. 2 is now catching up in terms of height.
My 2 sons are 11 months apart as well (supposed to be a year, but the younger one, being kiasu, cannot wait, so came out just in time for his christmas present, ha ha). The only difference is that they are born in the same year (2002), 1 in Jan while the other in Dec.

When they were still babies, got a whole platoon of people working for me, as I was still a working mum then. But ever since they started N1 (3 years old), I became a SAHM.

In fact, I feel very blessed with this arrangement, as both go to school together, learn together and they play well together.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/30057https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/30057Fri, 22 May 2009 05:16:29 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to whats the age gap between your kids? on Fri, 22 May 2009 05:06:29 GMT]]>5 years apart


boy = 11
girl = 6

very challenging

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/30055https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/30055Fri, 22 May 2009 05:06:29 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to whats the age gap between your kids? on Fri, 22 May 2009 04:22:11 GMT]]>Our No. 1 (girl) and No. 2 (boy) was 11 months apart. They are both yr end kids so they are in a different year otherwise it would be like "twins". People usually mistook them for twins as No. 2 is now catching up in terms of height.


Given their age gap, the No. 1 probably didn’t know how to behave like a big sister. They are always bickering, fighting over trivial stuff, etc… of course there are good days too. Think this is probably normal?

For childgiver, it was quite a strain so when No. 2 came, we got a maid otherwise it’s crazy taking care of 2 very young kids.

The pros is that they grow up fast and together. Whatever learning I had for No. 1 for school can be applied to No. 2.

Our no. 3 (girl) is 4 yrs and 3 yrs diff from the 2 older kids. Now No.1 girl knows how to take care of No.3 like a big jie jie. Don’t really fight but the girls would usually gang up against No. 2 boy.

Recently my son started asking why can’t he has brothers and not sisters??? Why can’t he be the No. 1 etc…

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/30048https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/30048Fri, 22 May 2009 04:22:11 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to whats the age gap between your kids? on Fri, 22 May 2009 03:32:41 GMT]]>

heutistmeintag:

Actually, I thought of that too but was happy not to get twins coz then everything must buy double. Cant share as 1 boy and 1 girl.
Well i have that same feeling too. To have twins is double the tiredness. Salute to those mum with twins. But for your case, it's like marathon. Salute to you too! :udawoman:

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/30033https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/30033Fri, 22 May 2009 03:32:41 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to whats the age gap between your kids? on Wed, 20 May 2009 08:28:26 GMT]]>

iLoveMyBoy:
Well heutistmeintag's situation is almost like having a pair of twins. Lucky parents.

Well i have heard of friends that are aiming for a pair of twins and \"close factory\". A pretty good plan that saves the trouble of going in and out of hospital.. haha. But as we know the odds are pretty low.
Actually, I thought of that too but was happy not to get twins coz then everything must buy double. Cant share as 1 boy and 1 girl.

As a matter of fact, my daughter used to complain why she was wearing boys' hand-me-downs. 😄 We decided to let her pick and buy her clothings when she reached P3 but she's still quite tomboyish in her dressing and hates to wear skirts. oops :wrongmove:

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/29632https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/29632Wed, 20 May 2009 08:28:26 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to whats the age gap between your kids? on Wed, 20 May 2009 08:18:50 GMT]]>Well heutistmeintag’s situation is almost like having a pair of twins. Lucky parents.

Well i have heard of friends that are aiming for a pair of twins and "close factory". A pretty good plan that saves the trouble of going in and out of hospital… haha. But as we know the odds are pretty low.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/29625https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/29625Wed, 20 May 2009 08:18:50 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to whats the age gap between your kids? on Wed, 20 May 2009 03:12:07 GMT]]>

iLoveMyBoy:
Thanks for sharing. We were thinking of an other baby in 2 years time. So would most likely be the same age gap as Jennifer's...4 ~ 4.5.

Normally it would be the elder 1 being jealous and complaints along the way. As he gets most of the attention during the the first few years until your younger 1 comes along.
We parents will actually say that we will not be biased between them.But comes to situation we actually will still \"show\" more care towards the younger 1s. :oops:
I agree with you.

When No.2 was still a baby, No.1 asked when bro could play with him. We asked him to be patient and little bro would grow up soon. By then, No.1's interest in play has shifted to board games. No.2 still cant play bcos of limitations in understanding rules. When No.2 can play board games, No.1 has again changed his interests. So No.1 is always waiting for little bro to catch up. Hence the complaints. Just the other day I told him I should hv tried giving birth to twins, growing up at the same rate. Hiaz.

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/29512https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/29512Wed, 20 May 2009 03:12:07 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to whats the age gap between your kids? on Wed, 20 May 2009 03:00:06 GMT]]>Mine 15 months apart - mistake lah coz originally planned for 3 yrs apart :oops:


They were very close when younger and many people mistaken them to be twins. Now that they are transiting into teenhood, their personalities are developing more intensely and there are naturally more fights. They are still very close and I am hoping this will last. 🙏

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/29504https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/29504Wed, 20 May 2009 03:00:06 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to whats the age gap between your kids? on Wed, 20 May 2009 02:25:28 GMT]]>Thanks for sharing. We were thinking of an other baby in 2 years time. So would most likely be the same age gap as Jennifer's...4 ~ 4.5.

Normally it would be the elder 1 being jealous and complaints along the way. As he gets most of the attention during the the first few years until your younger 1 comes along.
We parents will actually say that we will not be biased between them.But comes to situation we actually will still \"show\" more care towards the younger 1s. :oops:

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/29488https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/29488Wed, 20 May 2009 02:25:28 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to whats the age gap between your kids? on Wed, 20 May 2009 01:39:17 GMT]]>Mine was 2 years 2 months gap. V close bro and sis and most of the games and activities can be done together, eg playgrond time, play dough, lego etc. My DS will hold DD hand whenever she goes and will cry when relatives/sisters tease her that DD will not go home today. :love: As for my DS, whenever I send my girl for her enrichment, he will loiter outside the classroom for a while and call for jiejie. :politebleah:


I simply love their closeness though there are fights/ pulling hairs too but they are children afterall. 💋

]]>https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/29478https://forum.kiasuparents.com/post/29478Wed, 20 May 2009 01:39:17 GMT